Is divorce really the answer? Many troubled marriage these days rush into divorce. Is it actually a wise course? Most importantly, what can be done to save a troubled home. Are you now thinking your marriage may be heading towards this direction. Be rest assured that no marriage is immune to problems. Even the Bible mentioned it in the book of (1Cor. 7:28) that couples are likely to have pains and grief.

From what we can see in our society today, marriage is the most risky undertaking done by the highest number of people. Before you know it, a relationship that starts out with great joy, love and full of promises suddenly turns out sour, frustrating and painful on someone's lifetime.

How is your marriage doing? Is it patronizing the undermentioned traits?

a. Unfaithfulness
b. Resentment
c. Arguments
d. Sour or bitter words

Is your marriage at a juncture of collapsing? Maybe your spouse has betrayed the trust you have and this have taking away the joy of your marriage. You might be thinking, why did we got married in the first place? We were not meant for each other, we might as well get divorced.
Don't be in a hurry to quit your marriage. Divorce is not always the best option. It merely compound the problems most atimes. Marriage is known as a permanent bond. If partners could have a forgiving spirits than that of retaliating, many marriages that collapsed on trivial ground could have been saved. (Matt. 18:21,22).

Read More:-Can you Save your Marriage?

However, God only allows the termination of marriage on the ground of extra-marital affairs. If your spouse is unfaithful, you have every right to divorce and remarry. I am not here to impose my view or tell you what you should do. The onus lies with you. Whatever decision you made, the consequences lives with you. So think twice!

Before getting a divorce, we should consider the issues below:-

1. The Children:- I met a friend of mine after six years of loosing contact, and when I asked her about her husband she told me; "It is a long story". "My husband left me and my two kids for another woman and we divorced she said. The kids were embarrassed at their father's behaviour. They were adversely affected by the divorce. They did not know why I took them with me to my mother's house. My sister she said; this was a very devastating moment for us.
Children are always the casualties in every broken marriages. An adage says; "when two elephants are fighting, the grass will suffer". If a man and a woman are tied in an unhappy marriage, think about the children, they don't care whether dad sleeps in the sitting room and mom sleeps in bedroom, all they want is let the family be together.


2. The effect on you:- True love in case if don't know stays and lingers for a long time. My friend who divorced her husband cannot allow me to say bad things about her husband. She told me; can you belief I still love him inspite of his adulterous lifestyle. But I have endured enough, I couldn't continue with his betrayal. If para-venture I remarry, this type of a thing could happen again. Can I be able to love again, to me, all men are the same. This is always the emotional problems faced by the divorced person. That bond is still there. It lingers in your mind even after so many years. The funny thing there is that both the feeling of resentment and the feeling of affection will wrestling in your mind. So before you divorce, try to feel the reality.

for more..go to..http://www.familygists.com/2017/02/divorce-four-things-you-should-consider.html

shugarush92:
Is divorce really the answer? Many troubled marriage these days rush into divorce. Is it actually a wise course? Most importantly, what can be done to save a troubled home. Are you now thinking your marriage may be heading towards this direction. Be rest assured that no marriage is immune to problems. Even the Bible mentioned it in the book of (1Cor. 7:28) that couples are likely to have pains and grief.

From what we can see in our society today, marriage is the most risky undertaking done by the highest number of people. Before you know it, a relationship that starts out with great joy, love and full of promises suddenly turns out sour, frustrating and painful on someone's lifetime.

How is your marriage doing? Is it patronizing the undermentioned traits?

a. Unfaithfulness
b. Resentment
c. Arguments
d. Sour or bitter words

Is your marriage at a juncture of collapsing? Maybe your spouse has betrayed the trust you have and this have taking away the joy of your marriage. You might be thinking, why did we got married in the first place? We were not meant for each other, we might as well get divorced.
Don't be in a hurry to quit your marriage. Divorce is not always the best option. It merely compound the problems most atimes. Marriage is known as a permanent bond. If partners could have a forgiving spirits than that of retaliating, many marriages that collapsed on trivial ground could have been saved. (Matt. 18:21,22).

Read More:-Can you Save your Marriage?

However, God only allows the termination of marriage on the ground of extra-marital affairs. If your spouse is unfaithful, you have every right to divorce and remarry. I am not here to impose my view or tell you what you should do. The onus lies with you. Whatever decision you made, the consequences lives with you. So think twice!

Before getting a divorce, we should consider the issues below:-

1. The Children:- I met a friend of mine after six years of loosing contact, and when I asked her about her husband she told me; "It is a long story". "My husband left me and my two kids for another woman and we divorced she said. The kids were embarrassed at their father's behaviour. They were adversely affected by the divorce. They did not know why I took them with me to my mother's house. My sister she said; this was a very devastating moment for us.
Children are always the casualties in every broken marriages. An adage says; "when two elephants are fighting, the grass will suffer". If a man and a woman are tied in an unhappy marriage, think about the children, they don't care whether dad sleeps in the sitting room and mom sleeps in bedroom, all they want is let the family be together.


