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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Ferya(f): 10:22pm On Aug 25, 2016
Interesting story OP but I will not fail to say that there are certain risks people should not take just to travel out of the country. Please, you need to reconsider your actions now before it will be late. Do you even ask yourself who took the eggs you donated. The kind of family and where the child will be in future. Also, when you get to the US how are you going to survive? My dear, there are so many unemployed people in US. I am sorry to say that at the rate you are going you may end up selling your kidney just to make more money.

My opinion:

I want to inform you that most Airlines use to sell cheap flight tickets(discount) sometimes try that option. You can also acquire some skills and try searching for jobs in small companies. Please, stop selling your eggs for money.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by holluphemydavid(m): 10:24pm On Aug 25, 2016
I stoped reading d lengthen articles Haba
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Niyinficient(m): 10:27pm On Aug 25, 2016
Hustling girl....God bless ur hustle. mind not those guys sending u mails to av ur contact. they are all interested in ur 'virginity'.
No worry, God is about picking ur call soonest!

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by DonX001: 10:32pm On Aug 25, 2016
This writeup is as re*tarded as can be.
Bullshit!!!

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Enrichlee(m): 10:35pm On Aug 25, 2016
Werey leleyi ooo
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by claremont(m): 10:37pm On Aug 25, 2016
Gewezzy1:
even though you need to know that you are no longer a virgin, wthr or not he dnt entr well dsnt mean u haven't had sex. You are free to quote me whr wrong

Completely pointless comment. A lady freely made up her mind to help childless couples by going through the altruistic process of donating her eggs, and this is what you can come up with?! I have briefly scanned her brilliant write-up, and I'm yet to see were she made an emphasis on her virginity or otherwise. Who the hell cares whether she is a virgin or not?! She has performed a noble act by giving a life to childless couples, and she should be commended.

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Ranchhoddas: 10:39pm On Aug 25, 2016
daretodiffer:
@op, what does illiteracy have to do with egg donation?
Intelligence has a genetic disposition.

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Ranchhoddas: 10:41pm On Aug 25, 2016
We are on the precipice of a population crises. People still dey find pikin upandan.

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by joey150(m): 10:45pm On Aug 25, 2016
01Mysticdon:
Abeg who virginity help? I always feel depressed, don't know why?
try to stay around happy people.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Ranchhoddas: 10:45pm On Aug 25, 2016
Ferya:
Interesting story OP but I will not fail to say that there are certain risks people should not take just to travel out of the country. Please, you need to reconsider your actions now before it will be late. Do you even ask yourself who took the eggs you donated. The kind of family and where the child will be in future. Also, when you get to the US how are you going to survive? My dear, there are so many unemployed people in US. I am sorry to say that at the rate you are going you may end up selling your kidney just to make more money.

My opinion:

I want to inform you that most Airlines use to sell cheap flight tickets(discount) sometimes try that option. You can also acquire some skills and try searching for jobs in small companies. Please, stop selling your eggs for money.
Hungry never catch you before that's why you dey yap this nonsense.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by waShine(m): 10:47pm On Aug 25, 2016
Pls dont go back

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Gewezzy1(f): 10:51pm On Aug 25, 2016
claremont:


Completely pointless comment. A lady freely made up her mind to help childless couples by going through the altruistic process of donating her eggs, and this is what you can come up with?! I have briefly scanned her brilliant write-up, and I'm yet to see were she made an emphasis on her virginity or otherwise. Who the hell cares whether she is a virgin or not?! She has performed a noble act by giving a life to childless couples, and she should be commended.
k bruh
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 10:55pm On Aug 25, 2016
Abeg wey summary?
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by okhiai1(m): 11:00pm On Aug 25, 2016
deathcomestoall:
Thank you
babe your problem is you and your intrvertivness if you could just break your shell and let someone into your life a friend that can listen to your rubbish and make sense from it you won't have taught of donating your egg in the first place open.Open up to people and believe me a solution will come but if you think you have it all figured ou then babe you are in a jonsing world open up make friends hustle they out side that's clean and ligt that would make you your cash to fly out
NB- am an intovert also and i know what it means to have it all placed out in your head
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Esegracexxx(f): 11:04pm On Aug 25, 2016
I love the views...

