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My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by Seye(m): 11:46am On Sep 01, 2005
If you have to pick between your mother and your wife, who would you choose? For me I think it's my wife.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by gbenga(m): 1:38pm On Sep 01, 2005
well, am getting married very very soon, but its very obvious that my wife comes FIRST NOW abi? grin
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by nike4luv(f): 1:47pm On Sep 01, 2005
if i was a man..my mother comes first
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by DEKING3(m): 2:05pm On Sep 01, 2005
We should all pray not to see a situation that would warrant that. For me, I really love my mama and my wife too, so frankly speaking, I would find that difficult to do.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by Seun(m): 4:05pm On Sep 01, 2005
If my wife is not a pain, then she'll definitely comes first. My mother has a husband to take care of her, and other children apart from me to rely on. So I'll just stick to my wife and leave it to my dad to stick to his wife.

I know that I am not first in my mum's life - her husband, her God, and often her other children come before me - so why should she be first in my life. That is why a man "leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife". Even the bible agrees with me this time!

What I'll do is that I'll make sure that the woman I marry is worth it!

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Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by vexxy(f): 4:11pm On Sep 01, 2005
. . . .for this cause shall a man leave his mother and father

Wife comes first. Always.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by MrBones1(m): 4:23pm On Sep 01, 2005
What I'll do is that I'll make sure that the woman I marry is worth it!

Seun - Chronic bachelor

Gbenga - Thank God you are marrying soon. When? keep us posted. The crowd in Nairaland is enough to overwhelm you. Just don't fix your date for 24th Sept. 2005. Why?. I'm attending another Gbenga's wedding. Who know whether na you sef.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by abuguy64(m): 5:08pm On Sep 01, 2005
Seun and Vexxy have said it!Quoting from the Bible:"For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife and the two shall become one"
One should pray that his wife and mother can accept and tolerate each other.They should,since they both love the same person.But if they are too jealous and possessive,sorry oh!I will make my mother comfortable,but keep my wife closest to me.Ah..A mother cannot do for me what a wife can do,but , my wife can certainly mother me! grin. The thing is not to abandon or ignore either person.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by nike4luv(f): 5:12pm On Sep 01, 2005
iya ni wura iyebiye
ti a kole fowo ra
oloyun mi fosu mesan
opn me fodun meta

u hav known ur mother all your life, and your wife when u older

have u watch the movie "iya lalabaro"
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by gbenga(m): 5:20pm On Sep 01, 2005
Nike, i understand ur view, but let me ask you or say what happens if ure married and you asked ur man this question "who he loves most, his mother or you, " who do u think he would choose........
You know the answer. YES I KNOW U KNOW!!!! grin
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by gbenga(m): 5:24pm On Sep 01, 2005
Mr Bones, what! is that your real name................
Anyway, Na d Gbenga wey u know sha, ha abeg Nairaland!Anyway you are all Invited 24th September 2005, its happening live.
Oh the address, ask my P.A. see you there.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by nike4luv(f): 5:26pm On Sep 01, 2005
i cant really argue wit my hubby if he says he luvs his mother most cos i know if i was a man i would do de same thing
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by vexxy(f): 6:14pm On Sep 01, 2005
If my husband told me that he loved his mother more than I would ask why he married me.

"your mother cannot do what your wife can do but your wife can mother you." Brilliantly stated.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by IAH(f): 6:31pm On Sep 01, 2005
My husband or my father? My husband, of course.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by timmy(m): 7:56pm On Sep 01, 2005
ask your father about his choice, i bet he choosed his wife(your mother) over his mother.. so choose your son's mother too (your wife)
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by hotangel2(f): 5:21am On Sep 02, 2005
My husband or my father? Sorry honey, sugar, love, boo, sweetie-pie, or whatever i call you. But my father comes first.

Do y'all realise it's Gbenga's wedding that Mr. Bones is going too? cheesy
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by MrBones1(m): 10:34am On Sep 02, 2005
Come to think of it. Do you all know that when the time is rough, some wives will run away leaving their husbands to the mercies of their mothers. For someone who has experienced this, he will prefer his mother to his wife. But let's look at it from another angle, It's impossible for your mother to give you children.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by legs(f): 8:16pm On Sep 02, 2005
excuse me, but i believe you have different responsibilities to both of them, so how can you determine who comes first?
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by vexxy(f): 12:24am On Sep 03, 2005
Easy: You are married to your wife so she comes first.

