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What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 2:21pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
I have never lived with my grand parents for long. in fact, all 4 of them are dead now sadly. but I notice something, in my friends house their grand ma lives with them but I hardly see them talk to her, the few times I did its either they are complaining to her about something she did asin yelling at her. please they are a cool family because I have known them for all my life. but I am always confused about how they deal with the old woman. I always feel pity for her because I imagine how lonely she would be. maybe am just judging from afar I don't know, recently she jokingly did something but my friend didn't take it lightly, I felt some how sha share your experience, how you relate with your grand parents living with you or what other situations have you noticed from friends or extended families. 2 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 2:38pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
ahan all the grand parents for Nigeria don die finish? 7 Likes 1 Share
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Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by George22016(m): 3:25pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
I day fear my grand parents make them no do jazz for my body.I don't eat anything they give me 4 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by wizard007(m): 3:31pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
George22016: Obviously you have a bleeped up family! Soon you'd be wary of your parents too 329 Likes 15 Shares |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by SweetyZinta(f): 3:44pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
#soSad no matter what she deserves to be treated better. 29 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by pocohantas(f): 3:50pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
Some Nigerians have this way of looking at old people, they always think they're up to no good, courtesy home videos. That's why you'll see some people that don't travel to their villages, even when they go, they won't eat their grand parents food...etc. When folks begin to age, they go back to being babies. They say the wrong things, act the wrong way, become petty...etc. It takes patient kids and grand kids to adapt to these changes. That is when the kind of treatment you saw at your friend's place starts to manifest. It's not in your head, you know what you saw...it happens and I have seen it happen. My grand parents have been dead a long time though. 103 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by eyinjuege: 3:55pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
Sadly, the elderly are prone to abuse and manipulations by their loved ones. Some even beat their elderly frail grandparents who usually act "funny" from undiagnosed dementia. Grandkids that do such copy their own parents who are abusive. 26 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by Nobody: 4:02pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
My Grandmum is in the village and we treat her with so much love. Maybe your friend is not happy taking care of the Grandmum or maybe she begged to live with them. All the same they shouldn't treat her badly. It aren't good. 26 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 6:23pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
George22016:well, I can't totally blame you but this is bad 3 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 6:24pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
SweetyZinta:she deserves better but please not with the "no matter what" seriously 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 6:27pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
pocohantas:I really feel bad for her every time. she's totally cut off and lonely. I wish she could go back to her village or something. old people are so neglected in our country. people forget that some day they too will get old 19 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 6:29pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
eyinjuege:people need to be educated. where's seun and mynd44 and lalasticlala please you guys should help move this to front page na. or is it because there's no snake here. this is quite educative. let's do little awareness for our aged. 5 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 6:31pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
Catalin:you can imagine I had to bring it to online. it's that bad. I have never seen anyone okay with her. I feel so bad for her. I always imagine me in such situation, lonely and stuffs. if she dies now they'd be the first to cry and kill cow. humans 9 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by Nobody: 6:32pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
AngelsAndStars: Am very close with mine, though I'm not gonna lie am getting scared somehow that one day I might hear the bad news of death. Grew up with them since I was 10. 11 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 6:34pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
pcguru1:please whatever time you have with them make them happy. they are lonely and are battling depression due to death approaching. do the maths. just appreciate them even if some times they got weird character. thanks 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by Nobody: 6:45pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
AngelsAndStars: Well mine is 70 they have no weird character however am someone that overthinks a lot. every time I see her I'm always reminded of mortality 9 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by Ezionye(f): 6:49pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
George22016: Why? |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 6:51pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
pcguru1:true man. a reminder that someday we shall get old too. that's even if we get old Lolz. life is short 1 Like |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 6:53pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
Ezionye:can you just imagine if the grand parents are innocent. you really can't totally blame him though. some grand parents can be mean or mischievous. |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by OLAFIMIX(f): 9:26pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
I only knew my dad's mum, late now. We were never close to her even when she was staying with us before she passed on. We don't like her, she dealt with my mum when we were younger. Dey slap my mum anyhow, dey dictate how my mum go live her life. She instigated my dad against my mom. She begged for forgiveness before she passed on oti bale je jinna( she has done a lot without remedy) 5 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by sisisioge: 10:01pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
My Gramma is a chic o...She's still very much sound and bubbly. In fact, she can start a world war III on her own without any help. Nobody dares diss her Pls tell your friend to treat his/her grandmother with love for he is making his own history too. If God will, one day he would be old too... 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by yedidiah(m): 10:12pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
It is sad that people mistreat their grand parents when others would give anything to have theirs back. You don't know what blessing you are missing I tell you. Sure because of age, they can act funny and frustrating a times. It is normal particularly if they weren't well educated thus lacked that aspect of mental improvement which formal education brings. But I can assure you, if you take out time to seat with them and hear them out, you will pick out ancient wisdom from them. Jobs 32:7 says," let age speak, and advanced years should teach wisdom" There is whole lot to learn from them. Too much modernity and social media is cheating us of the best gifts we have - Family 9 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by Nobody: 10:26pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
They are wicked abeg. Its not cos old people act funny or any other reason. They are jus wicked people plain and simple. They should take her to old peoples home before they shorten her time left with their bad treatment. She will even have people to interact with in the place. 9 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 10:43pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
OLAFIMIX:damn. what a pity. |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 10:44pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
sisisioge:I really don't know how to approach him on the issue. it's really difficult |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 10:47pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
yedidiah:well you are right. I wish mine were alive. j can only remember living a while with my dad's aunt and I miss her. those who got grade parents no matter their past should assist them. really. 2 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 10:53pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
fellis:how often do you have old people's homes? even at that who would foot such bill? she should be thankful they even feed her. well, they are not really bad because I have known them all my life, trust me. they are just too insensitive to the woman or maybe there's more to the story than I know. why I feel for the woman is that I put myself in her position every time I see her or each time they act bad towards her coupled with the thought of death approaching. it's really not a good feeling for me talk less of her. |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by Richy4(m): 11:39pm On Jan 05, 2017 |
George22016: Please do not think/hope that you will remain the way you are right now for ever....You will become a granddad one day.....During that time..If your grandkids ran away from you because of your wrinkled body,....and that your teeth are no longer white and perfect as before,....and are maybe scared that you will jazz them... because it was assumed that every middle classed old man or woman in Nigeria is a witch/ wizard.... always remember that it's the circle of life dear... I would have loved to know your worth in $$ or ## that your grandparents have to stoop so low as to jazz you... I might be wrong though... you might even be Dangote's nephew 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 7:30am On Jan 06, 2017 |
Richy4:Lolz haha. karma |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by Dexema(m): 8:15am On Jan 06, 2017 |
The Onus falls on the parents to first show love to their elderly one’s and then the children will follow suit. 5 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by Richy4(m): 8:23am On Jan 06, 2017 |
AngelsAndStars: That's what it is bro Karma......It always arrive very late in it's dealings that's why I hated it's form of justice...the oppressed will cry and beg for justice...but it will never show up on time ....I don't know why it takes time ..maybe applying lipstick and doing pedicure for revenge.. .....I think karma is a woman Lady Karma 2 Likes |
Re: What I Experienced In My Friend's House. by AngelsAndStars(m): 8:35am On Jan 06, 2017 |
Dexema:the missing puzzle in my take is that I don't know their past relationship. maybe she did something wrong to the parent before. just like the guy above that said his grandma dealt with his mum. it's really not easy to forgive. especially when people hurt you so badly. |
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