i don't know why but i just can't like my mother. it may seem strange to you but that's the fact. i came to leave with her when i was 10 (I'm 16 now) and since then there have always been problem! she never loses any opportunity to abuse me! yesterday we also had a very serious quarrel and we arrive to the extend of fighting each other. i have a very clear mark of her nails on my face and these are not the only. i don't think i can live with her for long, in fact once i finish my high school I'm going to another city to finish my studies cause even the feeling of her presence near me makes me sick. I've arrived to a point that everything about her irritates me, especially anytime she opens her mouth to speak. i don't know if i hate her or not but right now I'm thinking i shouldn't have been given birth by her.

you are not the only one that disipse your mum so much. Why dont you find a way to do the things she like and try to please her. Find out what she does not like in you that makes her scold you . Maybe it will her instead of leaving. She is still your mother anyway!

once i finish my high school I'm going to another city to finish my studies

That seems to me like a smart decision. it's your only way out.

Anyhow, she's still ur mother, good point snowsdream

You have to take it easy with her, ask her what you will be doing to impress her, you cant just leave her, ask first, but if u think its still the same... ...look for a good way to solve it. thats wat i think.

queen2:

You have to take it easy with her, ask her what you will be doing to impress her, you can't just leave her, ask first, but if u think its still the same... ...look for a good way to solve it. thats what i think.

Exactly my dear cos i dont advise you running aways Just face it.

the only reason why i'm still under the same roof as her is because i'm not financially sound if not i don't see anything that bound us together. we're just like strangers who came up to know each other that's all!

Gosh, is it that worst, wat do u mean by stranger, infact this is unbelievable

Aww, sorry mich, will respond better to this 2 morrow cos i gotta go now!!

there's nothing to be surprised of! the fact that she's your mother doesn't automatically means that you're going to have good relationship and know yourself like you were one: all is luck in this life. i envy my friends a lot whenever i hear them speak about how they look so much like best friends. what a pity i can't also have the benefit of such a relationship but i'm lucky i have a lot of friends who are always there to consol me anytime i'm in need and to whom i feel free to "expose" the deepest part of me.

It's either you are too wayward or she is too bossy or both! Please check with yourself very well and be honest about it. If you find out that you have been wayward, why don't you change for the better? If you find out that she is the one that has been too bossy, you can sit her down and talk to her. Tell her to please treat you as an individual - her daughter and not like some slave or stranger. If you are not bold enough to talk to her, you can drop her a very touching letter. Ask her to show you some love. If after this she still doesn't change, then you can ease yourself out of the house. At least you would know that you have tried. Hope this helps, I feel for you sweetie.

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Hi Michelin,
I feel for you. I think you should pray about it. Really, it might take a long time but if you pray and do your part by showing her love and tolerance, things will get better.
She is your mother.........keep your head up.

Same with my mom and my sisters and brothers...we all have left home for her and my great dad. Our last born will escape as soon as she is done with high school. I even flew to the united states just to avoid my moms in nigeria...every day spanking....Now I dont even call her from here as I used to and now she is crying for not seeing me. I will only do when I am sure she will treat me like a son and not like a di.ck. My dad is my favorite

michelin you don't hate your mom. you're just mad at her that's all.
do you have brothers or other siblings she favors more? tell them to talk to her.probably she'll listen to them.

probably the only thing i dislike about my mom is that she can be overly protective at times. i'm not saying it's bad, it's just annoying .

I'm back. Sawry to hear that Mich, but I think it could be a 2 way street.
You mum may also be hurting inside. I am a mother and I know the pain/ joy of Chilbirth, so I wouldn't want to believe so easily that a woman would hate the creature she carried in her womb for 9 months and nursed, although its not impossible.
As gbengaijot and I.B rightly said, seek her face when she's in a good mood, and try to be the bigger person. That may help. Try to talk to her and tell her how you feel, its not too late to enjoy a mutually rewarding mother- daughter relationship. If all efforts on your part fail, then go with the knowledge that you have tried, live with her until you can find you feet and then .....you will move on with you life. Maybe she will be the one to realize her actions and reach out to you.

