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Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Fourwinds: 1:42pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Kellibae:good advice 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Fourwinds: 1:45pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
carammel:u have forgotten she might have pretended of what she wasn't before marriage. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Fourwinds: 1:47pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
JustOzito:pretender may be...no wonder a lot of girls want ready made....lazy as..shole |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Antina(f): 1:47pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
wonukwuru: Someone you got married to 10years ago, you still not knw her weak side. When she has already told you her brain can't get along with reading anymore, what else do you want her to tell you. I beg go and deal with your marriage joor. wonukwuru: Oga sir, do they teach how to speak correct English in the University? Don't paint your wife bad here, you knew all these before you got married to her. It shouldn't be new to you. Carry it, it's your cross. wonukwuru: Don't be confused. Divorce her so that u can marry someone that speaks good english, someone with Ph.d, someone that will not embarrass you in public shey? Yeye! Go back to court where u legalised your marriage and divorce her, it's as simple as that. #HappyDivorce 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by chardyni(m): 1:47pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Divorce her and take the kids. That is the only simple solution. That way you save yourself the murder charge. Go to court and explain that she is endangering the health and wellbeing of your children. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Heavance(m): 1:59pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Okeyson4wisdom:my brother, no be my wife o, I am not the op at all, I am not yet married, but I still observe your point. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by iukpe: 2:04pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Sorry did but its all going to be your decision even if you receive 1000 advice. I have been married for 15 years, we didn't have kids for the 1st 7 years, now we have 3 handsome boys and my wife doesn't think we should go on and I am ok. I have been out of employment since 2009 but run a business ever since and its not been easy, I do not even give my wife what I know I should for her love and who she is but we get along by Gods grace. I love my wife so much and part of the reasons I knew she was the right one was because she has a good sense of fashion. I understand how important this can be for men today. I do not know how many people giving advice here are married, talk-less of being married for long. But you will realize that some couple get some things easy on a platter of gold, while others search, but even the smallest things to others can be great source of happiness to many. I see you love your wife, else you would not be trying to change her or make her what you wish. If you start an affair out there she will be the first one to complain and I know there are a million ladies out there that fit your style. You have to cut out the horrible way you feel now, and think of a different approach. After many years of marriage, for couples to be trendy and beautiful, staying attractive is a sure spice for the marriage. When you were both young you were too crazy over her to worry, you probable were hoping that you could iron it all into her, but now.....! You have to talk to her from her perspective bro. Show her some love not anger. Do not tell her about this divorce or how tired you are of her just apply a different approach which I may not be able to recommend her but because you know her better, you should be able to figure it out. I feel for you but let the love you had for her be stronger in your heart, that is the only way you will be able to accommodate it all. I am sure you envy your friends wives and their mood and would want to have the same joy. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Antina(f): 2:06pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
lofty900: Abi |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by iukpe: 2:12pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
OP please listen, rethink this divorce thing over. Your wife is OK with you as her mentor and she will never cheat on you. As long as you can identify the problems you can find a solution. If you divorce her, i.e. get her out of your life its not the end, your kids are hers too. And she got another one coming so your hooked like it or not. After divorce you are certainly going to get a woman that will really please you this time, definitely, but you cannot tell the years ahead. Women today are....... Don't end up with a woman that will give you conditions, and probably kill you before you enjoy all you have worked for. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 2:17pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Take advice from most females at ur own risk. You know what u can deal with... Women!!! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Kellibae(f): 2:20pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Fourwinds: Thank u |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by 124mumsy: 2:27pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
