joseph1832:
But I've read articles that support my saying. Might I ask you how you know 2/10 of my friend's wife's experience what the OP's wife experience?

Lumpyy:

see this is not a debate sir,to each woman,her pregnancy story.there are general characteristics and some are peculiar too.its ur generalisation that is a problem to me.its very insensitive to tell a man who is not having IT with his wife as he used too that his pregnant(1st one for that matter)wife is giving him filmsy excuses.if he believes you and starts distrusting his wifes complains nko?i told you iv been pregnant 3tyms.1st one is till 24weeks,sec1 till 38weeks and d 3rd till 40weeks.iv been to anti natal classes and all my friends are in child bearing age.you are talking by the book sir,moi have seen ALOT and being hot in pregnancy is 2/10.

joseph1832:
You don't expect me to believe what you say, do you? You're talking from experience, and I'm also talking from experience, from what I've seen and heard. If I have 10 friends, all of them are married with kids, so are my sisters, I've heard what they say regarding sex. Plain and simple.

Since you said every woman isn't wired the same, why should you then be telling me I should believe what you told me, without asking you questions?.

I gave the OP an advice, he should sit down and talk to his wife. She has a responsibility to him, as he has a responsibility to her. That's the way marriage should be, not play to sentiment. Tell me, if you were the one who is Hot and your husband is denying you sex because he's not in the mood, what will you do?

BellaElla:

Lol. Oga go and marry, give ya wife belle and kpekus her every day for 9 months.u can even demand for it the day she gives birth. It is ur right o. People are telling u their direct experiences, ur are countering it with your friends wives experiences. Ok o. No argument. When ur wife tells u she is pregnant, start kpekusing immediately o. Don't mind the fact that her body is against it cos of the safety of the baby. Throw her up o, hang her legs on the roof. It is ya right o.

joseph1832:
Oh so people are telling me their direct experience I should keep mute when they use it to counter my own experience abi? Abeg take your time oh!!!

And is it by force to marry? Abi na u go tell me when and who to marry? If marriage dey worry you go find who to marry, no carry am come for my side abeg.

What I said was directed to the OP and the OP alone, not you or any busy body who can't stand when someone them show just how sentimental they are.

Thank you for understanding.

joseph1832:
You don't expect me to believe what you say, do you? You're talking from experience, and I'm also talking from experience, from what I've seen and heard. If I have 10 friends, all of them are married with kids, so are my sisters, I've heard what they say regarding sex. Plain and simple.

Since you said every woman isn't wired the same, why should you then be telling me I should believe what you told me, without asking you questions?.

I gave the OP an advice, he should sit down and talk to his wife. She has a responsibility to him, as he has a responsibility to her. That's the way marriage should be, not play to sentiment. Tell me, if you were the one who is Hot and your husband is denying you sex because he's not in the mood, what will you do?

BellaElla:


Lol. u wan fight mi ni? abi u wan flog me? Taaa gbafuo! Na today we dey see your type? Me wey don marry tey tey. See who dey talk about sentiments. myself and at least five other ladies here have told your our personal experiences with pregnancy, which is same for about 80% of women, and you are refuting us with beer parlour gist. Anyways I no blame you, na those your leaky mouthed friends I blame, men wey no get respect for their wives, that would come and run their mouths to another runny mouthed bachelor, who in turn self-services away at the fantasies of how hot pregnant women are in bed. Lmao! Oga abeg don't come for me o! Go and marry, and stop relying on those lofty tales your friends are regaling you with. When people life experiences are talking, people with refurbished round table gist would talk too..

