It is common nowadays to see women share responsibility in the home, but how convenient can it be when a woman becomes the bread winner of the home. By bread winner i mean the one who brings or contribute more to the home. Lets share our opinions from the realistic point of view. Personally i believe a man should be the the highest provider. I don't think i'll prefer in any other way.

How Ideal Is It When A Woman Is The Bread Winner Of The Home?

I am very prepared to be the bread winner of my home , if god forbid my husband loses his job , or if he decides to get a higher degree . I will support his dream, afterall will i not share in the bounty when it comes .

I will not be the bread winner because he prefers to be a couch potato , that one he and the couch will find themselves out in the cold . I believe Pastor Adeboye said it best when he stated - Men that their wives are feeding them need to reevaluate their lives .

It needs to be a partnership all the way , no parasites

Hmmmm, nice post. 5% remains humble, while the rest either become a semi-beast or demi-god.

Hmmmmm! Nice Topic.

It is not a sin for a woman to be the bread winner of a home and it is not ideal either. The Bible say if any (the man) provide not for his own, especially those of his household, he is worse than an infidel. That is christian view and it applies all round.

A man shouldn't call himself a man if he cannot provide those little thing needed for daily survival of his household. We know time changes, if he's been up to task adn suddenly things changes for the man, the woman should come in and lift the man because she is part of the family.

Am not saying women are not important in running our homes, but the man should be at the forefront while the woman back him up.

A man told me of how he lost his job, for 3 good month he had nothing to give to run the home but the wife will at the end of every month of those 3 months bring her salary to the husband on her kneels and every weekend she will write a list and bring to the husband asking for money. That alone trills me till today. Not many women will do that especially our girls today.

Another man was doing well until things changes and the woman rose to a higher position earning over 500k per month, that is when she now wanted to be dictating how the home should be ran. Women, have this natural misbehaviour of wanting to rule a man that is why the bible will always tell them[b] to submit[/b] to their husbands

Every man should desire and pray to play the roles of a man in the home always else life could be frustrating if a woman becomes the breadwinner.

Every woman should in turn pray to be like the virtous woman described in Proverbs 31 so that there would be no breaking of ranks in our homes.

To me, that's a big curse and may God not let that happen in my home

PurestBoy:

To me, that's a big curse and may God not let that happen in my home

It's not a curse!!! The Earth rotates. So woman too can take the position often to help each other. , em! erm No Big DeaL?

but every Man wants to be the Bread Winner of the Home.

I prefer ME to be the Bread Winner of the Home!!!! NO TIME!

The most Nigerians i know are cowards , no one will come to tell u that he is a victim of the above, but remember behind every successful man thier is a woman, most millionaires today have at one time lived off their wife for a long time b4 they get to thier dream land, marriage is a partnership,its a new world order, people now work in offices that dont guaranty stability, not on the farm as in the days of old , all every woman wants is a faithful and a loving husband, and they will go to the ends of the earth with u. and what about the women that have ruined their husbands?

What a nice topic/

When a man start failing from his primary responsibities, he starts lossing his position as a man. let not preach semion over our inabilities, IT IS WRONGH WHEN A WOMAN TAKES THE POSITION OF A MAN. The Bible only says, the woman shall be a helpmate to compliment. infact things are falling apart.

The Bible say if any (the man) provide not for his own, especially those of his household, he is worse than an infidel.

Pls fellow boys/men, you most try to hold ur position as a man. if not, you cant talk among ur equals, u can give advise, u will not be able to precide over ur immidiate family meetin not to talk of kingsmen, u will not be respected, ur children will not be proud of u, nobody will call a mentor, ur grey hair will not be recongnise.

finaly i have this to say "The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never scoring.

@ you guys opposed to it, would you rather she left you for a richer man so that the Earth will not rotate in the opposite direction as a result of her bringing in more money for the family which you are a part of?

lobitex:

The most Nigerians i know are cowards , no one will come to tell u that he is a victim of the above, but remember behind every successful man thier is a woman, most millionaires today have at one time lived off their wife for a long time b4 they get to thier dream land, marriage is a partnership,its a new world order, people now work in offices that dont guaranty stability, not on the farm as in the days of old , all every woman wants is a faithful and a loving husband, and they will go to the ends of the earth with u. and what about the women that have ruined their husbands?

So it is now you guys realize marriage is a partnership, ehn? Whatever happened to "I'm the king and ye are my subjects" that you Nigerian guys [i]especially [/i]scream at the top of your lungs?

stillwater:

So it is now you guys realize marriage is a partnership, ehn? Whatever happened to "I'm the king and ye are my subjects" that you Nigerian guys [i]especially [/i]scream at the top of your lungs?

All Hail King Nigerian Man.

Roflmao.

This kind of position crushes many men's egos and dents their pride.

On a real, there is nothing wrong with it, and I have no problem being the bread winner of the home, but it has to be for reasons as Pittbaby has already mentioned, don't want a lazy man, or man who can't stick to his job etc. He should be doing something pro active in his life that will inevitably benefit the family in order for me to take on this postition, besides if he has lost his job or decides to better himself (academically/professionally) then how are we going to eat and live if I don't.

