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The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 1:21pm On Mar 13, 2016
Has not the ONE GOD made you? You belong to HIM in body and spirit. And what does the ONE GOD seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard and not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.
(Mal 2:15)


No doubt, it takes two adults to produce a poorly trained child. Some children were born out of wedlock, others were born as a result of the fruit of matrimony but became victims of poorly managed spousal conflicts which disintegrated into divorce or separation.

The man is in charge of his home. He is a powerful king. A priest even in his utterances and declarations. He was anointed thus. His power is divine; irrevocably inherent. His words spoken over his family echoes far into the celestial realms where spirits attend to them.

Rebekah, with all her trickery and intelligence knew she has no powers to bless Jacob, her favourite son. Such powers belonged to Issac, her husband. Men, we are that powerful!

But there is no power without responsibility. There is no authority without accountability. If there is a crack in the wall of matrimony, chances are more likely that the man slipped up somewhere than the woman being the culprit. This is not to say man is always to blame for every marital problem, but men are more equipped and responsible to manage his household. Below is a quote from Brad Pitt :

"And I realised one thing; the woman is a reflection of her man"

He made this quote after his steadfast love, care and attention revived his wife, Mrs Pitt, form severe health and psychological crisis of which she had lost all hope. But she bounced back to recovery with so much radiance. But she was only a reflection of all the rays of love and devotion her husband directed towards her when she was helpless and vulnerable.

Consider this:

"I have singled him out so that he will direct his sons and their families to keep the way of the LORD by doing what is right and just." (Gen 18:19a)

There was good Sarah, but Abraham was given the responsibility of which he was to pass to his sons who were likewise entrusted with the responsibility of instructing their own households. GOD expected Abraham to teach Sarah and his sons to teach their own wives. As men, we are in charge.

A broken home is more prone to send forth poorly trained children of vices into the larger society. Children who are ill-equipped to respect and handle societal responsibilities, expectations and decorum.

About a staggering number of armed robbers are from broken homes or a product of single parenthood. And there is good statistics to support the claim that children from broken homes are more prone to engage in early sex, drugs, anger, frustration and join criminal gangs. The society gets to carry the burden of a couple's matrimonial irresponsibility or sexual rascality; these children are out there constituting security risks to everyone.

Unfortunately, the consequences of polygamy is similar to broken homes (I know most men wouldn't want to hear this). But my opinion on polygamy is simple: polygamy is simply more about satisfying an uncivilised sexual cravings than anything else. It is more of lust than any other thing. (Now I've earned your wrath grin)

It is the single biggest source of intra-family feuds. It brings emotional neglect both to children and their mothers. And jealousy, which is like a raging inferno is the outcome. A woman who feels emotionally disenfranchised by her husband is vulnerable to many dangers and temptations, and she's capable of anything.
A polygamous home is a divided home in pretence and a polygamist is more likely to watch his family disintegrate while he is yet alive.

The outcome of all this is a society full of adults who knew little or no love as children growing up. And they are less capable of giving what they have always lacked. It becomes a society with little or no empathy, of rampant wickedness.

If men rise up and take their place with mental, physical and emotionally integrity, every other thing, including women will fall into place. We're that powerful!

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered"
(1 Peter 3:7)

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by misspicy(f): 1:55pm On Mar 13, 2016
postmann:

There are exceptions no doubt, hence I employed the use of the superlative adjective "more" indicating that there are lesser other factors.
"But my opinion on polygamy is simple: polygamy is simply more about satisfying an uncivilised sexual cravings than anything else. It is more of lust than any other thing."

I'd rather not type lengthy words anymore,you have successfully put my thoughts in words.

Then and again, polygamous men and their wives should be held responsible for whatever way the children tends to turn out,bear in mind that not all villian,not even a vast majority are from broken homes, some children/adults are influenced by the environment as a whole

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 2:06pm On Mar 13, 2016
misspicy:
tongue

There ain't no woman who hangs around the randy lezz, who'll have nothing to say, other than poking a sticky tongue. His women are naturally brainy. You aren't different, are you?
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by Nobody: 2:09pm On Mar 13, 2016
Hmmm nice one @postmannn, but sometimes a married man that decided to get married to another woman does not necessarily means he is after his ever flowing, non stop sexual desires. Sometimes the fault is from the wife, no man will make do with a wife that constitute a Jezeberial character. Anyways you are on point from head to toe, man is in command, our saviour JESUS did not select a woman amongs his apostles for a certain reasons, that is enough open fact to tutor us that men indeed were created with responsibilies. SO was adam when GOD created him, he gave him authority over everyliving creature in the garden but GOD only created a woman to help and feel the lonliness of Adam.

