why do married men have affairs? do they ever love these other women or is it just about having a younger, pretty face?


and why are so many nigerian men unfaithful? and don't give me any pc answers. i know other men cheat too, but it is widely acceptable and expected in nigerian culture. why?

am not married oooooooooooo
But i wont cheat

really honey

@poster
I came across a man who was always cheatin on his wife and i asked him y.he said he was tired of eating same old soup(in his own words).
few of my ans

1)cos they are not satisfied with what they have
2)some of them do not get the right attention they need from their wives
3)some of them got married to the wrong partner

have got to go,when i get back i will complete it

Married men (and women) cheat for various reasons, some of which they are even unaware of. It's not necessarily because the other woman is prettier, nicer, better, or anything. As far as I'm concerned, most of these things simply have to do with the heart of "man" being wicked/evil. Seriously. Not all men that cheat, cheat with younger women, or prettier women, or whatever. You have to go by each individual case to really figure it out.

Is it really expected in Nigerian culture? I ask because I'm truly ignorant about that. I thought, it was just easier to accept in Nigerian culture, as in many women don't divorce their spouses becaues of infidelity in Nigeria, but in say Western countries, one is more likely to. So it's not that it doesn't happen in the US/UK/etc as often as it does in Nigeria, the spouses are just more likely to get divorced because of it, while in Nigeria, the spouse is more likely to let it be? That's my theory.

Because they get bored and should try something new if they wish, big deal, is it not a shag?

They do it because their wife’s aren’t caring.

Some do it because their wife’s deny them of sex whenever they need it; others do it for the fun of it.

In my opinion, cheating is an individual thing regardless of where you find yourself or your sex as in male/female. Just as every human have the tendency to sin or fall into temptation. sometimes it is out of curiousity, some other times adventure and yet some other times to ward off stress. there is absolutely no good reason to commit sin and my dear SIN is SIN regardless of what is involved.
WHAT we all should actually be concerned with is to emphasize the value of fidelity, Faithfullness and love; always strive to stay clear from doing things you cannot accept from others. There is always a temptation to step up the groove but the question should be does it worth it?. What of if the table is turned against you would you still feel thesame way. As far as I am concern a pious man that short pays his ignorant servant is as guilty as an adultrer. A fornicator ofcourse shares thesame fate sin is sin period there is no excuse for it.

Adventure principally. Lotsa men cheat to break monotony

Well, from what I've seen, most men need variety and an ego boost. I have a friend who on paper is the perfect wife but her husband still has girlfriends - none as pretty, intelligent or as classy as his wife. Even worse, he really does love his wife and kids.

I personally feel that men are the weaker sex when it comes to infidelity and temptation. Women (especially in Nigeria) are very devious and manipulative and they put themselves on a plate. How many times can a guy turn down a freebie?! Especially when they are totally and utterly wankered after heavy drinking on a Friday night.

We just gotta pray for them all - apparently its "destructive behaviour" and its addictive. Lol, or so a Pastor's wife told me. We should pray for the husbands and also for the Ho's (!!) - not an easy task.

Men love adventure in whatever form that interests them. To some, adventure could be traveling, driving, fighting, reading, partying, or womanising.

If you are unlucky to have a man whose adventure lies in conquering different sets of women, well . . . . . . .

Cos they've always been that way, it certainly did not happen overnight after they got married . . .
So the question should be: why do cheaters continue to cheat even after they get married?

sometimes, it's not the will of the so-called "cheating men"
to have affairs even when they are married.

some men get married and learnt the practices from their wives.

some women are good teacherscheaters

Ben20001:

sometimes, it's not the will of the so-called "cheating men"
to have affairs even when they are married.

some men get married and learnt the practices from their wives.

some women are good teacherscheaters

I know one thing for sure that unmarried nigerian women have multiple partners before they get married. The percentage of cheating married men are higher than that of married women. So i don't buy the idea that Nigerian women teach or encourage our men to cheat

i too do not think our married nigerian women encourage the naija men to cheat,though partially true but not in full support of it

the wife's ill reaction to sex and all it's ingredients can also be responsible for the husband's multi-million concubines

talking from my lil experience

i tink most young married men starts aving an affair wen their wife is heavy (pregnant),
and once they r into it, they wont want to stop

another one is if a man marries the woman they dont really like,
like a neighbour of mine, he marries d wife coz he impregnates her at a tender age and he was even her tutor den, so d girl's father now insist on d man marrying her daughter.

mrsb

I personally feel that men are the weaker sex when it comes to infidelity and temptation.

