hello Nairalanders.A friend to my friend need your advice. (my friend friend). she got married 5years ago with an elaborate wedding to her heartrob. Bisi and Bayo( were so much in love and their wedding was the envy of their friends and neighbors.
2years after there were yet to be blessed with kids and the husband started misbehaving to the wife. before marriage Bisi confessed to Bayo that she had an abortion while in school, so he concluded that the abortion caused her inability to bear a child. the problem was not only coming from the husband but also the husband family. the husband allows his mum to abuse and rain curses on Bisi. Bisi got so frustrated that she has to go to the hospital for fertility test.
In the hospital, after series of tests, the doctor confirm Bisi perfect without any problem. even at that, Bisi did not believe the doctor cos the husband is wonderful on bed. during the doctor's orientation, Bisi got some points from the doctor's lecture that if a man sper-m is too watery it may produce little or no swimmers which cannot swim to fertilize her egg. (sorry doctors in the house, am not a medical student, but am sure you understand me)
All efforts to make her husband go for test failed cos the husband keep saying he is perfect. her family were all disappointed in her for bringing such shame to their family. even with doctor's report Bisi did not believe she is fine, she decided to have sex with another man, just on first attempt and she got pregnant. she got pregnant and everyone became glad but within her she knows the father of her child.
the child is 2years now, her husband changed to become a caring husband once again after she got pregnant and after delivery the husband love the child so much. Bisi is depressed and she could not keep this secret to herself what should she do?
should she tell the man and face divorce or should she keep her secret forever? if she keeps the secret forever and the man wants another baby want will she do?

N.B she would have aborted the baby when she discovered she was pregnant but she was scared what will happened to her and she had long for baby for so long.
she discovered her husband married her for child bearing not love cos of his change of attitude just 5years after marriage.
she is thinking of telling the truth and bear the consequences?

MATURE MINDS ONLY PLSSS

its better she should leave her husband and take the child to the real father...
I just don't like situations where the man believe he don't have faults or that he's always right...
Her husband doesn't deserve her... Period

My brother, tell that ur friend sey dis matter heavy for mouth oooh. I & my fone no get advice..

#Gobe!!!!!

Some secrets are best left secret. If this is not a concocted story, Bisi must be very silly to have let another ear hear of it.

let her continue to play along

If she continues playing along the truth will surely catch up with her. Nothing is hidden under the sun, absolutely nothing. If she has a good conscience she should tell her husband the truth. Better late than never.

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In as much as i will love for her to say the truth but i suspect the husband being aware of his condition,otherwise he wouldn't decline the hospital visit.
She confessed of having done abortion before and the man did nothing,neither did he blame her for their childlessness then he refused going for a check-up?

She does not need to tell her husband- he knows the truth.
It is an unspoken truth that causes damages once it leaves the mouth. So best left unspoken for the love of the man and for herself.

This has been happening from days of old. People don`t talk about it.
It is a humane solution to a problem.
If she did not get pregnant the man would have married another woman who went out to bring him a child.

I know a man years back who`s wife never gave birth. A few ladies claimed to be pregnant for him, he would always tell them, if it is my kid leave it with me and go. That way he gathered himself a family together.
The wife took care of the kids like a mother but keep crying that she could not give him a child.
One day he told her that the day she got pregnant she would leave his house!!!!

Sometimes it is not about what is right or wrong but what is humane.

Hmm. Friend on your friend.

Well. If she feels the man doesn't love her and o my wants her because of the kid, she should decide if that enough for her to keep up the marriage and live in the deception for the rest of her life.

Or tell him and take the chance of starting over with someone who actually does love her.
How old is the kid and how would such a thing affect him/her?

she should berra shut her mouth up b4 her hubby will kill her out of frustration. he should be contended with one child. Thank God its a male child

lofty900:
she should berra shut her mouth up b4 her hubby will kill her out of frustration. he should be contended with one child. Thank God its a male child

Why wouldn't she thank god if it's a female child?

cococandy:


Why wouldn't she thank god if it's a female child?

because the man will definitely demand 4 a male child and the truth may be forced out of her but since its a male child, the pressure will be of 'I NEED A MALE CHILD' will not be there

MARKone:
Some secrets are best left secret. If this is not a concocted story, Bisi must be very silly to have let another ear hear of it.

Obviously the story is concocted, a friend's friend and you still call it a secret? Oh! Please.

lofty900:
because the man will definitely demand 4 a male child and the truth may be forced out of her but since its a male child, the pressure will be of 'I NEED A MALE CHILD' will not be there

Demand for a male child, the woman must be a baby manufacturer.

Dude stop embarrassing yourself.

mutter:
She does not need to tell her husband- he knows the truth.
It is an unspoken truth that causes damages once it leaves the mouth. So best left unspoken for the love of the man and for herself.

This has been happening from days of old. People don`t talk about it.
It is a humane solution to a problem.
If she did not get pregnant the man would have married another woman who went out to bring him a child.

I know a man years back who`s wife never gave birth. A few ladies claimed to be pregnant for him, he would always tell them, if it is my kid leave it with me and go. That way he gathered himself a family together.
The wife took care of the kids like a mother but keep crying that she could not give him a child.
One day he told her that the day she got pregnant she would leave his house!!!!

Sometimes it is not about what is right or wrong but what is humane.

@Bold:

Was the man impotent?

bukatyne:


@Bold:

Was the man impotent?

That's the implication.

Like he knows if she get pregnant, it's not from him.

lofty900:
because the man will definitely demand 4 a male child and the truth may be forced out of her but since its a male child, the pressure will be of 'I NEED A MALE CHILD' will not be there

Ok.

I guess he will demand for a male child because he's ignorant. But you're right.
He probably would.

that's a huge one.she should tell her husband all that hapened.she cannot pretend that nothing happened.she made a grave mistake.how will you even start to tell this story...
on the othet hand, if you refuse to tell, don't you think the child's father may come to claim his offspring later in life or did you pick a random guy to sleep with.even if he didn't know you , he may start digging up information about you, put 2 and 2 together to know the child is his.what if the child looks like the father?? there are so many wahala attached to this act of yours.do yourself a favour, , let him know.and get ready to face whatever that comes up.some actions are irredeemable!

cococandy:


That's the implication.

Like he knows if she get pregnant, it's not from him.

Wicked and selfish

bukatyne:


Wicked and selfish

That he is

She should just tell the husband and face the consequences. After all you weren't raped.

freecocoa:


Demand for a male child, the woman must be a baby manufacturer.

Dude stop embarrassing yourself.

but i'm saying d truth na

cococandy:

Ok.

I guess he will demand for a male child because he's ignorant. But you're right.
He probably would.

what made him ignorant ? i'll also demand 4 a male child if it was me

lofty900:
what made him ignorant ? i'll also demand 4 a male child if it was me

then you're also ignorant

lofty900:
but i'm saying d truth na

Coco has told you all you need to know, you need to do some serious studying.

This one is strong..

MARKone:
Some secrets are best left secret. If this is not a concocted story, Bisi must be very silly to have let another ear hear of it.

there is nothing hidden under the sun..says the bible

Yet another friend.
She should tell her husband. How can a married women ignore doctors professional report only to taste her fertility with another man? Abeg make una carry una sef dey go o jare.

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