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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by ITgenuis: 8:28am On Aug 26, 2016
Most rubbish post I read today. Mtchewwww
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 8:29am On Aug 26, 2016
Wingback:
DONATE SPERM? YUCK.


OP Continue, Death will come to you, Tampering with Nature.


But ehm ehm did you say you are a virgin? Baby girl you missing out. cool
prime example of people suffering from an archaic mindset.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 8:35am On Aug 26, 2016
[quote author=deathcomestoall post=48809044]....I'm not sure if you where prepared to donate eggs at all .everything involves risk .instances where by the needle would infiltrate the virginal walls are rare .most of these things are done by experts not just anybody who is motivated to make money putting pipo at risk ..the rare cases of infection and infertility after donating eggs is rare.let's say 87 of pipo did it without a hitch .and so there for we would term it very safe .but not 100% safe .bottom line is .if u wan make money eh remove the fear in you focus and believe u gon go thru the process without a hitch .son of God got your back .is not a sin to sell your eggs
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 8:39am On Aug 26, 2016
.I'm not sure if you where prepared to donate eggs at all .everything involves risk .instances where by the needle would infiltrate the virginal walls are rare .most of these things are done by experts not just anybody who is motivated to make money putting pipo at risk ..the rare cases of infection and infertility after donating eggs is rare.let's say 87 of pipo did it without a hitch .and so there for we would term it very safe .but not 100% safe .bottom line is .if u wan make money eh remove the fear in you focus and believe u gon go thru the process without a hitch .son of God got your back .is not a sin to sell your eggs
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Petroking: 8:57am On Aug 26, 2016
Let your heart be not troubled.


deathcomestoall:
is there something more to this?
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by seyiojomu(m): 8:59am On Aug 26, 2016
OP, if they offer you the cost of your air ticket + accommodation in the US + a startup job, will you agree to delete this your post and donate anonymously?

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Petroking: 8:59am On Aug 26, 2016
Let your heart be not troubled



deathcomestoall:
is there something more to this?
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by BlindAngel: 9:15am On Aug 26, 2016
succyblinks:
All I saw throughout your writeup was virginity virginity virginity, LoL u really think u are still a virgin niyen? Sorry to burst your bubbles you are only tight but no longer a virgin, LoL you sound as if the vj is one long tunnel you need to dig before seeing the hymen.

For the egg donation, I have nothing to say
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Jealousy one kill this one, na person send you make you lose your virginity. What a jealous and pained soul.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 9:26am On Aug 26, 2016
You well so?
Ranchhoddas:
You dey find argument? It's an attempt at ''erring on the side of caution''.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by vokes247: 9:28am On Aug 26, 2016
daretodiffer:
@op, what does illiteracy have to do with egg donation?
As in!!!! I don't really get her... She's too Judgemental to a fault.

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Ranchhoddas: 9:29am On Aug 26, 2016
daretodiffer:
You well so?
'Weller' than you can ever hope to be.

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 9:30am On Aug 26, 2016
How can a female be so stvpid and ignorant of the word ‘virginity'? Did she tell you that the penetration was an attempt at sexual intercourse?

If all you saw was virginity, you need to see an optician. Your eye problem is getting serious, you may even need surgery as it stands. Jealous witch!

succyblinks:
All I saw throughout your writeup was virginity virginity virginity, LoL u really think u are still a virgin niyen? Sorry to burst your bubbles you are only tight but no longer a virgin, LoL you sound as if the vj is one long tunnel you need to dig before seeing the hymen.

For the egg donation, I have nothing to say

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 9:37am On Aug 26, 2016
She is still a virgin
Gewezzy1:
My dear i think you went to the wrong clinic either its not recognized or sumfin. Fertility clinics don't do all you said above, about them not checking thoroughly for a donors health, dts not true. All i see you doing is just judging people with Fertility issues, I cant believe a lady would say " Do not risk your own fertility for another woman's infertility
(no one knows what she did or why she's that way)" That is just shallow and wrong. I pray you don't experience such, do you think its evry bin wayward is wt causes infertility? The fact that you dnt have a good experience wn u did urs dsnt meant that's the way the system works. Btw I wish you all the best in traveling out, even though you need to know that you are no longer a virgin, wthr or not he dnt entr well dsnt mean u haven't had sex. You are free to quote me whr wrong
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 9:39am On Aug 26, 2016
She has good writing skill but she is definitely too judgementalsad



vokes247:

As in!!!! I don't really get her... She's too Judgemental to a fault.

