How frequent is it when you notice that your anger and emotions are getting out of control that's driving you to commit all sorts of inappropriate, reckless, crazy behaviors?

To the majority of us, it's undeniable that life is tough, challenging and stressful these days. However, it is still important to learn how to control your temper.

One critical thing to remember is that you are always 100% in control of your emotions.

While you should never find yourself in a situation that you can't control, you always have choices as to how to react to any kind of situations.

By allowing yourself to even think that your temper is controlled by other people or circumstances, you are just making an excuse for yourself!

To a certain extent, anger is actually a powerful emotional response.

It reminds you what you don't like about your life, other people and what matters to you. It allows you to freely express your frustrated feelings, but it should never overpower your self-control.

If you find that you are turning into a violent beast when anger hits you, you have an imminent dangerous problem to fix. If you really find it difficult to handle, you might as well consult some anger management experts for advice.

Remember this powerful paradigm shift: It is not how you are feeling that is wrong. It is what you do with your feelings that become the issue.

If you allow yourself to throw a tantrum and fling your arms around, ranting wildly like a lion king, this is obviously not a good sign. You are liable to hurt other people's feelings as well as possibly causing them physical harm.

When you let your temper get the better out of you, you may face serious consequences like:

1. Detrimental to your unstable mental health

2. Severely damaging your physical health, some may even trigger heart attacks or latent diseases

3. Ruining your professional career because you're confronting your boss, colleagues or even clients in a mindless way

4.Destroying relationships with friends, family, lovers and co-workers

5. Failing to create the kind of impact you want in the world because no one wants to help you with your vision and mission

Luckily, there are solutions to this problem.

Your first step is to seek out help and learn to manage your temper in a more effective way. This can include group discussion on possible solutions with family and friends or it can consist of you learning how to manage your anger by yourself either in books or online.

Learning to control your temper will take time, energy, effort and patience. One of the first things you should do is to try to determine what the root cause of your anger is.

Did you grow up in an angry household where you witnessed a lot of fights and dramas?
Have you experienced a traumatic event in the past about people?

Sometimes the root cause of anger can be hidden deep inside. It is only with a lot of self-reflection, soul-searching and meditating that the answers will be revealed.

Find a quiet place where you won't be disturbed and start making a list of all the things that make you angry. Then put them in order of importance - which one lights your fuse first. Once you know what your root cause is, you will be able to devise a better strategy to deal with it and slowly change your behavior.

As for me, the single root cause that lights my fuse the most is "people getting angry and reacting with anger for no justifiable cause." i have identified mine and i am already working tirelessly towards accommodating it. lets hear yours

Mchew

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Next time don't steal ftc in ur own thread!

To most here seeing these words alone bring out turbulent rage in them:

IPOB
Afonja
APC
PDP
Change
Chibok Girls
Fulani Herdsmen
Boko Haram
Jonathan
Lai Mohammed
Nairaland Moderators

And the heavyweight champion

BUHARI.

I tell you most solemnly, their rage is hugely justified. Anger management skill is powerless here.

dingbang:
Next time don't steal ftc in ur own thread!

ok sire i will not. for reasons like these i have always advocated for NL Psychiatric section so that such post can be moved their with ease

Informative

Nice write up,I think introverts possesses the spirit of anger than extroverts.I'm an introvert and I'm also guilty of this but I'm working on it.Few years back I visited a counselor who adviced me to always keep quiet whenever I'm angry,he adviced me to always move away from the place if possible,He also adviced me to always meditate(a simple ten or fifteen minutes breathing meditation daily is ok)#anger management

importexpert:



ok sire i will not. for reasons like these i have always advocated for NL Psychiatric section so that such post can be moved their with ease

gerrarahia mehn.. u lucky I didn't derail to page 5 with emojis. U will just cry

Disrespect irritates me but I'm working on my reaction. I also suggest praying about it and studying the word of GOD (Bible) as solutions. Lots of helpful truths in the Bible especially Proverbs and Ecclesiastes.

i don't know why but i feel like getting this guy above me angry.

i want to see how he is gonna control is anger.

God pls save me from anger lest I get homicidal....

i don't know why but i feel like getting this guy above me angry.
i want to see how he is gonna control is anger.

Before You Explode Quickly Grab A Paper Bag Or Nylon Bag, Blow In Air And Exhale With Your Mouth For Five Times.

I ruined a friendship cause of my temper!!

I've learnt the sorry way!!

