Why do many, if not all women, change for worse after marriage? Why women do prefer stonewalling to opening up and discussing whatsoever it is that is bordering them with their spouse? Can we conclude on a general note that women are close to being impossible?

It burdens me that ladies change after they are married. They change from being loving, caring, understanding, and submissive to something else especially after they start making babies. I have observed with dismay the way my friendsí wives stop listening to their husbands after marriage. They refuse to take to suggestions even when it is obvious they are wrong or ignorant about an issue. These couples hardly see eye to eye on any issue.

Even when the man suspects something is amiss and asks the ëwhatí question, the usual answer is ìnothingî and the stonewalling continues. Since I have observed this on several women, I dare to ask, why the trend? This is making me having a second thought about getting married somehow.

What do you guys think about this attitude. if you have any experience of what i am saying feel free to share. someone is learning.

May be because they are "hooked on phonics"

Abeg, this happens both ways jo. No just women.

Yeah possibly it may happen in both way, but women are more frequent with it.

Just like to know why it happens to our women.

Like men don't change after marriage. If they didn't have that useless standard of wife material, they wouldn't be deceived every second into marriage.

@Michellin89

Then maybe we should called the women VICTIMS of MARRIAGE

Both partners change because they have been good actors and actresses for whatever number of years/months they were dating . One can only act for so long and the real personality creeps in.

@Oga Seun

Women are holding to the fact quote that "what a man can do a woman can do it also" i think that is really affecting their sense of submission.

@Ebonyeyes

I think some of our women change when they get to know the weakness of their husband,i believe some of these weakness that never show up while dating,courting tend to show up after marriage,which our girls love to advantage of.

@Baba Seun

Yeah but they should never forget the 11th commandment.

seun_:

that is why some men especially in nigeria still flog them wives - them women be like children atimes

Men like that should be thrown in the jungle so that they can pick on animals their size

Men like that become sisis when among other men.

I guess that's just too bad suckers

I want:

1. Evidence
2. Statistics
3. Testimonies from husbands
4. And a nice cup of coffee.

Without any of this, your thread is just like another opinion

seun_:

ibukun, how you dey now, is been a long time o

Who are you?

@FL GATOR

U MIGHT NEED THE SERVICES OF FBI AS YOU ARE LOOKING FOR EVIDENCES

WELL IT DOESN`T MEAN U SHOULD BEAT UP YOUR WIFE, I AM NOT IN SUPPORT OF THAT

BUT OUR LADIES SHOULD LEARN TO RESPECT THEIR MAN AND NOT CAPITALIZING ON HIS WEAKNESS TO DISRESPECT HIM.

OYINBOGOJU:

@FL GATOR

U MIGHT NEED THE SERVICES OF FBI AS YOU ARE LOOKING FOR EVIDENCES

WELL IT DOESN`T MEAN U SHOULD BEAT UP YOUR WIFE, I AM NOT IN SUPPORT OF THAT

[b]BUT OUR LADIES SHOULD LEARN TO RESPECT THEIR MAN [/b]AND NOT CAPITALIZING ON HIS WEAKNESS TO DISRESPECT HIM.

True, but your generalization is unfair

NO WOMAN WANT TO BE LEFT SINGLE

THEY USE ALL MEANS OF HYPOCRISY TO GET A HUSBAND AND LATER START SHOWING THEIR TRUE COLOUR

SOME EVEN BECOME A DEEPER LIFE CHURCH MEMBER JUST BECAUSE THEY NEED A MAN THEY CAN RIDE ON AFTERWARD.

OYINBOGOJU:

SOME EVEN BECOME A DEEPER LIFE CHURCH MEMBER JUST BECAUSE THEY NEED A MAN THEY CAN RIDE ON AFTERWARD.

Some of the men are not saints themselves . How about the actors who go to church to find a good wife, marry the woman and forgets about God after the "I DOs" are exchanged?

I CAN VIVIDLY SAY THAT, MOST COUPLES EVEN NEGLECTED MARRIAGE COUNSELING  BEFORE THEY WERE HOOKED.

AFTER MARRIAGE THEY CRY TO GOD FOR DIVINE COUNSELING WHEN THEIR WOMAN START SHOWING THEM PEPPER.

I see this is a "bash the woman" thread. So its all the womans fault if a Marriage goes wrong in your opinion right? Typical Chauvinism its expected though because this is NL

@EBONYEYES

MEN ARE NOT EXEMPTED FROM IT  BUT WHY DO WOMEN ATTITUDE WORSEN AFTER MARRIAGE.

YOU CAN`T JUST TRUST THOSE LADIES.

I AM SCARED BABY GIRL

@EBONYEYES

THIS IS NOT TO BASH WOMEN,MEN ARE GUILTY IN SOME CASES TOO BUT THIS SITUATION IS SO RAMPANT IN OUR WOMEN OF TODAY.

THERE IS 80% PROBABILITY THAT A WOMAN WILL CHANGE AFTER MARRIAGE.

OYINBOGOJU:

Why do many, if not all women, change for worse after marriage? Why women do prefer stonewalling to opening up and discussing whatsoever it is that is bordering them with their spouse? Can we conclude on a general note that women are close to being impossible?

It burdens me that ladies change after they are married. They change from being loving, caring, understanding, and submissive to something else especially after they start making babies. I have observed with dismay the way my friendsí wives stop listening to their husbands after marriage. They refuse to take to suggestions even when it is obvious they are wrong or ignorant about an issue. These couples hardly see eye to eye on any issue.

Even when the man suspects something is amiss and asks the ëwhatí question, the usual answer is ìnothingî and the stonewalling continues. Since I have observed this on several women, I dare to ask, why the trend? This is making me having a second thought about getting married somehow.

What do you guys think about this attitude. if you have any experience of what i am saying feel free to share. someone is learning.

And the proof u have is??

follypimpi:


Cos the sisters r clockin late 20's and 30's and r pretty much desperate so anything put b4 them is God sent.

Sharap dia folly

@Poster

Your attitude will change too if you were a woman and have to put up with some Nigerian men. Ancient men are better some.

TOPE2000!:

Sharap dia folly

I agree with this sentiment. Sharap folly so because the women are desperate they deserve these men?

@TOPE

DOES PROOF REALLY MATTERS WHEN WE ARE FIGURING OUT WHY WOMEN ATTITUDE GOT  WORSE AFTER MARRIAGE.

JUST BE SINCERE HERE LADIES

Ohhhhhhhh yesssss it does.  Ohhhhh yes, absolutely.

Significantly worsse.

THANKS LADIES IN THE HOUSE

YOU ALL AGREE THAT OUR WOMEN ARE SO DESPERATE TO GET A MAN TO HOOKED

JESUS CHRIST.

THE TRUTH IS COMING OUT NOW,