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Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by tyconcepts(f): 4:52pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
This piece should interest you coming from a man Some times, being a woman in Nigeria is quite a task. You are subjected to absurd societal norms, by men…. and other women. Many times, men, even those that ‘love and care about’ their women can’t see these absurdities as what they are. Onuora Ikechukwu Onianwa see these absurdities, and he has written a Facebook note about them. His note his getting plenty likes from women, and some men. Onuora Ikechukwu Onianwa’s note : I want to make a general, sweeping statement. I know it will sound unfair and rude, and I’m sorry. I truly mean no insult. It is just me expressing my view on a long list of issues. So, here we go… Sometimes I am grateful to God I am not a woman... * I can’t have an education or it will make me lord it over my man, and tempt me to be the head of the home. * I can’t have a job because I will become proud and un-submissive. * I can’t have a job that pays more than my husband’s because it is an insult to his manhood and he will be emasculated. One day I will even use it to rubbish him outside. * I can’t be single at 25, and unmarried at 30, or without a single child at 35. It means I am cursed, have a spirit husband or have a bad character and no man wants to be with me. * Any achievement of mine is a waste and useless if I have no boyfriend or husband, and it will only make me more arrogant and unattractive to men. * Heaven forbid I own a car or a house for the same aforementioned reasons. The only place I can live till I marry, is my parent’s home. * Only loose women stay in hotels. If my job requires I travel, I must stay with older people, friends or an elderly couple who can talk to me about this my job that won’t allow me settle in one place and marry. * Expensive things are not allowed. I can’t marry quick with them. * I can’t speak about anything under the sun without a ring on my finger and babies who have suckled my breasts. * If my boyfriend/husband cheats on me, I must endure it and manage. All men are the same. There are no good ones around any more. * Whatever my husband says (even common pangolo boyfriend that doesn’t know his left from right) I must agree. The moment we got together, I lost my sense of reasoning and purpose in life. his word, even if foolish, is law and I must die to please him and obey. * How dare I expect my husband to hire a maid or ask anyone asides me to clean? What did he marry me for? * My husband, cook and clean? Am I mad? Is that not witchcraft? * Why should he take care of the kids while I sleep, travel or go out? Is he my mate or my servant? Am I a fool? * Oh, so I don’t know I must cook fresh soup everyday? I must be an idiot. * So, I don’t know I must wear make-up , heels and sexy dresses or be naked all day? Do I want him to go out and cheat? * The home falls apart because I’m a useless and stupid woman. * The marriage ends because I am a useless and stupid woman. * My husband cheats on me and beats me because I am a useless and stupid woman. * The children grow up horrible because I am a useless and stupid woman. * I am a useless and stupid woman…because I am a useless and stupid woman. Its bad enough men think this way. To see women do it too, and fight men like me who have been carrying women’s rights on our head like we are the next Malcolm X, Luther or Madiba, is shocking and sad. Maybe one day things will get better. I pray it does, because anyone who says the aforementioned trash to my baby girl(s) will hear from me, and they won’t forget me in a hurry. Sometimes I am grateful to God I am not a woman. I might have killed someone by now… PS : Coming from a man, this shocked me walahi lalasticlala, ishilove.....Please let's hear what the general public thinks. 39 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by raayah(f): 4:56pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
Of course, Its hard being a woman in Nigeria. Heck its hard being a female on nairaland. But we dare not complain. Shout out the progressive men in Nigeria who treat women with respect! 30 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by ernesty20(m): 4:57pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
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Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by redcliff: 4:57pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
Fp material.. lmao |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by tyconcepts(f): 5:01pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
Like damn.....The post took my mind back to 2013 when I had the opportunity and cash to buy a car (was working and earning something reasonable)....If you hear and see the way my mum kicked against it vehemently as though I was planning on buying poison ehennnn. 14 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Aitee1: 5:01pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
Na so oh...we don suffer, but God pass dem sha 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by raayah(f): 5:04pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
tyconcepts: You can imagine. Hope you got that car? I think men like women to be dependent on them but yet somehow complain about dependency at the same time. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by thorpido(m): 5:05pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
Indeed it's hard. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 5:07pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
It isn't easy at all * If a couple doesn't have kids after 1yr, it has to be the woman. The witch has aborted all her babies or has a spirit husband. By God's grace, the only place I see such st*pid and medieval men in quantum is on NL. I ain't surrounded by them in reality... My husband, father, brother and male friends are very-very different. There are days I hang my leg up like a barbie(that I am), while my Cuddle-boo does the work. ... he's a sweeeeet husband. No be juju at all, it's love and understanding. #BlessHeavens. 33 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by babygirlfl: 5:08pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
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Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by lilmax(m): 5:09pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
This proves Most Nigerian women are weak and ballless, always playing the victim card Just imagine, you have your own money to buy whatever you want to Just imagine this nonsense "* Heaven forbid I own a car or a house for the same aforementioned reasons. The only place I can live till I marry, is my parent’s home.".......this proves my point,instead of getting what they want,they are here zombieing to the society 6 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by tyconcepts(f): 5:09pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