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 9:43am On Aug 26, 2016
daretodiffer:
She is still a virgin

Really?

So can you explain the blood that came out of her vaginal walls when she first attempted intercourse?

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 9:44am On Aug 26, 2016
What intercourse?

fellis:


Really?

So can you explain the blood that came out of her vaginal walls when she first attempted intercourse?
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 10:01am On Aug 26, 2016
daretodiffer:
What intercourse?


Aged 18, I tried to lose my virginity but the shock and pain was too much to handle. He hadn't even entered, I had already began screaming. I must admit I bled due to the stress placed on the outer walls of my v****a

There is nothing like 'outer walls of vagina'. The walls of the vagina are situated within the body so she cannot possible bleed from the outer walls of her vagina. If she bled from her vagina then there was trauma most likely from attempting to have a pen¡s go into it.
Are you the OP?

Its very nice how you've taken her cause up and are arguing with different people on her behalf.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Gewezzy1(f): 10:06am On Aug 26, 2016
fellis:




There is nothing like 'outer walls of vagina'. The walls of the vagina are situated within the body so she cannot possible bleed from the outer walls of her vagina. If she bled from her vagina then there was trauma most likely from attempting to have a pen¡s go into it.
Are you the OP?

Its very nice how you've taken her cause up and are arguing with different people on her behalf.
i saw her reply on my comment i decided to ignore her, wt is even vagina wall? Lol let her be doing Virginity Activist jare

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 10:13am On Aug 26, 2016
Gewezzy1:
i saw her reply on my comment i decided to ignore her, wt is even vagina wall? Lol let her be doing Virginity Activist jare

I would have even ignored the whole virginity talk but the way she was sounding so stuck up and condescending is what forced me to reply.

I saw the first part where she talked of bullying one girl and I got turned off her story immediately. Only for me to see the other comment about illiterate women.

The women at the clinic were illiterate so? Do you know what circumstances they are facing that made them illiterate?

Sounding as if illiteracy is some kind of deadly disease or the eggs of illiterate people are inferior. Illiteracy doesn't mean stupidity or mental handicap. It could just be that they are too poor to afford an education and she of all people should understand this because she is currently facing financial challenges herself.

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by wholesomegrace: 11:06am On Aug 26, 2016
Dear sis, you are still young, you have still have a lot to learn in life and I believe you will make it by His grace in Jesus name. Sorry you had to go thru this at this stage of your life.

A lot of people actually donate their eggs for various reasons, some for money, some just to help. I however have some things to write about your write up

- There might be professionals in the this egg donation business, but its still highly unregulated by the government, hence, there might be some unhealthy practices perpetuated by these people

- It is encouraged that egg donors, though young women are preferred, should have completed their families.

- You don't get infertile as a result of egg donations.

- Not all women who require your eggs did something terrible that resulted to their predicament. Some married as virgins, and have infact gone a lot of painful procedures b4 going thru IVF trauma over and again. You could't scale thru trans vaginal scan (tvs). They are brave, don't judge them.

In life, its the grace of God in the life of a man matters, not the money, affluence, level of literacy, number of cars, number of children , number of houses. Keep thanking God for all you have, little or big. Only HIM gives grace. Cheers

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by whoisuche: 11:32am On Aug 26, 2016
deathcomestoall:
Now, while what I am about to say might be shameful for many because it is shrouded in secrecy, I am not ashamed because, you can never know the extent to what you will do when pushed or pulled to the brink. 99% of the reason why many young Nigerian women donate their egg is for the meagre(yes I said meagre) monetary compensation attached to it. And most of these fertility clinics know that if they do not attach any form of benefit, almost no one would willingly donate.

In the U.S., egg donation can cost as much as 5000 to 10000 dollars. So if you are going to donate, at least you know it's worth the pay. Unlike nigeria who don't pay the donors, they only COMPENSATE and this ranges from 120000 to 150000.