bro it is too late you should have make your decision b4 now, b reminded that what God has joinrd together let no man put asunder |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by amadiwati(m): 2:28pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Its till death do us part. Divorce is not an option. If you do, you'll regret all your life. You've to be patient with her and keep praying for her. Sometimes, surmon the courage to take to place where she will be intimated, especially were her fellow women are. Take her to places where shell be motivated, environment matters a lot. Personally I believe in a 2/4 years relationship before marrying so that so salient things you want from a woman, say intelliegnce etc, nobody is perfect though, will be accessee thoroughly. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Antina(f): 2:31pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Pwettyella: Surprised too, for good 5years, then what have they been doing for 5years? Sleeping with each other, going to cinemas, eateries, parties etc. Didn't they talk about anything, I mean everything during courtship to know whre her likes and interest is? Love don blind am |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Martinez19(m): 2:49pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
mctowel01:Must she understudy under someone? Opening a shop is not rocket science. The husband's assistance is enough. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by chibuzorAbia: 2:50pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
chardyni: Great guy, no dulling! Let her carry her wahala elsewhere. You will not regret believe me. It is time women know that sex is no longer sufficient repayment for everything. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 3:02pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Xzbit91: Try read the op story very well and the part where the wife wants to trade in a small way, so she can be sure the kind of business she plans to delve into. She didn't ask her husband for N1.5m for biz. He is the one coming up with wholesale business. Which she virtually have no idea about. I know women on the streets selling stuffs from roasting yams, plantains, selling tomaotes making money and also helping us get these items on our streets. So try cool down and read to understand.. Don't just pick few words from what av said to the op 2 justify your thoughts. Hello?? Am not the op, neither am his wife. Am simply a stranger who read what the op said and making him realise he is forcing his type of dream wife on his real wife at home due to what he complained about . So simply place your misplaced agression on his wife or better still go to his house and question the wife. Seat her down and tell her what u feel is right or wrong in her decisions on her life career.. Even seat the op down in his home and lecture him.. So pls don't even start on me today. Am not your problem. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Martinez19(m): 3:05pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
chibuzorAbia:chai, no time to waste time for your side.... |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by CallMeGrace(f): 3:08pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Divorce is not the best solution here but you should pray to God to touch her heart for change. You can sit her down and ask her personally what she really want to do. If she want to work assist her so you won't get blamed for not allowing her to work in the future. As for the english, we are not prefect,you can start by correcting her. Life is all about managing each other. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by benzion72(m): 3:13pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
employee paying 650k per term sa as school fees you better wise up |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 3:18pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Antina: Don't be surprised.. Some virtually don't talk about anything when dating a lady. On chats after the first hello, hi, what do u do? Where do u stay? Where are your parents? Do u school or work? After all these questions The next chat will be sending series and lots of Bible quotes Comic videos Quotes of scientists Pics of heart Pics of love Video clips of comedians Video of Miracles going on in churches And am. Like guy! Don't you have anything upstairs to talk about? Don't u think u and I need to know more about ourselves? And the reply he will give is uhhhmmm uhmmmm But wait u women sef are so inquisitve about us men.. What the heck are u ladies doing scooping asking guys so many questions And am like? Is this guy for real! Do u honestly think, I will take u serious, rely am safe around u if I don't know who u are or what your personality is all about? Are u for real? Do u think I will take every word u say hook line and sinker and say ohhh am. So. In love Guy! If we don't chat about our likes our dislikes our personality and talk about them, instead of all the fucvking quotes or possibly I drop by at your place, and u do is to touch and want to do the do! After that he stands up and say he is going out. He does this for like a year or two. Nothing to talk about. And at the end he propose, she says yes. They had a very lovely wedding. Now the real man, the real. Woman comes into play. U guys are together 24/7. No more escaping either from the man or woman Real character now starts poping up. And both couples will be like who da heck did I marry! Oh God help. Me. People court themselves and the courtship is just empty. They simply don't know themselves except their anatomies . And what makes them explode in sexxx... Lol.. Oh lord! And they know the name of their parish or pastors that's all.. Lol. Or when the next convention is coming up Or wats for dinner What's for. Breakfast Hope u enjoyed your sleep last night .... No I didn't enjoy it! I suffered sleeping.. Lol. What kind of dummvb chat is that. Chai! And out of the blues the guy propose or she becomes pregnant. Marriage enter. And people still wonder why a lot of couples are either divorcing or living single life's or as flat mates even in. Marriage If as a guy u cant talk or chat for. Me to understand your kind of person and u understanding mine..knowing our weakest point and greatest point In career, in the public eye and with family ? Just get the fucvk off! And don't disturb me. