5minsmadness:

tugar:


which other evidence? I read the messages, she even told the elder sister that the years spent with the husband is a waste

Yomieluv:
point of correction, the lady in question was forcing herself on me, we were dating before I got married, I never liked it, more reason I came here to seek way to end it..which I have done. Some women are just a bone in the neck.

I believe in fidelity, and holding the marriage institution sacred. Stop using my post to haunt me.. Nairaland is a place to seek advice,or help even for minute situations.

Am human, so am bound to temptations, and fall. What makes a man isn't the falling, but ability to retrace his steps..

Nobody holy pass, even your boo fit get boo..

Dyt:


Kini
Open teeth if you want to

5minsmadness:

tugar:


I'm glad u know that taking care of 4 children is no joke! I'm taking responsibility of everything happily without complaining, what do I get in return? heartbreak!

5minsmadness:


Sometimes women say terrible things out of anger. If you follow every word spoken by your wife you will just get bp.

How has your marriage been over the years? How will you rate it over 10? If it has been miserable all through then there must be a problem you two have not addressed? If it has been fairly ok then she might be in a desert phase right now where she is rethinking her life with you after 4 kids and wondering what might have been i.e with her ex. Now is the time to show her love, that is, if u truly love her. Take her recent emotional flirtations with her ex as a challenge, not as an insult. You have four kids together and almost a decade of marriage, surely that must count for something! Have you been paying her any attention recently? As guys we tend to stop forget to be romantic and become absorbed with the wahala of maintaining a family, finances, work, etc etc. When last did you take her out to eat peppersoup like you used to? if she didnt love you she wouldnt have stuck with you through 4 kids.

Take a step back. An old ex wants to invade on your property, your family, your home. Your anger should be directed towards him, not your wife. Ignore or push aside the hurtful words you read from her to her sister, a message you actually were not meant to see. Woo her again, take her out, make time for her to gist with her and make her happy. Change your schedule. Stop looking for the best way to punish her for cheating, look for a way to make her love for you catch fire again. We all want to be loved, her included. The ex is just a distraction and an obstacle, a man like you. Be a man and overcome him. Win your wife back.



All the best.

tugar:
what's the best and matured way to treat a suspected unfaithful wife? the suspicion comes from some of her phone messages with her old boy friend. urgent advice needed!

greatgod2012:



Heeeeee, hold it! I'm not using your past to haunt you! You know me on this section very well, I don't do back and front, up and down with anyone. But I'm going to indulge you on this.

Yes, we know you're human, and no human is beyond temptation but once you know that you call fall, you should also know that another person can fall too, hence, you're not in the capacity to give such judgment you gave up there. You're claiming the girl is the one forcing herself on you, how are you sure it's not the ex of this man's wife that is forcing himself on her too?
You're claiming NL is for seeking advice, in your honest opinion, did you give the right advice knowing fully well that what you're advising the man to do is what your wife should have done to you.

You're advising someone to send his wife who has given the man 4wonderful kids away, just because he suspected her cheating, when you could not even stay faithful with your own wife for one year? Haba! Why are you people like this? Dishing out the advice you wouldn't want anyone to apply on you.

In summary, it's not in your capacity to give the op such an advice of sending his wife of many years away when it's even difficult for you to be faithful for one year.

You're an hypocrite!
Next time, on threads like this, keep quite and learn from it.


As for my boo, leave that one for me, but one thing is certain, I know who he is but does your wife know who you are

Peace!

greatgod2012:



Heeeeee, hold it! I'm not using your past to haunt you! You know me on this section very well, I don't do back and front, up and down with anyone. But I'm going to indulge you on this.

Yes, we know you're human, and no human is beyond temptation but once you know that you call fall, you should also know that another person can fall too, hence, you're not in the capacity to give such judgment you gave up there. You're claiming the girl is the one forcing herself on you, how are you sure it's not the ex of this man's wife that is forcing himself on her too?
You're claiming NL is for seeking advice, in your honest opinion, did you give the right advice knowing fully well that what you're advising the man to do is what your wife should have done to you.

You're advising someone to send his wife who has given the man 4wonderful kids away, just because he suspected her cheating, when you could not even stay faithful with your own wife for one year? Haba! Why are you people like this? Dishing out the advice you wouldn't want anyone to apply on you.

In summary, it's not in your capacity to give the op such an advice of sending his wife of many years away when it's even difficult for you to be faithful for one year.

You're an hypocrite!
Next time, on threads like this, keep quite and learn from it.


