Toks2008:


And Seun has the audacity to use words like victim for the female folks...i know one day he will eat those words and will regret ever apologizing for this title.

My first conent says...never beat a lady which is fair enough and then listed the facts that are as true as day and night but Seun is still naive so i understand his point.

There was a lady i dated and she told me that she is the type tthat needs to be beaten up but i said never will i raise my hand against her and when she showed her color i gave her some verbal lashing that made her cry and for 3yrs she left the affair just to call me this year to say she would have prefered that i beat her up rather than going verbal...can you imagine.

Seun is indeed a learner when i comes to he issue of women so let jim postrate to nland ladies to apologize for the truth he will latter realize and when he does,he will hate himself for making that unwarranted apology...im 41 and i have seen things in life but all these todlers on nland knows nothing about this matter until they get to a more mature stage in life.

cococandy:
More like a fool at 40

Doubleagent008:
Bro leave the part of him apologising. look at it from the business angle. he has a group of displeased ' customers' and he is trying to please them. that I understand. I don't expect different from him.
Take the support and criticism all in one grace. you can't have all supporting your view. Appreciate everyone and move on. you exercised courage to have a different view on a sensitive, bias prone issue and I commend you. Everyone can't see from you vantage point. so just remember that and be happy.
Don't pick up any unnecessary fight just learn from this( whatever u can) and take solace in the fact that your thread has achieved a lot ( even more than u might know). For one it has enabled u have a brief sense of people's comprehension skill and rationality among others. so you too have gotten one or two things I hope. Cheers

ndcide:


Bros, your post in the thread was in order. I didn't see anything wrong with it. No body was saying go about beating women or the female folks. In fact your points were the raw fact that should help men and women live better. But you know, people are always emotional with issues like this rather than being factual. Apart from Seun 's personal believe, he had to bow to popular opinions even when he knows deeply that these positions really need to be interrogated and subjected reality checks.

I've noticed that most women who have peace in their homes don't temper with their husbands ego no matter what. Those who don't have peace even with their intelligence are those who have one way or the other have fallen short of the points you made. In fact, a pastor told us some time back, that one responsibility of a wife is to massage her husbands ego for life... He told us how important that key is and how it's going to affect present day marriages.

I never made up the examples a gave. Both happened to people I know very well. While the other was in a public transport I entered from cms to Ajah.

You've made your points, I agree with them. It takes a lot to stand out when majority want to lie to themselves.


Finally, your point is a better solution to domestic violence than the hypocritical "don't touch a lady, no matter what"

We all know that's a lie.

Toks2008:


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Firstly im 41 no 40 and secondly you can send your CV o me and i will give you a job...you are indeed outrightly shallow minded and mentally docile to juxstapose a passion with joblessness.

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johnson232:

how old are u?

u didnt read this article, u commented based on the title...

Nixiepie:
smh! U need thorough deliverance

Toks2008:


Just ignore that guy and many others who never read beyond the title..little wonder why we have so many uneducated graduates these days.

This is why i respect lalasiclala because he makes sure he reads tru a tthread before sending it to frontpage and there is no way he would have put this there if it was not ok...the best seun would have done was to suggest that the title be modified rather than take it off from fpage.

This tthread is presently on over 10 other blogs and i even saw a blogger modify the title by adding "sometimes" which gave a calmer title.

6 Facts That Prove That Women Are
Sometimes the Main Cause of Domestic
Violence.

huntax:

This is complete BS. Let me give an instance.

Assuming you live with your father(maybe ur mum lives abroad). You work, ur father also works... Would u come back from work and tell ur dad he also needs to join u in the kitchen to help out with washing plates?
Let me also remind you, once u get married, u will have to respect your husband like you respect your father.
I'm not saying u should kneel to greet him or anything like that, but really respect him.
The husband is always the head of the house, that is a gift from God. He will only help out in the kitchen if he wants to, but he doesn't HAVE to.
All that respect would only go out the window the day he raises his hand against u (as he has clearly disrespected you too).

Toks2008:



Obviously even Seun will eat his words the moment he sees this misguided comment from the ladies he called victims.

You are one troll i have and will continue to ignore because you are uncultured.

