Please note that you can avoid adultery. It is within your power to do it, if you really mean it.

Carelessness is one of the major cause of affair in marriage not devil in the real sense of it as many people always claim when they fall into error. So follow the following simple rules you will never fall into adultery.

1: Never make anybody of the opposite sex your best friend with whom you share intimate discussions.

2: Never be with anybody of opposite sex at the time your spouse must never know you are there.

3: Never talk evil about your spouse in the presence of anybody, they will know you are not happy in your marriage and take advantage of that by showing you fake care and give you what you lack with your Spouse and destroy you.

5: Never visit a website you will not be proud to tell your children and wife/ husband you visited.

6: Avoid keeping secrets from your spouse, AFFAIR thrive in secrecy.

7: Avoid confiding in the people of the opposite sex, there should be somebody of your sex you can talk to, don't dig the grave of your marriage with your mouth.

8: Avoid collecting unsolicited gifts and favour from opposite sex. They will ask for sex in return they are not Father Christmas.

9: Avoid thinking that anybody is better than your husband or wife you don't know what their spouses are enduring at home,what you are seeing outside is just a show biz don't be deceived. Grass is only greener in the other compound because it is far from you.

10: Divert all your sexual fantasy towards your spouse. He or she is planted in to your life to satisfy you and keep you holy.

11: Always remember that whatever every woman or man has in his or her body, your spouse has it too and they are not different from each other, it is only faces that are different it is the same package.

12: deal with any sexual thoughts that is not directed towards your spouse, kill it before it kills you. Sexual error do not begin in the bedroom,it begins in the heart.

14: before traveling have sex with your spouse and put your mind to it that you will not have sex until you come back, that decision may safe your life and destiny.

15: Men, avoid looking at the front and back side of ladies and imagine what is there, it is stupid, childish­ and dirty to do that, that is what is called lust, what is there is not different from what your spouse has, please don't be stupid sir.

16: Walk in company with good and Godly men/women if you keep company with adulterer you will become adulterous.

17: Discuss your sexual desire with your spouse and let it be met at home, don't hunt for something that will hunt you later and hurt you deeply tomorrow, your wife/ husband has the best, get it at home.

18: fill your heart with the word of God always, this will not give lust a chance in your mind.

20: Always count the cost of adultery, don't just look at the pleasure, look at the pain, loss of integrity, how you will hurt your wife/­husband, children, friends and above all GOD the almighty.

21: Always remember that the enjoyment, pleas­ure and the thrills that is in sex is just 8 seconds or less, it can not be more than that but its repercussions can last for eternity. Why trading eternity for 8 seconds, is there wisdom in that?

*BE FAITHFUL TO YOUR SPOUSE AND YOU WILL BE GLAD YOU DID*.

22: Pray regularly for your Spouse(s) and your family.

23. Don't compete with your spouse especially on evil (adulterous or argumentative) issues /activities. Always try to be the loser if such Competition occurs, and you will not only save your marriage and family, but you will eventually become the winner in the end.

May God Almighty bless your marriage (Home).

(Share this until it gets to all married couples. You may be Saving a soul or a family).

source:http://www.ameborcam.com/site/blog/blogdetail?id=951

Theory and practice are world's apart

Noted.

Nutase:
Theory and practice are world's apart

How do you mean? Sounds like you think adultery is unavoidable / inevitable.

Fortissimo502:


How do you mean? Sounds like you think adultery is unavoidable / inevitable.

I never said so. I just don't believe in these one size fits all theories

Nutase:
I never said so. I just don't believe in these one size fits all theories

Okay. In my opinion, there are no other ways to avoid adultery other than those mentioned by the OP.

Do you want to share what you feel might work for you? I'm curious cos the OPs list seems pretty all encompassing to me. Avoiding adultery is an active process although some couples might naturally do what the OP mentioned without consciously trying to avoid adultery.

I won't be surprised if the author of this piece still finds himself or herself in adultery. This is not because he wants to. There are many unseen forces that are dragging people to lust and passion.

In fact many Christian and Muslim faithful really want to keep to their vows, but it still happens anyway. After days of fasting and prayer many still fall. It is a serious canker.

Nobody toys with the devil and win. For those who really want to remain faithful to their spouses engrave these warnings in your heart. Unless you want it otherwise. It usually starts gradually, little by little.

There are still many seemingly harmless habits that make us vulnerable to this vice:

familiarity,
Indolence,
Love of fashion and vanity
Obsession with home videos
Social trends, chatting
Spiritual fartherism
Private tutorial
Blurred working relationships
Inability to say No resulting from shyness


The phrase 'watch and pray' is not just a mere advice. It is a command. We usually lose our guards. We think our selves strong and this makes us relax. If you don't fill your mind with pure things, impure things will enter. There's no doubting that.

The highlighted practical steps are helpful. The mind is the first battle field. By the time the desire sets in, you will be the one looking for the opportunity. Until the deed is done you may never know how you got yourself in it.

Therefore, We should never relax. The antidote to falling is eternal watchfulness.