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by lezz(m): 2:10pm On Mar 13, 2016
Life isn't a straight forward and regimental as you put it.

Polygamy hasn't done evil to our society, change of values and parental neglect are chiefly the factor.


The past generations were sired from polygamous settings and had more morality and sound values than we do today.

The new media today has changed our collective values as a people.


When I was a kid going to school, my notebook cover had the pictures of academicians, famous inventors and university buildings.

Today's kids have drogba, Messi, Ronaldo and celebrities all over their booknote.

Everyone wants to be an instant celebrity and the rave of the moment.


The girls all want to be instant celebs to be seen in TV in glamour and style.


The boys want to be instant celebs to fück all the girls they fancy!!!

Check out TV programmes ----- the local ones, it's all choking with gulder ultimate search, Nollywood talent hunt show and other like programmes that promise instant fame without values.


Every era has its distinctive feature,

We are of the era of money, püssy, and the crave for fame.

That's where our demonds hide .
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by misspicy(f): 2:10pm On Mar 13, 2016
postmann:


There ain't no woman who hangs around the randy lezz, who'll have nothing to say, than a poking sticky tongue. His women are naturally brainy. You aren't different, are you?

only securing a space to type my lengthy replycheesy


am not a Lezz woman BTW,he is too randy for my spec tongue
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by deeptesting(m): 2:10pm On Mar 13, 2016
OP do yourself some good...I am tired of reading some nonsensical post filled with generalization... What statistics do you have to show that all armed robbers,street urchins are from broken homes? We have a very big problem in this part of the world... No doubt it is expected for children to grow up in homes with both parents but i beg to differ with you that every child that from a broken home turns out to be a nonentity.

The delinquent children from broken homes are reflections of their irresponsible parents.DON`T GENERALIZE This is also applicable to irresponsible parents who lives together and cannot adequately bring up their children. Not all marriages are sustainable,in most cases it is advisable to divorce and move on with your life..However,many divorced parents fail especially the men as they also divorce the children with their Mom. If both parents should live up to their responsibilities, put their differences aside and tender to the needs of the children (Moral,educational,spiritual,etc) after the divorce the children will surely grow up to be responsible adults irrespective of the home be it broken or intact.

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 2:16pm On Mar 13, 2016
misspicy:

only securing a space to type my lengthy replycheesy


am not a Lezz woman BTW,he is too randy for my spec tongue

Since you have him in full quote, I'll leave the reply to him.

Lengthy reply? Ok.
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 2:32pm On Mar 13, 2016
deeptesting:
OP do yourself some good...I am tired of reading some nonsensical post filled with generalization... What statistics do you have to show that all armed robbers,street urchins are from broken homes? We have a very big problem in this part of the world... No doubt it is expected for children to grow up in homes with both parents but i beg to differ with you that every child that from a broken home turns out to be a nonentity.

The delinquent children from broken homes are reflections of their irresponsible parents.DON`T GENERALIZE This is also applicable to irresponsible parents who lives together and cannot adequately bring up their children. Not all marriages are sustainable,in most cases it is advisable to divorce and move on with your life..However,many divorced parents fail especially the men as they also divorce the children with their Mom. If both parents should live up to their responsibilities, put their differences aside and tender to the needs of the children (Moral,educational,spiritual,etc) after the divorce the children will surely grow up to be responsible adults irrespective of the home be it broken or intact.


People like you constitute the biggest test to civil debate! You're easily repugnant.

postmann:

About a staggering number of armed robbers are from broken homes or a product of single parenthood. And there is good statistics to support the claim that children from broken homes are more prone to engage in early sex, drugs, anger, frustration and join criminal gangs.
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How does the above submission translates to mean "all" to you?

I'll not dignify any further quote from you with any further response.

