I am a moda of one nd i hve been married for close to 5yrs now. In recent times i am beginning to hate my hubby. D reason is not far fetched. My hubby doesnt mke me feel hapi. Though he professes his luv to me but his actions show odawise. I guess if u luv some1 u wanna mke dat person hapi.

I used to luv him alot but d hurt nd trusts he has broken in our relationship in d past has made me dislike him. I try to forgive him tho but wen he doz hurtful tinz again, i remember nd gt angry. Emotionally i feel empty, spiritually i am jst striving on my own; no one to look up to. For him its all abt sex,sex nd sex.

I dnt really show my resentment but only Allah knws how bitter i feel wit him. Wat to do?

flakesy01:
I am a moda of one nd i hve been married for close to 5yrs now. In recent times i am beginning to hate my hubby. D reason is not far fetched. My hubby doesnt mke me feel hapi. Though he professes his luv to me but his actions show odawise. I guess if u luv some1 u wanna mke dat person hapi.
I used to luv him alot but d hurt nd trusts he has broken in our relationship in d past has made me dislike him. I try to forgive him tho but wen he doz hurtful tinz again, i remember nd gt angry. Emotionally i feel empty, spiritually i am jst striving on my own; no one to look up to. For him its all abt sex,sex nd sex.
I dnt really show my resentment but only Allah knws how bitter i feel wit him. Wat to do?

Don't hate your husband! Your marriage is a mercy from Allah(SWT) and out of His(SWT) bouties, He has blessed you both with a child. More boys, girls and twins are still coming Insha Allah! You can take the following steps:

1. Pray always for him on whatever bothers you about him and Insha Allah, you'll see positive change.

2. Pray for your marriage against all forms of problems from shaytan.

3. Discuss with him whatever bothers you about him.

4. On the issue of sex, please, give it to him anytime he demands for it. It is an act of Ibadan. Always remember you'll be rewarded by Allah(SWT) after every sex.This would serve as an impetus for you to be readily available for him. There are thousands of women out there who are sex starved even among the married ones! Some married women have husbands with extremely low libido. Some are even impotent! So, thank Allah(SWT). Your's is actually a blessing in disguise. So, please, give him the sex! Have the positive mindset about it and you would both enjoy it.
Remember it is his right.

It would be well Insha Allah.

MrOlai:


Don't hate your husband! Your marriage is a mercy from Allah(SWT) and out of His(SWT) bouties, He has blessed you both with a child. More boys, girls and twins are still coming Insha Allah! You can take the following steps:

1. Pray always for him on whatever bothers you about him and Insha Allah, you'll see positive change.

2. Pray for your marriage against all forms of problems from shaytan.

3. Discuss with him whatever bothers you about him.

4. On the issue of sex, please, give it to him anytime he demands for it. It is an act of Ibadan. Always remember you'll be rewarded by Allah(SWT) after every sex.This would serve as an impetus for you to be readily available for him. There are thousands of women out there who are sex starved even among the married ones! Some married women have husbands with extremely low libido. Some are even impotent! So, thank Allah(SWT). Your's is actually a blessing in disguise. So, please, give him the sex! Have the positive mindset about it and you would both enjoy it.
Remember it is his right.

It would be well Insha Allah.

I do many of d tinz u suggested. I pray 4 him, try to talk to him abt how i feel or how he mkes me feel; he neva rilly takes me seriously. He imagines he is d best he can b for me. We arent friends, he rather befriends strange women to him its nothing. Now tell if i am not emotionally connected to him how can i eva b ready to always giv him sex.

I am not sayin i dnt giv him. I am not in luv wit him enuf always giv him or dsire him.

flakesy01:

I do many of d tinz u suggested. I pray 4 him, try to talk to him abt how i feel or how he mkes me feel; he neva rilly takes me seriously. He imagines he is d best he can b for me. We arent friends, he rather befriends strange women to him its nothing. Now tell if i am not emotionally connected to him how can i eva b ready to always giv him sex.
I am not sayin i dnt giv him. I am not in luv wit him enuf always giv him or dsire him.

