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Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by edwife(f): 8:18am On Nov 10, 2015 |
MMotimo: Beautiful 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by theDEVILisHERE: 8:44am On Nov 10, 2015 |
tyconcepts: Being a Man in Nigeria Is many times more harder Women should stop complaining Cause if they're allowed to be a man in Nigeria for just a day Many will probably collapse |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by TV01(m): 1:32pm On Nov 10, 2015 |
Stillfire:Me fight against feminism ! The "gender-equality" stance of feminism, is no less controlling then the "Patriarchy" they claim to be fighting. Social morés were agreed and enforced by both men and women. And men were for the most part chivalrous and protective towards women. At best, "gender equality" - especially the way feminism articulates it - is a consideration, not the main driver of policy. Doing that presents odd notions such as over/under representation. This flags differences in strengths and choices as "issues", and demands false solutions (re-engineering) All feminists want is to ensure that a wierd kind of sameness prevails, but yet be the ones who dictate what is permissable. All that has done is create an atmosphere of confusion and bewilderment - for men and women. Privilege ! I laugh - with that comes great responsibility. Which is another way feminism gets it glaringly wrong. They seek what they perceive to be the power and privilege, but actively reject the burden and responsibility. I am, I would imagine, typical of many men. I work and sacrifice to provide for my wife and children. I carry a burden she does not want, but appreciate she does things I cannot do. A harmonious whole. Not both demanding to do the same things or half of everything Feminism will eat itself TV 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Mutaino7(m): 1:38pm On Nov 10, 2015 |
people who are yet to leave the comfort of their house find it easy to type rubbish... i study in india and what 9ja seems to be experiencing in rape case is little. there is a state in india where you go to minimum of 5years imprisonment if you rape a lady but dem go kill you instanta if you kill a cow.... the caste system in india is so terrible that poor can only marry poor and rich walk with the rich... the total number of homeless people in india is more than 9ja population yet dem no go internet go dey cast their male... i tire for some nairaland ladies... |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 7:18pm On Nov 10, 2015 |
Where did I stop? TV01: Naa gender equality is not seeking to impose itself on the other gender. That is you 'patriarchs' mode of operation . Gender equality recognizes our biological difference but that women’s and men’s rights, responsibilities and opportunities will not depend on whether they are born male or female. A man can now aspire to be a cook, a nurse, a hair dresser without being discriminated against. Also because you Patriarchs took the piss by bastardizing the powers you had, that is why Feminism is here to stay as a check and balance system before you people take us back to the days of boys study science, women study home economics. Not under my watch. 4 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by TV01(m): 11:32pm On Nov 10, 2015 |
Stillfire:Stilly, look, we both know Patriarchy is an accord between men and women. It's simply what women prefer and it's what works best . And if rights, responsibilities and opportunities are "gender neutral", choices will not be - and biology, sorry to say, drives a lot of choices. Patriarchy bastardised? Nah! That's akin to saying "marriage is abusive". It's not the institution, it's how it is implemented. And I agree some males, some societies abuse it somewhat. True Patriarchy is benign, protective, selfless - sacrificial even. But it leads, it is bold. Some men need to understand that better. But feminism is no the key to righting any wrongs with Patriarchy - it is in itself a wrong. Don't fight it, encourage it in it's purest sense . With our women in support, we'll get there ! Lots of women want to study and excel in home economics - allow jor! And last time I looked, the best cooks and hairdresser where all men ! TV |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 6:39am On Nov 11, 2015 |
crackhaus: I am Mindfulness. |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 6:48am On Nov 11, 2015 |
crackhaus: Never trying hard, doing everything and anything with ease, always have and always will. Life is good. I reside in the land of milk and honey, paradise. |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 11:23am On Nov 11, 2015 |
Stillfire: I. Know d argument is over buttttiiii... I no fit allow dis one fly The base of the argument was that those things were not worth making noise about... the fact that everybody suffers from one form of it, being one of the reasons... Black people's balls were used for hockey dammit We could not attend same school as whites We could not be elected into congress We were made to work in plantations... Dat is discrimination... Note that, we were actually forced not to do these things, we weren't just told they were wrong which would have made it no more than an opinion.. Now if people say you shouldn't own a house because you are single, do they go as far as beating you up if you do so? Does your mom use soldering iron on ur ar'se if u buy a car against her advice? Talking about some isolated opinions held by some isolated individuals is actually an indication of cluelessness, its one of the excuses underachievers give for their shortcomings... STOP IT... But I know you won't 7 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Ewuro4: 6:01pm On Nov 11, 2015 |