But that won't stop me from confronting my boss whenever he crosses the line, they fear my mouth for work sef

But yeah it's true what they say "Never speak when you are angry and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret"

so on point. op next time do not steal your ftc. lalasticlala do the needful to this lovely piece.

The Messenger of Allah (s) forbids man against such anger but considers one who controls himself when he is confronted with evil sufficient to make him angry, as a man strong in will, mind and wisdom. He is more powerful than a wrestler, as his mental control is more than physical strength, and defeats evil and aggression not only in others but also in himself.

The man who can control himself when angry, and prevent himself from doing harm to others or oppressing them or punishing them, has a will of iron and is of exalted character. He couples pushing problems away and alleviating harm from himself with spreading the spirit of love, forgiveness and tolerance among people.

Indeed, Allah loves those who control their anger and He forgives those who do not seek revenge or punishment.

Thats all

jnrbayano:
To most here seeing these words alone bring out turbulent rage in them:

IPOB
Afonja
APC
PDP
Change
Chibok Girls
Fulani Herdsmen
Boko Haram
Jonathan
Lai Mohammed
Nairaland Moderators

And the heavyweight champion

BUHARI.

I tell you most solemnly, their rage is hugely justified. Anger management skill is powerless here.

hhhhhhhh just say you are speaking for yourself

veekid:
Informative

thanks

Falling apart lately. *Angry creeping in slowly*

Lovely post, but WTH is dingbang Please growup

3mmyz:
Lovely post, but WTH is dingbang
Please growup

bia, mechionu!

All that story won't help, Just break something, anything your eye will clear like Magic

I agree

importexpert:
How frequent is it when you notice that your anger and emotions are getting out of control that's driving you to commit all sorts of inappropriate, reckless, crazy behaviors?

To the majority of us, it's undeniable that life is tough, challenging and stressful these days. However, it is still important to learn how to control your temper.

One critical thing to remember is that you are always 100% in control of your emotions.

While you should never find yourself in a situation that you can't control, you always have choices as to how to react to any kind of situations.

By allowing yourself to even think that your temper is controlled by other people or circumstances, you are just making an excuse for yourself!

To a certain extent, anger is actually a powerful emotional response.

It reminds you what you don't like about your life, other people and what matters to you. It allows you to freely express your frustrated feelings, but it should never overpower your self-control.

If you find that you are turning into a violent beast when anger hits you, you have an imminent dangerous problem to fix. If you really find it difficult to handle, you might as well consult some anger management experts for advice.

Remember this powerful paradigm shift: It is not how you are feeling that is wrong. It is what you do with your feelings that become the issue.

If you allow yourself to throw a tantrum and fling your arms around, ranting wildly like a lion king, this is obviously not a good sign. You are liable to hurt other people's feelings as well as possibly causing them physical harm.

When you let your temper get the better out of you, you may face serious consequences like:

1. Detrimental to your unstable mental health

2. Severely damaging your physical health, some may even trigger heart attacks or latent diseases

3. Ruining your professional career because you're confronting your boss, colleagues or even clients in a mindless way

4.Destroying relationships with friends, family, lovers and co-workers

5. Failing to create the kind of impact you want in the world because no one wants to help you with your vision and mission

Luckily, there are solutions to this problem.

Your first step is to seek out help and learn to manage your temper in a more effective way. This can include group discussion on possible solutions with family and friends or it can consist of you learning how to manage your anger by yourself either in books or online.

Learning to control your temper will take time, energy, effort and patience. One of the first things you should do is to try to determine what the root cause of your anger is.

Did you grow up in an angry household where you witnessed a lot of fights and dramas?
Have you experienced a traumatic event in the past about people?

Sometimes the root cause of anger can be hidden deep inside. It is only with a lot of self-reflection, soul-searching and meditating that the answers will be revealed.

Find a quiet place where you won't be disturbed and start making a list of all the things that make you angry. Then put them in order of importance - which one lights your fuse first. Once you know what your root cause is, you will be able to devise a better strategy to deal with it and slowly change your behavior.

As for me, the single root cause that lights my fuse the most is "people getting angry and reacting with anger for no justifiable cause." i have identified mine and i am already working tirelessly towards accommodating it. lets hear yours

cc: lalasticlala Mynd44

The best post i have seen on nairaland in the whole of 2016

extwoo:
All that story won't help, Just break something, anything your eye will clear like Magic

hhhhhh guy you made my day. alternatively just kill a neighbor