On your dp OP.

You got Instagram?
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Gewezzy1(f): 11:09pm On Aug 25, 2016
claremont:


Completely pointless comment. A lady freely made up her mind to help childless couples by going through the altruistic process of donating her eggs, and this is what you can come up with?! I have briefly scanned her brilliant write-up, and I'm yet to see were she made an emphasis on her virginity or otherwise. Who the hell cares whether she is a virgin or not?! She has performed a noble act by giving a life to childless couples, and she should be commended.
hahaha do you know the funny tin I dnt evn read ds reply all the way down, its clear that you cant read Bruh wt all the "ALTRUISTIC" oyinbo u said, she dnt evn go through with the egg donation, so where you now got the " She has performed a noble act by giving a life to childless couples, and she should be commended" is what i dnt understand Bruh. So now ur comment is the one that's pointless FAM XOXO

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 11:18pm On Aug 25, 2016
OMOTOWO:
OP for God sake,how can I donate my spermatozoa?I need money and I am very serious.If you know the place,please quote me..oo ni soriibu..this economy hit me very hard...
I weep for our dear country cry cos we dont hav future leaders anymore
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by diva90: 11:21pm On Aug 25, 2016
120k/$300 for all that pain and suffering? Not worth it if you ask me! But I'm glad you didn't desperately seek the alternative means by sleeping around for money...
Hopefully you will be able to make good use of the money.
Good luck!

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by MrOlai: 11:28pm On Aug 25, 2016
daretodiffer:
Brothers will end up sleeping with sisters ,mothers with their sons, father's with their daughters if this stvpidu anonymous nonsense doesn't stop.

This is one of the evils of sperm/egg donation!

There are several good ways to solve fertility problems that would bring about sanity in the society. Sperm/Egg donation is wrong except if the sperm/egg is later used by the owner him/herself! Donating sperm/egg for another person to use would only compound the problems!
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by ststyreal(f): 11:30pm On Aug 25, 2016
OMOTOWO:
OP for God sake,how can I donate my spermatozoa?I need money and I am very serious.If you know the place,please quote me..oo ni soriibu..this economy hit me very hard...
U[center][/center] no well at all walahiiii. Sope emi nii mo so bee.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by hawhy(m): 11:49pm On Aug 25, 2016
Nice Piece. Thanks for sharing
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Boldstar(m): 11:50pm On Aug 25, 2016
OP, while you're talking about your hustles, lazy minds were focused on your 'virginity'. Don't mind them. Leave them with their problem which is intellectual laziness.

Though you sounded off when you criticised the 'illiterates' doing the same, all you said got me thinking about how there are still ladies out there who do not compromise their dignity for money. Keep your legitimate hustling going. If you knock hard enough, the door will open eventually. Meanwhile, try some low paying jobs as you've not gotten one that can give you the amount you need.

About travelling, I know you're a graduate. It's lot easier to travel on education grounds e.g. Masters. Try that if you haven't.

God bless your hustles. God bless mine too.

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by egedege1(m): 11:54pm On Aug 25, 2016
Op you say you are a secondary virgin ..... angry

Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Dolypson04(m): 11:59pm On Aug 25, 2016
I have never been a fan of superstory but I have to commend your courage even if you falsified, exaggerated or conceal some truth. Like you said yourself, your motive for near donation or should I say near selling of ur eggs was wrong. The way you didn't know the trauma associated with egg donation, same way you don't know the risk in travelling out by every means. You're 22. Jobless and with synthetic parents. Fine. You should be thankful you are a graduate cos a lot of people in ur age bracket are still looking for admission. I won't suggest you leave Nigeria at all cost cos u may end up selling your kidney to live comfortably wherever you travel to as well. No where in the world do they pick money on the street.
And about illiterate, dirty, bleached egg donors, assuredly all these aren't heritable.
P.S: Keep your virginity. Someone said you are missing without sex? yeah. Missing STDs, unwanted pregnancy and emotional pains.