Mindfulness: Okay , will take your words for it. |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 6:13pm On Nov 11, 2015 |
njokusboy: During the middle of the 20th century we see a series of discrimination to different groups of people. For example Anti-Japanese paranoia increased because of a large Japanese presence on the West Coast as a result of World war II. President Roosevelt signed an executive order in February 1942 ordering the relocation of all Americans of Japanese ancestry to concentration camps in the interior of the United States. Now this is not dampening the experiences of black people but to highlight the basis of your argument that for the reason other groups suffer discrimination, then no group should make the effort of challenging the status-quo otherwise it will be described as 'victim-mentality'. Someone just highlighted the ra.pe incidences in India, on the basis 'Nigeria' having it better. How about telling blacks they have it better since their experiences being used as subjects for illegitimate medical research cannot be compared to the lengths Nazi Germany took to perform experiments on Polish prisoners of war in the name of medical research. Well I am glad black people did not have njokusboy mentality. Now if people say you shouldn't own a house because you are single, do they go as far as beating you up if you do so? Oga I have already given this advice to the girl that did not buy a car cos of her parents. I'm all for breeding strong, defiant girls where necessary. But will it stop us from discussing these issues? Absolutely not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hahahaha 2 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 6:50pm On Nov 11, 2015 |
[quote author=TV01 post=39892410] Hehehe...When marriage turn abusive, we have regulatory arms that deal with the offending party. You guessed right Feminism dealt with the offending party. So because Patriarchy took the piss and was going on a path of tyranny across culture, Feminism rose up and righted some of the wrongs. Patriarchy made the rules but made it one sided. Right now this is how it exists until we reach our utmost balance... Patriarchy is the executive arm, Feminism - legislative arm. We will co-exist to checking each other. But feminism is no the key to righting any wrongs with Patriarchy - it is in itself a wrong. Don't fight it, encourage it in it's purest sense . With our women in support, we'll get there ! Yeah they can excel in home economics, but this should not now be the definition of what womanhood stands for. In the past when these roles were assigned to the genders, our forefathers subsequently interpreted it as taboo for a gender to do the other role. And that is how some people are still operating in the 21st century. In Igbo land it was taboo for men to cook, due to gender equality we can boast of men cooking and no one raising eye-brows. You think it just came like that? Naa. So TV it is here to stay to protect, check patriarchy. Consider us your overseersssssss! 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 6:55pm On Nov 11, 2015 |
Stillfire: Lol, see dodging, I doubt my point flew over your head, I believe you are deliberately dancing around it... lemme put it in bold.
If you still don't get my point, then no hope be dat Oga I have already given this advice to the girl that did not buy a car cos of her parents. Continue wasting your time on baseless ventures.... as for me and my house, we'd take Nigeria to the promised land inspite of the many stereotypes.... 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 7:04pm On Nov 11, 2015 |
njokusboy: I did not dodge. I answered your questions perfectly well. I should get an award for that, hehehe. 4 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 10:46am On Nov 12, 2015 |
The way people are tackling this thread and relating it to, "women and whyning", one would think that it was a woman that wrote the original post. Instead of some people to tackle original posts, they will be searching for threads to vent their frustration and incite a gender war. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by TV01(m): 11:00am On Nov 12, 2015 |
Stillfire:This is to intentionally mis-read what feminism is and is about, or to demonstrate you simply don't know . Although termed Patriarchy, it was a consensus betwixt male and female. Feminism is not after a regulatory role, it wants to rule. Not oversee, but completely take over. It's not about righting - mostly imaginary - wrongs, it wants to reign. Feminism is by it's very nature intolerent and unbalanced - fascistic! What you describe - regardless of it's pros and cons - is not feminsim. In fact, it's a tacit agreement that Patriarchy is inherently good, but just requires checking occassionally - that is not anywhere like true feminism. Either you don't properly grasp it or are trying to sweeten the pill by spinning it - we ain't swallowing ! Decent enough effort though. Lets call it a day for now. Here's a peace offering ! TV
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Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by crackhaus: 10:29pm On Nov 12, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Na so... |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 3:42pm On Nov 13, 2015 |
TV01: I couldn't read what you wrote well. That picture was a tactic to distract me and you suceeded. Truce! |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by raumdeuter: 10:36pm On Nov 19, 2015 |
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