While it's true that a sexually deficient marriage opens the door to infidelity and other dangerous consequences, there are deeper issues that must be dealt with before sexual intimacy can be truly fulfilling. If a husband feels disrespected by his wife or a wife does not feel valued by her husband, sexual intimacy will just be an act to "fulfil all righteousness". There would be no passion and definitely no connection; it will be likened to a chore. It's important to deal with those foxes of bitterness, pride, unforgiveness, offences and every other dividing force instead of focusing on just your physical intimacy with your spouse. Sex in marriage is important but it CANNOT hold a marriage together. If there are some things that both or either person may be dealing with, don't sweep them under the rug.

Give each other room to express issues and concerns. Discuss them and nip them in the bud so they don't remain a stumbling block to your overall fulfilment in marriage. There are many husbands and wives who are miserable, who don't feel loved, who are constantly fighting, who are more like strangers but they use sex to make up and then wonder why things are not getting better. It's been said before that sex is an outward expression of an inner connection. It is when that inner connection is there, that sexual intimacy becomes genuinely enjoyable and fulfilling. So, yes, sexual intimacy is vital; it is a major plus in marriage but it still doesn't have what it takes to solve deeper issues in any marriage!!
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