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by lezz(m): 2:34pm On Mar 13, 2016
misspicy:

only securing a space to type my lengthy replycheesy


am not a L.ezz woman BTW,he is too randy for my spec tongue
We haven't even started, yet you have broken my heart already! grin grin grin

Who knows if you're the angel to send my demons away to leave me in peace!!!

You like me already, I see it in the shadows of the letters you type.

Mayhappen , I haven't found she with whom I'll journey life through.

Let me drink a little of your wine of spice and just perhaps I may need to drink no more.
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by lezz(m): 2:35pm On Mar 13, 2016
deeptesting:
OP do yourself some good...I am tired of reading some nonsensical post filled with generalization... What statistics do you have to show that all armed robbers,street urchins are from broken homes? We have a very big problem in this part of the world... No doubt it is expected for children to grow up in homes with both parents but i beg to differ with you that every child that from a broken home turns out to be a nonentity.

The delinquent children from broken homes are reflections of their irresponsible parents.DON`T GENERALIZE This is also applicable to irresponsible parents who lives together and cannot adequately bring up their children. Not all marriages are sustainable,in most cases it is advisable to divorce and move on with your life..However,many divorced parents fail especially the men as they also divorce the children with their Mom. If both parents should live up to their responsibilities, put their differences aside and tender to the needs of the children (Moral,educational,spiritual,etc) after the divorce the children will surely grow up to be responsible adults irrespective of the home be it broken or intact.
OP said a vast majority of armed robbers......he didn't generalise.

Go read again.

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by deeptesting(m): 2:39pm On Mar 13, 2016
postmann:



People like you constitute the biggest test to civil debate! You're easily repugnant.



How does the above submission translates to mean "all" to you?

I'll not dignify any further quote from you with any further response.

Please provide your statistics that a "staggering number or vast majority". It is simply a widely held belief,we should let children from these homes to rest, it was never their fault...Every Tom & Dick wants to make reference to them as evil doers.
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 2:45pm On Mar 13, 2016
LORDSAMURAI:
Hmmm nice one @postmannn, but sometimes a married man that decided to get married to another woman does not necessarily means he is after his ever flowing, non stop sexual desires. Sometimes the fault is from the wife, no man will make do with a wife that constitute a Jezeberial character. Anyways you are on point from head to toe, man is in command, our saviour JESUS did not select a woman amongs his apostles for a certain reasons, that is enough open fact to tutor us that men indeed were created with responsibilies. SO was adam when GOD created him, he gave him authority over everyliving creature in the garden but GOD only created a woman to help and feel the lonliness of Adam.

There are exceptions no doubt, hence I employed the use of the superlative adjective "more" indicating that there are lesser other factors.

"But my opinion on polygamy is simple: polygamy is simply more about satisfying an uncivilised sexual cravings than anything else. It is more of lust than any other thing."
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 2:46pm On Mar 13, 2016
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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by misspicy(f): 3:25pm On Mar 13, 2016
lezz:
We haven't even started, yet you have broken my heart already! grin grin grin

Who knows if you're the angel to send my demons away to leave me in peace!!!

You like me already, I see it in the shadows of the letters you type.

Mayhappen , I haven't found she with whom I'll journey life through.

Let me drink a little of your wine of spice and just perhaps I may need to drink no more.
shockedshockedshocked
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by lezz(m): 3:33pm On Mar 13, 2016
misspicy:

shockedshockedshocked
Are you going to stand there dumbstruck and roll your eyes or you're going to break down your walls and let me scale through?

My head has drawn so many pictures of you.

But my heart says I needn't worry!

It's a shame if you wouldn't know what the stars say of us!!!
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 4:41pm On Mar 13, 2016
lezz:
Life isn't a straight forward and regimental as you put it.

Polygamy hasn't done evil to our society, change of values and parental neglect are chiefly the factor.


The past generations were sired from polygamous settings and had more morality and sound values than we do today.

The new media today has changed our collective values as a people.


When I was a kid going to school, my notebook cover had the pictures of academicians, famous inventors and university buildings.

Today's kids have drogba, Messi, Ronaldo and celebrities all over their booknote.

Everyone wants to be an instant celebrity and the rave of the moment.


The girls all want to be instant celebs to be seen in TV in glamour and style.


The boys want to be instant celebs to fück all the girls they fancy!!!