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Xzbit91: 3:39pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Amelian:I know you're not my problem, don't make this about me and you but you make it seem like what he's asking of his spouse is too much (herculean task indeed), his fear about the potential failure of his wife proposed business is not unfounded given her lackadaisical attitude to life, how can she succeed when she easily gives up, you think business is for the faint hearted? You made this personal when you said you detest people like the op when you don't know Jack about him or what he's been through 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Xzbit91: 3:53pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Martinez19:Opening a shop might not be rocket science but managing one definitely need certain skills. Do you think it's everyone that opens shop that succeeds? The op fears are not unfounded, after all it's his hard earned money that is involved |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Martinez19(m): 3:59pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Xzbit91:you never know it you will succeed until try. The chances of succeeding with a shop is high if there is common sense from the wife and assistance from the husband. I rest my case. |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by ebby9z(m): 4:00pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Amelian:Now, that's more like it. Although I think he must have has applied several means to correct her before tabling the issue here. It can be very frustrating having a graduate wife who has zero leaning towards anything constructive. An accounting graduate who doesn't wanna manage a business. Women in this age can't just sit at home, get fat and rear babies like pigs. It erodes the husband's respect for them. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Xzbit91: 4:05pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Martinez19:What if he's afraid of the bolded |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Martinez19(m): 4:09pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Xzbit91:you might be right since she is unintelligent but I don't think she is that unintelligent from the write up. If she can be sincere about about her not wanting to go back to school and about her wanting to open a shop then she is not that unintelligent. I believe her common sense with the husband's assistance and supervision are enough. From the write up, she can't be that dull...or nah kangaroo he marry |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 4:20pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Xzbit91: One rule in a having a smooth peaceful relationship or marriage. Is don't turn your partner into your own self and don't mould their personalities and strength into what u wish it could have been. Its not only the op who has gone through alot. Constant bashing from him to his wife as made the wife go thru a lot too emotionally. And that's the problem most men make. U guys don't get to know your partner before tying the knots. As long as she can fucvk the brains out, break the dickkk when fuccking .wow! She is take home to mama. I remember my cousin gisting me on how her bf was screaming on bed.. Break it! Fucckk like your life depended on it Baby yes! Don't stop! Just break the damn thing with your pvussy! Hahahahahahhha. God forgive me ooooo Lol Oh lord! we were laughing so hard, I almost pee on me.. Oh jeez! With that! Most men av seen a wife material..Viola! Every other thing is irrelevant. Until when the man starts bringing out money to take care of his wife or fiance that's when he starts noticing some flaws, he simply cannot endure. Guys get to know whom u are fucvking! Getting married and staying married is not all about sexx and babies.. It's much more than that! And start acting your true self and demanding same from your partner before u say "I do. Courtship or make I be your bobo is not about destroying the dickk in sexxx. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Xzbit91: 4:38pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Amelian:;DNa so @bolded, you see this comment is more mature than the first one I quoted. It is not wrong to mould your spouse into someone you find attractive, we as humans are not perfect that's why we have to put in effort everyday to improve ourselves. From what I can deduce from the op's post his wife has regressed instead and this is typical of most married women, they start dressing anyhow and tying wrapper around the house like they don't care after all they're married forgetting that men are moved by sight, if the op's wife wasn't yet married would she be tying wrapper Upandan? I don't think so and I certainly don't think if she were like that during courtship the op would have been attracted to her in the first place. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Nobody: 4:42pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Xzbit91: It's true She regressed.. That alone I agree with u o Wives, in fact human beings must always improve ourselves It helps in everything we do 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by Pwettyella(f): 4:47pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
chardyni:Bt still Sir,everybody deserves anoda chance. Y don't u try to talk to her again,mke a see reasons with u,u can also open up to her, v a hrt to hrt talk with her plss at least for ur sons sake Good evening |
Re: My Wife Is Not What I Thought Before We Got Married: I Want To Divorce by chardyni(m): 4:52pm On Jan 04, 2017 |
Pwettyella: Why? |
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