paragon40:
what if the guy does nt live with u, who will wash those plates and sweep..? Try to bear ur cross, and do ur things by urself, (ignore him, nt malice ohh).. when he finally leaves the house u wnt feel his absence, since he does nthng...u wnt be there when he will be pouring those lies, how u treated hm badly bla bla bla u will nt be dia.. Lastly u can also invent this 'rule' wash ur plate(s) after eating except ur hubby ohh..those days for mai mama house dem no born u well eat finish, drop plate/dishes, u must wash and rinse them in the sink, immediately..make u sef set sme standard..#wecanthelp u control ur hme.. U can also say uncle, so so pls help me do ths..he wnt refuse, be friendly.

Rossy99:
An undergraduate of polytechnic staying with us is growing wings. He doesn't help in domestic chores when hubby is away, he does when hubby is around, he Waits for us to tell him what to do before he does it and he is really making me angry which i hate to be.

When i report him to hubby, he won't do anything or even chastise him instead he complaints whenever i give him food that his food is too small. I'm not a bad type to give him little food cos i have conscience and it disturbs me wen i do bad but he is a glutton that only eats and sleeps without doing anything even to wash plates he use to eat.

What do i do?

Bizibi:
you say wetin!!!!oya time Don reach fr the boy to sit up or leave.....shuuu!!!! 1 yr....una try.

Rossy99:
An undergraduate of polytechnic staying with us is growing wings. He doesn't help in domestic chores when hubby is away, he does when hubby is around, he Waits for us to tell him what to do before he does it and he is really making me angry which i hate to be.

When i report him to hubby, he won't do anything or even chastise him instead he complaints whenever i give him food that his food is too small. I'm not a bad type to give him little food cos i have conscience and it disturbs me wen i do bad but he is a glutton that only eats and sleeps without doing anything even to wash plates he use to eat.

What do i do?

ststyreal:

Taaaaaa! Forget that thing. Which husband get only the right? Wetin be marriage? It simply means 1+1 equals to one. God forbid make I marry another person husband, as far as say na my husband I marry, na wetin I like, him go follow me like and na so e go be for him own case too. A total stranger no go come inconvenience me for my house and u say make I swallow am, na lie, e no fit work. Na my house him come and since wey him no wan behave himself then, i go show am the way. Bible say anything wey go hinder you from entering the kingdom of God, make you cut am throw way. So my brother, don't let us drag this issue, am honestly stating what I would do, even though I fervently pray not to experience such in my home but peace is paramount for a fruitful and a happy family and whatever that would hinder such should be jointly dealt with by the couple.

CrazyQuinn:
the guy is not even her in-law he's a total stranger, living in a rent free house with free food and all, and he's been staying in the house for a year would you allow a stranger to stay in your house for more than a year, eating your food and not paying rent?

doskie:
how old is the baboon?

How is hr related to you


Why is he in your house


How old is your first child


Who gives him pocket money and how much


Does he steal,? Drink beer? Smoke? Bring babes home? Bring friends home? By friends you know what i mean?

Or is he the type that reads his books? Is he the praying type?..

If his good qualities supersedes his bad features, then it means he is open to counsel, advice, and help out of youth delinquency... Thats in the case he's still young.

But if he has very negative qualities that show hr wasn't brought up properly by his parents before he came to your house, and he shows no response to counsel and punitive correction, then he has no business in your house especially where you have younger kids who may inadvertently take him as a model.

greatgod2012:





ko le to yen!
This life is very simple!
And the world is a global village.

He needs your help now doesn't mean you can't need his help in the future.

It may even be your children that he will render help to in the nearest future.

We shouldn't use today to destroy our tomorrow.

Instead of making life miserable to him, speak out your mind to him, ask him if he too can accept what he's doing to you from another person. Not with screaming or cursing or throwing tantrums but maturely and patiently.


Remember, nobody is totally bad!

kid7soccer:
Dis Ur questions correct die, no vex u dey work for police cause, na them dey like ask dis kind questions

doskie:
lolzzz... Police too dey arrest me. So i don dey learn the work small small.

