Poverty, you will agree with me isn't a canopy anyone wishes to sit under. Yet, people daily embrace this menace by the choices they make.

Poverty like affluent is the product of the choices we make. For the record, I hate poverty and I equally don't like the stench of it on people. Despite our hatred for poverty, we still see people in our community being plagued by this disease... what then is/are the cause(s)?... choices.

Today, I will be sharing several thoughts on why some persons were poor, are poor or would become poor. For the purpose of title, I wish to tag this discussion #HowToBecomePoor... yea!! You heard me right... HowToBecomePoor

My prayer is that you will make choices that tend, only to riches in Jesus name (Amen).

Good afternoon and have a very blessed and rewarding week.

#1. Insincerity (1)

A dishonest man, is as unreliable and unsafe as standing on one feet. It doesn't matter how good a man is, at what he does, if he is dishonest, is just a matter of time before he goes out of 'fashion'.

What use is a competent man who can't be trusted? Or haven't you seen or met great specialists who are still broke?. When a man's words doesn't match with his actions over time, he breaks the chains of referrals.

When a man breaks the chain of integrity, he let loose the beast of poverty into his life. Nothing extinquishes the flame of referral as fast as insincerity.

To be continued... we are still discussing #HowToBecomePoor

#2. Insincerity (2)

Have you seen a dishonest rich man? Well, wait for him, for is just a matter of time before he become poor.
Have you seen a dishonest poor man? Surely, his status as a poor man wouldn't change.
Have you seen a man, planning to be dishonest? He will surely wear the crown of poverty.


"People with integrity walk safely,
but those who follow crooked paths will slip and fall." Proverb 10:9

The introduction of insincerity/dishonesty destroys the flow of exchange. Being good at what you do (competence) is great, but adding integrity to competence is super-cool.

Regardless of what our world tries to make us believe, you can't separate sincerity/honesty from affluence just as poverty is enthroned where dishonesty/insincerity rules.
#HowToBecomePoor

#3. Laziness

Rest, is one beautiful activity that bring about recovery from the stresses of previous work done. But, in a situation where rest become the work, laziness is enthroned and poverty rules with a very strong right arm.

"“A little extra sleep, A little more slumber, A little folding of the hands to rest” means that poverty will break in upon you suddenly like a robber and violently like a bandit"" Proverb 24:33-34

People simply become poor taking up an appointment with laziness. The plight of a lazy man trying to get rich is liken unto a tooth less young man struggling to feast on 'kpomo'; my simple advice... drop laziness and poverty will take a very long walk away from you.

The weariness in hard work, is nowhere to be compared to the suicidal potential of laziness.

#4. Indecisiveness

Competence alone, isn't enough to make any man rich. Except a very competent man deliberately set out to win in life, he will still plod through life a poor man.

Riches don't happen by chance, they are product of choices reinforced with hardwork.

Any man who just can't make decisions and embrace the outcome (whether good or bad), will practically result to living by chance and the truth is, such life will only produce a beggarly living.



When you allow everything to just happen somehow without a deliberate input, nothing happens. Indecisiveness can actually take you from somewhere to nowhere.

" I can't compete for likes and follows, I won't win. What I will do is pour out my heart and allow love to reach those that need it". - A. Gardner


No one has the assignment of pleasing everyone round him/her- just be a person of love. Trying to please everyone around would ultimately leave someone unpleased and that someone is you. No wonder Joycelyn Murray wrote "if you are busy pleasing everyone around you, you are not being true to yourself"


It's much more rewarding and scriptural to dispense love than embarking on "please them all" errand. Permit me to whisper some truths into your ear-ways... regardless the effort and investments you pour into pleasing men, you can never satisfy all. So, why 'kill' you for a lost cause?


Wishing you a rewarding day.
Good morning.
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One of the worst ways to waste one's life is by looking up to a man to define or give one's purpose for existence.


The best a man can offer is, his opinion. Good and reasonable as a man's opinion may sound, if it isn't God's plan, frustration is sure.


Jeremiah 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,before you were born I set you apart;I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."


The journey to doing exploits begins with going to God for self discovery. A man who doesn't know who he is, would live out to become any thing. Exploits and fulfilment are simply the resultant effect of self discovery and pursuit of purpose.


Wishing you a blessed May.

It doesn't matter the beauty and size of an electric bulb, if it is not connected to a lampholder with an electric current passing through it, it will never illuminate in darkness. Connectivity determines productivity. The prosperity of any branch is determined by its attachment to the VINE.

Likewise any stream that cease to take water from its source will soon dry up and become a desolate land.

John 15:5 says “I am the vine, and you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will bear much fruit; for you can do nothing without me."


The greatest secret to flourishing even in seemingly difficult times is, connectivity. Jesus speaking in John 15 made it clear that we can do nothing without Him. So, to remain relevant, productive and highly flourishing, we can't afford a disconnection from our source of supply -Jesus Christ.

You can't be a better friend,brother,sister, spouse or parent if you disrespect and hate you. One of the worst sets of persons to befriend, are those who love or like everything about everybody except themselves.


Being You which is a step closer to doing exploits, begins with practising self respect and loving you; everyone would for ever look down on you if you would rather be another person than YOU.


You're specially created and hand crafted by God for a special purpose, no one (I mean not even the best person you've ever admired) is better than you. You're God's mastered piece therefore, love and respect you.


Have a swell day.
Good morning.
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You simply sign up for frustrations/struggles/dissatisfaction, taking up an appointment with 'fitting-in'.

The fact that everyone seem to agree with it, doesn't mean such thought path or principle is ok for you. You can't build a worthwhile life following the crowd. Fitting-in, devalues and renders great potentials useless.



