My husband got an out of state contract . D day he was supposed to travel he was extra meticulous wt his hygiene, I read meaning to dt cos d project has nothing to do wt bn clean n fine, it's a building project. Tho he's bn travelling to dt particular state frequently now, av never noticed Ds extra attention to himself.
Last night I called him, he didn't pick up, wen he later called he sounded husky, asked Wats wrong he said he has a cold. 20mins later wen he called back d cold was gone! Cos he sounded like himself. Can I confront him based on this alone? Is this enough to conclude he's cheating?
Pls mature responses alone, wouldn't be here if I av someone I discuss my home wt!

beaubod:
My husband got an out of state contract . D day he was supposed to travel he was extra meticulous wt his hygiene, I read meaning to dt cos d project has nothing to do wt bn clean n fine, it's a building project. Tho he's bn travelling to dt particular state frequently now, av never noticed Ds extra attention to himself.
Last night I called him, he didn't pick up, wen he later called he sounded husky, asked Wats wrong he said he has a cold. 20mins later wen he called back d cold was gone! Cos he sounded like himself. Can I confront him based on this alone? Is this enough to conclude he's cheating?
Pls mature responses alone, wouldn't be here if I av someone I discuss my home wt!

Can I confront him based on this alone?

Confront is the wrong word here. You should talk to him in a very nice and polite way because this is a sensitive issue. Tell him how you feel. How do you feel? Probably worried. So tell him that you have these thoughts and that you worry because you love him and you are scared of losing him. You feel jealous and insecure and vulnerable.

Is this enough to conclude he is cheating?

No.

No, it isn't enough to conclude ....

He may or may not be cheating. ...... You have to get a clearer picture before you accuse him....

But the truth is that you never trusted him....

I always trust my instincts, most of the time they are right

Just discuss your feelings politely. You dont have enough evidence

Goodluck

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i wouldn't worry if i were you. besides, you cannot base your worry on how husky he sounded. Do speak to him as often as you can and visit too. Things will become clearer.





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Id advice you be careful and not just conclude he might be cheating that's just purely creating a problem where there is none. And if you happen to be wrong, he will have a hard time knowing you don't trust him now and in the future.

Mind games are always dangerous.

If you are so worried and/or have doubts, pay him an impromptu visit but BE ready to deal with whatever comes with it cos as it is, nothing he says now can clear your doubts. You already have an excuse for the surprise visit: he's sick, you are worried but like I said, before you embark on that trip, be sure you are equal to the task.

Personally, I wouldn't bother.

ifyalways:
Mind games are always dangerous.

If you are so worried and/or have doubts, pay him an impromptu visit but BE ready to deal with whatever comes with it cos as it is, nothing he says now can clear your doubts. You already have an excuse for the surprise visit: he's sick, you are worried but like I said, before you embark on that trip, be sure you are equal to the task.

Personally, I wouldn't bother.

Tx ma'am, we live together, he's only out of town wen d need arises. Right now he's on his way back

Tx for all d comments, am really grateful.

All what you have stated doesn't point to the fact that your hubby is cheating.
I would advise you free your mind thus no read negative meaning to all he does.

Trust......!!!
"I had a dream of u in a police case cos of a woman that died. I was informed and you told me u didn't kill her. I asked you what you were doing with her in the hotel but all you could say was .... I'm sorry....".
......though it sounds like a movie script but I would prefer you scare him than you confront him without a concrete evidence. confrontation isn't a solution even if you find him in the act. it sometimes do more harm than good.

do not conclude yet.
but you can tease him with it to know his reactions.

Madam, you are insecure.

He is going for a contract and he is extra meticulous with his hygiene. Do you know if he has a big meeting planned or may be trying to secure another project. And you called him and he sounded husky; then you think you have enough evidence to confront him.

Confront him with what exactly? That he is cheating? What evidence do you even have or don't you even know the meaning of evidence?

What if he has a dream tonight that you are cheating, and then he confronts you tomorrow based on a dream; how will that sound to you? Don't you think you are just a bit insecure here.

TooNoisy:
Madam, you are insecure.

He is going for a contract and he is extra meticulous with his hygiene. Do you know if he has a big meeting planned or may be trying to secure another project. And you called him and he sounded husky; then you think you have enough evidence to confront him.

Confront him with what exactly? That he is cheating? What evidence do you even have or don't you even know the meaning of evidence?

What if he has a dream tonight that you are cheating, and then he confronts you tomorrow based on a dream; how will that sound to you? Don't you think you are just a bit insecure here.

That's true. OP try and work on yourself, u Av trust issues. What ur man does every second of his life u don't wanna know, trust me.