please what will you do if you found out that your wife is cheating on you, and to make the matter worse she now have a child that dose not look like you, fair in complaxtion,while you are dark and she too is some how dark too, plaese advice is needed ugently is you love your brother here in N/L

Go for a paternity test.
If the baby is not urs, its only YOU that can decide if u wanna stay with her or not

Goodluck!!!

the lack of trust and honesty is the first problem that you need to address in your marriage and then go for the DNA test to see if that child is yours or not. if it aint you will have no option than to leave the rat of a wife you got because it means that she has been unfaithful for quite a while (unless you want to be married to someone who bangs other people).
funny that you had to catch her cheating for realizing that the child was a different complexion than both of you(beware, its possible for 2 dark skin people to have a  light skin child)

DNA, DNA is the answer!

If my husband was cheating, I'd ask him about it in a non-confrontational manner in the first instance and we'll take it from it; depending on his answer and reason(s) for doing it.

On the issue of the child, obviously a DNA test will be able to tell but a child may not always look like it's parents. My maternal grandpa is very fair and my grandma is very dark. All their children including my mom are very dark. 3 of my mom's children are very fair like her dad and my dad is not fair but his grandma was fair too. And we are all my father's children.

Point being, the child's complexion alone should not suggest it's not yours you need to look at your wife's and your own ancestors.

dae:

DNA, DNA is the answer!

thank you very much for the advice, but can i go and do DNA with out her knowing, you understand if she understand that and it happen that the child is our child the trust will never be there any more.b/cos i dont know what to do know

you have supposedly caught her cheating and you STILL worry about HER trusting YOU when going for the DNA test, WTF?!
i will be polite and tell you that you shouldnt really care what you "wife" thinks. if you REALLY caught her cheating then YOU HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS TO DO A DNA TEST TO ALL YOUR CHILDREN!!!! sorry to bust your dreams but there is no trust in your marriage because if there was, she would go and get drilled by some stranger.

MRbrownJAY:

you have supposedly caught her cheating and you STILL worry about HER trusting YOU when going for the DNA test, WTF?!
i will be polite and tell you that you shouldnt really care what you "wife" thinks. if you REALLY caught her cheating then YOU HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS TO DO A DNA TEST TO ALL YOUR CHILDREN!!!! sorry to bust your dreams but there is no trust in your marriage because if there was, she would go and get drilled by some stranger.

thax for this advice i will do just that to be sure iam with my childrean

You can arrange with your doctor and go with your wife and kid, pretend to be doing another test but let the doc take samples and do the paternity test.

MRbrownJAY:

you have supposedly caught her cheating and you STILL worry about HER trusting YOU when going for the DNA test, WTF?!
i will be polite and tell you that you shouldnt really care what you "wife" thinks. if you REALLY caught her cheating then YOU HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS TO DO A DNA TEST TO ALL YOUR CHILDREN!!!! sorry to bust your dreams but there is no trust in your marriage because if there was, she would go and get drilled by some stranger.

thank very much for this advice, but one thing is still on my mind what happen if the baby is not mine,should i send the two away?i am not praying for that but i am asking incase,becouse the world is,

DNA

I think DNA is the solution and you will need to let your wife be aware before going for it.you don't need to care about her feeling because she has betray your trust for her already
so please go for it am solidly behind you

,,,

Ilelobola:


Point being, the child's complexion alone should not suggest it's not yours you need to look at your wife's and your own ancestors.

thank you.

Even siblings of the same parents can range from every color- from light to dark. Some dont even look alike.

Its not written in stone that your children will all have the same your complexion.

besides, some babies start out light but get browner with time.

Before you go for the DNA test, make sure you discuss it with her

chaircover:

Has anyone noticed that this guy still loves his wife.

What a strange world we live in.

There are women praying everyday for a husband and then there are some who are blessed with husbands who love them but still go out and cheat.

Na wa o!