As for my boo, leave that one for me, but one thing is certain, I know who he is but does your wife know who you are

Peace!

Yomieluv:
no better to treat her than gather concrete evidence, then kick her azz out..

A cheating wife is dangerous, because women are emotional being, the ex can sway her to do the unthinkable.

Better be ready to count your loss when divorce sets in.

greatgod2012:



God bless you wonderfully for this piece!

You're one of the men I admire most on this section. You possess a great deal of wisdom.

How some posters are asking him to send his wife of many years with whom they have four wonderful kids together still baffles me.


Once again, God bless and increase your wisdom!

Yomieluv:
point of correction, the lady in question was forcing herself on me, we were dating before I got married, I never liked it, more reason I came here to seek way to end it..which I have done. Some women are just a bone in the neck.

I believe in fidelity, and holding the marriage institution sacred. Stop using my post to haunt me.if you are haunted for every mistakes you have made in life, how would you feel.. Nairaland is a place to seek advice,or help even for minute situations, and not to be haunted when seeking help.. Ma, I am very angry with you. You are one of the few people I respect, and hold esteem in this place, though it's faceless forum..

Am human, so am bound to temptations, and fall. What makes a man isn't the falling, but ability to retrace his steps..

Nobody holy pass, even your boo fit get boo..

5minsmadness:

Heheh. And here i was thinking i was public female enemy Number 1 Thanks ma'm.

Yomieluv:
[color=#990000]pls, my wife never caught me,i told her about it after I have ended the sodid relationship..I maintain my dislike for the distraction of the lady.

Had it been she caught me, and decided to end it, I would see it as a penalty for my cheating. Thank God, it didn't get to that.

I only gave my opinion,the op, should be able to sieve all the advice given, and use the one that best fit him.

Morever, I wasnt referring to you in any way with my opinion, Ma, so you shouldn't have made any reference to me whatsoever on this thread..

byvan03:



No mind that shameless man, In threads like this he should hide his head in shame. Barely one year of marriage and he is already Keziah .

eyinjuege:


Yomieluv, you should have just kept quiet.

No one asked you or greatgod2012 for clarification on what she meant by the post of you cheating husband. It could have just been a general statement.

You have single handedly told more people about your indiscretions.

Those who didn't read that your thread before you hurriedly deleted it now know because you couldn't just ignore.

Anyway, next time sshhhhh....

Learn to pick your battles wisely.

Scores 1-0. She get you for this one.

Abeg, na joke o

chinma414:
you are my nairaland number 1 sweetheart.

eyinjuege:


Yomieluv, you should have just kept quiet.

No one asked you or greatgod2012 for clarification on what she meant by the post of you cheating husband. It could have just been a general statement.

You have single handedly told more people about your indiscretions.

Those who didn't read that your thread before you hurriedly deleted it now know because you couldn't just ignore.

Anyway, next time sshhhhh....

Learn to pick your battles wisely.

Scores 1-0. She get you for this one.

Abeg, na joke o

keepingmum:
the best way is to wear red pyant and singlet, preferably lacey ones. also remember to pray and fast. Shave your armpit and anuuss. Be clean, come home from work early, dont confront her. Pray for her and fight for your marriage

You cant allow a strange exboyfriend to come and dabaru your marriage. Shower your wife with love so that she can see who loves her most between you and the ex

Remember God hates divorce?? and marriage is for better for worse.

greatgod2012:



Heeeeee, hold it! I'm not using your past to haunt you! You know me on this section very well, I don't do back and front, up and down with anyone. But I'm going to indulge you on this.

Yes, we know you're human, and no human is beyond temptation but once you know that you call fall, you should also know that another person can fall too, hence, you're not in the capacity to give such judgment you gave up there. You're claiming the girl is the one forcing herself on you, how are you sure it's not the ex of this man's wife that is forcing himself on her too?
You're claiming NL is for seeking advice, in your honest opinion, did you give the right advice knowing fully well that what you're advising the man to do is what your wife should have done to you.

You're advising someone to send his wife who has given the man 4wonderful kids away, just because he suspected her cheating, when you could not even stay faithful with your own wife for one year? Haba! Why are you people like this? Dishing out the advice you wouldn't want anyone to apply on you.

In summary, it's not in your capacity to give the op such an advice of sending his wife of many years away when it's even difficult for you to be faithful for one year.

You're an hypocrite!
Next time, on threads like this, keep quite and learn from it.


