crackhaus:

I never said marriage makes a woman happy.

Why should a woman regret motherhood?
Motherhood?
As in, she regrets having kids?

YES!

And this woman is perfectly okay to you?

One?

It has been researched. Many women do. I was surprised, too.

crackhaus:

Girl let's have a little experiment, shall we?

- A broke man in his mid-thirties finally decides to get a wife. He knows it will be almost impossible finding a young educated city girl with ambition willing to marry him.
So what does he do?
He travels back to his hometown/village to seek out a beautiful unexposed, young uneducated/high-school drop-out to marry.
Will he be successful?

- A broke beautiful woman in her mid-thirties finally decides to settle down with a man. She knows her choice of men has narrowed down to older unmarried/divorced men.
She then tries to hook up with younger men.
How easy will it be getting a man(older or younger) willing to marry her?
Remember I said marry, not fvck... she will definitely see men that want to just chop and clean mouth.

I believed your stories in my 20s and they even scared me. In my 30s I discovered that they were lies. Men become quite clingy and even desperate in their 30s and 40s.

Bolade005:
But you can make career sacrifices for your marriage to work? No?

Yeah, I can.

crackhaus:

Again using another celebrity, a billionaire for that matter to support your angle.

At what point are you going to come back down to earth?

What's wrong with this example?

I have friends who were divorced in their 30s and re-married in their 40s.
I have even seen women marrying in their 50s.

Since they are not famous, I can't show them to you but they exist.

Mindfulness:





I believed your stories in my 20s and they even scared me. In my 30s I discovered that they were lies. Men become quite clingy and even desperate in their 30s and 40s.

I gave you scenarios, not stories to scare you.

You haven't answered any of the questions, but I trust you to always come up with your usual tactful manoeuvres.

Mindfulness:


Tax benefits.

That's the only reason.

And who told you that I married young?

I admire your sense of humour.

Trust me, it's not hard to tell you can't be more than 26years old. You're a 90s baby and that's why I'm not so surprised at your judgement on certain topics.

And hey, it's okay to sometimes "follow crowd" , you don't have to be different always. I know deep down you know ALMOST everything in the OP is TRUE but you being you, you just have to disagree.

byvan03:



Yeah,its just an opinion, just like yours. At the end of the day we live whatever way that suit us .

I have evidence.

I will be glad to provide a compilation of female celebrities who married in their late 30s or even 40s. Some of them married, divorced and re-married.

Open your eyes.

HaneefahRN:


Yeah, I can.

Good.

Bolade005:

I admire your sense of humour.

Trust me, it's not hard to tell you can't be more than 26years old. You're a 90s baby and that's why I'm not so surprised at your judgement on certain topics.

And hey, it's okay to sometimes "follow crowd" , you don't have to be different always. I know deep down you know ALMOST everything in the OP is TRUE but you being you, you just have to disagree.

I look like a 90s child but I am not.

I am quite lazy this evening, it has been an extremely hot day but I will take my time to google ALL these women who married and remarried despite being older than 35+.

Mindfulness:


YES!



One?

It has been researched. Many women do. I was surprised, too.

You Mindfulness will type anything to support your argument, we know your way for hia...

You say it has been researched?
Well how about you conduct a research here... Ask your friends here who are mothers to find out which of them regret motherhood.
Also ask your female colleagues at work and get their responses.

I honestly don't know what utopian world you seem to have created in your head and then went on to convince yourself that it is reality.

crackhaus:

I gave you scenarios, not stories to scare you.

You haven't answered any of the questions, but I trust you to always come up with your usual tactful manoeuvres.

I wonder why you are so concerned with the choices women make or are able to make today.

Whether they marry or not, have kids or not, what's your business in all of it?

crackhaus:

You Mindfulness will type anything to support your argument, we know your way for hia...

You say it has been researched?
Well how about you conduct a research here... Ask your friends here who are mothers to find out which of them regret motherhood.
Also ask your female colleagues at work and get their responses.

I honestly don't know what utopian world you seem to have created in your head and then went on to convince yourself that it is reality.

I don't have to. There are people who were paid to do it.