Then, call a good Islamic scholar to talk to him. Be patient with him and continue to play your own parts. With prayers, all things are possible.

Dont know if this is beneficial to you. Got it from a sister. I break it down to make it easy read.

................... MERRY MARRIAGE ...............

Love is a disease and its only cure is to get married to the one you love!

The first thing Allah gave prophet adam alayhi wasallam was knowledge and the
second thing was marriage! How important!


The house of the prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam was not a house of indomie
and spaghetti, it was a house of ibadah, as well as a house filled with love and
ecstacy! The prophet was very romantic and sweet to his wives!

It was narrated that, every morning, the rasul salallahu alayhi wassalam would
greet all his wives from one room to another with tasleem! How many men do
these today?


The ummahatul mumineen radi Allahu anhunna reported that, the prophet would
NEVER pass by any of them around the house witout doing something lovely to
that person (winking, kissing, hugging, poking, touching her jilbab, smiling), and if
he doesn't do any to one of them, it means the prophet is angry with that person!
# Subhanallah, he expresses anger wit silence



Aisha radiAllahu anha said, the rasul salallahu alayhi wassalam NEVER raised his
hands to hit any woman or slave (abu dawud)
The prophet never made of his wives shed tears for even one day despite being
married to over 12 wives, today, some men cannot even make only one woman
happy!


The rasul salallahu alayhi wassalam would race with his wives
The rasul would eat from the same cup and plate with them
He salallahu alayhi wasallam would adorn himself for them and he was the most
handsome man to ever exist!



Narrated Aishah (RA),
I used to comb the hair of Allah's Apostle during my periods.".. (Sahih Bukhari,
Volume7, Book72, Number808)..
The prophet saallalahu alayhi wasallam would recite Quran while resting his head
on the laps of aisha while she is menstruating! How many men go near their wife
when she is impure?


The prophet would kiss his wives after ablution! How many men do this?
Allah said, in the messenger of Allah is the best example for you to follow
Many couples lack romance in their marriage too! They stop saying (I love you)
after 2yrs of marriage! Say it forever even at the age of 100!
Race with your spouse! Teach ur spouse how to drive! Cook together, play
together, drop your phones and spend time together with FULL attention
Buy gifts for eachother, write (I love u) on a small note and hide it under ur
spouse's pillow or bag or cupboard or pocket! Whenever he/she sees it, it will
definately attract a smile



Make ur house lively and lovely, not a library! To hell with valentiine, celebrate
your own love everyday!

Teach ur wife the deen, buy her nikabs, jilbab, socks and gloves that matches the
same colour! # MA_SHA_ALLAH



Help her when she is dressing up, learn how to tie nikab for her! Spray perfume on
her when she is at home
Do balloon fights, play games, hide and seek, gym together, do boxing, do d chores
together! Wake her for tahajjud with a peck!
Send her text messages from ur work place! When u travel, chat with her on
whatsapp/BBM. If u have more wives, then a GROUP CHAT will be a good idea!
Sisters too



One day, Whenever ur husband has gone to work, rush all the chores, clean all the
cleanables and dust all the dustables, prepare his favourite meal, on the fans and
AC! Prepare the bed room. Pink background colour is not a bad idea! Go
take ur bath and wear a seductive swaggerlicious attire! Then spray perfume and
sit in the centre chair in the sitting room waiting for him!


So that when the young man returns from a hard day's job sweating profusely, as
soon as he opens the door into the house, the first thing he sees is his angel cross
legged looking pepperisticall smashing and smiling on her face
His love for u is sure to increase!


Save ur marriage from divorce, don't ignore the little things that can strengthen ur
love, there is NO shyness between spouses! Dance for him if u are able to!
Bath together! Escort him to the car always!

You Should Forward It To Him As Well

Don't know what to say bout this but I just pray Allah grants u two a better solution to ur probs and grants u a joyful nmarriage.
Meanwhile, just keep making dua for ur husband to change