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Alphaoscar: 12:03am On Aug 26, 2016
Gewezzy1:
just the let me put the tip can get you pregnant




That's tonyebarcanista's code at the critical point of konji.




But Aunty, e be like say you sef be Madoo for the game o. I can't just stop laughing at that phrase ' Just let me put the tip "

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by sofadj(m): 1:25am On Aug 26, 2016
You seriously expect to get paid the same amount they pay in US?

You think patients pay the same amount in fertility clinics in Nigeria as they do in US?

When collecting eggs, besides ruling out diseases, fertility clinics try to maintain the highest level of anonymousness - to prevent future "wahala" So don't be surprised if they don't ask you personal questions.

The fact that people who donate eggs are illiterates or bleach has nothing to do with the eggs they donate - What's your point?

If you can't donate eggs fine, people will keep doing it.

If you see the smiles on the faces of people who have suffered from several years of infertility you will realise you are not doing a fruitless exercise.

Lastly, a virgin is someone who has not had sex before, being a virgin does not mean you can not donate eggs, donating eggs does not mean you are not a virgin anymore.

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by kid7soccer(m): 1:25am On Aug 26, 2016
Hmmm for once i no no wertin to talk
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by blazer234: 1:54am On Aug 26, 2016
deathcomestoall:
Now, while what I am about to say might be shameful for many because it is shrouded in secrecy, I am not ashamed because, you can never know the extent to what you will do when pushed or pulled to the brink. 99% of the reason why many young Nigerian women donate their egg is for the meagre(yes I said meagre) monetary compensation attached to it. And most of these fertility clinics know that if they do not attach any form of benefit, almost no one would willingly donate.

In the U.S., egg donation can cost as much as 5000 to 10000 dollars. So if you are going to donate, at least you know it's worth the pay. Unlike nigeria who don't pay the donors, they only COMPENSATE and this ranges from 120000 to 150000.

The egg donation process itself starts with an interview by an organization or clinic sourcing for donors for the clinic and then a series of blood tests for genotype, blood group and STDs are carried out after which if you are cleared of any of these, you proceed to the next stage which is to check for lumps in your breast, throat, pain in your lower abdominal region and then a vaginal scan. If you pass all these tests, then you will be given 21 injections which you will inject by yourself for 21 days and during these days, you will visit the clinic for series of vaginal scanning to check if you are producing enough eggs. After the 21 days, you will be given another 6 injections for 6 days after which you are due for the egg collection.
Now I cannot go into details of how the whole process is done because I do not want to make my post too lengthy as the essence of my post is to merely educate and share my story.

Born a synthetic orphan( I have parents who I don’t live with and don't care for me), freshly graduated from the University with a reasonable amount saved during my university days, I had wanted to go into food business but I was unfortunately robbed by my own blood. I have always held the notion that to make money, you must spend money. So with the little money I had left, I started looking for options on what to do, every single one failed. I had applied for more than 619 jobs and still counting, no success. After exhausting all my ideas, I was googling ways to make money and then came a list of six of which one took my interest which was egg donation. I called a couple of fertility clinics and booked an appointment with two. I went to only one of them which is located somewhere in Lagos.

Before making this decision, I thought to myself, why am I doing this, my answer was the money. I had just gotten an American visa and am trying to raise the money for a ticket as everyone reading this knows the situation of the country.