Real women who deserves respect from men dont go about trolling and cursing...

soonest:

Have you blamed a woman today?
She made me cheat on her, she sent me into the hands of another woman, she made me lose my job, she made me hit her bla bla bla. I wonder when men will grow up and take responsibility for their actions. Well, i'm not surprised, they learnt from d best, ADAM, who still blamed God for giving him Eve instead of apologizing.

onegig:
Anyone taking this 40 year old guy with no job serious, needs all the help they can get. He is so twisted, I pity the lady that ends up with him.

As much as verbal abuse is a very bad thing and should be condemned and not be indulged in by any party. Stating that a guy should retaliate while being abused by a lady in like or unlike manner is not only silly but a shitty behaviour. Both physical and verbal abuses are bad and extreme behaviours and should be outrightly condemned by all. Verbal abuse consequences may not be apparent in that instant it was thrown like physical abuse but they leave a damaging long lasting effect on the victim.

Bottom line from experience for any guy is this;

If someone brings out the worst in you...please gently walk away. If she has a razor sharp mouth. Leave such toxic lady alone. Might be hard and you must have invested a lot into the relationship but the relative peace you would feel is more than whatever you can gain from staying behind.

Seun:
I am so sorry about this topic. We have dropped it from the home page. Victim blaming is something that should never be condoned. It's not bad to say, 'here are the things you can do to protect yourself', but to say that the people who have been abused are the "main cause" is evil.

Suigeneris93:



First off, I'm not a guy. Secondly, I'm not a muslim. Thirdly, this isn't 630AD when Prophet Mohammed lived, this is the 21st century, a lot of things have changed with time, I was thinking your mentality would too

cr7lomo:


I never knew u are a strong member of WWAN( Women wrapper association of nairaland)

kaziblake:
Because he didn't support you abi?For that our statement about me yesterday i cry and curse you its will surely work.

cr7lomo:


4k off my post u bit..ch , look at a cursed ashana wanna throw curses...wonders shall never end...better start going to the gym cos na wrestling bout everyday for man house that's if any mumu man go gree marry ashana like u

oyb:


it is not enough to drop it from the home page, whoever pushed it to the home page needs some sort of reorientation. it is the same way misogynistic threads about linda ikeji's 'smelly wetin call' and which of wizkids directors leaked the gist about the 'smelly wetin call' were pushed to the home page.

you have a lot of work to do in training some of the people that work for you in sensititvity and basic respect for women.

kaziblake:
If am ashana then what are your sisters?Mind the way you talk it's not everybody you talk to anyhow
A word is enough for the wise

Toks2008:


i strongly believe that Seun,you and every other mental toddlers reading this should sit your ass down and think with your brains and get this message clearly.

Im always quick to point out my age so that the teenagers or people in their 20s reading my writeups will come to terms with the fact that i have passed the age of reproach and i have seen things at 41.

When i wrote this i did with 100% mental stability and when i gave that title i knew what i meant....

Ishilove is one nland lady i respect cos i sense she is matured but when she faulted the write up i knew something is wrong somewhere and i guess the same fauxpass was made by seun and many people who twisted the article so get this one more time...

Domestic violence starts in one day and usually extablished afer the second act either from the man or woman.

My first and sixth point epitomises my notion.

A lady dates a guy who slaps her then she goes ahead to marry him please what do you make of that? love or madness?

A lady willingly rains insults on a man tto he point that he reacts please what do you say to that?

Ok according to the 6th point,a man suddenly turns violent and you fail to report him to the police or leave the union abeg who is to blame?

Im utterly disappointed at Seun for being so intellectually vulnurable to the extent of apologizing for having one of the best write up grace nland home page instead of shallow childish and vague contents asides those of national interest and im deeply appalled by the low IQ of as many nlanders who condemn this wite up.


I will stop here

cr7lomo:


4k u, am talking to you anyhow...do ur worse smelly bit..ch

Ishilove:

What you're aren't understanding is it is your title that ruined a potentially great thread.

A title can make or marr a post. You designed the title to be a click bait but the problem is people couldn't see pass the inflammatory title to really absorb the message. You began well, then enumerated points that SEEMED to support the title. That turned readers off and made it seem like the thread is placing the blame of violence squarely on the shoulders on women.

The problem with the thread was the presentation which threw people of balance and in the process the message was lost. I even had a hard time trying to foucs on the message but couldn't.

Toks2008:


What is this one spewing? so in your mind you are making sense abi? oshisco.com

i strongly believe that Seun,you and every other mental toddlers reading this should sit your ass down and think with your brains and get this message clearly.
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Im always quick to point out my age so that the teenagers or people in their 20s reading my writeups will come to terms with the fact that i have passed the age of reproach and i have seen things at 41.

