This my friend died in a road accident on his way from the state he is working to his home land for his wedding. This heppened a week to his wedding. The familiy was so devasteted that they said the guys company should handle the burial and should not communicate where the  corpse will be buried to the family. Is this right?

Did this happen in Nigeria? What tribe are the parents? Is your friend on an official assignment when the accident happen?

No excuse whatsoever. I don't care what the culture is or what it will cost. Na wa oh. Did their child kill someone?

Iranoladun:

Did this happen in Nigeria? What tribe are the parents? Is your friend on an official assignment when the accident happen?

good question, i wont say a word until the poster answer ur question.

When my cousin died in boarding school, his parents asked the school to bury him and they don't know where he was buried. Apparently according to Yoruba custom, parents shouldn't know where their children are buried. Personally, I think someone in the family- not necessarily the parents- should at least know where he's buried.

May his soul RIP and God strenghten all that are grieving his death.

This happened in Nigeria, they re from warri, it was not on an official assignment. he leave was suppose to start 2 days later. He wanted to rush down and organise some things and it was on a sunday. The accident happened in Benin.

It is not right for the father to reject the corpse. Although, I'd advise the company to report the matter to the Police under the West native law & custom most parent see it as an abomination to partake in the burial of their children or to know the tomb. The company should endeavour to get Police report coroner report stating cause of death and death certificate; they should also try to persuade the parent to send a family representative who will handle the burial. The company only needs to pay the guy's entitlement, facilitate payment of his life insurance and pension entitlement to his legal representative. If the company has a union or HR policy they should try to comply with the spirit & letter of the provisions.

Ilelobola:

When my cousin died in boarding school, his parents asked the school to bury him and they don't know where he was buried. Apparently according to Yoruba custom, parents shouldn't know where their children are buried. Personally, I think someone in the family- not necessarily the parents- should at least know where he's buried.

May his soul RIP and God strenghten all that are grieving his death.

Really?
[s]so if Tpia dies now for example ,they'll just throw her carcass into the bush[/s]
Or dash her out to UBTH anatomy lab

Iranoladun:

It is not right for the father to reject the corpse. Although, I'd advise the company to report the matter to the Police under the West native law & custom most parent see it as an abomination to partake in the burial of their children or to know the tomb. The company should endeavour to get Police report coroner report stating cause of death and death certificate; they should also try to persuade the parent to send a family representative who will handle the burial. The company only needs to pay the guy's entitlement, facilitate payment of his life insurance and pension entitlement to his legal representative. If the company has a union or HR policy they should try to comply with the spirit & letter of the provisions.

I am wondering if the same culture that says that parents should not bury their children will allow them accept the money from a life insurance policy. Mscheeeeeeeeeeeeew