Regretting Motherhood: A Sociopolitical Analysis


Regretting Motherhood: A Sociopolitical Analysis
O
ver the past few decades
motherhood in Western societies has been widelydiscussed,challenged, andpolemically reworked ingenderandqueer studies and in feminist scholarship.
1
The bodies of knowledgeproduced by these intensive inquiries have made it possible to discuss themother and motherhood as cultural and historical constructs by which women are treated as a natural caregivers and through which womanhoodand motherhood are considered to be synonymous
ð
McMahon 1995; Arendell 2000
Þ
. Whereas within this ideological construct, “the mother”connotes a falsely pan-class, pan-ethnic, pan-gendered phenomenon, the works cited in note 1 have conceptualized the diversity of mothers as fleshand blood subjects, with their own feelings, needs, and desires along in-tersecting axes of race, ethnicity, nationality, disabilities, religion, ......

http://www.academia.edu/9820246/Regretting_Motherhood_A_Sociopolitical_Analysis



Love and regret: mothers who wish they’d never had children

Around the world, women are seeking an honest, open debate about what happens when you admit that motherhood isn’t everything you were told to expect

....

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/may/09/love-regret-mothers-wish-never-had-children-motherhood


Thank me later.

Mindfulness:



I wonder why you are so concerned with the choices women make or are able to make today.

Whether they marry or not, have kids or not, what's your business in all of it?

Now you're obviously getting tensed up.
We're just having a conversation, aren't we?

Just answer the darn questions...does the answer you know to be true scare you so much?

Mindfulness:


I look like a 90s child but I am not.

I am quite lazy this evening, it has been an extremely hot day but I will take my time to google ALL these women who married and remarried despite being older than 35+.

You're a 90s baby.

I am sure you list will be full of celebs and millionaires.

Mindfulness:


I have evidence.

I will be glad to provide a compilation of female celebrities who married in their late 30s or even 40s. Some of them married, divorced and re-married.

Open your eyes.

My eyes are quite open to reality, I don't view through rose tinted glasses and celebrities are no yardstick for measurement. Like you said, it's my opinion and remains so. I won't try to change yours either , except you truly don't believe the things you are writing here, otherwise let's believe what we believe .

crackhaus:

Now you're obviously getting tensed up.
We're just having a conversation, aren't we?

Just answer the darn questions...does the answer you know to be true scare you so much?

I am not getting tensed up dear. It's a question that has been on my mind for a while. What motivates you to jump on every thread like this?

Have you made it a mission to help women who may make mistakes and would regret it later?

And when I say, you are a feminist, you want to kill yourself.




I have no fear. I have faith.

byvan03:


My eyes are quite open to reality, I don't view through rose tinted glasses and celebrities are no yardstick for measurement. Like you said, it's my opinion and remains so. I won't try to change yours either , except you truly don't believe the things you are writing here, otherwise let's believe what we believe .

Kontinu!

Mindfulness:


What's wrong with this example?

I have friends who were divorced in their 30s and re-married in their 40s.
I have even seen women marrying in their 50s.

Since they are not famous, I can't show them to you but they exist.

I'm sure you have such friends.

Birds of a feather...and so on and so forth.

This is something to be looked forward to, happy for you baby girl.

Mindfulness:


I am not getting tensed up dear. It's a question that has been on my mind for a while. What motivates you to jump on every thread like this?

Have you made it a mission to help women who may make mistakes and would regret it later?

And when I say, you are a feminist, you want to kill yourself.




I have no fear. I have faith.

Okay.

So are we getting answers to the scenarios sometime this year?

crackhaus:

I'm sure you have such friends.

Birds of a feather...and so on and so forth.

This is something to be looked forward to, happy for you baby girl.

I like to associate with people who are as brilliant as I am.

My encounters here are only a service to mankind. Free education.

Thanks baby boy.


[size=3pt]You missed something yesterday. Next time, support your friends before they lose it. I still don't know if it was actually funny.[/size]

Mindfulness:


Kontinu!

crackhaus:

Okay.

So are we getting answers to the scenarios sometime this year?

You have gotten all the answers needed and more.

By the way, it doesn't matter what age anyone marries.
Just last year, a relative was left by her husband after 25 years of marriage. She was 17 when she met him and 19 when they got married.

There is no guarantee in life!

