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Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by peeparty(m): 5:47pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
bruva tk your time and get closer the more to God,
He will give you direction. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by 400billionman: 5:50pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
Jayne2014: I was thinking what would be happening this new half of the year. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by thorpido(m): 5:51pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
The people above have said it all.Heartbreaks are hard to take but time makes the pain ease off. You're just 30yrs.Don't get desperate.Guys like to take advantage of much older girls because they know they want to settle down. Just occupy yourself.Pick up a hobby apart from your work.If you worship in a church,you could join a dept so you are busier and at the same time can enjoy fellowship with some people. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by MizMyColi(f): 5:52pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
dearpreye: Chubhie: Hello Zebareba The Posts above sum it up. Saying anything else would be mere repetition. Trust me. Let me just state categorically here that you need to give yourself time to heal. It's not easy but give yourself time. Dating now might be akin to a rebound. Just don't rush into another one so you don't rush out. No sane lady enjoys body counts |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by MizMyColi(f): 5:54pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
thorpido: Excuse me? Do you live in Nigeria? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Nobody: 5:56pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
Time heals anything and everything... It's good to cry... Say this 10times after your crying Episode... This too shall pass away and I love me!!! Go out and spoil yourself girlliiieeee!!! Infact, I want to take you out if you're in abuja. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by thorpido(m): 5:57pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
MizMyColi:So 30yrs is too old?Of course I live in Nigeria. If 30yr olds feel they are too old,then it's part of the problem because it creates a mindset in itself. 4 Likes |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by MizMyColi(f): 6:11pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
thorpido: You sound like a person who isn't fully integrated into the Nigerian society. Of course, I get your point. But you actually gave the impression of a person who lives in la la land, where everything is happy - go - lucky Here in Nigeria, 30 years is enough for people to start looking at you like some demon possessed, high-handed good for nothing girl, whom no man wants to have anything to do with! The subtle question on everyone's lips, even though they will not tell you is How come she is not married at this age? Ever heard of societal conditioning? It can make you believe a lie about yourself! Now that said I'm actually on the same page with you... A young lady must gird herself, she must Whether you are a young girl of 19 or a young lady of 35, you must begin now to reverse certain views society has/will make you hold about yourself and others, especially those of same gender. Your thinking and choice of words must change! Your perception forms your reality, the onus is on you to choose the perceptions-cum-reality that'll ever matter to you!! Ka Chineke Me'Eziokwu 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by thorpido(m): 6:22pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
MizMyColi:I actually wrote with the mindset of the bolded.It's the way I have conditioned myself over the years. I understand how it is but I wanted her to think of how it should be. 3 Likes |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by MizMyColi(f): 6:38pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
thorpido: Okay But you can do well by first recognizing the mental stronghold, deconstructing it and then guiding her into a new way of thinking. That way, you won't be accused of being oblivious to the pains and challenges of the average human who is yet to truly rise above. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Chubhie: 6:47pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
Jorussia:Okare o ogbeni! Brother kepstone should be the one doing the PM and not you. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by dinachi(m): 6:49pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
ZebaReba:Where are all those people pushing you to leave the relationahip? Where are they now? Yes you are right, they are hiding behind their keyboards now. Such is life.We are basically alone and decisions should only be taken when you are absolutely convinced. Well something tells me your guy may come back. I don't know, maybe a hunch or something. Do not go out of your way now to start seeking relationships. You are deeply hurting and you need sometime to heal or else you make a huge mistake because of your weak emotional state now. Take your time, focus on your career, please do not start dating until you are free from this emotional pain. People marry even at 35. And when you eventually start dating, do not make marriage your focal point, just concentrate on being Mrs right and I bet you the guy will pop the question before he knew what hit him! Goodluck. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by thorpido(m): 6:53pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
MizMyColi:You're right.We live in an African society and in Nigeria,it's a big deal.The moment your older relatives see you,the next thing they ask is,'when is the date'?I can't wait to wear asoebi. The pressure is real but you have to rise above it. 2 Likes |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Jorussia(m): 6:54pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
Chubhie:wetin all this one come mean now?you think say i spoil like you?a beg gv me chance jare. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by austine4real(m): 7:56pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
ZebaReba:take heart & b strong |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Chubhie: 8:03pm On Jul 04, 2015 |