BellaElla:


Lol. u wan fight mi ni? abi u wan flog me? Taaa gbafuo! Na today we dey see your type? Me wey don marry tey tey. See who dey talk about sentiments. myself and at least five other ladies here have told your our personal experiences with pregnancy, which is same for about 80% of women, and you are refuting us with beer parlour gist. Anyways I no blame you, na those your leaky mouthed friends I blame, men wey no get respect for their wives, that would come and run their mouths to another runny mouthed bachelor, who in turn self-services away at the fantasies of how hot pregnant women are in bed. Lmao! Oga abeg don't come for me o! Go and marry, and stop relying on those lofty tales your friends are regaling you with. When people life experiences are talking, people with refurbished round table gist would talk too..

Lumpyy:

expect u to believe ke?why would i do that?im saying you should not generalise ur 'experience' to the Op's wife.imagine saying she has a responsibility towards him,u think she doesnt know that?u think she likes how shes feeling?abeg no more dallying words jare.....na ur wife i pity oo,i hope shes lyk ur 10sisters too

joseph1832:
Please I don't need your pity. You should go to the ffirst page and read my first comment before you make conclusions that will further shame you.

I believe you didn't read where I first told the OP to have a talk with his wife right?

joseph1832:
Guy look bush! Na people like you dey believe say marriage na achievement when their husband no even send una.

If ur husband dey respect you, you for no how to talk to person, but as e be say you no even sabi yan, I no even surprise. Na so una go dey take mata wey no concern una personal, that's why una husbands no fit sitdon one place, na from one beer parlor to another. When be de last time ur husband sleep for house sef?

Because you can't read and you make it your business to jump into conversations that doesn't concern you, you show just how frustrated you are! Here you talk about me wanking, when you are physically refused by your husband, that's why he makes it his business to sleep with small small girls, when women like you have become over fattened cows with molten fat as flesh!.

Just look at how your comments are repulsive, I believe that's how you are physically and emotionally repulsive. You shame your husbands and your inlaws by being an incomprehensible git, who's an ol' hag with a frustrated life, that's why you make it your business to come to social media and show just how miserable your life is. Anyway, I no blame you sha, na the man wey marry you I blame.

Yeye dey smell!.

Lumpyy:

shame me bawo?oga its you taking things TOO personal o,i sure say the Op sef don find solution...lol.enjoy ur experiences o jere,who fighting eep at this difficult time?as you have been told...raise ur pregnant wife's leg,tie it and knock yourself out because she has a responsibility towards you and EVERY woman likes to DO in pregnancy!

Lumpyy:

see this your rant?gives you off as the frustrated one.

joseph1832:
Oh yeah? And you're not taking things too personal yourself Difficult times only affect people who fail to plan for it, just like failed marriages and lamentations only affect those who are too shallow minded to ask the right questions.

And if truly I decide to have sex with my wife, whether she is pregnant or not, how does it affect you? Or you secretly wish your husband should do to you, what I do to my 'supposed' wife?

oh yeah? What about your friend? Funny you focused on me and totally ignored her, or did you forget that she was the one who started the insults? This gives you oFf as one who is purely sentimental and a nepostist.

Lumpyy:

Oga....oya sorry,stop crying,u want ribena? .

joseph1832:
Guy look bush! Na people like you dey believe say marriage na achievement when their husband no even send una.

If ur husband dey respect you, you for no how to talk to person, but as e be say you no even sabi yan, I no even surprise. Na so una go dey take mata wey no concern una personal, that's why una husbands no fit sitdon one place, na from one beer parlor to another. When be de last time ur husband sleep for house sef?

Because you can't read and you make it your business to jump into conversations that doesn't concern you, you show just how frustrated you are! Here you talk about me wanking, when you are physically refused by your husband, that's why he makes it his business to sleep with small small girls, when women like you have become over fattened cows with molten fat as flesh!.

Just look at how your comments are repulsive, I believe that's how you are physically and emotionally repulsive. You shame your husbands and your inlaws by being an incomprehensible git, who's an ol' hag with a frustrated life, that's why you make it your business to come to social media and show just how miserable your life is. Anyway, I no blame you sha, na the man wey marry you I blame.