On getting to the clinic, I met a young lady who asked my age, race, education, job and some other things. She explained the process to me and asked if I lived with my parents, I answered yes. And then she proceeded to bullying me that what if my parents saw me injecting myself daily that they would seize the injections. I was displeased with her statement because I had earlier told her I went to a private university. She probably thought I was a spoilt kid who needed quick money. I immediately shut her up and told her I pay the rent and then proceeded to bullying her(I am a very opinionated person). As we were talking, I noticed some other females come into the office. One of them had come for a vaginal scan and wasn’t producing any eggs so the process had to be stopped for her and hence no compensation of any sort not even her transport fare. Just a thank you. Then I started asking questions( my transport there cost nothing less than a thousand a day). I asked her what information of mine would be given to the receiver, she said it would be an anonymous donation. I asked if any complication arises, who will be responsible for my treatment, she said the clinic. I then asked about the procedure itself. I asked what kind of sedative would be used for the egg retrieval process, then she became defensive and said I was a reporter and she won't be continuing the process. I stood up to leave, then she called me back and said she would take a risk with me. I then told her I wasn't a reporter just because I am confident and would ask questions. I proceeded to the clinic lab and did a blood test for my genotype and blood group. Before I left for the lab, she started whining me that 120000 is a lot of money, you can start a business with it. I just looked at her and nodded. I never even asked her how much it was.

Few days later, I was called for a second blood test for STDs, I went for it and also was cleared. Then I was called for a vaginal scan. Before getting there, I thought why am I really doing this. I have had more than 120000, is it really worth risking my own fertility. I would have to sell my eggs for up to 5 times to raise money for my flight. With the current economic situation, this money is almost nothing for the emotional trauma. Another reason why I wanted to do this wasn't for the money alone. I have remained a virgin for a long time and had gotten tired. Being a virgin has impeded me in many ways. I am constantly judged because of it. Every guy I date sees it as a prize. And even if I wanted to lose my virginity and become a prostitute, I didn't want to lose it to the first man that pays me and I don't have a boyfriend who will do it. Aged 18, I tried to lose my virginity but the shock and pain was too much for me to handle. He hadn't even entered, I had already began screaming. I must admit I bled due to the stress placed on the outer walls of my v****a but he never entered.
That was my first and last experience at experimenting with sex. I was happy tho I could claim I was a virgin and not a virgin, no one would know. Another reason is I am an introvert, I don't have any friends neither do I go out to where I can meet people besides I don’t even have the money and I know I am not getting married anytime soon and this is the most fertile years of my life(I am 22) and genuinely if I could help someone become a mother, I would.

On the day of the vaginal scanning, I went to the clinic, was asked a lot of questions after which I waited for a very long time before proceeding to the scanning room. The nurse then told me to get undressed and asked if I was a virgin. I couldn't lie, I said yes and she said they don't take virgins then I said I was a secondary virgin, I tried it years ago even though I knew I was lieing. Then I told her it wasn't an issue, she should call the doctor. The doctor came in brought out a long instrument about 8 inches put a condom on it with lube. I mean this was me here never had sex before, I freaked out. When she tried to put it in, I screamed. I said I couldn't do it. The pain was excruciating. She then put more lube, I still couldn't. It wouldn't enter. The doctor even had to ask if I was raped because of my shock. I thought I lost my hymen years back. In the moment of the pain, I thought all these for a meagre 120000 minus the stress of giving myself 27 needle scars and the emotional trauma I would suffer from it. The doctor then said we could try again. I said no. I could barely walk, I apologized for wasting their time. And dressed up and left. The lady who interviewed me lamented on what would be done about the money they spent on tests for me. Oh please, it's an organization, I'm sure they suffer loses. They should deal with it. I wasn't the first and I wouldn’t be the last.

While in pain in a public transit on my way home, I thought of all the losses I have experienced both financially and emotionally. I mean I started questioning my self if it was really worth it. Yes I want to travel out of the country and give my most fertile years to whoever I can but asides this I had no other genuine reason. The most important tho was the money. I lost my dog because I couldn't pay his veterinary bills. This would have been a better reason for me to have sex with an electronic gadget. I mean I would save my dog by going through this painful process if I could take back the hands of time. I am happy I went through with it to this stage but losing my virginity to a stick or bearing the pain to put a smile on another's face while my own morality is being questioned to me isn't worth it. Now I am not judging anyone who does it. They obviously aren't virgins and are in dire monetary needs so GOOD LUCK.