Some men just can't help it, for some its just in there nature, that is why one always has to pray for self control. The bible says watch and pray lest you fall into temptation. A lot of godly men don't even do this and you wonder why some do stumble, they think they are matured christians whereas the bible says, "let he who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall".

Women (especially in Nigeria) are very devious and manipulative and they put themselves on a plate. How many times can a guy turn down a freebie?!

Thank you o jare, the bible says that whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery in his heart but what do you think God would do to that lady who causes her brother to stumble either with some outfit or with her seductive behavior, afterall, God is a God of justice. The bible says it repeatedly that we should NOT do things that would make our brother stumble, its amazing how many naija so called christians are not sensitive to these things, heck, the pastors barely even focus on this things.

By the way, this is one of the reasons why i don't wanna marry a naija girl, they are too aggressive, sassy, snobbish, condescending and too matters worse they are not nurturing. Some are not even trust worthy at all. So sad.

davidif:

mrsb

Some men just can't help it, for some its just in there nature, that is why one always has to pray for self control. The bible says watch and pray lest you fall into temptation. A lot of godly men don't even do this and you wonder why some do stumble.


Thank you o jare, the bible says that whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery in his heart but what do you think God would do to that lady who causes her brother to stumble either with some outfit or with her seductive behavior, afterall, God is a just God. The bible says that we should do things that would make our brother stumble, its amazing how many naija so called christians are not sensitive to these things.

Also, this is one of the reasons why i don't wanna marry a naija girl, they are too aggressive, sassy and they are not nurturing. Some are not even trust worthy at all. So sad.

Hahahahaha.
that is a funny one

I think the answer to that question is another question:

1. WHY DO SINGLE LADIES SLEEP WITH MARRIED MEN and

2. WHY DO MARRIED WOMEN SLEEP WITH MEN OTHER THAN THEIR HUSBANDS?

When we answer these questions, we shall not need ask why 'Married men have affairs' cos they shall be none.

So ladies,

Do the right thing, Leave 'em married men ALONE!
When they disturb you, refer 'em to their Wifey (afterll, u were around when they hooked up with the other).

nezed, ose jare (thank you very much), our girls have no form of decency, it is so shameful at times.

in some way, shape or form, they are unhappy and
go outside of the relationship to search for what they are lacking.

It only takes the special grace of God to remain a faithful husband.

The marriage is an institution sealed by God so the devil tries to break that convenant.

The truth is that if you have never dated two girls at once as a bachelor when you marry,you will date 10 chics.It is just another force that works against marriage.

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I have thought about that too. I´m from Europe but I have a lot of experience in Nigerian men. In my country some men cheat too, but it´s very forbidden and in most cases leads to divorce. It was a shock for me to learn how men can be so calculative and two-faced, and I´m talking about Nigerians now. In my case and the other ones I know, men have assumed that they will just lie, and if the lie doesn´t go through, then they will apologize and assume everything continues like it used to.

In my opinion, men cheat because they can. I don´t believe most regret cheating, but regret getting caught. Things like not getting enough sex from a spouse etc are just excuses. If the reason is something like the man doesn´t love the wife, is bored with the wife, then the answer is a divorce, not cheating.

In satisfaction at home

I have thought about that too. I´m from Europe but I have a lot of experience in Nigerian men. In my country some men cheat too, but it´s very forbidden and in most cases leads to divorce. It was a shock for me to learn how men can be so calculative and two-faced, and I´m talking about Nigerians now. In my case and the other ones I know, men have assumed that they will just lie, and if the lie doesn´t go through, then they will apologize and assume everything continues like it used to.

In my opinion, men cheat because they can.

Yep, you are right.

@why do married men have affairs?
Because they are married.  It will not be labelled as affairs for unmarried men no matter how many girls they are hanging out with.

fiona, ha ha ha ha, that is so true. he he he.

Basically, this is an issue that has remained an eye sore and the simple truth of it is that most men that indulge in the act cannot simply control their lustful desires.

davidif:

fiona, ha ha ha ha, that is so true. he he he.

Just common sense

Married men have affairs becos single women are promiscuous.