please i really need your help have been married for 3yrs without a job just recently my husband was transfered to Abuja n i just got a job paying me 100+. we r based in lag. pls should i take d job or go wrt my husband i have a boy 3yrs n a girl 11months. pls help move this to front page

Don't go immediately.Start the job but work towards moving eventually.Try and save money so you can have some capital when you eventually decide to move.
While your husband is there,both of you should work out regular visits.He coming to Lagos or you visiting.
You and your hubby should reach an agreement though but I think this is a better choice than moving immediately with him.

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Your first approach should have been sitting with your hubby to reach an agreement instead of coming to nairaland. Even if we all ask you to take the job and your husband thinks otherwise, trust me, it won't work.

Let me ask you; between your family and job, which is more valuable?

Mind you, with all the money in the world without a loving family to spend it, happiness will elude you. But with a good and supporting family, little or no cash won't matter much

Thanks for the contribution. my husband is indifferent although is complaining of d distance. my rent will b expiring by nxt month n we have seen a house in abj so my husband want us to move at once. but with my job i can renew d rent.

ehijes:
Thanks for the contribution. my husband is indifferent although is complaining of d distance. my rent will b expiring by nxt month n we have seen a house in abj so my husband want us to move at once. but with my job i can renew d rent.

your husband is indifferent but the bolded say otherwise?

This should be a decision between you and your husband. . So if Nairalanders tell you to stay in Lagos, you'll stay? ? Please talk with your husband and reach a compromise. ..

Job will always come, that's what I know... Except you'll starve if you don't take the present job

This country is hard my sister, appeal to your husband and take the JOB!

Love is sweet wen you both contribute to the family purse, not you depending totally on him for all your needs.

Both are important
So I dunno