MY OBSERVATIONS
I stated earlier that when I was being interviewed for the first time, I noticed some other females come into the office. Honestly, only if people knew the kind of people that come to donate their eggs, many people would rather remain childless. Most of these women are stark illiterates. Some have bleached their skin so much. Most of which I noticed are your typical fish and pepper sellers with ridiculous eyebrows. Not to sound condescending, but it is the truth.

Another observation is that these acclaimed CHARITY organizations that source for donors, aren't doing any charity. They are only buying your eggs at a very reduced rate. Many of them don't care how you look or what you are even if you are mentally challenged or unstable. They neither carry out proper tests or interviews for viable donors. As long as you produce eggs for them to sell, you qualify. And I also noticed how the interviewers intimidate the women who are not properly educated. There was a point I even questioned the so called foundation on the kind of women they accept as egg donors. They know most of us are in for the money so they won't even bother asking you too much questions, I mean sarcastically, most people are there to help(for the money obviously).

I failed to mention this, on the day of my vaginal scanning while waiting in the office, a girl my age was being questioned. I was moved by her story. May be she saw how confident I was and was probably trying to speak English but she obviously couldn't hide her naivety. No one asks about your family, they don't even care. You can even lie about your identity. They do not ask for any form of identification. The girl talked about how she lost her parent at 7 and how her uncle gave up on her. She was still in school and needed money. I wonder if she's a virgin like me I mean not to be silly but if I wasn't a virgin, I wouldn't be selling my eggs(it's still a sin to me). I commend her tho for not sleeping about for the money or who knows whether market is not paying well. Ok I'm sorry for that statement but I was moved to tears. Even tho I am a synthetic orphan, I haven't experienced the loss of any family member.

Giving up your eggs is not a quick money making scheme. It is traumatic. Everytime you go for a scan during your injection period, you will be inserted with that 8 inches thing(dunno what to call it) and the retrieval process is even worse, a needle would be inserted into you and can pierce your womb or infect you. You are given antibiotics tho but who e epp. You are just another tool.

MY SUGGESTION

In other to prevent losses on both sides, I would suggest, fertility clinics in Nigeria start paying donors for real and stop exploiting young women so you know the risk is equal the cost. Then no one would have to pull out of the programme as most donors do pull out of the process and huge losses are suffered on both sides because no one gives you transport fare and the injections are very expensive. You are only paid I repeat only paid when they collect your eggs.

MY ADVICE

I wish I could go through with the process but I cannot. I am not judging anyone who does it for whatever reason. Just make sure you read those forms well before appending your signature on it as most are not in your interest incase complications arise.

Do not risk your own fertility for another woman's infertility(no one knows what she did or why she's that way)

Do not think you are selling your eggs. The money is not worth a single egg. If you want to donate, donate with the mind that you are doing it for free because you actually are. May people go with the mindset that they are selling their eggs for 120000. And if you choose to do this process as a source of income, always go to the highest bidder. There are people that pay more than 120000.

I still am looking for a way to get out of this country. I am damn scarred but I won't have sex for money or get money with issues concerning my … To get money by any means is not easy truly. I don't care about being a virgin tho. Infact it means nothing to me but I won't take so much pain for any one. The pain has left and now I'm thinking if I should go back lol.


Did this happen to u lady or you copied it?

Please be sincere; I'm asking this question for a very good reason. I mean very good reason.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Leez(m): 2:25am On Aug 26, 2016
deathcomestoall:
Now, while what I am about to say might be shameful for many because it is shrouded in secrecy, I am not ashamed because, you can never know the extent to what you will do when pushed or pulled to the brink. 99% of the reason why many young Nigerian women donate their egg is for the meagre(yes I said meagre) monetary compensation attached to it. And most of these fertility clinics know that if they do not attach any form of benefit, almost no one would willingly donate.