2. The effect on you:- True love in case if don't know stays and lingers for a long time. My friend who divorced her husband cannot allow me to say bad things about her husband. She told me; can you belief I still love him inspite of his adulterous lifestyle. But I have endured enough, I couldn't continue with his betrayal. If para-venture I remarry, this type of a thing could happen again. Can I be able to love again, to me, all men are the same. This is always the emotional problems faced by the divorced person. That bond is still there. It lingers in your mind even after so many years. The funny thing there is that both the feeling of resentment and the feeling of affection will wrestling in your mind. So before you divorce, try to feel the reality.

for more..go to..http://www.familygists.com/2017/02/divorce-four-things-you-should-consider.html

pls I need advise , am currently 29 yes, I got married to a man who needed children because he had been married for ten years without an issue, we met when I was serving and made me to understand that it was an agreement BTW he and the wife, I spoke with the woman once, I decide to marry him with the view that if I make him happy then he will reciprocate my love, I was pregnant before we did introduction and he paid my dowry, on that day I was made to understand that immediately after marriage the wife is expected to go to the mans kinsmen a stay for sometime, so during that period I was with my kinsmen, the wife will call curse me and my unborn baby, then I was like is it the same woman that called and told me she agreed with the man to get another wife. So after 9 month he got a flat for me in the same town he lives, but I demanded that out of 7 days in a week, he should give me at least two days, but he gives excuses like, where I stay is far away from his place of work(local government staff) or he don't have money to but fuel inside his car, along I tried to concentrate on my child and my masters programme but when it comes to having love together, in a year we may meet like five times, the reason is that he don't stay with me, when he comes around to give us money, he always come with the mind of leaving asap, after preparing and rating food, he will request for sex in which my children have not slept, he may give them money to go and buy sweet just for them to leave the house, but all that my husband does not romance me(touching and kissing) his always eager to have sex and immediately, he dress up and leave till when our food stuff finished and I call him to give us money that's when he will come or send his junior staff to me, is not that I don't work, I work under npower scheme with my stipend I stays in Ogun state and I sch in osun state for full time if I will need to go I take my money,even school fees he gives part while I look for the remaining part, all this affect my self-esteem and it make me brood always. The major issue is that he doesnt allow me to go out with him and even to church for once. Am not happy and I don't want to leave my children for him to take to his wife what can I do

Hi Maryblack,
You need to realise you are beautiful, you are wonderful and can do all things through Christ that strengthens you. Please that man is using you.
You need to find a way to take care of your kids and concentrate on that.
Making money and having money builds confidence. Please try and concentrate on things that will give you financial freedom.
Stop sleeping with that man. He's not worth it. We are actually the ones that give people permission to treat us the way they do.

You made a mistake marrying someone who is in love with his wife because you are fertile. It's unfair to the other woman.
Please correct you mistake for the sake of your kids. I'm sure you don't want them to be treated this way as well.

I'll advice you stop having other children please. Sort yourself out.

wapu:
Hi Maryblack,
You need to realise you are beautiful, you are wonderful and can do all things through Christ that strengthens you. Please that man is using you.
You need to find a way to take care of your kids and concentrate on that.
Making money and having money builds confidence. Please try and concentrate on things that will give you financial freedom.
Stop sleeping with that man. He's not worth it. We are actually the ones that give people permission to treat us the way they do.

You made a mistake marrying someone who is in love with his wife because you are fertile. It's unfair to the other woman.
Please correct you mistake for the sake of your kids. I'm sure you don't want them to be treated this way as well.

I'll advice you stop having other children please. Sort yourself out.

thanks ma, but I don't want to leave my children, I talk to him last week when he came around, but during our conversation, I made him to know how his attitude to me has affected me emotionally but he keep telling me am not patient enough, and sometimes he made me understand that women who don't have husband (or dead) can equally put effort to make their children great, the last time I threatened him that I will go and start my life afresh, I later get to know that he called the children sch to make enquiry about their boarding facilities ( first girl, 5, boy/ girl twin 3 yrs), and the children are still young. pls give me a sisterly advice that can put smile on my face again

Maryblack:
thanks ma, but I don't want to leave my children, I talk to him last week when he came around, but during our conversation, I made him to know how his attitude to me has affected me emotionally but he keep telling me am not patient enough, and sometimes he made me understand that women who don't have husband (or dead) can equally put effort to make their children great, the last time I threatened him that I will go and start my life afresh, I later get to know that he called the children sch to make enquiry about their boarding facilities ( first girl, 5, boy/ girl twin 3 yrs), and the children are still young. pls give me a sisterly advice that can put smile on my face again

I'm not asking you to leave your children. You are already living without him like a single mum.
The truth is that we don't need people's love to be happy. Happiness comes from within us.

Start a business or just do something that will make you financially independent. It will keep you busy and distract your thoughts from him.

wapu:



I'm not asking you to leave your children. You are already living without him like a single mum.
The truth is that we don't need people's love to be happy. Happiness comes from within us.

Start a business or just do something that will make you financially independent. It will keep you busy and distract your thoughts from him.

thanks, I will work on it