I would rather be positively and progressively be different and stand the momentary shame of being called names than just following the crowd and eventually end my life in regrets and tears.

Hello friend, the truth is, the 'shame' of being called names now, is way better than the losses fitting-in or blending-in will bring tomorrow; endure the shame now and prevent the losses of tomorrow.


Exploits resides in BEING YOU.


Wishing you a productive thursday.
Good morning.

" I think fitting in is highly overrated. I’d
rather just fit out... Fitting out means
being who you are, even when people
insist that you have to change. Fitting out
means taking up space, not apologizing
for yourself, and not agreeing with those
who seek to label you with stereotypes." -Golda Poretsky


Being different in a world of 'uniformity' can actually project the spotlight of antagonism on you but the beauty of such spotlight is, you have the opportunity to show them the unique package you came preloaded with.



Being you requires courage and consistency, whether people think you're a 'deviant' (their comments are mere opinions), just summon the courage to be consistent at that differently RIGHT thing you're doing.


Enjoy a very blessed weekend.
Good morning.
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Dear daughter

I've heard a number of times daughters saying "imagine she is not as beautiful as her friends and even the man marrying her is finer than her"... permit me to break this news to you; character is more attractive and stickable than 'fine-face'.

When a lady flaws at cooking, there is hope for her if she is willing to learn.
If facially, she isn't as pretty as the girl next door, makeup could actually do wonders.
But if she flaws in character and doesn't care she does, then there is more hope for a sinking ship than her.

May I frankly talk to you dear Daughter?... Any man who admires your beauty and care less for your character isn't in your life for long term purpose. Pretty face can buy you attention but sound character will help you celebrate golden jubilee as a married woman.

Sound character as a requirement for a successful married life isn't negotiable; you're either working on you, to become a better wife and mother some day or remain the same and eventually remain married to yourself, keeping scores of all the "ugly" girls getting married every saturday.

"Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are." -John Wooden


Wishing you a swell weekend.
Good afternoon

You humiliate and scold him at will without regards for his masculinity yet, you expect a queenly treatment from him. I seriously wonder why he is still around you.

In as much as he loves you with the whole of his life, the very instance you begin to disrespect him by rubbishing his masculine ego, my dear that 'little' calm lamb could become a roaring lion.

You really want to keep him and see your relationship thrive beyond boyfriend-girlfriend level?
Then, work on how you treat him; treat him like a king he is to you, adore him like a prince... prince?... yea he is your prince and he deserves adoring and most importantly whether in public or private, never spite him.

If you can't see you, ever coming to terms with adoring or treating him as a king, then, you can as well end the relationship because there little or no future for you two. Is a waste of time, to stick around a guy you can never respect. And if the disrespect 'thing' is a character flaw on your part, then you really need to seek help otherwise, your days of singleness may never end.

"He is suppose to know nau" ... Really? My dear, I can see you're either preparing for a break up or a hell in your relationship. Come on!!! He is flesh and blood. He is not The 'Almighty' the 'All-Knowing', relax and speak with him.

Walking around with anger in your heart expecting him to know what's wrong, isn't the solution to your hurt. Rather, you will only hurt you the more and eventually drive the relationship to a 'ditch'.

A thriving relationship is a talking one even when offended. Don't wait for him to pick words out of your mind because, that may not happen. My dear, you can only solve a problem you're aware of, drop your hurt and talk things through with him.

Help him know where he has wronged you. Being touchy, breeds tactful response which in turn, creates room for pretentious living. That my dear, is the worst place to be in your relationship. Love is not touchy!

Nathanjames:
"He is suppose to know nau" ... Really? My dear, I can see you're either preparing for a break up or a hell in your relationship. Come on!!! He is flesh and blood. He is not The 'Almighty' the 'All-Knowing', relax and speak with him.

Walking around with anger in your heart expecting him to know what's wrong, isn't the solution to your hurt. Rather, you will only hurt you the more and eventually drive the relationship to a 'ditch'.

A thriving relationship is a talking one even when offended. Don't wait for him to pick words out of your mind because, that may not happen. My dear, you can only solve a problem you're aware of, drop your hurt and talk things through with him.

Help him know where he has wronged you. Being touchy, breeds tactful response which in turn, creates room for pretentious living. That my dear, is the worst place to be in your relationship. Love is not touchy!

Just the other day, I overheard a daughter saying "why should I disturb my life, pursuing any career, business or personal development, since I will soon get married, is it not the duty of my husband to provide all my needs?"

Really? My dear you better wake up. Marriage is not a rescue mission; these days men hardly look in the direction of unproductive ladies except in very rarely cases where the men are after "puppets" they can manipulate.

My dear, if you don't want to become a puppet in the hands of some man and live your whole life in misery, get up learn a trade, get an education, get a career, develop your talents and above all get some thing meaningful going for yourself.

Do you remember the story of the virtuous woman in Proverb 31? Well she wasn't an "husband-waiting-to-provide-me-with-all-woman" in fact she provided for her family. You can do much more dear. Get your acts together ; you're more likely to meet him on the corridor of purpose fulfilling than just idling and waiting somewhere.

Giving exposes you to abundance; am yet to see any faithful giver that lives in poverty.


"For if you give, you will get! Your gift will return to you in full and overflowing measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use to give—large or small—will be used to measure what is given back to you.”-Luke 6:38


If you desire to live in abundance, then, you must learn to thrive in the grace of lavished giving. Giving will move you from barely enough to more than enough, where you have so much to Save, Spend and Spare.


Wishing you a blessed week ahead.