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When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Toks2008(m): 8:30pm On Oct 05, 2016
The primary duty of the man in marriage is to provide the basic needs of his family talking about the wife and the children while the primary role of the wife is to nurture the husband and the children which is the perfect definition of help mate.

Now it is important to note that no two marriages are the same and what works for you may not work for the other person and the fact that a man provides all the needs of the family does not mean that he can't assist the wife to do some of her primary duties if needs be and a wife who has become the breadwinner may also not mind playing her primary duties without any support from the husband .

But nevertheless i sincerely believe that every man whose wife have become the main bread winner or a co-bread winner to realize that it is very expedient for him to be ready to also be a co-nurturer of the family and also perform the primary duties of the woman such as cleaning the house,cooking,taking care of the children and helping the wife to do things that will ease off the stress from her.

I have heard of several cases where a man who is fully financially dependent on the wife still expects her to do all the domestic activities and prepares all three course meals and some men even get so angry with the wife because she complains of tiredness.

It is very wicked and uncaring for a man whose wife is also a partaker of his primary duties to still expect the lady to fully take care of the home front and this does not make you less a man but will rather encourage the woman and not make her look like a slave in the house.

I know some men will say it is not in our tradition as Africans to do domestic chores and I sincerely agree but we must also understand that it is also not an Africa tradition for a woman to be a breadwinner.

I don't know if this makes sense.

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by EFCCnig: 8:34pm On Oct 05, 2016
all these your yeye post

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by IamLEGEND1: 8:34pm On Oct 05, 2016
SUMMARY:

Pùssy Niggahz have no right to divorce their spouses on the grounds of emotional,physical and sexual neglect.
either you find a job or just give up totally and fully immerse yourself into your new reality- which is being a total püssy.
swap genìtals with your wife if need be.

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by RealJaneDoe: 8:35pm On Oct 05, 2016
Yes this is very logical and reasonable.
Good one

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Nobody: 8:38pm On Oct 05, 2016
I don't quite understand this post but
Single mothers have been holding tagther families for eons....just sayin' grin

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by falconey(m): 8:41pm On Oct 05, 2016
ok
Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by yorhmienerd(m): 8:44pm On Oct 05, 2016
EFCCnig:
all these your yeye post
Always looking for trouble

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Maxi112: 8:44pm On Oct 05, 2016
seen!
Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by EFCCnig: 8:52pm On Oct 05, 2016
yorhmienerd:
Always looking for trouble
boss i talk true na

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Nobody: 8:52pm On Oct 05, 2016
This is a very intelligent post/piece of information buh some dumbo jumbos won't see that__

Fact is whenever the woman takes the responsibilities of the husband upon herself and the husband is very comfortable with it then DISRESPECT sets in coupled with lots of other shïts. @ d end of the day most of such relationships hit the rocks and end up in divorce!

To my fellow males__ make sure u are comfortable enough before u get married..Not that u should be a millionaire or something but at least be capable enough to be able to take care of ur wife and kids.. God bless us all smiley

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by yorhmienerd(m): 8:56pm On Oct 05, 2016
EFCCnig:
boss i talk true na
Ok
Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by firstking01(m): 8:58pm On Oct 05, 2016
Make i no kuku lie, i no read am.

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by falconey(m): 9:02pm On Oct 05, 2016
firstking01:
Make i no kuku lie, i no read am.

lwkm hahahaha you post dey always funny mi
Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by utenwuson: 9:30pm On Oct 05, 2016
n who re u op? so if I seek 4 divorce is 4 her own good na since she has money n pay d bills!
Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Rexhenrex(m): 9:38pm On Oct 05, 2016
[b]the thing is this,whether or not the wife is the main contributor of the family or the man is there should be a balance the husband and wife are supposed to help each other out...the husband should also participate in chores same as the wife it doesn't mean that since the husband is the bread winner he won't do chores but and when he is not and the wie is the bread winner then he is expected to do chores no...them both should liase as husby and wify to get things smoothly running irrespective of who puts food on the table,and that is why marry a virteous humble wife is paramount because when u marry a fine irrational beautiful girl and she happens to be the one putting food on the table then its finished.to me as a man even if u are the bread winner it doesn't stop you from do something romantic like cooking for ur wife and bathing your kid ain't no taboo if its the wife thats the bread winner always encourage her and it doesn't mean the husby should be a slave she could still wash his cloths...thats why at the long run marrying someone with a good heart superseeds beauty and other things.[/b]