Any man or woman who thinks that marriage will save them from misery or loneliness, is gullible and out of touch with reality.

Mindfulness:


I don't have to. There are people who were paid to do it.

Regretting Motherhood: A Sociopolitical Analysis


Regretting Motherhood: A Sociopolitical Analysis
O
ver the past few decades
motherhood in Western societies has been widelydiscussed,challenged, andpolemically reworked ingenderandqueer studies and in feminist scholarship.
1
The bodies of knowledgeproduced by these intensive inquiries have made it possible to discuss themother and motherhood as cultural and historical constructs by which women are treated as a natural caregivers and through which womanhoodand motherhood are considered to be synonymous
ð
McMahon 1995; Arendell 2000
Þ
. Whereas within this ideological construct, “the mother”connotes a falsely pan-class, pan-ethnic, pan-gendered phenomenon, the works cited in note 1 have conceptualized the diversity of mothers as fleshand blood subjects, with their own feelings, needs, and desires along in-tersecting axes of race, ethnicity, nationality, disabilities, religion, ......

http://www.academia.edu/9820246/Regretting_Motherhood_A_Sociopolitical_Analysis



Love and regret: mothers who wish they’d never had children

Around the world, women are seeking an honest, open debate about what happens when you admit that motherhood isn’t everything you were told to expect

....

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/may/09/love-regret-mothers-wish-never-had-children-motherhood


Thank me later.

Thanks for the links, much appreciated.

Now will you conduct your own research to compare with what those writers came up with?
I distinctly remember you telling me not to believe everything I read on the internet.


Meanwhile, let me help you begin:
Shaybebaby, do you have any regrets being a mother?

crackhaus:

Thanks for the links, much appreciated.

Now will you conduct your own research to compare with what those writers came up with?
I distinctly remember you telling me not to believe everything I read on the internet.


Meanwhile let me help you start:
Shaybebaby, do you have any regrets being a mother?

You are the coolest feminist on NL.

Mindfulness:


You have gotten all the answers needed and more.

By the way, it doesn't matter what age anyone marries.
Just last year, a relative was left by her husband after 25 years of marriage. She was 17 when she met him and 19 when they got married.

There is no guarantee in life!

Any man or woman who thinks that marriage will save them from misery or loneliness, is gullible and out of touch with reality.

I agree with this completely.

I haven't gotten no answers from you, but it's okay...never mind.

crackhaus:

I agree with this completely.

I haven't gotten no answers from you, but it's okay...never mind.

What was the question again?

Mindfulness:


I like to associate with people who are as brilliant as I am.

My encounters here are only a service to mankind. Free education.

Thanks baby boy.


[size=3pt]You missed something yesterday. Next time, support your friends before they lose it. I still don't know if it was actually funny.[/size]

Lol..indeed I missed a lot, especially the pics that got you and Shaybebaby into an uncontrolled hormonal frenzy

Mindfulness:




You are the coolest feminist on NL.

Barf

crackhaus:

Lol..indeed I missed a lot, especially the pics that got you and Shaybebaby into an uncontrolled hormonal frenzy

I don't want to be a bully so I won't post IT.

Mindfulness:


You have gotten all the answers needed and more.

By the way, it doesn't matter what age anyone marries.
Just last year, a relative was left by her husband after 25 years of marriage. She was 17 when she met him and 19 when they got married.

There is no guarantee in life!

Any man or woman who thinks that marriage will save them from misery or loneliness, is gullible and out of touch with reality.

I agree with this. Marriage guarantees nothing. Lots of people are living miserable lives being married, but do not want to get out cos of what the Society would say, and fears of unknown. Being married doesn't mean being happy, nor save from loneliness. If a person makes a wrong choice of spouse, it's like hell on Earth.

HaneefahRN:


I agree with this. Marriage guarantees nothing. Lots of people are living miserable lives being married, but do not want to get out cos of what the Society would say, and fears of unknown. Being married doesn't mean being happy, nor save from loneliness. If a person makes a wrong choice of spouse, it's like hell on Earth.

True!

Suffer and smile tings.

Mindfulness:


What was the question again?

The USAF hasn't even learned how to conduct aerial tactical manoeuvres better than you do here.