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Emir Of Kano Responds To # Childnotbride Critics by wolesmile(m): 1:39am On Sep 30, 2015 |
The Emir of Kano, Alhaji Muhammad
Sanusi II has reacted to critics of his
marriage to 18-year-old Sa’adatu
Barkindo-Musdafa, the daughter of the
Lamido of Adamawa.
Read his reaction below…
I am sure NC members all have their
views and have kept quiet out of
(appropriate) deference to our right to
make our individual choice. Obviously I
do not need to explain anything to
anyone in a purely personal matter but a
few points are worthy of note:
1. The lady in question is 18 and
therefore legally of age to marry
under all laws and certainly under
Muslim law.
2. She is proceeding for her
undergraduate education in the UK
in January. She had an A in
computer science in her O levels
and plans to get a degree in
computer science.
3. Each and every one of my wives is a
university graduate and some have
worked and then stopped and in
each case the choice was purely
theirs.
4. It is a tradition in Kano that emirs
and princes in choosing wives
consider issues beyond the
individual. The family is in every
sense a social unit. My predecessor
was married to princesses from
Ilorin, Katsina and Sokoto.
5. The relationship between the late
Lamido of Adamawa Aliyu Musdafa
the father of the current Lamido is
well known. Lamido Aliyu was the
first emir turbaned after emir
Sanusi I and they remained close
until Sanusi’s death.
6. My own relationship with the
current Lamido dates back to 1981
when he was Ciroma and
commissioner for works. By the
way the Lamido and I are not
illiterates we know what we are
doing and he does have a PhD in
Engineering.
7. My own mother was married in
Adamawa and lived there for more
than two decades and I have eight
younger brothers and sisters from
there.
8. It is therefore natural that if I
choose to marry from another
kingdom Adamawa would be the
first choice for me and I am
extremely happy to strengthen
these long historical bonds.
9. The young lady in question gave
her free consent and even after the
contract the wedding will not
happen for a few years. By then
she may be 21. If she freely
consents to this I do not know on
what moral grounds anyone has a
grouse. She is an adult, she gave
her consent, and her education is
not being in anyway interrupted.
10. The real issue is that people do not
accept cultural difference. And you
can see it in the approach to these
issues. I am supposed to be urbane
and western educated. Yes but I
am not European. I am a northern
Nigerian Fulani Muslim brought up
in a setting exactly like the one my
children are being brought up in.
If you read this and it improves your
understanding of this issue that is fine. If
it does not just remember it is not your
life, it is not your daughter and you are
not my wife therefore it is not your
business.
I obviously cannot stoop to the level of
responding publicly to these kinds of
articles. I have always been an advocate
of girls marrying after maturing. I
personally like the minimum age of 18
even though I understand those who say
16 is fine and indeed this is the law in
most so called advanced countries.
Is this something that I expect a
European or western trained or feminist
mind to appreciate or endorse? Not at all.
But has any American been bothered
about my views on men marrying men or
women marrying women who frankly I
find primitive and bestial? No and my
views do not matter. These are cultural
issues.
Even in Nigeria I have heard all this stuff
as in Pius article about “north” and
northerners. Again it is a failure to
respect difference. There are parts of this
country where parents expect their
daughters to live with their boyfriends for
years and actually get pregnant before
they marry. It has become culture. We do
not have that in the north and if your
daughter gets pregnant before marriage
she brings nothing but shame to the
name. But we do not issue
condemnations. We agree that this is how
they choose to live. And I can give many
other examples.
When people use the term libido they do
themselves injustice. First of all it shows
how they view women and marriage.
Women are nothing but the object of
sexual desire. Marriage is nothing but
sexual gratification. Well I am sorry but in
my tradition it is not. Beauty and
attraction rank third after religion and
lineage in the choice of a wife.
They see an 18 year old young lady. I see
a princess of noble birth whose mother is
also a princess, and who has been brought
up in a good Muslim home. This is the
kind of woman that is prepared for giving
birth to princes and bringing them up for
the role expected of them in society.
Marriage is both social and political.
Expanding the links of Kano which have
already been established by my
predecessors through inter-marriage with
Katsina, Sokoto, Ilorin, Katagum, Ningi,
Bauchi etc to Adamawa is an important
and significant step and this is obvious to
anyone with a sense of how royal families
work and Ibn Khaldun’s sociological
concept of Asabiyyah.
When the Emir of Kano marries it has to
be something beyond what he personally
desires to what is appropriate for that
position and the expectations of the
people he represents. You don’t just pick
up any girl on the street. And by the way,
for those who shout libido, sex is cheap
and available everywhere in all shapes
and sizes and all colours if that is what
they want. And all ages too. Marriage is a
very different proposition. The mother of
your children has to be something other
than, not at least much more than a mere
object of sexual fantasy. But if you do not
know that you need to buy yourself a
brain.
I have daughters. And they know they
can only marry from certain backgrounds.
I always prefer family. When my daughter
wanted to marry Mouftah Baba Ahmed’s
son and she asked me, knowing my views
on family, I told her Mouftah is family.
And this is not about me and Mouftah or
me an Hakeem or Nafiu. No. It goes back
to Baba Ahmed and Emirs Sanusi and
Bayero. And the same rule applies to my
sons. And it applied to me as well.
It is, I am sure, very strange that I should
even bother to comment on this. But it
would be hypocritical for me to just keep
quiet so long as these things are being
posted and commented upon explicitly or
in a snide manner. There was no secrecy
in the marriage fatiha. The date was fixed
and it was to be done in the central
mosque after Friday prayers.
The day before we had a tragedy in Saudi
Arabia and decided the fatiha must be
very low key as a mark of respect for the
dead. All traditional rulers in Adamawa
were there, as were governors and
commissioners, members of my own
emirate council and Adamawa people.
There is nothing here to hide or be
apologetic about.
The emirs of Adamawa have shown love
to my parents and grandparents and it is
a sign of my appreciation of their love that
i marry their daughter. This is the highest
statement of friendship and loyalty on
both sides.
Again if you understand this this is fine. If
you do not, buy yourself a brain, A la Pius.
In any event this is my one and final and
only comment on this. And I am making it
out of respect for NC members.
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Re: Emir Of Kano Responds To # Childnotbride Critics by samscholes: 2:30am On Sep 30, 2015 |
Well i won't blame him xum gals honey pot can accomodate 3 dicks with additional space. 1 Like |
Re: Emir Of Kano Responds To # Childnotbride Critics by amii131(f): 3:14am On Sep 30, 2015 |
Hmmm Good luck to ur marriage As for the girl Thank God ur going for studies by January Still make ur conclusion as u further studies then 21yrs if that's ur choice to go publicly with it. |
Re: Emir Of Kano Responds To # Childnotbride Critics by KanwuliaJara: 11:37pm On Sep 30, 2015 |
Hmmmmmmmm |
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