In the U.S., egg donation can cost as much as 5000 to 10000 dollars. So if you are going to donate, at least you know it's worth the pay. Unlike nigeria who don't pay the donors, they only COMPENSATE and this ranges from 120000 to 150000.

The egg donation process itself starts with an interview by an organization or clinic sourcing for donors for the clinic and then a series of blood tests for genotype, blood group and STDs are carried out after which if you are cleared of any of these, you proceed to the next stage which is to check for lumps in your breast, throat, pain in your lower abdominal region and then a vaginal scan. If you pass all these tests, then you will be given 21 injections which you will inject by yourself for 21 days and during these days, you will visit the clinic for series of vaginal scanning to check if you are producing enough eggs. After the 21 days, you will be given another 6 injections for 6 days after which you are due for the egg collection.
Now I cannot go into details of how the whole process is done because I do not want to make my post too lengthy as the essence of my post is to merely educate and share my story.

Born a synthetic orphan( I have parents who I don’t live with and don't care for me), freshly graduated from the University with a reasonable amount saved during my university days, I had wanted to go into food business but I was unfortunately robbed by my own blood. I have always held the notion that to make money, you must spend money. So with the little money I had left, I started looking for options on what to do, every single one failed. I had applied for more than 619 jobs and still counting, no success. After exhausting all my ideas, I was googling ways to make money and then came a list of six of which one took my interest which was egg donation. I called a couple of fertility clinics and booked an appointment with two. I went to only one of them which is located somewhere in Lagos.

Before making this decision, I thought to myself, why am I doing this, my answer was the money. I had just gotten an American visa and am trying to raise the money for a ticket as everyone reading this knows the situation of the country.

On getting to the clinic, I met a young lady who asked my age, race, education, job and some other things. She explained the process to me and asked if I lived with my parents, I answered yes. And then she proceeded to bullying me that what if my parents saw me injecting myself daily that they would seize the injections. I was displeased with her statement because I had earlier told her I went to a private university. She probably thought I was a spoilt kid who needed quick money. I immediately shut her up and told her I pay the rent and then proceeded to bullying her(I am a very opinionated person). As we were talking, I noticed some other females come into the office. One of them had come for a vaginal scan and wasn’t producing any eggs so the process had to be stopped for her and hence no compensation of any sort not even her transport fare. Just a thank you. Then I started asking questions( my transport there cost nothing less than a thousand a day). I asked her what information of mine would be given to the receiver, she said it would be an anonymous donation. I asked if any complication arises, who will be responsible for my treatment, she said the clinic. I then asked about the procedure itself. I asked what kind of sedative would be used for the egg retrieval process, then she became defensive and said I was a reporter and she won't be continuing the process. I stood up to leave, then she called me back and said she would take a risk with me. I then told her I wasn't a reporter just because I am confident and would ask questions. I proceeded to the clinic lab and did a blood test for my genotype and blood group. Before I left for the lab, she started whining me that 120000 is a lot of money, you can start a business with it. I just looked at her and nodded. I never even asked her how much it was.