However, I will not make him feel low or beneath me if I did, he is still the man of the house.  

how can u be the baba of the house when Madam is giving you pocket money

lets be realistic here.

NeroPapas:



A man told me of how he lost his job, for 3 good month he had nothing to give to run the home but the wife will at the end of every month of those 3 months bring her salary to the husband on her kneels [/b]and every weekend she will write a list and bring to the husband asking for money. That alone trills me till today. Not many women will do that especially our girls today.

Another man was doing well until things changes and the woman rose to a higher position earning over 500k per month, that is when [b]she now wanted to be dictating how the home should be ran. Women, have this natural misbehaviour of wanting to rule a man that is why the bible will always tell them[b] to submit[/b] to their husbands

Every man should desire and  pray to play the roles of a man in the home always else life could be frustrating if a woman becomes the breadwinner.

Every woman should in turn pray to be like the virtous woman described in Proverbs 31 so that there would be no breaking of ranks in our homes.

I believe it's not a problem as long as the mind set of the guy is not like that displayed above. I would feel cheated in that by trying to be supportive i would be reduced to cuddling his ego.

Secretz:



However, I will not make him feel low or beneath me if I did, he is still the man of the house.

Honestly,u wont make him feel bad but he might always mis-interpret every of ur actions.your words carry some unseen weight and hidden meanings,every little mistake which normally shld be ignored wud get the roofs flying,ur kinds deeds/treats might mean pity,when u talk it might mean being loud,when u dont talk it might mean shes sulking cos i dont have a job,when u say no to sex it means ofcos shes sleeping with her boss to get the extra cash we need. . .i can go on and on.
@Topic,i pray and wish that such a day dont come in my marriage.

there's nothing so wron about it if you both understand each other but

the reason why most men are opposed to it is that [b]in some situation [/b]where this happens, the woman lets it get to her head & begins to disrespect & humiliate the man at every opportunity she gets. some even sound off about it to evryone who cares to listen thereby emasculating the man literally.

have seen situations where the woman becomes the the bread winner & you never know

ifyalways:

Honestly,u wont make him feel bad but he might always mis-interpret every of ur actions.your words carry some unseen weight and hidden meanings,every little mistake which normally shld be ignored wud get the roofs flying,ur kinds deeds/treats might mean pity,when u talk it might mean being loud,when u dont talk it might mean shes sulking cos i dont have a job,when u say no to sex it means ofcos shes sleeping with her boss to get the extra cash we need. . .i can go on and on.
@Topic,i pray and wish that such a day dont come in my marriage.

I see exactly what you mean, but if that was the case then he's got some serious issues.! Because, only a jobless wotless man can sit there mis interpreting things that way. lool

But hun, I feel you, that's why I said it often dents their pride and ego. Na their wahala be dat, as for me ohhhhh, I no fit starve because of pride, abeg! LOL

being the breadwinner is not the same thing as the head of the family. Moreover, respect plays big role. if both of you don't have respect for each other, then with or without man being the bread winner, your marriage is doomed!

Definitely a nightmare to every true woman

Nothing spoil, men are supposed to relax and enjoy women labour sometimes. Hey! This is scary seriously, the man fit dey wash floor, toilet, run little errands and even become the 'executive' houseboy.

Let anybody bread-win for the family!

As far as things are going as they should, who cares?

Let anybody bread-win for the family!

As far as things are going as they should, who cares?

How can things go as they should when you dey chop from madam sweat? She may be the type that will remind you after every meal of how unfortunate you are.

There's nothing wrong with a woman being the bread winner of the house, except men and our enormous ego's to be in control.

invisible!:

How can things go as they should when you dey chop from madam sweat? She may be the type that will remind you after every meal of how unfortunate you are.

Then I guess u made a sulky choice if your spouse said that to you!

You will never know the type of choice you made until sh*t happenz.

as long as he can pound the foo foo and do the housework, no problems
we fit manage

Pittbaby:

I am very prepared to be the bread winner of my home , if god forbid my husband loses his job , or if he decides to get a higher degree . I will support his dream, afterall will i not share in the bounty when it comes .

I will not be the bread winner because he prefers to be a couch potato , that one he and the couch will find themselves out in the cold . I believe Pastor Adeboye said it best when he stated - Men that their wives are feeding them need to reevaluate their lives .

It needs to be a partnership all the way , no parasites

she has said it all

It's not bad , its not a curse, its not a crime, it's not a taboo, but its not STANDARD!!!!

The natural and spiritual laws put the man in the position of the breadwinner, men are designed to provide for the family without looking back or complaining. Women are designed to be cared for to be spoilt and loved with the children.

Where , due to economic reasons the woman is the breadwinner, it means one will be using a front wheel drive for off road tracks and it calls for a lot of patience, understanding, self confidence on the part of the man, and spiritual help. Frustration may cause both parties to crack atimes but its important that they both learn to overcome the pain until the situation improves

A man should be able to take charge of his home if he is earning more or less, Shikena

Na rubbish ooooo

The woman go won turn God for the house! Talking from experience

. . . if a man cannot provide for his house, then the man is worse than an infidel
Now even if the wife earns more than the man, it is still the man's responsibility to provide for the house

Wen d woman becomes d breadwinna , Nobodi go hear word 4 house again,