The egg donation process itself starts with an interview by an organization or clinic sourcing for donors for the clinic and then a series of blood tests for genotype, blood group and STDs are carried out after which if you are cleared of any of these, you proceed to the next stage which is to check for lumps in your breast, throat, pain in your lower abdominal region and then a vaginal scan. If you pass all these tests, then you will be given 21 injections which you will inject by yourself for 21 days and during these days, you will visit the clinic for series of vaginal scanning to check if you are producing enough eggs. After the 21 days, you will be given another 6 injections for 6 days after which you are due for the egg collection.
Now I cannot go into details of how the whole process is done because I do not want to make my post too lengthy as the essence of my post is to merely educate and share my story.

Born a synthetic orphan( I have parents who I don’t live with and don't care for me), freshly graduated from the University with a reasonable amount saved during my university days, I had wanted to go into food business but I was unfortunately robbed by my own blood. I have always held the notion that to make money, you must spend money. So with the little money I had left, I started looking for options on what to do, every single one failed. I had applied for more than 619 jobs and still counting, no success. After exhausting all my ideas, I was googling ways to make money and then came a list of six of which one took my interest which was egg donation. I called a couple of fertility clinics and booked an appointment with two. I went to only one of them which is located somewhere in Lagos.

Before making this decision, I thought to myself, why am I doing this, my answer was the money. I had just gotten an American visa and am trying to raise the money for a ticket as everyone reading this knows the situation of the country.

On getting to the clinic, I met a young lady who asked my age, race, education, job and some other things. She explained the process to me and asked if I lived with my parents, I answered yes. And then she proceeded to bullying me that what if my parents saw me injecting myself daily that they would seize the injections. I was displeased with her statement because I had earlier told her I went to a private university. She probably thought I was a spoilt kid who needed quick money. I immediately shut her up and told her I pay the rent and then proceeded to bullying her(I am a very opinionated person). As we were talking, I noticed some other females come into the office. One of them had come for a vaginal scan and wasn’t producing any eggs so the process had to be stopped for her and hence no compensation of any sort not even her transport fare. Just a thank you. Then I started asking questions( my transport there cost nothing less than a thousand a day). I asked her what information of mine would be given to the receiver, she said it would be an anonymous donation. I asked if any complication arises, who will be responsible for my treatment, she said the clinic. I then asked about the procedure itself. I asked what kind of sedative would be used for the egg retrieval process, then she became defensive and said I was a reporter and she won't be continuing the process. I stood up to leave, then she called me back and said she would take a risk with me. I then told her I wasn't a reporter just because I am confident and would ask questions. I proceeded to the clinic lab and did a blood test for my genotype and blood group. Before I left for the lab, she started whining me that 120000 is a lot of money, you can start a business with it. I just looked at her and nodded. I never even asked her how much it was.

Few days later, I was called for a second blood test for STDs, I went for it and also was cleared. Then I was called for a vaginal scan. Before getting there, I thought why am I really doing this. I have had more than 120000, is it really worth risking my own fertility. I would have to sell my eggs for up to 5 times to raise money for my flight. With the current economic situation, this money is almost nothing for the emotional trauma. Another reason why I wanted to do this wasn't for the money alone. I have remained a virgin for a long time and had gotten tired. Being a virgin has impeded me in many ways. I am constantly judged because of it. Every guy I date sees it as a prize. And even if I wanted to lose my virginity and become a prostitute, I didn't want to lose it to the first man that pays me and I don't have a boyfriend who will do it. Aged 18, I tried to lose my virginity but the shock and pain was too much for me to handle. He hadn't even entered, I had already began screaming. I must admit I bled due to the stress placed on the outer walls of my v****a but he never entered.
That was my first and last experience at experimenting with sex. I was happy tho I could claim I was a virgin and not a virgin, no one would know. Another reason is I am an introvert, I don't have any friends neither do I go out to where I can meet people besides I don’t even have the money and I know I am not getting married anytime soon and this is the most fertile years of my life(I am 22) and genuinely if I could help someone become a mother, I would.

On the day of the vaginal scanning, I went to the clinic, was asked a lot of questions after which I waited for a very long time before proceeding to the scanning room. The nurse then told me to get undressed and asked if I was a virgin. I couldn't lie, I said yes and she said they don't take virgins then I said I was a secondary virgin, I tried it years ago even though I knew I was lieing. Then I told her it wasn't an issue, she should call the doctor. The doctor came in brought out a long instrument about 8 inches put a condom on it with lube. I mean this was me here never had sex before, I freaked out. When she tried to put it in, I screamed. I said I couldn't do it. The pain was excruciating. She then put more lube, I still couldn't. It wouldn't enter. The doctor even had to ask if I was raped because of my shock. I thought I lost my hymen years back. In the moment of the pain, I thought all these for a meagre 120000 minus the stress of giving myself 27 needle scars and the emotional trauma I would suffer from it. The doctor then said we could try again. I said no. I could barely walk, I apologized for wasting their time. And dressed up and left. The lady who interviewed me lamented on what would be done about the money they spent on tests for me. Oh please, it's an organization, I'm sure they suffer loses. They should deal with it. I wasn't the first and I wouldn’t be the last.