Yeye dey smell!.

joseph1832:
Guy look bush! Na people like you dey believe say marriage na achievement when their husband no even send una.
If ur husband dey respect you, you for no how to talk to person, but as e be say you no even sabi yan, I no even surprise. Na so una go dey take mata wey no concern una personal, that's why una husbands no fit sitdon one place, na from one beer parlor to another. When be de last time ur husband sleep for house sef?
Because you can't read and you make it your business to jump into conversations that doesn't concern you, you show just how frustrated you are! Here you talk about me wanking, when you are physically refused by your husband, that's why he makes it his business to sleep with small small girls, when women like you have become over fattened cows with molten fat as flesh!.
Just look at how your comments are repulsive, I believe that's how you are physically and emotionally repulsive. You shame your husbands and your inlaws by being an incomprehensible git, who's an ol' hag with a frustrated life, that's why you make it your business to come to social media and show just how miserable your life is. Anyway, I no blame you sha, na the man wey marry you I blame.
Yeye dey smell!.

BellaElla:


You are a phoooooooool. see how disjointed your insults are. is this the best you can do? u wan put mouth for married people matter, when your elders are talking, keep quiet! sharrap! so you can learn from us na small pikin u be. when you grow up, make money, find wife, court, go pay bride price, marry, given am belle( I am sure ur kini no dey work sef, if not you for no dey rely on your friends gist to satisfy your fantasies), Till then, continue chopping your mama thank you. Your fellow men are hustling this morning to provide for their families, you are online trading words with me. kwakwakwakwakwa! I am sure you are waiting for your friends to come back from work, so that you can go and eat free food at their houses, and dream about their hot pregnant wives. Ode! Don't go and wash windscreens or sell CDs that your fellow men are selling, because you sound so daft, I am sure no body go gree employ you, don't go and make money o, come and be exchanging words with me. whether I work, or I no work, I go still chop. . Oya, come and insult your mother again

shollyblingzy:


your comments so far have just been ridiculous and disgusting, this shows you are not a matured man, look at how you are ranting on a serious forum like this, serious comments from matured married men are needed here, not from immature minds please. you are just arguing blindly. your comments portray you like men that abuse their wives on top small matter. Every one is entitle to his or her opinion here, you do not expect evryone to accept your opinion> If you were a woman now, thats another thing, but you are a man and you tend to argue with women who have experiences. You behave like a greedy man, cos if your wife tend to tell you she is tired or do not feel like, you can go further to rape her, as if the thing na food. Marriage comes with its ups and down, and also with full support and understanding, women are talking here, you are here arguing with them, wetin sef, if your mind is made up that such women are only pretending,, no wahala, please hold on to your opinion, and do not suck this forum with your babbling, am sure the OP has taken the good advice so far, and am sure because he wants to save his marriage , he would understand with his wife and play along with is wife, knowing fully well that is is just gonna be for a while, not for ever, please be wise, and act like one .......@ Lumpyy and BellaElla, ignore him please, what does a man like him know, than to do and not mind what the woman is passing thru, e think sey na yam to bring forth a complete human being to the world

joseph1832:
This is among the reason why I always advice couples to be free minded, and also to be proud of their sexuality.

OP. I'll advice you to sit down and speak with her, open up and tell her your mind, not in a disrespectful way, but in a gentle way. Let her know your feelings, and yearning. If you guys are the type who engage in MouthAction, then by all means, if she doesn't want penetrative sex, then may be MouthAction would be okay. And if the answer is still no, then my friend, I believe the onus falls on you. I'll advice you to _masturbate (no offense intended) its way better than even thinking of cheating on her, than cheating on her.

Don't let societal norm and religious doctrine and dogma delude you. Its your marriage, and you have it in your hands.

