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How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by OLAADEGBU(m): 7:14pm On Oct 21, 2016
How can I go about healing from the hurt of a broken relationship? Break-ups, families, friends, they all hurt a lot.
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Iolite(f): 7:21pm On Oct 21, 2016
Forgiveness.

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Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by eph12(m): 7:24pm On Oct 21, 2016
Lower your expectations of people around you

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Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by ReorxTohGan(m): 7:50pm On Oct 21, 2016
Bros,Just Go To A Bar And 'Shayo' Away Err'tin!
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Dyt(f): 7:54pm On Oct 21, 2016
I can tell you it's not easy but if you wanna cry
Pls do so
Cry it all and close the chapter
It's never easy
No one says it is
But you have to be strong and live for yourself

Sometimes I was broken
I was almost knocked down and I said hell no
I am way hawter with a beautiful heart than to die cos my relationship ended
Yes it was hurting but I got over it and moved on

People say I am strong but nope
It actually don't worth it worrying over what's never coming back to you

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Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Richy4(m): 8:32pm On Oct 21, 2016
A lot of people has suffered a broken relationship.... But time heals all kinds of wound... when I was having a matters of the heart crises,

I smashed my phone,( I did not intend to do it because I like that blackberry.. my colleague still tease me with it) I just wanted to smash something and what was handy was the phone at that moment..
I went jogging on weekends...After work on weekdays,I workout on my treadmill...
since i don't drink alcohol, I kept tab with my pals...

So try and look for something that you like doing... do not stay alone and wallow in self pity...when you want to think about her think about the wrong reasons why u should not be with her...This is just my own opinion bro... it is not mandatory you must do it.... just telling u how i got healed..
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Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Coefficient(m): 10:23pm On Oct 21, 2016
One of the hardest things to do is getting over a broken relationship, especially one that raised hopes and dreams.

Nothing hurts more but time is a healer.

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Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by mypains: 4:02am On Oct 22, 2016
Richy4:
A lot of people has suffered a broken relationship.... But time heals all kinds of wound... when I was having a matters of the heart crises,

I smashed my phone,( I did not intend to do it because I like that blackberry.. my colleague still tease me with it) I just wanted to smash something and what was handy was the phone at that moment..
I went jogging on weekends...After work on weekdays,I workout on my treadmill...
since i don't drink alcohol, I kept tab with my pals...

So try and look for something that you like doing... do not stay alone and wallow in self pity...when you want to think about her think about the wrong reasons why u should not be with her...This is just my own opinion bro... it is not mandatory you must do it.... just telling u how i got healed..
.
follow this advise and you would hardly go wrong. Get busy, get extremely busy. Never stay idle or alone.

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Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Nobody: 7:52am On Oct 22, 2016
My dear get engaged for the right reasons, nobody has everything that you desire in a relationship. Be less attracted by beauty and money. Go for somebody who thinks of you before himself or herself, someone who puts himself or herself in ur shoes and tries to consider your feelings. Thats why im not bent on marrying mY tribe. My gf isn't my tribe but she's d softest minded person ive ever seen. Her peaceloving nature brings me to my senses a lot. Ppl say shes fat, well thts thier business. Nobody finds everything in one person but she meets most of my needs. Beauty is secondary for me. I appreciate her peaceful nature a lot not only to me but everybody around.

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Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Dyt(f): 9:07am On Oct 22, 2016
RadicallyBlunt:
My dear get engaged for the right reasons, nobody has everything that you desire in a relationship. Be less attracted by beauty and money. Go for somebody who thinks of you before himself or herself, someone who puts himself or herself in ur shoes and tries to consider your feelings. Thats why im not bent on marrying mY tribe. My gf isn't my tribe but she's d softest minded person ive ever seen. Her peaceloving nature brings me to my senses a lot. Ppl say shes fat, well thts thier business. Nobody finds everything in one person but she meets most of my needs. Beauty is secondary for me. I appreciate her peaceful nature a lot not only to me but everybody around.


