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Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Ranchhoddas: 11:24am On Sep 09, 2016 |
nowpresence:Do you mean ''Eat, love and prey''? The vampire book? |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by nowpresence(f): 1:12pm On Sep 09, 2016 |
Ranchhoddas: It is eat love and pray. And no it's not a vampire book. It's about a woman who after getting what she wanted still felt empty, lonely and depressed. So she set on a journey of self discovery. The book talks about love(self love) , inner peace, spirituality etc. This is exactly what the op needs. 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Ranchhoddas: 1:18pm On Sep 09, 2016 |
nowpresence:Okay. |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Jamieb(m): 1:49pm On Sep 09, 2016 |
I appreciate everyone who have taken their time to comment . |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Richy4(m): 3:09pm On Sep 09, 2016 |
I got question for u op and i want you to answer me honestly <<<< have you tried making male friends before..when i mean friends, i am not talking about hello, hi type of friends... I mean some one that will stand by u anytime, a guy u can trust a little..have u? <<<what do u honestly think is holding u back from having an opposite sex companionship? <<<u said u have graduated. I know that NYSC helps bring some people out of their shell. how did u manage to go through that without good platonic male friends/female friends? <<<<Don't you think u are the one holding yourself back? |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Jamieb(m): 5:38pm On Sep 09, 2016 |
Richy4: Thanks for this , throughout NYSC camped , I never made any friend . I was gripped with fear which answers your last summation. I know everyone can never be gregarious and I believe am the one holding myself back by recoiling instead of facing those fears . I have some male friends , 3 in total who can stand by me . What am working on most is my inner esteem , my confidence ,how to get rid of fears , face new situations and be happy with myself wether friends are around me or not. Like I said earlier, its just like am held down .Any time I tried getting free it will look like sth is drawing back and that's where the struggle lies . I appreciate you bro . God bless you big . |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Jamieb(m): 5:41pm On Sep 09, 2016 |
Today I went to the zoo just as Swissheart suggested but not alone . I went with my roommate and it was din and cool. Next one I will be going alone 2 Likes |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Nobody: 6:01pm On Sep 09, 2016 |
Jamieb: Good Next, Go to Agodi Gardens - Entrance Fee N500 Samonda - forgotten the name of the place (cinema, video games, bowling etc) Shoprite Mall, Dugbe & Mobil Winners Chapel Akobo also has a lot of Young Men and women there (opposite the Barracks) - Join the youth group All the best P.s have you considered having a pet? That will keep you busy and your mind off things Yout pet will also force you to meet new people 1 Like |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Swissheart(f): 6:15pm On Sep 09, 2016 |
Jamieb:wow.....That's lovely. I am glad you feel cool today. Shey you didn't take pictures ni ? Like someone suggested.... That Shoprite mall is a cool place too. Don't waste this weekend o |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Jamieb(m): 7:54pm On Sep 09, 2016 |
Swissheart:I took .am uploading them now . Though I might not be comfortable including my face. Bear with me please .. |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Swissheart(f): 8:00pm On Sep 09, 2016 |
Jamieb:Okay,anything to make you happy. So,what's the plan for the weekend |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Richy4(m): 8:12pm On Sep 09, 2016 |
Jamieb: I am happy u are making progress... but what i'm gonna suggest might sound stupid and oyibo-ish... Do u think you can go home one day and talk to your father about how u are feeling, Depression process heal easily when u confront the stuff u are dealing with... In your own case, it might be the kind of parenting that u got.... if u can talk to him about how u have been feeling one cool day, maybe on your holidays.. it might help. it will be like u were psychologically asking for his permission to date.., after talking to him, u will be relieved as if nothing in the world is holding u back.... remember, It is not as if u were asking for his permission per say, it is just for the healing to be complete. since u have been living in fear about what he will do/ say all your teenage life, it might help u psychologically and it will speed up the healing process....when u subconsciously feel that nothing is holding u back in making friends... |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Brownville007: 7:24pm On Sep 10, 2016 |
Richy4:Thanks. I would have loved to do that but we are so worlds apart. I am domiciled in the west here while he has retired to the East. We barely see except if i decide to travel home for xmas. |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by mrjojo: 9:59am On Sep 11, 2016 |
@op, , passing through sometin like this too, serving in IB too. For me, having a gf is nt even an issue, but I still get lonely with em, and zone off. Let relate, trust me I know exactly how this feels |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by tensazangetsu20(m): 11:56am On Sep 11, 2016 |
Jamieb:Op get this book and read. The bang rule and the advanced bang rule and also find the game by neil strauss. Practice everything in those books and your live will never remain the same. The earlier the better. You are 24 in 6 years you will be 30 time is going. |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Jamieb(m): 12:37pm On Sep 11, 2016 |
mrjojo:Thanks Mr Jojo, would be nice meeting up with you bro. Am.sending you a pm now .Thanks |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Jamieb(m): 12:39pm On Sep 11, 2016 |
tensazangetsu20:Thanks . time is really going truely . If things be equal I should settle down by 28 but the truth is if I can't find happiness been alone , even my wife can't make me happy . Are the books online or I can get them offline sir . Thanks bro |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by tensazangetsu20(m): 1:57pm On Sep 11, 2016 |
Jamieb:You can buy them online. But you have to start talking to women. Go out and talk to at least 3 women per day, don't be afraid of rejection even the most handsome and richest men get rejected daily. Your mindset should be if she doesn't want me it's her loss. And even if you don't find a gf am sure you can build comfortable relationships with the opposite sex. Go out and meet them no matter the class or status of the woman talk to her. I was like you before very lonely and felt like shit. Had really low self esteem and it started affecting other directions of my life. So I went and bought the bang rule online and read it and I have 2 gfs now. Am really so into one of them. She just completed her masters and am in final year, she even spends on me and cooks for me. So if an ugly fat guy like me can achieve that after a month of reading the bang rule, what of you?. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by mrjojo: 3:38pm On Sep 11, 2016 |
Jamieb:replied |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Nikkygold4life(f): 5:17pm On Sep 11, 2016 |
Jamieb, You don't know how happy I am right now that you spoke out, you know what that means, it means you are on the path to total freedom. I bless d Lord dt u ain't part of d statistics of depressed who committed suicide. You see how much people's contributions have helped just in a short while, but you need total freedom and self discovery, this can only come thru Christ, your place of work isn't far from my place of worship,Living Faith Church, aka, winners chapel, Challenge beside top one, once you mention Top one, you can't miss your way, join us this Wednesday by 5pm for our mid week/communion service and your life will never remain the same, you can also get the books suggested books by fellow Nairalanders from our bookstore or if we can hook up, I can borrow u some. God bless u. |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Swissheart(f): 3:06pm On Sep 16, 2016 |
Jamieb:Hey,how are you? Checking on you |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Nobody: 5:09am On Sep 17, 2016 |
Jamieb:I think you have a Agoraphobia |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by Pidggin(f): 7:15am On Sep 17, 2016 |
OP, sorry about your condition. I totally understand, please get this book "How to restore your God given self - image. It contains everything you need to get yourself back and more. |
Re: Please I Need Help!!! I Am Dying Gradually by ogawisdom(m): 1:08pm On Sep 17, 2016 |
Jamieb: Yawns op u need to activate ur social life and make friends from your neighbor, church, bars, go out to watch movies and football, ur office colleagues, nairalanders in ur area, Facebook friends, gym, Reconnect with ur uni, sec sch frnds n visit once in a while. Finally forget ur past and start building the future you desire. At 24yrs u r still a baby boy so u ve got d time BC some ppl at 45 yrs face this same problem. Peace |
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