You have just promised to love and cherish her, to stand by her through sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, till death do you part. That's a big covenant to make.

Divine Order:

God
Spouse
Family
Church
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by WesleyanA(f): 7:19am On Sep 05, 2005
wives should come first.. then mothers.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by layi(m): 12:11pm On Sep 05, 2005
@Wes
Ur husband or father, who would u choose?

I'ld not choose. Lai Lai. I'll rather die than choose between my Wife and my Mother. I love my mother to bits. I love my wife too.
They both have different seats to occupy in my Life. They can't jostle for 1 seat. I love them both.

Its 'unchoosable'
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by WesleyanA(f): 6:34pm On Sep 05, 2005
before you got married, your mom took that spot, now that your married, it should be your wife's turn. your mom shouldn't be far behind her though. if you die, then your wife will suffer the most because your mother's going to die soon anyways and that leaves your wife to mourn over you till she dies and take care of whatever kids you left behind.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by Latoya(f): 4:29am On Sep 06, 2005
Hey, i think the wife comes first,cos its written in the Bible that a man will leave his father and mother,then binds to his wife and they shall become one.so y go against the rule.
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by great22(f): 2:57pm On Sep 06, 2005
I am so impressed that i ve decided to send your individual contributions to your mothers email addresses hahah tongue

Dont ask me but i think all the man in the house are born agains... Me I would definately choose my father over my husband...hahah no way oh, never.. My father of blessed memory passed on because his wife passed on a few years earlier so he chose her even in death.. My husband takes the next place in life after my Lord.

You guys desrve a standing ovation.

If son in future choose me over his spouse, i would NOT accept that. Meanwhile what's the price in choosing one person over the other grin
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by cushman(m): 6:07pm On Sep 06, 2005
My mum
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by Bibi(m): 6:32pm On Sep 06, 2005
Looks like the guys are still crying mum (maybe they need some milk) while the ladies are saying - wife grin

I think when you are married, your wife comes first to your mother. Remember even in the vow ".......forsake all others...".

Also, when you are married, your mum or father do not have responsibility in your home, it is simply you and your wife and your parent are only involved when you invite them, period. Anything otherwise, your marriage is on a slide. Remember your mum belongs to your father, she comes first for your father, not you. You are just a bye product of their snuggling grin

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Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by vexxy(f): 6:40pm On Sep 06, 2005
"You are just a bye product of their snuggling"

I like that, Bibi, alot.

It also makes me wonder how these men will make out when/if (God forbid) something happens between the mom and the wife and the husband runs to mommy's side.

Talk about feeling betrayed!
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by MrBones1(m): 7:01pm On Sep 06, 2005
A friend once told me, going into marriage with a woman is like signing your death warrant. Some even called wives necessary evil.

But I am not confused, I will still go for the necessary evil in place of my mother irrespective of whoever is forwarding this text to her. Lagbaja even said it that his wife may be dirty or unclean but there's something she's good at. that which she's good at is enough to make him settle for her. Don't ask me what she's good at. Ask lagbaja. Ladies in the house! What are you good at?
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by Jio(m): 10:30pm On Sep 06, 2005
Choosing between your mother and your wife [or babe(s) for singles like us]  shouldn't arise at all...............If there's any monster-in-law scenerio, learn to draw the line...............both parties have different and non-conflicting roles in your life....................what you have for your mom is an undying and never ending love ....................and what you have with your wife is a contract that is renewed daily and can be terminated anytime.....................

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Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by hillkam(f): 1:59pm On Nov 01, 2005
angryYou got to be sure about the choice.The fact that you think you would choose your wife shows some reluctacy in that. And waht business would bring you to the point of choosing?
Your mum left her mum to join your father and so did your wife.So, your mum belongs to your dad and your wife belongs to you.when you left your mum,she automatically came second by all means.
Quit think and choose you wife.Mum is dad as wife is yours.It happens when you leave and cleave to the new status of married.hehehe
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by twinstaiye(m): 2:24pm On Nov 01, 2005
My wife of course, because the day I married her, she had become my mother, not with all those trust of entrusting my life in her hands. I beg, na my wife biko!
Re: My Mother, My Wife: Who Comes First? by helen123(f): 2:22pm On Dec 06, 2005
my wife of course there shouldnt even be any contest. its selfish
yr mother has her husband why shld she share u with yr wife tufiakwa

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