Men do not act this way for nothing. Either a strong force is 'acting' on him, or the wife has turned a nag/monster!

The truth is that even a devil does not believe he is bad. Examine yourself closely.

2options: kill him or pray for him

too bad, it is well




PRESIDENT BUHARI MUST READ MY SIGNATURE

YOU SELF MUST READ IF YOU WANNA LAFF TIRE TONIGHT

And you're still in that house? Biko get ur kids n urself out of that house. File 4 divorce and child support. He's not ready to be married. Stop begging him abeg. Let him wallow in his stoopidity

when an attack is coming, it will look for the weakest link to follow.
Am married for 5yrs and 6months and if there's any thing I learned all this while is that satan does not like a happy home.
When my wife starts acting strange, I leave her and come to the sitting room @ mid night and pray for her and my self.
By morning things will take there form sharply.
Home is more than what we think cos for generations to serve GOD, we fathers now and yet to be, mothers now and yet to be should and always should be on there kneels keeping there alter burning.
pls my dear leave him and deal with what is ruling him now and that will be done in the place of prayer and with total obedience to him ooooo, cos GOD can never hear the prayer of a rebellious woman. for the head of woman is d man just as the head of the man is Christ. pls read 1 Corinth 11 vs 3
It's well with Us all

you for leave am as local native man now. na you spoil show for yaself. you wanted him to appeal to all ya friends and you tooshed him up. well he does appeal to other women now and he has upgraded. as you lay ya bed na so you go sleep inside am na. make una marry local bobo una no gree. you wan toosh am up lmao. you think if you toosh him up other women will not take notice ? hmm

abbey621:



Where do I start from? Woman you are the cause of your own misfortune! Yes you heard me right, it is all your fault! Look at the bold words, I'm sure your husband knew you were dating 2 other men at the same time you were dating him, I'm very sure you are not telling the entire story, after kids you've let yourself go, you probably took him for granted as he was such a nice man and this allowed room for another woman. Now you also seem to be a housewife with no source of income other than your husband which means you are a liability more than an asset, I suggest you remain calm, get a job and let your husband see you as a contributor and not a vacuum. Finally issues like this requires strength and calculation, you only have two options: pack and leave or stick it out and hope for the best, no one can tell you what to do but yourself, search deep within and determine if the marriage is worth saving!

very very well said

Cutehector:
This is what happens wen u marry because age is not by ur side anylonger or u marry out of pity... Na ur fault be that

Is castigating her d next tin nw? U sucks!
Well dear probably u are giving him d attitude of i kuku dnt wnt to marry u b4 nw. Well all u need is to pray to God cos it seems ur man eye don open to d wrong side. I will also join u in prayer. Be well dear

Tell it to JESUS. If u are a Catholic do a novena to our Mother of perpetual help on behalf of ur Hubby and Visit the Blessed sacrament. The Testimony will flow.

Dear op,are u financially independent?if yes,then move out and mov on wt ur life.i mean enjoy ur life to d fullest,mak money,go shopping with ur kids n friends dat mak u laugh,eat wateva u wish,if u AR d type dat loves to hang out Fr few bottles of alcohol pls do dat.u already hav 2kids so mission accomplished.if I hear u think abt dat timid village novice who had mistakenly stumbled on a small change,I will spank u.dat fool will come bak but by then.just hav fun.

berrystunn:


very very well said

#beingafemaleinnigeria#

Village man

She married the man just because her first choice wasn't ready.
The husband knows he was not truely loved and so dosen't see any reason why he should let go of someone that finally loves him the way he wants.
I don't pity the OP at all.

Sorry dear about your situation.
Having said that, I will have to say that you are the enemy in your home. You must have reminded him on several occasions that he was not your suitor and he is now back to pay you with same coin.
Please stop complaining be prayerful and exercise patience. And also stop fighting the lady she might just be a test for you.
It is well.

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

How I wish I can give you a big huge, roll you 360 degree with my eyes facing your eyes and said " woman, you are the best thing that ever happen in my life"


I am in love with your comment right now

zealot4me:
Village man

There is nothing like village man there.
The husband is in love with someone who loves him.