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Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Nobody: 10:06am On Oct 22, 2016
Dyt:
I can tell you it's not easy but if you wanna cry
Pls do so
Cry it all and close the chapter
It's never easy
No one says it is
But you have to be strong and live for yourself

Sometimes I was broken
I was almost knocked down and I said hell no
I am way hawter with a beautiful heart than to die cos my relationship ended
Yes it was hurting but I got over it and moved on

People say I am strong but nope
It actually don't worth it worrying over what's never coming back to you
da hell!! grin grin
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Dyt(f): 10:12am On Oct 22, 2016
wailing:

da hell!! grin grin

That's not me being arrogant
It's a fact
wink wink

You showing up at the venue by 4?

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Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Nobody: 10:15am On Oct 22, 2016
Dyt:


That's not me being arrogant
It's a fact
wink wink

You showing up at the venue by 4?
who are you? angry
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Dyt(f): 10:17am On Oct 22, 2016
wailing:

who are you? angry

Mrs wailing
kiss kiss kiss

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Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Nobody: 10:30am On Oct 22, 2016
Dyt:


Mrs wailing
kiss kiss kiss
grin grin kiss angry
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Dyt(f): 10:36am On Oct 22, 2016
wailing:

grin grin kiss angry

Odun mo e abi
cheesy cheesy

Who no like better thing?

Ogbeni goan *quuu*
There are 10s before you
tongue tongue
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Nobody: 10:41am On Oct 22, 2016
Dyt:


Odun mo e abi
cheesy cheesy

Who no like better thing?

Ogbeni goan *quuu*
There are 10s before you
tongue tongue
trust me.. i no fit spoil ur market grin grin grin grin
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Dyt(f): 10:50am On Oct 22, 2016
wailing:

trust me.. i no fit spoil ur market grin grin grin grin

But the market is for only you to buy na
cry cry

We could be the next NL couple and put on FP
kiss kiss
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by OLAADEGBU(m): 9:11am On Oct 29, 2016
OLAADEGBU:


How can I go about healing from the hurt of a broken relationship? Break-ups, families, friends, they all hurt a lot.

Suggested answer:

https://gotquestions.org/heal-hurt-broken-relationship.html
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Dyt(f): 9:28am On Oct 29, 2016
OLAADEGBU:


Suggested answer:

https://gotquestions.org/heal-hurt-broken-relationship.html

undecided undecided
What a cheap way to get traffic
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Monogamy: 10:04am On Oct 29, 2016
I am also having the same feeling at the moment... Silent and attitude is the answer
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by OLAADEGBU(m): 1:06pm On Nov 24, 2016
OLAADEGBU:


Suggested answer:

https://gotquestions.org/heal-hurt-broken-relationship.html

Question: "How can I heal from the hurt of a broken relationship?"

Answer: The world is full of people with broken hearts, broken spirits, and broken relationships. The pain of a broken relationship includes a very real sense of personal loss, not unlike bereavement. Sometimes the hurt is so great it prevents people from functioning properly and, in extreme cases, can result in mental breakdown or even a desire to commit suicide. The world puts forward various ways to assuage the pain: taking antidepressants, writing an angry letter and tearing it up, going on a shopping spree, getting a makeover, etc. Some advocate the power of positive thinking. The most common "cure" is time. While the intensity of a heartbreak may wane over time, only a child of God can experience complete recovery because only the Christian has access to the power of the Spirit of God, the One who "heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds" (Psalm 147:3).

Jesus understands the pain of rejection. "He came to his own, and his own people did not receive him" (John 1:11, ESV). Jesus was betrayed by one of His closest associates (John 6:71; cf. Psalm 41:9). As we deal with the pain of a broken relationship, we must take our burdens to the Lord (1 Peter 5:7). He weeps with those who weep (John 11:35), and He is able to "empathise with our weaknesses" (Hebrews 4:15).