While in pain in a public transit on my way home, I thought of all the losses I have experienced both financially and emotionally. I mean I started questioning my self if it was really worth it. Yes I want to travel out of the country and give my most fertile years to whoever I can but asides this I had no other genuine reason. The most important tho was the money. I lost my dog because I couldn't pay his veterinary bills. This would have been a better reason for me to have sex with an electronic gadget. I mean I would save my dog by going through this painful process if I could take back the hands of time. I am happy I went through with it to this stage but losing my virginity to a stick or bearing the pain to put a smile on another's face while my own morality is being questioned to me isn't worth it. Now I am not judging anyone who does it. They obviously aren't virgins and are in dire monetary needs so GOOD LUCK.

MY OBSERVATIONS
I stated earlier that when I was being interviewed for the first time, I noticed some other females come into the office. Honestly, only if people knew the kind of people that come to donate their eggs, many people would rather remain childless. Most of these women are stark illiterates. Some have bleached their skin so much. Most of which I noticed are your typical fish and pepper sellers with ridiculous eyebrows. Not to sound condescending, but it is the truth.

Another observation is that these acclaimed CHARITY organizations that source for donors, aren't doing any charity. They are only buying your eggs at a very reduced rate. Many of them don't care how you look or what you are even if you are mentally challenged or unstable. They neither carry out proper tests or interviews for viable donors. As long as you produce eggs for them to sell, you qualify. And I also noticed how the interviewers intimidate the women who are not properly educated. There was a point I even questioned the so called foundation on the kind of women they accept as egg donors. They know most of us are in for the money so they won't even bother asking you too much questions, I mean sarcastically, most people are there to help(for the money obviously).

I failed to mention this, on the day of my vaginal scanning while waiting in the office, a girl my age was being questioned. I was moved by her story. May be she saw how confident I was and was probably trying to speak English but she obviously couldn't hide her naivety. No one asks about your family, they don't even care. You can even lie about your identity. They do not ask for any form of identification. The girl talked about how she lost her parent at 7 and how her uncle gave up on her. She was still in school and needed money. I wonder if she's a virgin like me I mean not to be silly but if I wasn't a virgin, I wouldn't be selling my eggs(it's still a sin to me). I commend her tho for not sleeping about for the money or who knows whether market is not paying well. Ok I'm sorry for that statement but I was moved to tears. Even tho I am a synthetic orphan, I haven't experienced the loss of any family member.

Giving up your eggs is not a quick money making scheme. It is traumatic. Everytime you go for a scan during your injection period, you will be inserted with that 8 inches thing(dunno what to call it) and the retrieval process is even worse, a needle would be inserted into you and can pierce your womb or infect you. You are given antibiotics tho but who e epp. You are just another tool.

MY SUGGESTION

In other to prevent losses on both sides, I would suggest, fertility clinics in Nigeria start paying donors for real and stop exploiting young women so you know the risk is equal the cost. Then no one would have to pull out of the programme as most donors do pull out of the process and huge losses are suffered on both sides because no one gives you transport fare and the injections are very expensive. You are only paid I repeat only paid when they collect your eggs.

MY ADVICE

I wish I could go through with the process but I cannot. I am not judging anyone who does it for whatever reason. Just make sure you read those forms well before appending your signature on it as most are not in your interest incase complications arise.

Do not risk your own fertility for another woman's infertility(no one knows what she did or why she's that way)

Do not think you are selling your eggs. The money is not worth a single egg. If you want to donate, donate with the mind that you are doing it for free because you actually are. May people go with the mindset that they are selling their eggs for 120000. And if you choose to do this process as a source of income, always go to the highest bidder. There are people that pay more than 120000.

I still am looking for a way to get out of this country. I am damn scarred but I won't have sex for money or get money with issues concerning my … To get money by any means is not easy truly. I don't care about being a virgin tho. Infact it means nothing to me but I won't take so much pain for any one. The pain has left and now I'm thinking if I should go back lol.


