This is not in any way a counter thread to the topic on front page today. I do not see any reason why we should owe a blame to either a man or a woman in any form of domestic violence. Everyone has a role to play either positive or negative.
Domestic violence may come in various forms. It can be physical or even emotional.
Below however are the primary causes of Domestic Violence as it relates to Nigeria.

1. Physically Abused Children - it is a widely known fact that children who suffer one form of physical abuse or neglect are likely to be involved in domestic violence. The experience leaves behind an indelible scar on them that causes further misconduct when they are married.

2. Poverty/Unemployment - an idle hand they say is the devil's workshop. Domestic Violence is common among people who have no jobs or whose jobs cannot put enough on their table. I once read about a man who killed his wife because of cow skin (ponmo). Another once beat his wife to coma as a result of the money his wife asked from him which he could not provide. A woman once battered a young girl for taking a food that does not belong to her. These and many more are owed to this no 2 factor.

3. Stress - stress, caused by stressors - fatigue, over working, anxiety, anger etc are stressors. Many Nigerians however cannot handle or manage stress and tend to be a subject to it as they act under its negative influence. Nagging wives cannot escape the wrath of a stressed husbands but that man who can manage stress can turn his nagging wife into a smiling one. (Easier said than done though).

4. Lack of family planning - Domestic violence is rampant in a family with more children than expected. Problems starts creeping in upon many children. Parents who do not have a particular number of children they could cater for and have children above their capacity are prone to domestic violence (often in a polygamous family).

5. Illiteracy - most and not all of uneducated people are prone to domestic violence. Education is primarily aimed at producing men who will fit well in any ideal society. People who can be rational and logical in their actions. Domestic violence however is a big issue among uneducated couples.

Other secondary causes are Alcoholism, Drug addiction or abusers of drugs, age, level exposure, environment, etc.

November 25 is World's Domestic Violence Elimination day.

Lalasticlala how far?