Rossy99:
Am even ready to accomodate him cos i knw his family is not financially buoyant to get accomodation for him while still in skul,i expect him not go beyond his limit but he refuse.he is not d 1st person dt wud stay wit us.He is now causing division btw i nd hubby cos dey see me as d bad person,wen he want to get money frm hubby he wait till am out or go to meet him at d gate,is not that i do ask him not to give him.even wen he see dt i av wash all d dirty dishes in d kitchen,is he not suppose to wash d one he jst used in eating,he drop it nd i still go to wash it without saying anytin.i dnt knw wat he expect me to do again.he see me as a subordinate dat can't authorise him to do anytin

CrazyQuinn:
the guy is not even her in-law he's a total stranger, living in a rent free house with free food and all, and he's been staying in the house for a year would you allow a stranger to stay in your house for more than a year, eating your foodl and not paying rent?

Freiden:


Lol...u ladies go just kill una selves ooo. If the guy no dey...won't she do the chores?? Make she kuku ma pretend like say d guy no dey dey do her chores.

This reminds me of when I was growing up....all I did was study my books, go to school and read....no more no less. My mum did all the chores and my dad assists her too. In fact I didn't learn to wash my cloths until I wrote jamb.....if the guy leaves that house today...the chores will still be hers to do....

Alexgeneration:
. How does staying with one's in-law connotes "involve into their private affairs? From the OP's complain,the guy is not interfering in their private life.Rather, all I can deduce from her is that she wants to turn the guy to a househelp just because he is "eating her food" and "staying in her house".Will she make such complains if the guy is from her side of the family?

Yomieluv:
Without being told, the guy in question Is related to the hubby.. Woman, and unnecessary complain..

jhydebaba:
So after reporting to your hubby, he did nothing. You now reported to nairaland make we beat am abi You must be kidding me.

The time you are wasting here is enough for you to do your chores. Abeg! Enter kitchen go wash your plate.


You called him a glutton, make he no eat again Abeg, free the guy joor. Abi your husband dey complain say he no fit drop money again.


I know if the boy were to be from your family, you won't be here.

CrazyQuinn:
wow, the guy has no right to stay for that long what happened to privacy? Is he leaving soon? If not, complain to your husband and tell him your mind, if he doesn't listen, keep complaining to your husband until he tell the guy to leave. It's not right

Adex097:
August Rose, why not meet me personally and pour out your mind instead of tabling my matter before Nairaland . Anyways, ah wee start packing my things first thing tomorrow morning . I thank you and uncle for the hospitality.

blazer234:


The woman does all the work and the guy does nothing and you call that unnecessary complain?!

It will be interesting to know the kind of upbringing you had.

CrazyQuinn:
wow, the guy has no right to stay for that long what happened to privacy? Is he leaving soon? If not, complain to your husband and tell him your mind, if he doesn't listen, keep complaining to your husband until he tell the guy to leave. It's not right

donbenedict:
First of all, he is not a full time house help. So you don't expect him to do all the chores alone at home.

You are a woman and you too should participate in the chores as well. He can decide not to eat your food. Because you are feeding him doesn't mean he must turn into ur househelp.


Dats one thing u modern wives just use to put up a fight with relatives.



Now since your husband isn't doing anythn abt it, u should not take laws into your hands.


U should giv him food, and tell him there and then he should wash his plates after eating.


If you are a full time house wife, den u shouldn't balance in d house an expect him to do all ur bidding, just as u pick up a broom and start sweeping the palour, guilty conscience will not allow him also to relax when he sees u doing it, he too will feel somehow and join u as well. That is how to solve such problems.




If I should ask, is he related to your husband?


Everythn shouldn't be by force. There are many ways to make someone do ur bidding

Rossy99:
An undergraduate of polytechnic staying with us is growing wings. He doesn't help in domestic chores when hubby is away, he does when hubby is around, he Waits for us to tell him what to do before he does it and he is really making me angry which i hate to be.

When i report him to hubby, he won't do anything or even chastise him instead he complaints whenever i give him food that his food is too small. I'm not a bad type to give him little food cos i have conscience and it disturbs me wen i do bad but he is a glutton that only eats and sleeps without doing anything even to wash plates he use to eat.

What do i do?