Please I will advice you to accept Jesus Christ

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Ferya(f): 11:52am On Aug 26, 2016
Ranchhoddas:
Hungry never catch you before that's why you dey yap this nonsense.

@ Ranchhoddas,

You do not call my opinion nonsense when you have none. Please, you are free to post your suggestions for her here and stop quoting me. BTW, she is not hungry but needs funds for her visa grin

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Ranchhoddas: 12:13pm On Aug 26, 2016
Ferya:


@ Ranchhoddas,

You do not call my opinion nonsense when you have none. Please, you are free to post your suggestions for her here and stop quoting me. BTW, she is not hungry but needs funds for her visa grin
The statement you quoted was an opinion. Your attempt at playing the victim here has failed. My initial statement still stands.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by 01Mysticdon(m): 12:42pm On Aug 26, 2016
joey150:
try to stay around happy people.
okay, thanks.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 3:50pm On Aug 26, 2016
I missed thatundecided
fellis:




There is nothing like 'outer walls of vagina'. The walls of the vagina are situated within the body so she cannot possible bleed from the outer walls of her vagina. If she bled from her vagina then there was trauma most likely from attempting to have a pen¡s go into it.
Are you the OP?

Its very nice how you've taken her cause up and are arguing with different people on her behalf.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by TonyeBarcanista(m): 4:05pm On Aug 26, 2016
Alphaoscar:




You wan spoil me ni ? I be small boy o but tonyebarcanista is a pro in that game.




Baba wetin be the matter? gist me abeg
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by succyblinks(f): 9:20pm On Aug 26, 2016
BlindAngel:

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Jealousy one kill this one, na person send you make you lose your virginity. What a jealous and pained soul.

Lol.. Awon ass lickers oya go and send her a pm she'll reply u hear

grin wink cool

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by succyblinks(f): 9:36pm On Aug 26, 2016
daretodiffer:
How can a female be so stvpid and ignorant of the word ‘virginity'? Did she tell you that the penetration was an attempt at sexual intercourse?

If all you saw was virginity, you need to see an optician. Your eye problem is getting serious, you may even need surgery as it stands. Jealous witch!


Na ur useless mama wen nr fit teach u say u nr suppose insult stranger nai b witch, drunkard papa, and frustrated siblings be witch and wizard, may God punish u, make devil soda ur useless mouth, isiewu like u, idiot with a double I, see if na e-fight u want I ready make God punish ur life

Jealous her virginity say who her virginity don help, e fit help me buy bag of rice? Stvpid demented goat like u

She post her tori for public, i give her my public opinion u dey insult ur useless papa wen nr train u well, make sure say u reply o

Awon asslicker like u
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by blazer234: 9:51pm On Aug 26, 2016
deathcomestoall:
it happened over the course of two weeks with yesterday being the last.

Your english is enviable. What about going into writing? You can make urself cool money dat way. Not much, but it can keep body and soul together.

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Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by BlindAngel: 7:11am On Aug 27, 2016
daretodiffer:
How can a female be so stvpid and ignorant of the word ‘virginity'? Did she tell you that the penetration was an attempt at sexual intercourse?

If all you saw was virginity, you need to see an optician. Your eye problem is getting serious, you may even need surgery as it stands. Jealous witch!

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I tell you that girl is so stupid and foolish about virginity, jealousy one kill her, as if na person tell her make she loose her virginity. She is such a jealous and pained soul. That the word "virgin" rings bells in her ear. Very useless human being.
Re: My Experience As An Egg Donor by Nobody: 7:22am On Aug 27, 2016
Ode! Did you go through the nonsense you wrote? What are you? A toddler? I am sorry for joining issues with you. You are not worth shit!
succyblinks:


Na ur useless mama wen nr fit teach u say u nr suppose insult stranger nai b witch, drunkard papa, and frustrated siblings be witch and wizard, may God punish u, make devil soda ur useless mouth, isiewu like u, idiot with a double I, see if na e-fight u want I ready make God punish ur life

Jealous her virginity say who her virginity don help, e fit help me buy bag of rice? Stvpid demented goat like u

She post her tori for public, i give her my public opinion u dey insult ur useless papa wen nr train u well, make sure say u reply o

Awon asslicker like u

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