Check out TV programmes ----- the local ones, it's all choking with gulder ultimate search, Nollywood talent hunt show and other like programmes that promise instant fame without values.


Every era has its distinctive feature,

We are of the era of money, püssy, and the crave for fame.

That's where our demonds hide .


I knew your randy tendencies would cast your support in favour of polygamy. Polygamy hasn't done evil in our society you say? That's like saying adultery hasn't done any evil to the society. Right from its earliest form, polygamy has affected the family in some negative ways.

As for societal change of value:

There are various factors that are responsible. For me, the chief of factors is Westernization. Indirectly or directly, Westernization has corrupted behavioural conducts, societal values and expectations by promoting Lewdness, widespread, easily-assessed pornography, star-struck syndrome, sexually explicit contents even for adolescents, indecent public show of affection, the glorification of fornication, celeberation of celebrity-whores as role models, etc. These are some of the products of Westernization and it has impacted the marriage institution negatively.
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by Fanirandele: 5:22pm On Mar 13, 2016
postmann:



People like you constitute the biggest test to civil debate! You're easily repugnant.



How does the above submission translates to mean "all" to you?

I'll not dignify any further quote from you with any further response.

Actually he is right, that is a generalisation that you don't have statistics to back up. What evidence do you have that the vast majority of those committing those crimes are from "broken homes". Who did the study and where? What parameters where used? This is nothing but a stereotype, it's like white people saying a vast percentage of blacks are lazy and other generalisations. Many parents are negligent to the children right under their nose of both parents, a single parent may be more perceptive sef. Most of the evil leaders we have in this country are not from broken homes. In fact it it's the ones from homes with 2 parents that have largely destroyed this Country.

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 5:50pm On Mar 13, 2016
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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 5:50pm On Mar 13, 2016
Fanirandele:


Actually he is right, that is a generalisation that you don't have statistics to back up. What evidence do you have that the[b] vast majority[/b] of those committing those crimes are from "broken homes". Who did the study and where? What parameters where used? This is nothing but a stereotype, it's like white people saying a vast percentage of blacks are lazy and other generalisations. Many parents are negligent to the children right under their nose of both parents, a single parent may be more perceptive sef. Most of the evil leaders we have in this country are not from broken homes. In fact it it's the ones from homes with 2 parents that have largely destroyed this Country.

Did you read my post and saw vast majority? Does staggering number mean vast majority where you obtained your education?

I know you, and I know your intention. I would have loved to tell you that various samples of data were collected from random police stations to back up this claim, but like I said, I know you. You're not worth it. You came late to my previous thread with a stupid facade of maturity, I left you there with some questions you haven't yet answered and you're here in your coward move trying to have a payback.
And nigeria has been ruled by various leaders with polygamous background. you unwittingly lend credence to my post.
Your personality stinks!!!
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 9:00pm On Mar 13, 2016
misspicy:


I'd rather not type lengthy words anymore,you have successfully put my thoughts in words.

Then and again, polygamous men and their wives should be held responsible for whatever way the children tends to turn out,bear in mind that not all villian,not even a vast majority are from broken homes, some children/adults are influenced by the environment as a whole

well said. But the post didnt say that children from broken homes constitute the vast majority of criminals in the society. Staggering number was my choice of word. which means a significant number. it doesnt indicate majority or even vast majority as some lame dummies and cheap "likes" hunters asserted. Dont also forget that there are other factors like single parenthood, which also implies children who were born outside wedlock and never had a father. and polygamy.
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by lesbiangirl(f): 12:23pm On Mar 14, 2016

The man is in charge of his home. He is a powerful king. A priest even in his utterances and declarations. He was anointed thus. His power is divine; irrevocably inherent. His words spoken over his family echoes far into the celestial realms where spirits attend to them.

All this to describe the supposed power of a man in a marriage grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin i just can't with this guy hehehehehehehe!

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 3:56pm On Mar 14, 2016
lesbiangirl:


All this to describe the supposed power of a man in a marriage grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin i just can't with this guy hehehehehehehe!

I remember you alright. Your handle's putrid taste still lingers.

Aren't you going to sieve through my post, and counter my point why he isnt as powerful as i have claimed?
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by Akfakorede(m): 8:22pm On Mar 15, 2016
postmann:


There are exceptions no doubt, hence I employed the use of the superlative adjective "more" indicating that there are lesser other factors.