Poster - its your call, however as you havent decided what you intend doing if the DNA test says you are not the father inspite of your wifes cheating, then I suggest you dont bother doing it, afterall what is the point if you won't do anything?

my dear it is not that i wont do any thing but i dont want to do thing that i will regreat, if i found out she is going no 2 ways, please dont get me wrong. thanx for your advice too

ocean73:

my dear it is not that i wont do any thing but i dont want to do thing that i will regreat, if i found out she is going no 2 ways, please dont get me wrong. thanx for your advice too

i dont see anything in your first post that gives any indication the child isnt yours.

Do you have any evidence besides the baby's lighter skin?

be careful with your suspicions- how do you know your wife was cheating on you?

DNA simple.

tpiah:



i dont see anything in your first post that gives any indication the child isnt yours.

Do you have any evidence besides the baby's lighter skin?

be careful with your suspicions- how do you know your wife was cheating on you?

ok now imagine you are carrying your baby and some one just come after looking at you and ask are you the father of that baby, my friend what will come to your mind?,and again you looking at the baby you cant see one or 2 thing about yourself, any way i will do the DNA, and found out, cos you dont expect me to catch them redhanded before i will have evidence or do you?, thanx once again for the adivice.

pls. without wasting time go for the DNA.

and don't hesitate to give us the feed back there after .

wishing u all the best.

ocean73:

ok now imagine you are carrying your baby and some one just come after looking at you and ask are you the father of that baby, my friend what will come to your mind?,and again you looking at the baby you cant see one or 2 thing about yourself, any way i will do the DNA, and found out, cos you dont expect me to catch them redhanded before i will have evidence or do you?, thanx once again for the adivice.

by all means do the DNA test.

But seriously, you're suspecting your wife of cheating just because you think the baby doesnt look like you?



Once again, have you checked your family lineage to see if the baby looks like someone on either your wife's or your own side.

If all you're basing your accusations on are the baby's looks and not any other solid evidence of cheating, then that's very unfair to your wife.

However, go ahead and do the testing.

Go on the Jeremy Kyle show.

We are the only race that can create every hue and color up and down.

There is no other race out there that can do that.

Like so many have said before me, because the child is not your color does not mean that she/he is not yours.

As far as the wife cheating if the only thing you have to go to on is the color of the baby then i say get your DNA and then shut your mouth.

Yes you should catch them red handed before you pack her things (if that is what you want), and the DNA test will be your proof.

sistawoman:

We are the only race that can create every hue and color up and down.

There is no other race out there that can do that.

Like so many have said before me, because the child is not your color does not mean that she/he is not yours.

As far as the wife cheating if the only thing you have to go to on is the color of the baby then i say get your DNA and then shut your mouth.

Yes you should catch them red handed before you pack her things (if that is what you want), and the DNA test will be your proof.

am with you on this.and to the poster,well,sorry bro.prepare for a squeaky bum ride!

mmm

Like everyone said . . . go for a DNA test and take it from there

there is a great show on tv called "the Maury Povich" show. they have paternity tests with a twist and your case would do great there. i think you have to get an appointment with them.
If the child is NOT yours then depending on how old the child is, you can either:
1) walk away like you never been there (if very young)
2) stay in contact with the child(if older child) but definitely drop your cheating wife.

so, in fact, all you have is SUSPICION of adultery and nothing more?! get real brotha. the colour of the child skin is not a reason to suspect foul play.

chaircover:

Poster you are not alone o! This colour issue can be trouble sometimes.

Hubby and I are both dark but our daughter is very light skinned compared to us.

You won't beleive it but I was in a restaurant once with my daughter when a lady came up to me from nowhere and asked me if  my husband was light skinned. I said no and she kind of looked at me funny. I was quite upset at the time but my hubby just laughed it off and told me to ignore it.

People can be so insensitive sometimes.

can you send me your contact, i will like to ask you something

please if any body have idea on this dont forget to help a brother