This is my humble advice.

shollyblingzy:


your comments so far have just been ridiculous and disgusting, this shows you are not a matured man, look at how you are ranting on a serious forum like this, serious comments from matured married men are needed here, not from immature minds please. you are just arguing blindly. your comments portray you like men that abuse their wives on top small matter. Every one is entitle to his or her opinion here, you do not expect evryone to accept your opinion> If you were a woman now, thats another thing, but you are a man and you tend to argue with women who have experiences. You behave like a greedy man, cos if your wife tend to tell you she is tired or do not feel like, you can go further to rape her, as if the thing na food. Marriage comes with its ups and down, and also with full support and understanding, women are talking here, you are here arguing with them, wetin sef, if your mind is made up that such women are only pretending,, no wahala, please hold on to your opinion, and do not suck this forum with your babbling, am sure the OP has taken the good advice so far, and am sure because he wants to save his marriage , he would understand with his wife and play along with is wife, knowing fully well that is is just gonna be for a while, not for ever, please be wise, and act like one .......@ Lumpyy and BellaElla, ignore him please, what does a man like him know, than to do and not mind what the woman is passing thru, e think sey na yam to bring forth a complete human being to the world

JoeBlocks:
[b]Imagine this disjointed and inglorious buffoon who was belched out of the anus of a chimpanzee opening her innocuous meningitis infested vocal cavity to spew words that further attest to her propound inanity as well as her idiocy.

I tell you, when you see me, even your loser of a husband who bow to me, because he proved his a loser by marrying you, who has been so raped with emotional sentiment to the point you can't even discern when enlighten minds are conversing.

Ma'am, I'll feed you and your entire house hold and even provide you a well paying job so you can stop spreading your vileness and nonsensical opinions all over the internet.

To think you even use that leprosy infested fingers of yours to say my insults aren't arranged shows that your brain cells have been fried beyond recognition, that's why you can't straight because your husband has failed in his manly duties, that's why you come here and advice others to be failures like you and your husband.

I'll have you know, I'm self employed, as I bow to no man, that's why I have the time to show stupid_ women like you who a real man is. One would hope you'd read and learn, but one won't be surprised that you lack basic comprehensive skills, that's why everything about you, is emotion upon emotion.

"Whether you work or you no work you go still chop" sure thing, that's an altruism as your husband feed and cloth you from the ragged clothes you wear, to your dirty piss stained underwear. You're not even ashamed of saying you're a leech to your husband.

When you put all your burden on a man and show him that, all what you contribute to the marriage is just to open your degraded vagina and shit_ out kids, why won't he abandon you and chase on this girls, who are ten times smarter than you, and a hundred times more gorgeous looking.

No wonder you look like a cow when all your mates are looking like sweet 16s. In this age of family planning, you're busy sh1ting out kids like no mans business.

Once again, lemme know when you need money for child support, I know an NGO who help women like you, who contribute absolutely nothing to their marriage aside their vaginas.

Now piss off and go think about your sordid life and your loser of a husband. [/b]

Lumpyy:

see how defensive he gets?he is just a petty man of not more than 18yrs old.throwing around words like say na us frustrate am!

JoeBlocks:
Excuse me fuck_ face, did I quote you or ask for your narrow minded and ass licking moniker for your lop sided opinion?
If the forum is serious to you, it isn't for others, you can shove you nitwitted opinions up your shit_ stained anus for all I care. I didn't invite your opinion, neither did I ask for it, so please shove it where its not needed.

BellaElla:


This is nairaland, where a man that is 3ft tall would claim to be 6ft tall, , like I said, we know ya type, na small pikin you be. keep refreshing this page to see who has replied you, so that you can dream up insults for them.lmao! na your future wife I pity. when they ask you how much you made today, tell them " I insulted bellaella and her husband online today .