Good words, fabian. I'm sure that michelin89 would appreciate more posts along that line - to help her understand her mother better and give her practical tips she can apply to the situation.

Hi michelin, take heart and make sure you take to the advice I.B and[b] fabian[/b] have given you. Most importantly, I beg you to go on your kneels and genuinely beg the almighty God for forgiveness, because you have once said in this forum that u don’t believe in the existence of God (if I am wrong kindly correct me). There is no way anything good will work well for any creature that says he/she doesn’t believe in the existence of the almighty God JEHOVAH. I am cock sure somebody created you and has been watching over you right from the time you were in your mother’s womb till dates.
For things to work out well between you and your mum and also for you to live a fulfill life and eternity you will first of all believe in God, accept His only son (Jesus) as your Lord and personal saviour and afterwards, pray (fervent prayers) and I can assure you that it will then be always well with you and your households (am I sounding like a Pastor? Please I am not, but I think that is the best advice I could give).

If someone doesn't believe in God and you want to advice the person, it is foolish to use the bible. You need to communicate with her on her level, by identifying common ground. This means starting from where you both agree. It is foolish to be using the bible to preach to someone who doesn't believe the bible. Or what do you think?

Seun:

If someone doesn't believe in God and you want to advice the person, it is foolish to use the bible. You need to communicate with her on her level, by identifying common ground. This means starting from where you both agree. It is foolish to be using the bible to preach to someone who doesn't believe the bible. Or what do you think?

Seun, I dont think I used any verse in the bible while giving my advice to michelin89

kenflavor:

Hi michelin, take heart and make sure you take to the advice I.B and[b] fabian[/b] have given you. Most importantly, I beg you to go on your kneels and genuinely beg the almighty God for forgiveness, because you have once said in this forum that u don’t believe in the existence of God (if I am wrong kindly correct me). There is no way anything good will work well for any creature that says he/she doesn’t believe in the existence of the almighty God JEHOVAH. I am cock sure somebody created you and has been watching over you right from the time you were in your mother’s womb till dates.
For things to work out well between you and your mum and also for you to live a fulfill life and eternity you will first of all believe in God, accept His only son (Jesus) as your Lord and personal saviour and afterwards, pray (fervent prayers) and I can assure you that it will then be always well with you and your households (am I sounding like a Pastor? Please I am not, but I think that is the best advice I could give).

kenflavor, i don't think your advice is what i need right now! anyway sha thanks

WHATEVER U DO SHE'S UR MOTHER
Girl itz really provocative if i were in ur shoes
i might do worse that u are doing but girl letz face reality
itz wrong she may be hostile towards u but dont mind
just be the good girl u can be do the right thing and give
at least a liitle attention not too much
then she'll see u are ok and she might change her behaviour
towards u
but girl if the situation remains the same just quietly leave the house
for her dont even tell her
but fighting her was really wrong.

michelin89:

kenflavor, i don't think your advice is what i need right now! anyway sha thanks

hey..that's mean! Even if you don't need it, you shouldn't have posted it.

goodguy:

hey..that's mean! Even if you don't need it, you shouldn't have posted it.

i also siad thank you which means i appreciated his effort to help me

Oracle:

but fighting her was really wrong.

i know but i couldn't stay there and let her riun my face with her nails. it was only self defence

hey
r not the only one.i have the same problem but its just that i havent fought with my mum because she loves me alo but i just never seem to be able to repay her back and i just dont know why.

Why on earth should you fight with the one that bore you anyway?

michelin89:

i know but i couldn't stay there and let her riun my face with her nails. it was only self defence

read then ask questions! what does that mean? should and sit quiet while she put marks all over my body? if this is what you mean with respect, then i highly disagree. she is my mother she gave me life but SHE HAS NO RIGHT to take it from me or ruin it.

NO NO
She didnt give U life she's just
the vessel,the medium through which u
came to being

But Seriously, she has no business hitting her no matter what! Mich is old enough for her mum to tell, pls don't do this, I didn't like it when you did this, cos, bla bla bla.
My mum has never hit me, but only God knows what I'd have done if if she ever did