When i wrote this i did with 100% mental stability and when i gave that title i knew what i meant....

Ishilove is one nland lady i respect cos i sense she is matured but when she faulted the write up i knew something is wrong somewhere and i guess the same fauxpass was made by seun and many people who twisted the article so get this one more time...

Domestic violence starts in one day and usually extablished afer the second act either from the man or woman.

My first and sixth point epitomises my notion.

A lady dates a guy who slaps her then she goes ahead to marry him please what do you make of that? love or madness?

A lady willingly rains insults on a man tto he point that he reacts please what do you say to that?


Ok according to the 6th point,a man suddenly turns violent and you fail to report him to the police or leave the union abeg who is to blame?

so which ever way you look at it you will see that ladies are 100% responsible for the domestic violence we see by either neglecting the signs,aggravating it or tolerating it.

Im utterly disappointed at Seun for being so intellectually vulnurable to the extent of apologizing for having one of the best write up grace nland home page instead of shallow childish and vague contents asides those of national interest and im deeply appalled by the low IQ of as many nlanders who condemn this wite up.


I will stop here

Toks2008:


shey you can now see how true this title is?

If we look deeply i will be clear that the signs have always been there during courtship and there must have been a first time of that happening.

Seun get this clear..you dont pay me a dime neither do i need a dime for writing top notch articles on romance section so try and mellow down on your totalitarian approach to issues and if not for my passion for writing i would have made up my mind to stop writing on nairaland.

One of your rules states that each poster is responsible for whatever he or she writes and nairaland has no business in such opinion so just respect hat please and stop showcasing odoriferous myopism.

Any humble person would have simply opined for a change in title but you seem to have this innate pride you need to work on.

huntax:

This is complete BS. Let me give an instance.

Assuming you live with your father(maybe ur mum lives abroad). You work, ur father also works... Would u come back from work and tell ur dad he also needs to join u in the kitchen to help out with washing plates?
Let me also remind you, once u get married, u will have to respect your husband like you respect your father.
I'm not saying u should kneel to greet him or anything like that, but really respect him.
The husband is always the head of the house, that is a gift from God. He will only help out in the kitchen if he wants to, but he doesn't HAVE to.
All that respect would only go out the window the day he raises his hand against u (as he has clearly disrespected you too).

oyb:


Old Age does not confer wisdom. An old bully cannot learn new tricks. And a fool at forty. . .

Seems all you're doing is trolling for likes like the kids you so despise.

Be your age and value alternate discourse.

This is not your house where you can 'I senior you' everybody into submission

nkemdi89:

I guess we are on a parallel side on these issue as you seem not to decipher the point I am trying to make, what concerns brother, father or an abusive home in all these I said? It can be a contributive factor, but that isn't my point.

Doubleagent008:
I see your point and that's a nice view. Domestic Abuse is really a bad stuff esp when it fulfils all criteria of Abuse e.g it's repetitive.
seriously some of us (the men) do mess up big time. A family friend was discussing with my mom the other day about what the husband does to her and I was ashamed of and for the man. this abuse was both emotional, Financial( if it is really a thing), and some level of phyisico-spiritual. Believe me the man was immature and "not man enough" in all the sense there is. but this woman did a good job on him in letting him display his folly for all to see. she did not set him up to score cheap points he was just on the express way to Fvck up land. If it was another woman, she would get physical, ranting, cursing and stuff like that and it will be worse. so you see what I mean, A Lady should be calm and display her elegant wisdom while a useless "man" sets himself up for downfall. even his own family members castigate him on how he treats the wife.
We all can do better that's all I know.
Like how you address issues. you didn't lose your reasoning in a sea of Emotions

Mamatee07:


Stay there and be deceiving your self. Women are now giving just as good as you guys dish out. The lawyer in Ibadan killed her husband for having a child outside that he didn't tell her about. So don't worry keep beating and killing women for flimsy reasons and wait for the repercussions. The same way you guys were cheating for decades and now the women don pass you sef. Nothing like Men will be men, stop using that to justify bad behaviour
Don't worry when a woman also kills her husband for cheating we will tell you that women will always be women

dare2differ:
In other words, cooking is a chore meant for lesser human beings

You don kolo