"But my opinion on polygamy is simple: polygamy is simply more about satisfying an uncivilised sexual cravings than anything else. It is more of lust than any other thing."


so what is the solution to uncivilised sexual cravings and lust.

i just want to know thanks.

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by postmann: 8:57pm On Mar 15, 2016
Akfakorede:


so what is the solution to uncivilised sexual cravings and lust.

i just want to know thanks.



There is a thread on lust that I've been on and it's at its concluding phase. But that'll be for the religious section.

To your question : I'm afraid man's discipline is not enough sometimes to contain lust. Some people go into adultery with the knowledge that it is wrong but they can't help themselves all the same.

It's more of spiritual soundness than physical determination. There's something in man that is bigger than man and more powerful than man. Each man has it. It manifest itself in different ways in different people. It is called weakness.

It can come in the form of anger, lust, insincerity, stealing, you name it. To each man his own weakness. And except you're spiritual, and sincerely and seriously so, your weakness will overcome you.

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by Ishilove: 5:56pm On May 10, 2016
Postmann, for one who isn't married you are vastly experienced in marital matters. Kudos
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by barcaboi(m): 12:42pm On Jul 12, 2016
deeptesting:
OP do yourself some good...I am tired of reading some nonsensical post filled with generalization... What statistics do you have to show that all armed robbers,street urchins are from broken homes? We have a very big problem in this part of the world... No doubt it is expected for children to grow up in homes with both parents but i beg to differ with you that every child that from a broken home turns out to be a nonentity.

The delinquent children from broken homes are reflections of their irresponsible parents.DON`T GENERALIZE This is also applicable to irresponsible parents who lives together and cannot adequately bring up their children. Not all marriages are sustainable,in most cases it is advisable to divorce and move on with your life..However,many divorced parents fail especially the men as they also divorce the children with their Mom. If both parents should live up to their responsibilities, put their differences aside and tender to the needs of the children (Moral,educational,spiritual,etc) after the divorce the children will surely grow up to be responsible adults irrespective of the home be it broken or intact.

I agree....I'm from a broken home and I tnk I turned out good....a proud farmer, a dog breeder, a smooth writer amongst others so I agree with you. .....btw left some messages for u on ur post on Cooper. ...hope you are stronger now.....abeg mail me make me gist....coopers puppy dey my hand

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by Nobody: 4:05pm On Jul 12, 2016
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by Nobody: 4:09pm On Jul 12, 2016
barcaboi:


I agree....I'm from a broken home and I tnk I turned out good....a proud farmer, a dog breeder, a smooth writer amongst others so I agree with you. .....btw left some messages for u on ur post on Cooper. ...hope you are stronger now.....abeg mail me make me gist....coopers puppy dey my hand


Good for you, bro. However, the exception does not make the rule. What percentage does your situation account for in the pool of children from broken homes. Also, bear in mind, the real test of your success is in how the family you create turns out.
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by barcaboi(m): 11:13pm On Jul 12, 2016
Timbuktou:



Good for you, bro. However, the exception does not make the rule. What percentage does your situation account for in the pool of children from broken homes. Also, bear in mind, the real test of your success is in how the family you create turns out.
u'd be surprised how many successful people come from broken homes....it shdnt be stereotyped....this is d real world and not nollywood or hear say....good number of people achieved lots even fron broken homes

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Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by babyfaceafrica: 7:17am On Jul 13, 2016
postmann:



People like you constitute the biggest test to civil debate! You're easily repugnant.



How does the above submission translates to mean "all" to you?

I'll not dignify any further quote from you with any further response.
oga what proof do you have that a sizable number of armed robbers ,brigands and bandits are from broken homes?
Re: The Cost Of A Broken Home by babyfaceafrica: 7:26am On Jul 13, 2016
Broken home or no broken home,a child who will succeed will,with sheer hardwork.discipline and Gods favour.Its lame to blame societal misfits on broken homes,some kids are just plain stubborn!!!!.....Polygamy is a no no for me personally due to religious reasons and I am a private person,but for those of you that valid reasons to get another wife,be careful about it,for every action begets a reaction...selah!!!

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