raayah: My dear I didn't buy it....No one is allowed to have HBP on my account and momsi rather borrow me hers They complain money makes women proud yet complain when a woman is dependent on them. #Stuck between the devil and the deep blue sea noni 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by tyconcepts(f): 5:12pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
lilmax: My dear....The post tells more about the Nigerian man's reasoning not a victim's plea as you think...Guess u are shocked it came from one of your specie who dare to be realistic. #Re-read. 33 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by tyconcepts(f): 5:15pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
Kachisbarbie: Nail on the head. The "single & frustrated" is so on point....I was guilt of that with my one-time boss....((((Covers face in shame)))) 1 Like |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by thorpido(m): 5:15pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
tyconcepts:Yes money makes many women proud.Can a woman have money,be independent and yet humble? 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by tyconcepts(f): 5:20pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
thorpido: Exactly what do men want?? I can agree with your point to an extent but generalizing it is outrightly crazy and mind you "money + pride" cuts across both gender not just women. 14 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by lilmax(m): 5:23pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
tyconcepts:I'm not shocked, this has been going on and on since the beginning of time..... Its left for you guys to do what you want and not saying being a nigerian woman is hard 1 Like |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by thorpido(m): 5:33pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
tyconcepts:I said many women so it wasn't generalizing.Of course pride cuts across both sexes so it's not just about women but we're talking about women here. A matured man is not intimidated by an independent woman and a matured, independent woman knows she is not in competition with the man and does not flaunt it. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by frankcris(m): 5:35pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
thorpido: you're right bro |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by PresVA: 6:00pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
It used to be prevalent in the olden days, things are a lot better now... There are really good men out there now, I can testify. .. |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by PresVA: 6:02pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
lilmax:Sorry sir, you have made no point! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by PresVA: 6:06pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
tyconcepts:Men want respect and the feeling that yeah, they're in charge! Which to me is totally ok, as they're supposed to be the head of the home(more like a team leader)... What I don't support is rubbing your headship on your wife who you're supposed to be working together with! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 6:11pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
tyconcepts: Did you go ahead to buy it? |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by tyconcepts(f): 6:21pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
Stillfire:Nah...Momsi rather I borrow hers than own mine for the 6th started reasons. |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by raumdeuter: 6:22pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
Try being a woman in Saudi Arabia 3 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by lilmax(m): 6:23pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
PresVA:ask if you don't understand |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 6:23pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
lilmax: Women are socialized to be modest and then add the African idea of 'respect to elders', you have a generation of weaklings. It has to take an understanding of self, a personal self-reflection to go against societal norms. Most will never reach that point. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by funlord(m): 6:31pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
This article should have had the heading; "being a LOCAL nigerian woman is hard! Most of the women "I" know don't subscribe to this b.s! 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 6:33pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
tyconcepts: I always reiterate that Nigerian parents would baby you till they die. This 'protection' worsens as a female child. You will need to teach them one or two or many lessons before they get the memo that you are an adult. I actually agree to the ballessness a poster ascribed to. How do you address these issues when they come up? Do you just give up or put your foot down? Most of these things would be dealt with if Nigerian females begin to be assertive in their life decisions. But be prepared for the consequences and take full responsibility for your actions. 5 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 6:43pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
funlord: Lmao, local. Welcome to Nairaland. You will realize you've been living in a parallel universe all your life and majority of Nigerians are indeed LOCAL. https://www.nairaland.com/1406504/it-proper-single-lady-live https://www.nairaland.com/2144641/should-unmarried-working-class-lady https://www.nairaland.com/1906833/which-better-single-lady-getting https://www.nairaland.com/2652299/ladies-owning-car-scare-away 7 Likes |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Nobody: 6:46pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
not applicable to me. Made my own rules, lived by it and still living by it. Lodged in different 5stars hotels across the country and obodo oyigbo. All alone and sometimes with bobos did my own share of clubbing and going to church the next day if i die today, no shaking. I did well. Coming back next world, i come back as me. Full option. make una dey dia dey grind teeth. This one world that has been existing for billion of yrs, you end up in this generation. You dey here dey grind teeth dey shout society. The hell fire and heaven is in this world make your choice and live by it. 16 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Being A Woman In Nigeria Is Hard Says A Nigerian Man On Facebook by Stillfire: 6:55pm On Nov 05, 2015 |
Chillisauce: Lol, as of the 1900s Igbo women were demanding that the British promote and give them positions as they did the men. In 2015 Nigerian women cannot fight for their rights and be assertive in their life choices. I'm sure our foremothers would be turning in their graves. 8 Likes 1 Share |
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