Jorussia:*I believe in miracles, where you from? You sexy thing.* Good luck. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by EfemenaXY: 7:29am On Jul 05, 2015 |
ZebaReba: Crying is good. You need to let the emotions out, rather than bottling them deep inside you. It's the only way you can start to heal. Give yourself plenty of time to recover, and while you're at it, use this time to refocus on yourself. Go out there and improve your person. Face your career. Pay attention to your health. Eat clean. Exercise. Meet up with your girlfriends and have fun. But most importantly, take one day at a time. Small baby steps. And for what it's worth, life doesn't end at 30. You're still young. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Nobody: 9:46am On Jul 05, 2015 |
keppyy: What about me ? This monicker just went through and heartbreak and is in Abuja. I want someone to take me out. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Nobody: 10:18am On Jul 05, 2015 |
johnny1980: Lols...okay Let me take you out. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Nobody: 11:13am On Jul 05, 2015 |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Nobody: 11:21am On Jul 05, 2015 |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Nobody: 11:50am On Jul 05, 2015 |
keppyy:Ok. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by chigoizie7(m): 12:46pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
ZebaReba: I don't know you, I don't know the details of your failed relationship. But what I do know for sure is that you should sit yourself down and CRY all you want. CRY until you are tired of crying, make sure no one consoles you to stop, you have to console yourself to stop, make sure the crying does not exceed 1DAY. After giving yourself the reason to stop crying, then give yourself the reason to move on. Yes, Many people will tell you not to cry anymore, but you really don't know the burden you are lifting off your shoulders in the process. Many people will tell you that so many other people in your very situation survived it, but the truth is that, you are not those people, and whatever worked for them might not work for you. The only other thing I will advice you is that you should do your best and leave the rest to God. Do not pressure any man in your life, do no show your might to him. Be a good GF. If it will happen, it will. I don't want to start telling you that there are things you are not doing right,no one is a saint, you pointed out that you love your man so much. But what u refused to understand is that UNDERSTANDING surpasses even Love in marriages or even relationships. One thing we don't know is that many people dat do bad things does not even know that what they are doing is bad, check yourself to see were u re going wrong, and retrace ur steps. I might be wrong on my assumptions after all. I guess, we are all giving advices, the above Is mine. I guess bad things happens to good people. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Qualer: 5:18pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
Jorussia: Abeg, Which of the 'statues this your female relative get - small statue of liberty abi the small version of the three eko wisemen at Lagos toll gate.. just curious though. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Qualer: 5:21pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
ZebaReba: Sorry dear!! Shit happens but time will always heal! Can we talk! |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by queen47: 6:14pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
thorpido: Oga, I sight you ooo. How have you been? |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by thorpido(m): 10:41pm On Jul 05, 2015 |
queen47:I've been cool.Hope u're cool too. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by fromusa: 12:10pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
My dear sorry for ur breakup but let me advise u from experience, my ex boyfriend left me in my 30s also last year and got married to another woman this year January, reason was that I am not tall enough for him, but I can tell u today that I am always singing songs of praises cos Love found me, a much more better person than I ever imagined, love will find u when u least expect it, just be focused, concentrate on ur work or business,take care if urself, love urself, live ur normal life, make friends, catch fun but don't forget God, get closer to God more and u will see everything falling in place. You will get over him, you will not die from heart break, the earlier u try to forget about him the better for u. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by pickabeau1: 12:18pm On Jul 06, 2015 |
In addition to all that has been said, I will repeat what I said on your other thread What is your selling point aside your petite figure and the fact that you work Will you be a good wife and mother? Are u a woman that inspires trust and will not alienate family members Do you respect traditions and values Can you cook? Are u good with kids If so... then u have no issues... take time off , get involved in other activities, travel once a while (you are already in the west).. its only a matter of time 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Nobody: 8:36am On Jul 16, 2015 |
Jayne2014: You said "No Pms. Cases should be stated here". Now, where is the form to fill cos i have a case. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Amhappy(f): 11:13am On Jul 16, 2015 |
Sweetheart It is well with you. Console yourself and move on. If there is no vacuum then there will be no opportunity to occupy. A better man will come. Use this time to continue developing yourself into a good wife. Do not be set in your ways(this is a problem i have noticed in we older women),be a bit flexible and sweet. Associate with people,old,new etc. Get involved in God's work but don't become too religious ooo. If you are from the East,Nne travel to the Villa once in a while. Do invite me when you walk down the aisle next year. modify I just read your first post,so traveling to villa does not fit sef.Just associate with people over there and carefully check out any recommendation. |
Re: Any Tips For Starting A New Relationship In Your 30s? by Jayne2014(f): 4:54pm On Jul 16, 2015 |
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