JoeBlocks:
I'm well in my 30's thank you very much. To show how you still jump to conclusions without have facts and evidence shows you're the one who is petty and you're disgrace to your family and good women in general.

shollyblingzy:



you seriously have issues, big time issues, your mouth is full of insults, I wonder if you can marry a good wife like this oo,except you change this your attitude of youys, sure you would have been having issues with relationships, and you might have been wondering what could have been the responsible, am happy to tell you the reason is not far-fetched, is you attitude to situations and how you react to them, and if you lucky to be a relationship, then you only attracted someone abusive like you, and if the lady is an opposite of you, then the lady don enter one chance be that ooo,cos any small mistake the lady do like this , na abuse you go shower on her oo, grow up man and get busy with you life, yu are a man, dont sit here to be exchanging words with woman, abi you be woman wrapper ni....hahahahaaaa... matured advices are needed here, you only turned the forum into abusive forum, what kind of man are you be sef, na woman i know say dey abuse and fight over small matter like this oo, i never see man like this oooo, yeepaa wey get tym on social media to be distributing insults to every comment, when real men are out there hustling and getting better lives for themselves...you dey here dey wash your dirty yansh for here, nonsense, grow up and have brain along side, real men do not portray this attitude of yours.....stay clear, and lets read good comments from real men out there, na your wife-to-be I pity, chaiiiiiiii, man like woman, see your big mouth full of abuses ,,,,,, to fi apaaa

shollyblingzy:


in your 30s? and you are not matured at all, are you gonna grow up at alll, if at this age of yours you are still replying like a teen, so tell be when you gonna comment maturely....chaiiiiii

also you see why you have not seen a good woman to settle down with, is just becos of your attitude problem, no woman who is sane would see a man that has attitude problem like yours and stay, they will definitely "pick race" for their dear lives, alakoba like you....if a man like you keep talking while your wife is talking, that is what could result to domestic violence, cos if your wife no wan gree, you too would no wan to mellow down , therefore lead to violence, except you decide to marry a dump woman ooo, to save your marriage, #candid advice#abeg wise up before is too late, and do not let others to learn from your story like the present domestic violence stories we are reading nowadays

#growUp MAN#, cos it looks you are not mature at alll........

JoeBlocks:
Indeed this is nairaland. I wouldn't disagree to that. I've seen the wiles and gimmicks here. But I'll assure you, I'm not one of your demented type who are a special market to their marriage.

I'll advice you to know that I'm one who beliefs in fact, proof and evidence. So, care to let me show your demented self I'm all I say I am.

Better still, you can ask those who know me outside here, and let them intimate you about who I am, outside here.

Cc: le zz,

lezz:
What's brewing the Strom here? who's calling Joe immature?

lezz:
What's brewing the Strom here? who's calling Joe immature?

JoeBlocks:
Indeed this is nairaland. I wouldn't disagree to that. I've seen the wiles and gimmicks here. But I'll assure you, I'm not one of your demented type who are a special market to their marriage.

I'll advice you to know that I'm one who beliefs in fact, proof and evidence. So, care to let me show your demented self I'm all I say I am.

Better still, you can ask those who know me outside here, and let them intimate you about who I am, outside here.

Cc: lezz,

patfenda:
Being really bothered lately cos my wife is pregnant/ist issue/,now first she is very selective with food and whenever she wants a particular food she must eat it or there would b problem....dats not the problem though
The problem is that we hardly make love,she does not get turned on,Hot or in the mood,even when it rains for where?na so so sleep tinx 0....
Even majority of the times i make a move,i end up getting locked out...as a man am being starved and it hurts me.
Fellow married matured men pls what do i do?cos i cant be like dis 4 nine months....konji go kill man pickin oooo

You didn't state the trimester your wife's pregnancy is.

And that's the worst stage for women, hormonal changes and the physical adaptability are all difficult occurrences women go through during pregnancy.

But for most women, after the first trimester they begin to yearn for sex more than they did prior to their pregnancy. So you should tarry and observe her.

Believe me, every move you make, every kiss is as irritating to her like native concoctions

From the later part of the 2nd trimester, MOST WOMEN come around to love fück even more than they usually did.

So weather the storm in your groin, it's only going to be short-lived