As for my boo, leave that one for me, but one thing is certain, I know who he is but does your wife know who you are

Peace!

5minsmadness:


Sometimes women say terrible things out of anger. If you follow every word spoken by your wife you will just get bp.

How has your marriage been over the years? How will you rate it over 10? If it has been miserable all through then there must be a problem you two have not addressed? If it has been fairly ok then she might be in a desert phase right now where she is rethinking her life with you after 4 kids and wondering what might have been i.e with her ex. Now is the time to show her love, that is, if u truly love her. Take her recent emotional flirtations with her ex as a challenge, not as an insult. You have four kids together and almost a decade of marriage, surely that must count for something! Have you been paying her any attention recently? As guys we tend to stop forget to be romantic and become absorbed with the wahala of maintaining a family, finances, work, etc etc. When last did you take her out to eat peppersoup like you used to? if she didnt love you she wouldnt have stuck with you through 4 kids.

Take a step back. An old ex wants to invade on your property, your family, your home. Your anger should be directed towards him, not your wife. Ignore or push aside the hurtful words you read from her to her sister, a message you actually were not meant to see. Woo her again, take her out, make time for her to gist with her and make her happy. Change your schedule. Stop looking for the best way to punish her for cheating, look for a way to make her love for you catch fire again. We all want to be loved, her included. The ex is just a distraction and an obstacle, a man like you. Be a man and overcome him. Win your wife back.



All the best.

tugar:
what's the best and matured way to treat a suspected unfaithful wife? the suspicion comes from some of her phone messages with her old boy friend. urgent advice needed!

Yomieluv:
I didn't take down the thread because of this, the thread has been taken down since the day I created it.

my opinion on the issues is not in anyway related, or directed at her, that she had to come at me, forming Mrs perfect, typical Nigeria aproko.

Her holier than thou attitude is one of the many reasons people hide under the garb of "my friend" when creating thread on certain issues. What makes you think I couldn't have done that, I have many alternate monikers.

Her level of handling issues is one of the reasons why many people perish with thier problems than come out because they know people can haunt them with it..

If people like her were pastor, then Sunday's preaching would have been very easy for pastor. All a pastor needs is to discuss people's issues.

I created the thread to seek advice on how to end a clandestine relationship with a desperate lady, who can be dangerous when scorned, My family safety comes first, because I don't know how far she can go, when desperation sets in.

greatgod2012,pls stay off my mention, and stop making reference in any form to my handle henceforth..

5minsmadness:


Sometimes women say terrible things out of anger. If you follow every word spoken by your wife you will just get bp.

How has your marriage been over the years? How will you rate it over 10? If it has been miserable all through then there must be a problem you two have not addressed? If it has been fairly ok then she might be in a desert phase right now where she is rethinking her life with you after 4 kids and wondering what might have been i.e with her ex. Now is the time to show her love, that is, if u truly love her. Take her recent emotional flirtations with her ex as a challenge, not as an insult. You have four kids together and almost a decade of marriage, surely that must count for something! Have you been paying her any attention recently? As guys we tend to stop forget to be romantic and become absorbed with the wahala of maintaining a family, finances, work, etc etc. When last did you take her out to eat peppersoup like you used to? if she didnt love you she wouldnt have stuck with you through 4 kids.

Take a step back. An old ex wants to invade on your property, your family, your home. Your anger should be directed towards him, not your wife. Ignore or push aside the hurtful words you read from her to her sister, a message you actually were not meant to see. Woo her again, take her out, make time for her to gist with her and make her happy. Change your schedule. Stop looking for the best way to punish her for cheating, look for a way to make her love for you catch fire again. We all want to be loved, her included. The ex is just a distraction and an obstacle, a man like you. Be a man and overcome him. Win your wife back.



All the best.

SirVintageCock:
Guy, you have massive issues not your wife. In a spate of two weeks you've created three threads centred around sex with each of them pointing accusing fingers at you. What do you say about that?
You have sexual weakness...
Your wife is watching po.rn..
Now, she is allegedly hooking up with an ex...AFTER A DECADE OF MARRIAGE WITH FOUR KIDS.....I THINK YOUR ARE BECOMING PARANOID AND DELUSIONAL.
Up your game in the bedroom and stop disturbing us with your woe tails.
Divorce her and understand what family RECESSION means.

ipain:
lol. The reason you guys had used to get to him is because he used his MAIN account to reveal he cheated.

It's same reason why I have over 10 handles and still counting so no one uses one of my thread to attack me cos nairalanders got bad mouth