A broken relationship can be the source of many negative emotions. Christians understand the futility of allowing their emotions to guide them. Jesus Christ has blessed us with every spiritual blessing and has made us accepted in Him (Ephesians 1:3, 6). This acceptance transcends all feelings of rejection we may have because it is not based on "hope so" but on "know so." We know that God has accepted us because God's Word tells us so, and as we appropriate this truth by faith, it changes our hearts and lives.

Everyone experiences the hurt of a broken relationship at one time or another. We are bound to be hurt and disappointed, for we live in a fallen world. What we choose to do with that hurt and disappointment can make us stronger in our walk with the Lord. God promises to walk through the disappointments in life with us (Hebrews 13:5), and He wants us to know His provision for us is sure. His grace and comfort are ours as we rest in Him.

Every born-again child of God has blessings in Christ, but we have to choose to utilise them. Living in constant gloom and dejection over a broken relationship is like having a million dollars in the bank and living like a pauper because we never make a withdrawal. It is also true that we cannot use what we do not know. Therefore, every believer should seek to "grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord" (2 Peter 3:18) and to be "transformed by the renewing of [his] mind" (Romans 12:2). We must face life armed with a real understanding what it means to walk by faith.

As believers we are not defined by past failures, disappointment, or the rejection of others. We are defined by our relationship with God. We are His children, born again to newness of life, endowed with every spiritual blessing, and accepted in Christ Jesus. We have the faith that overcomes the world (1 John 5:4).

God has prepared for each of us unique opportunities to walk through the "all things" of this life. We can either walk in our own strength and what the apostle Paul calls our "flesh," or we can walk in the power of the Holy Spirit. It is our choice. God has provided us with armour, but it is up to us to wear it (Ephesians 6:11–18).

We may suffer disappointment in this life, but we are children of the King, and the rejection we experience is a momentary bump in the road to glory. We can allow that bump to derail us, or we can claim the heritage of a child of God and move forward in His grace. Like Paul, we can be "forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead" (Philippians 3:13).

Forgiveness of others is important to the healing process. Holding on to bitterness or nursing a grudge only poisons our own spirit. Yes, we may have been truly wronged, and, yes, the pain is real, but there is freedom in forgiveness. Forgiveness is a gift we can give because it was given to us by the Lord Jesus Christ (Ephesians 4:32).

What a comfort to know the God who said, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5). God is always near to comfort the believer. "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles" (2 Corinthians 1:3–4). God, who cannot lie, has promised to go through our trials with us: "When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze" (Isaiah 43:2).

"Cast your cares on the LORD and He will sustain you; He will never let the righteous be shaken” (Psalm 55:22). In reality, feelings come from thoughts, so, to change how we feel, we should change how we think. And this is what God wants us to do. In Philippians 2:5, Christians are told, "Have the same mindset as Christ Jesus." In Philippians 4:8, Christians are told to think on things that are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, of good report, and praiseworthy. Colossians 3:2 says to "set your minds on things above, not on earthly things." As we do this, our feelings of rejection diminish.

Overcoming the hurt of a broken relationship requires taking one day at a time, praying for God's guidance, and reading and meditating on God's Word. The healing can never come from our own efforts; it comes only from the Lord. It helps to take our eyes off ourselves and focus on God instead. He can make us whole. He can take our brokenness and make us into what He wants us to be. A broken relationship is painful, but the Lord is gracious. He can give our lives meaning, purpose, and joy. Jesus said, "Whoever comes to me I will never drive away" (John 6:37). Our Lord's relationship with His children is one that will never be broken.

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Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by Idydarling(f): 5:35pm On Nov 24, 2016
who are you? angry
ma niggur's scared
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by teemy(m): 6:55pm On Nov 24, 2016
OLAADEGBU:
How can I go about healing from the hurt of a broken relationship? Break-ups, families, friends, they all hurt a lot.
hakuna matata. grow a self love and joy no one can break.
Re: How Can I Go About Healing From The Hurt Of A Broken Relationship? by OLAADEGBU(m): 5:12pm On Jan 05, 2017
teemy:


hakuna matata. grow a self love and joy no one can break.

In other words you mean that should grow a spine? undecided

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