Few days later, I was called for a second blood test for STDs, I went for it and also was cleared. Then I was called for a vaginal scan. Before getting there, I thought why am I really doing this. I have had more than 120000, is it really worth risking my own fertility. I would have to sell my eggs for up to 5 times to raise money for my flight. With the current economic situation, this money is almost nothing for the emotional trauma. Another reason why I wanted to do this wasn't for the money alone. I have remained a virgin for a long time and had gotten tired. Being a virgin has impeded me in many ways. I am constantly judged because of it. Every guy I date sees it as a prize. And even if I wanted to lose my virginity and become a prostitute, I didn't want to lose it to the first man that pays me and I don't have a boyfriend who will do it. Aged 18, I tried to lose my virginity but the shock and pain was too much for me to handle. He hadn't even entered, I had already began screaming. I must admit I bled due to the stress placed on the outer walls of my v****a but he never entered.
That was my first and last experience at experimenting with sex. I was happy tho I could claim I was a virgin and not a virgin, no one would know. Another reason is I am an introvert, I don't have any friends neither do I go out to where I can meet people besides I don’t even have the money and I know I am not getting married anytime soon and this is the most fertile years of my life(I am 22) and genuinely if I could help someone become a mother, I would.

On the day of the vaginal scanning, I went to the clinic, was asked a lot of questions after which I waited for a very long time before proceeding to the scanning room. The nurse then told me to get undressed and asked if I was a virgin. I couldn't lie, I said yes and she said they don't take virgins then I said I was a secondary virgin, I tried it years ago even though I knew I was lieing. Then I told her it wasn't an issue, she should call the doctor. The doctor came in brought out a long instrument about 8 inches put a condom on it with lube. I mean this was me here never had sex before, I freaked out. When she tried to put it in, I screamed. I said I couldn't do it. The pain was excruciating. She then put more lube, I still couldn't. It wouldn't enter. The doctor even had to ask if I was raped because of my shock. I thought I lost my hymen years back. In the moment of the pain, I thought all these for a meagre 120000 minus the stress of giving myself 27 needle scars and the emotional trauma I would suffer from it. The doctor then said we could try again. I said no. I could barely walk, I apologized for wasting their time. And dressed up and left. The lady who interviewed me lamented on what would be done about the money they spent on tests for me. Oh please, it's an organization, I'm sure they suffer loses. They should deal with it. I wasn't the first and I wouldn’t be the last.

While in pain in a public transit on my way home, I thought of all the losses I have experienced both financially and emotionally. I mean I started questioning my self if it was really worth it. Yes I want to travel out of the country and give my most fertile years to whoever I can but asides this I had no other genuine reason. The most important tho was the money. I lost my dog because I couldn't pay his veterinary bills. This would have been a better reason for me to have sex with an electronic gadget. I mean I would save my dog by going through this painful process if I could take back the hands of time. I am happy I went through with it to this stage but losing my virginity to a stick or bearing the pain to put a smile on another's face while my own morality is being questioned to me isn't worth it. Now I am not judging anyone who does it. They obviously aren't virgins and are in dire monetary needs so GOOD LUCK.

MY OBSERVATIONS
I stated earlier that when I was being interviewed for the first time, I noticed some other females come into the office. Honestly, only if people knew the kind of people that come to donate their eggs, many people would rather remain childless. Most of these women are stark illiterates. Some have bleached their skin so much. Most of which I noticed are your typical fish and pepper sellers with ridiculous eyebrows. Not to sound condescending, but it is the truth.

Another observation is that these acclaimed CHARITY organizations that source for donors, aren't doing any charity. They are only buying your eggs at a very reduced rate. Many of them don't care how you look or what you are even if you are mentally challenged or unstable. They neither carry out proper tests or interviews for viable donors. As long as you produce eggs for them to sell, you qualify. And I also noticed how the interviewers intimidate the women who are not properly educated. There was a point I even questioned the so called foundation on the kind of women they accept as egg donors. They know most of us are in for the money so they won't even bother asking you too much questions, I mean sarcastically, most people are there to help(for the money obviously).

I failed to mention this, on the day of my vaginal scanning while waiting in the office, a girl my age was being questioned. I was moved by her story. May be she saw how confident I was and was probably trying to speak English but she obviously couldn't hide her naivety. No one asks about your family, they don't even care. You can even lie about your identity. They do not ask for any form of identification. The girl talked about how she lost her parent at 7 and how her uncle gave up on her. She was still in school and needed money. I wonder if she's a virgin like me I mean not to be silly but if I wasn't a virgin, I wouldn't be selling my eggs(it's still a sin to me). I commend her tho for not sleeping about for the money or who knows whether market is not paying well. Ok I'm sorry for that statement but I was moved to tears. Even tho I am a synthetic orphan, I haven't experienced the loss of any family member.