Johnnoah1st:
@op ur husband is acting funny? why dont u refer in to yabaleft?
shout out to all dos dat didnt read wat op wrote.

u get brain at al?

You clean en up for someone else to put on.


That's how marriages this days are.

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

see advice!
why are african women like this? they don't believe they can survive without a man, or after two kids you want to tell me you don't have any saving, leave that man and go back to your parents (that's one thing I love about the Yoruba people, they accept you back )

start a new life, you mustn't live under a man for fvck sake
I guarantee you, if you leave now you can still find someone that will marry you

madam act funny too simple.

Part what?

The other guys on the other hand never proposed to me all they wanted was to have a go at me and then move on and considering the fact that age was no longer on my side and with the advice from my mother, I eventually agreed to marry my husband.

You don't love him and he just realised that there's no point continuing the union since you boldly showed him you married him because you are getting old not for true love.

He started drinking, smoking and keeping late nights. He found some lady who understands his dilemma and show him what you couldn't give him .

Madam, you just lost your husband to another woman.

I wish younger girls learn 4m u
U ladies also look down on a guys humble begining sori it is your cross

Cutehector:
This is what happens wen u marry because age is not by ur side anylonger or u marry out of pity... Na ur fault be that

She is asking for ideas and advice and all u could do is to "Na ur fault be that"
Have u not made mistakes in the past and get corrected?

There is more to the story you are telling us. You never married him because you loved him....he was just an option because as you stated he was the least of the 3 men you were seeing...and never in your imagination would you have married him. Meaning you married him conditionally...because age was not on your side and persuaded by your mum. In a nutshell....there was no love....even the way you talked about him here shows love never existed in the relationship.
Probably you also throw it at his face....how you managed to marry him...as an option. Now he has finally realised his potentials as someone to be loved...and not as an option. Since you have been coping and managing him for some years, you should be happy he is out of your life as you never really wanted him in the first place. The rightful owner has taken over now, why don't you just let them be.?
Next time don't marry an option.
Why cry now...milk already spilt.

I would suggest this matter be discussed exclusively by both families with the husband genuinely explaining why he is no longer interested in the marriage. ..If after meeting with your family and much plead for them.I would suggest you move on and create a better life for your children. The worse you csn do to yourself is to manage the marriage...SISTER be bold enough to decide what happens in your
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If you still love him tgen I suggest you report him to your pastor or his trustef friend he respect so much....Be prayerful too.















I am believing that God in his infinite mercy restore your marriage

















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Joy1706:
And you're still in that house? Biko get ur kids n urself out of that house. File 4 divorce and child support. He's not ready to be married. Stop begging him abeg. Let him wallow in his stoopidity

this one done drink orijin before commenting. child support ? for naija ?

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

Best advise,just embrace this advise,it won't be easy but it assures of safe landing.

CSTR2:
There is nothing like village man there.
The husband is in love with someone who loves him.

Yh right..

But she loves him too right! why does he have to to torure her feelings this way

teelady:
Ok am done reading, let say u grew to love the man u ar married to, and from the begining u were nt inlove. You ar a loyal and faithful wife,please remain that way. Your husby is in a serious infatuated relationship and u feel like breaking his head for such behaviour but i say dont. He is not in his right frame of mind right now and its obvious u dnt want to leave ur matrimonial home, woman be prayerful and dnt give him more excuse to berate u further. Y fight wit a girl he brought home....,she is nt worth it ok. Pls distract ursef from al this mess for nw, just focus on making ursef happy, takecare of ur kids, prove to ur husband that u didnt marry him out of choice bt for the fact that u also love him, pls no dulling take ursef out for a treat no old ursef. Be the person he once loved, love ursef and hopefully he would comeback to love u. IT MIGHT BE HARD FOR U TO BE PATIENT SINCE U ARE THE VICTIM, BUT BE GOOD,PATIENT AND PRAYERFUL. Pardon my poor spelling

Babe you get sense.

it is called early on resentment...