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How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Kaira333: 12:44pm On May 21, 2016 |
I love my mother in-law and she loves me too. Oya silly nairalanders go and hug transformer. Nb. If there is no light please look for d nearest lagoon. |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Tocheagle(m): 12:52pm On May 21, 2016 |
YOU MUST BE MARRIED TO THE SON OF PATIENCE OZOKWO . Even God Understands What you are going through . 13 Likes |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Julietcutie(f): 1:04pm On May 21, 2016 |
take her matter to God... pray well and try and see if you can get close to her like you and your mom in law should be like 5 &6 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by byvan03: 1:12pm On May 21, 2016 |
Jokingly tell her" mama e be like sey nah only you go sabi marry your son, if you keep talking like this he no go fit live with womanooo". Dey talk am dey shine teeth . If she vex" dey laugh dey talk sorry and keep saying " but mama you know sey nah truth" . Terrible MIL! 14 Likes |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by jashar(f): 1:16pm On May 21, 2016 |
Hmmmm |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Kaira333: 1:20pm On May 21, 2016 |
Julietcutie:I understand, I wish to be 5 & 6 with her. But what I needs now is how to make her stop saying all those things especially in the presence of my hubby b4 she spoil his hrt towards me. |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Julietcutie(f): 1:26pm On May 21, 2016 |
see whether you can cook something she loves serve her like a VIP after that tell her 'mama I want to have a private talk with you ' while discussing tell her u love her son and plead with her to stop saying those mean things... try to pet your husband in her presence treat him like a king... do some public display of ur love with your husband too also in her presence... and finally pray Kaira333: 4 Likes |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Kaira333: 1:32pm On May 21, 2016 |
byvan03:My dear nobi today ooo. I don de shine teeth since but it's not working out. What made me to create dis thread happened just today. Ok, After several disturbances dat her son is too dark (which no body is complaining na only her oo) dat I should go to d market and change his cream. I told hubby since am fair maybe let's be using my own cream together. He accepted only for her mum to come out today again to tell me to my face dat upon everything her son is doing for me dat I don't take care of him. My hrt is so heavy dis morning. Honestly I need to put an end to this. |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Kaira333: 1:36pm On May 21, 2016 |
Julietcutie:ok ooo thanks dear |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by TheArchangel(f): 1:55pm On May 21, 2016 |
Why not focus on your hubby and baby instead of allowing MIL to live rent free in your head.? Any negative or contrary words from you will be seen as an insult, so I suggest you avoid her as long as she is there till she leaves. She is a ticking time bomb, do not give her the satisfaction of talking back at her to correct her negative impresions cos your hubby is gonna side with his mama at the long run. Delete her from your mental space. Please. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Melahou(m): 2:09pm On May 21, 2016 |
The only way you can have rest of mind is only if she's not staying with you in your husband's house Talking back at her is not a good idea...it will only deteriorate thing for both of you. Some mother in laws are naturally like that. You can't just impress them. Continue being that good wife you are and sometimes play "DEAF or MUMU" with her. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Kaira333: 2:41pm On May 21, 2016 |
TheArchangel:True talk. I appreciate |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Kaira333: 2:44pm On May 21, 2016 |
Melahou:Thanks and God bless. Dats y its good to share ur problems sometimes. Me don plan how I will blast her next time but for d sake of my hubby I have to seek for advice because I don't want anything dat will hurt him. |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Nobody: 2:54pm On May 21, 2016 |
Why do you choose to take what she says so seriously? I wouldn't bother if I were you. Ignore mode. It is that simple. It's up to you whether you let her affect you and whether you choose to invest energy into an argument, which will put your husband in an uncomfortable position. And it is also up to you whether you choose to rise above the situation. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Kaira333: 4:01pm On May 21, 2016 |
Mindfulness:Dear, u won't understand. Assuming u are d one u could have choose to take what she said more seriously than I do. Imagine someone always trying to label you a bad person in d presence of ur hubby. Its Neva easy to take dat only by God's Grace |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by cococandy(f): 4:08pm On May 21, 2016 |
You should have listened to your husband when he said he didn't want her to come. Well too late. Ignore her just like some posters have said. She's just looking for an excuse to find faults in your marriage. Which one is that he's now dark and you should change his cream for him. Is he a baby? Some women sef. 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by byvan03: 4:39pm On May 21, 2016 |