Giving up your eggs is not a quick money making scheme. It is traumatic. Everytime you go for a scan during your injection period, you will be inserted with that 8 inches thing(dunno what to call it) and the retrieval process is even worse, a needle would be inserted into you and can pierce your womb or infect you. You are given antibiotics tho but who e epp. You are just another tool.

MY SUGGESTION

In other to prevent losses on both sides, I would suggest, fertility clinics in Nigeria start paying donors for real and stop exploiting young women so you know the risk is equal the cost. Then no one would have to pull out of the programme as most donors do pull out of the process and huge losses are suffered on both sides because no one gives you transport fare and the injections are very expensive. You are only paid I repeat only paid when they collect your eggs.

MY ADVICE

I wish I could go through with the process but I cannot. I am not judging anyone who does it for whatever reason. Just make sure you read those forms well before appending your signature on it as most are not in your interest incase complications arise.

Do not risk your own fertility for another woman's infertility(no one knows what she did or why she's that way)

Do not think you are selling your eggs. The money is not worth a single egg. If you want to donate, donate with the mind that you are doing it for free because you actually are. May people go with the mindset that they are selling their eggs for 120000. And if you choose to do this process as a source of income, always go to the highest bidder. There are people that pay more than 120000.

I still am looking for a way to get out of this country. I am damn scarred but I won't have sex for money or get money with issues concerning my … To get money by any means is not easy truly. I don't care about being a virgin tho. Infact it means nothing to me but I won't take so much pain for any one. The pain has left and now I'm thinking if I should go back lol.

cool story bro grin
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Leez(m): 2:31am On Aug 26, 2016
Gewezzy1:
My dear i think you went to the wrong clinic either its not recognized or sumfin. Fertility clinics don't do all you said above, about them not checking thoroughly for a donors health, dts not true. All i see you doing is just judging people with Fertility issues, I cant believe a lady would say " Do not risk your own fertility for another woman's infertility
(no one knows what she did or why she's that way)" That is just shallow and wrong. I pray you don't experience such, do you think its evry bin wayward is wt causes infertility? The fact that you dnt have a good experience wn u did urs dsnt meant that's the way the system works. Btw I wish you all the best in traveling out, even though you need to know that you are no longer a virgin, wthr or not he dnt entr well dsnt mean u haven't had sex. You are free to quote me whr wrong
the funny thing is dat d whole story doesnt add up
private skul goer who is a syntehtic(wtf) orphan who was duped by own blood and cant stand insertion but is a secondary virgin
this is why i asked seun to create fiction section fr all ds kain tin he no gree
abeg lalasticlala do d needful and gve ds pips fiction section orvat least mke dm dy put fiction fr dia thread title

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Leez(m): 2:40am On Aug 26, 2016
cliquevibes:
Also have a female friend goin thru d same tin, She wants to donate eggs herself, Big eggs for dat matter(both white and green) garden eggs, she jst looking 4 where 2 sell it......Plz Any suggestions
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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by virtual3xpert: 2:57am On Aug 26, 2016
okhiai1:

babe your problem is you and your intrvertivness if you could just break your shell and let someone into your life a friend that can listen to your rubbish and make sense from it you won't have taught of donating your egg in the first place open.Open up to people and believe me a solution will come but if you think you have it all figured ou then babe you are in a jonsing world open up make friends hustle they out side that's clean and ligt that would make you your cash to fly out
NB- am an intovert also and i know what it means to have it all placed out in your head

You almost made me cry with this, but what if there's really nobody to help? or those who promised to help in the past all disappointed you? You just gotta figure it all out on your own; story of my life.

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