Hello guys,

I need your honest opinion on this, how much is really ideal to give one's wife as monthly pocket money?.

Here's my story, i recently got married and also moved to a new 3 edroom apartment around gbagada. I earn a pretty decent income while my wife also works in the bank with a salary of like 150k. She saves a half of this salary and uses the remaining for upkeep.

Now the issue is my wife insists that i must give her monthly pocket money and i have proposed 20k, an amount i feel is more than adequate for her if added to about 75k which she already has to herself from her salary. Also note that this 20k does not mean i dont get to buy her random stuff during the month or provide anything she asks for if i feel its a reasonable demand.

A1so bear in mind that i am still 100% responsible for providing food and other bills in the house. In addition we just moved to a new apartment like i mentioned earlier and still in the process of furnishing it so a chunk of my monthly salary goes into furnishing the house.

We also have a plan to set up a business for her, so i'm also currently saving part of my salary to fulfill that dream.

Now my wife has rejected the proposed amount of 20k saying its too small.

I need your take on this people, considering all i have mentioned above, is 20k really too small to be giving her monthly?

i wrote this in a hurry, please bear with any typo observed.

You try to offer 20k. She does not need pocket money as she is a salary earner. Its like you two never discuss these issues before marriage. You guys need to open a housekeeping acct and each contribute to it base on an agreed ratio. This should not stop spending spontaneously by you both. The savings you make can go into some investment, property development, school fee etc

she's trying to outsmart you......

are you sure of the exact amount she's saving ?
in this time and age, a woman who has value for marriage will contribute to everything in the house.
in two-three years to come she can conveniently build a house on an a low budget while the man will use all his income to finance the home.

Talk to her about it, maybe she will be open enough

Make your findings and thank me later

banjolek:
Hello guys,

I need your honest opinion on this, how much is really ideal to give one's wife as monthly pocket money?.

Here's my story, i recently got married and also moved to a new 3 edroom apartment around gbagada. I earn a pretty decent income while my wife also works in the bank with a salary of like 150k. She saves a half of this salary and uses the remaining for upkeep.

Now the issue is my wife insists that i must give her monthly pocket money and i have proposed 20k, an amount i feel is more than adequate for her if added to about 75k which she already has to herself from her salary. Also note that this 20k does not mean i dont get to buy her random stuff during the month or provide anything she asks for if i feel its a reasonable demand.

A1so bear in mind that i am still 100% responsible for providing food and other bills in the house. In addition we just moved to a new apartment like i mentioned earlier and still in the process of furnishing it so a chunk of my monthly salary goes into furnishing the house.

We also have a plan to set up a business for her, so i'm also currently saving part of my salary to fulfill that dream.

Now my wife has rejected the proposed amount of 20k saying its too small.

I need your take on this people, considering all i have mentioned above, is 20k really too small to be giving her monthly?

i wrote this in a hurry, please bear with any typo observed.

Your wife's rejection of your proposed N20k a month may be relative to what you earn. I notice you were quick to give us a breakdown of her income (N150k) and expenditure (N75k) but were coy in telling us how much you earn. Why? To make her look bad? If you sincerely seek honest advice on here and not a wife-bashing-tirade, you'll be open & honest enough to give us the full picture.

How much do you earn monthly, Mr Banjolek??

And for what it's worth, N20k is nothing. How much does a basket of tomatoes cost at the market?

banjolek:
Hello guys,

I need your honest opinion on this, how much is really ideal to give one's wife as monthly pocket money?.

Here's my story, i recently got married and also moved to a new 3 edroom apartment around gbagada. I earn a pretty decent income while my wife also works in the bank with a salary of like 150k. She saves a half of this salary and uses the remaining for upkeep.

Now the issue is my wife insists that i must give her monthly pocket money and i have proposed 20k, an amount i feel is more than adequate for her if added to about 75k which she already has to herself from her salary. Also note that this 20k does not mean i dont get to buy her random stuff during the month or provide anything she asks for if i feel its a reasonable demand.

A1so bear in mind that i am still 100% responsible for providing food and other bills in the house. In addition we just moved to a new apartment like i mentioned earlier and still in the process of furnishing it so a chunk of my monthly salary goes into furnishing the house.

We also have a plan to set up a business for her, so i'm also currently saving part of my salary to fulfill that dream.

Now my wife has rejected the proposed amount of 20k saying its too small.

I need your take on this people, considering all i have mentioned above, is 20k really too small to be giving her monthly?

i wrote this in a hurry, please bear with any typo observed.

Your wife is lucky. But why didn't you tell us how much you earn? Which ever way, she should make do of that biko.

Be giving her now abi shebi she will be using it for upkeep in the house or will you be the one going to the market to buy foodstuffs and other miscelleanouses?

bravitudenatura:
Be giving her now abi shebi she will be using it for upkeep in the house or will you be the one going to the market to buy foodstuffs and other miscelleanouses?

Don't mind him.

@op displays the early signs of a control freak with his carefully manipulative half stories.

EfemenaXY:


Your wife's rejection of your proposed N20k a month may be relative to what you earn. I notice you were quick to give us a breakdown of her income (N150k) and expenditure (N75k) but were coy in telling us how much you earn. Why? To make her look bad? If you sincerely seek honest advice on here and not a wife-bashing-tirade, you'll be open & honest enough to give us the full picture.

How much do you earn monthly, Mr Banjolek??

And for what it's worth, N20k is nothing. How much does a basket of tomatoes cost at the market?

I was about to say gbam but I refrained steeply.

don't bash him. just don't.

he mentioned he is still the one in charge of the basket of tomatoes so that answers your question.

but nice catching the OP about not breaking down his salary.

@op abi Na po, break down your salary lets help each other

Lol. I noticed OP was trying to be smart