Kaira333: To be honest with you I personally will explode right in front her and spill exactly how I feel about her bulls*hit with no sugar coating, I don't know how to tiptoe. So personally I did handle it the best way I know how to which is for the heaven to fall today or forever remain still method. My initial advise was based on the fact that sugar coating seems to be how most people roll. Make sure is in front of her son so she won't add jara and say you pushed her while twisting every thing you said. If you have the guts, this method will seal the lips permanently if you utilise it well. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by cococandy(f): 4:56pm On May 21, 2016 |
That's true though. But it's a kind of hard advice to give someone because they may not know how to do it expertly in order to both call the bullshit and at the same time avoid insulting the other person. byvan03: |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by byvan03: 5:03pm On May 21, 2016 |
cococandy: True, I don't need to try here because my impatience towards bullshi*t won't t let me nurture mamas mistreatment for long before I give her a run for her money. People actually are very different, I can't resist for long if I get this evil type. Sometimes there will never be real peace, without a good war. |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by byvan03: 5:07pm On May 21, 2016 |
Chai! OP you should have listened to your husband, any relation am warned about, I quickly build a higher fence. Some people just enjoy torturing others, she obviously never enjoyed her marriage so she is trying to spread the misery. |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by mysticgal(f): 5:09pm On May 21, 2016 |
Some mothers in law sef Anyways lemme shut up and learn Op sorry oh |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Nobody: 6:05pm On May 21, 2016 |
Kaira333: It is easy if you a) understand the psychology behind her behavior and b) if you learn not to give a rip about what other people think. Your MIL is not the worst one. It is not uncommon for MILs to expect a baby quickly after marriage. I see nothing wrong with it. And it doesn't mean that I have to meet such expectations. Her insinuations that her son was better taken care of by her is the expression of her inability to let go and the expression of her jealousy that someone else has taken up her place. She feels insecure and left behind. If I were you, I would tell her next time laughingly but not mockingly: 'You are right, mama. There is no replacement for a mother's love.' I decide what mood is predominant in my home and not anyone else. And I like an atmosphere of peace and joy. 5 Likes |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Kaira333: 6:06pm On May 21, 2016 |
cococandy:Nnem ask oooo silly talks and things dat are so meaningless |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Kaira333: 6:38pm On May 21, 2016 |
Thanks to you all for ur wonderful advice but people shouldn't blame me for not inviting her sister instead of her as hubby suggested. Since my own mum couldn't make it and I can't cope alone, I thought its very unfair to her if I invite her younger sister instead of her. She won't forgive me in dis world if I have done dat but I have learnt my lessons. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Vikky014(f): 6:53pm On May 21, 2016 |
Kaira333:hmmmmm quite annoying. swty just endure since she wont stay 4ever bt dnt make dt mistake of inviting her for ur omugwo again. try and tell ur hubby to shun her mum anytime she makes such comments by opposing her mums view. his silence is deadly |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Kaira333: 7:04pm On May 21, 2016 |
Vikky014:Thanks dear.( My rummy don catch me for nairaland). Honestly its no longer funny. Am tired of complaining to u. If not i for done gist you for whatsap |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Vikky014(f): 7:09pm On May 21, 2016 |
Kaira333:lol.swty is good u complained here atleast many people will share their experience wt u |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by cococandy(f): 8:50pm On May 21, 2016 |
Kaira333:well that is true. |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by misreal(m): 9:04pm On May 21, 2016 |
Kaira333:your problem is not with your mother inlaw but with your hubby.it is only your hubby that can make her keep quiet.tell your hubby what you have told us and beg hum to please talk to his mum on your behalf..if you mistakenly speak to her insolently in front of her son,he will never be the same again.. 6 Likes |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by peacengine(m): 9:04pm On May 21, 2016 |
Your mother-in-law needs a man to warm her bed. If she is a widow, get her hooked up, if she is married but papa is aging, buy him viagra. After a week of endless bedroom activities, she will no longer have time for frivolous things again 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Nobody: 9:16pm On May 21, 2016 |
misreal: I have been waiting for someone to post this. Thank you 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Confront My Annoying Mum- In-law by Kaira333: 11:55pm On May 21, 2016 |
misreal:Good advice dear but I know my hubby he can neva confront his mum for anything. For instance, there was a day she was wearing leggings and short top as in improperly dressed. Hubby saw her instead of telling her, mum this thing u are wearing is not good look for gown top since its leggings or something like dat. He called me and was like baby go and tell mum dat what she is wearing is not good and visitors will soon come. I was like me ke tell who. I told him she is ur mum please correct her if I do she might misunderstood me. Could u imagine he didn't do that until she corrected herself my using wrapper. I have told him several things she normally do which are wrong but he wouldn't confront her.My major prayer point now should be let omugwo end so dat she can travel back although d way am seeing things she is not planning to travel back dis year sef. |
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