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Toks2008(m): 9:48pm On Oct 05, 2016
Lalasticlala what is your take?
Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by dirtyslap(m): 10:25pm On Oct 05, 2016
KingCheezyPuff:
I don't quite understand this post but
Single mothers have been holding tagther families for eons....just sayin' grin
what kind of rubbish spelling is this...what is *tagther* it's like you need a dirtyslap to reset ur brain.

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Donchill19(m): 10:27pm On Oct 05, 2016
May i look dy matta wel

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Toks2008(m): 10:31pm On Oct 05, 2016
utenwuson:
n who re u op? so if I seek 4 divorce is 4 her own good na since she has money n pay d bills!

Oshogbo weed in action.

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by GAZZUZZ(m): 10:33pm On Oct 05, 2016
as usual, very good one toks2008

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Nobody: 10:40pm On Oct 05, 2016
dirtyslap:
what kind of rubbish spelling is this...what is *tagther* it's like you need a dirtyslap to reset ur brain.
grin in the bold,you type that on every thread.
Why isn't it yer signature

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by dirtyslap(m): 10:43pm On Oct 05, 2016
KingCheezyPuff:
grin in the bold,you type that on every thread.
Why isn't it yer signature
jamb question.....is it your signature? Small head
Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Nobody: 10:49pm On Oct 05, 2016
dirtyslap:
jamb question.....is it your signature? Small head
grin small head? Boy bye
Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by dirtyslap(m): 10:51pm On Oct 05, 2016
KingCheezyPuff:
grin small head? Boy bye
kid bye

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by wrongnumber: 5:49am On Oct 06, 2016
Hog wash.

A wife must still play her full role even if she is the full breadwinner.

If I like I help and if I like I won't .

Oga toks I be your fan but i don't agree with this one.

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by doveda: 9:00am On Oct 06, 2016
So if I pay MY children school fees and feed MY family, I become the husband of the home....seriously toks, can we get dvmber than thisshocked
My husband is no less of a man or a father or a husband if he does the chunk of house chores. Unless of course, you are insinuating that house chores are for slaves and subhumans.





@Jarizgod, when men who earn higher than their wives disrespect their wives and treat them like trash, we don't attribute it to their earning power or gender. Neither do morons say it derogates femininity. However when it involves stvpid women treating their spouses like trash you conveniently blame it on her earning power and the how the feminine gender is prone to bad behaviour and the audacity to tell us how it makes a their spouses less of a man.



Your logic....you are indeed very smart..

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by doveda: 9:01am On Oct 06, 2016
Amin!
LuvU2:


may no woman i knw ever consider a man like you

may u marry a strong headed, disobedient, irrational, illogical woman

may your home be a battle field, a ridicule, nd scorn of the whole world

Amen Amen! smiley
Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Vinshu(f): 9:11am On Oct 06, 2016
wrongnumber:
Hog wash.

A wife must still play her full role even if she is the full breadwinner.

If I like I help and if I like I won't .

Oga toks I be your fan but i don't agree with this one.

So you won't do anything? Your wife would feed you and still play full role?

Do you see how shameless you are? When your kids grow up, you tell them mummy is the breadwinner. Mummy paid your school fees.

Dumbass

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by nickvanilla(m): 9:35am On Oct 06, 2016
It's not totally bad for the lady to be the breadwinner tho it could present a tricky situation. If the man is still hustling and earning something decent at least then the woman still owes the responsibility of nurturing to the home. What is wrong is for the man to stay at home all day, watch movies and play games while the wife comes back from work to assume house chores and culinary engagements. That shows that the man is either being plain dumb or wicked

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Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by Nobody: 6:08pm On Oct 06, 2016
cool
Re: When The Wife becomes the Husband. by MrPresident1: 7:33pm On Oct 06, 2016
I came to read the comments of the elders grin

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