Does anyone have any advice/strategies on how to prevent mo gbo, mo yas from attending a wedding? For those who don't know what mo gbo, mo ya is, that's people who are not invited to a wedding, hear about it and think it's ok to just turn up.

Have a LIST OF GUESTS AT THE DOOR. Then have a BIG and HUGE SECURITY MAN send people who are not on the list away.

NO EXCEPTIONS.

That's what i thought but will that work in Naija? Before you know what's happening, you will hear that you've offended your mum's cousin's aunty's sister's father's nephew!

no, I dont have any ideas besides eloping.

mammamia:

That's what i thought but will that work in Naija? Before you know what's happening, you will hear that you've offended your mum's cousin's aunty's sister's father's nephew!

hahahaahaha! they are not on the list, they are not there noo ni,

Once you start receiving phone calls "Blame it on the Security guard" and stick to your script.

Mo gbo,Mo ya is darn funny.
I hope u are not guilty of gate crashing cos if u or urs have been attending occasions without invitation then expect same gesture from fellow Mo gbo,Mo yas
Seriously,Get and mount mean looking guards at the reception venue,no IV no entrance.

You will definately offend some people. Those distant distant relatives you don't even know might be the culprit.
Besides I really don't suscribe to guest list and name-checking bouncers in a Nigeria wedding. Seems somehow 
your option is not to "shout", do a very quiet quiet wedding. Close family only.

Yes i want to do small wedding but if you invite A and he tells B, C & D about it, they will think they can attend even though they never received an invite and you never told them personally to come.

no, I dont have any ideas besides eloping.

if i elope, my family will kill me and will never speak to my husband again .

Someone suggested I invent a fictional reception venue and send this one to the people i don't want and keep the real reception venue address under tight wraps and on a need to know basis only. Na Wedding Planning James Bond style be that

Have a low-key wedding!

People have long memories especially when they feel they've been slighted.

Instead of planning two separate receptions, you might as well just go ahead and have one reception with everyone in attendance, unless you have solid reasons not to. Do you feel your relatives will embarrass you or something? Money clearly doesn't seem to be the problem here.

You can just try to do a quiet wedding though some will still be offended if they feel you dont consider them good enough to invite to your nuptials.

I've never heard of a quiet Nigerian wedding in Nigeria but not saying it cant happen

my biggest concern was getting people to show up on time and not whnever they dam well pleased

lol