PaperLace:

He isn't entirely buoyant, but they are okay for a young couple. Financially? It's draining!
They both work and spend it on medicals.

I know a whole lot about them and he knows I know because I am one person she confides in. Most people in that situation resort to blackmail advertently/inadvertently, it must be their own way of making sure you remain loyal to them_ they can't help it.

Nature of illness? It's much dear.

BiafranBushBoy:


Lol... Whas that one?

Marxxx:
. My bosom friend...No love found! I am trying to have a compilation of responses for my counselling sessions. How are you? How is little man?

Marxxx:
noted!...jashar when service is over hop in here and do the needful...

jashar:


Hallos dear. The truth is I don't know. It takes more than love to keep a marriage anyway.

Like one of my lecturer says,' in the long-run, we're all dead.

I know you don't wanna reference movies, but I watched 'Me Before You' last year December. That lady was willing to put up with him, but he chose not to have that. I like to think that there are selfless people like that.

In other news, I like the fact that you're considering marriage.
Don't worry, you'll find that special someone

You sef know I must be there.

How body?

Emmaesty:
Me na or are we not friends anymore

BiafranBushBoy:


If we are frnds... Why haven't you replied my pm??

Emmaesty:
I haven't seen anything oh.... ... Maybe the gods are against our friendship

sisisioge:
Hmmmmmm...

I'm AA but once dated an SS dude. He was all over me but I couldn't move past the fact that there will be times he would have crisis. The relationship was cool while it lasted but I knew it wasn't gonna go past the peripheral.

I can't handle watching loved ones fall sick...It kills me over and over. Last year for about a month, I turned a nurse on my sis. She had a surgery. It was so painful watching her...I bathed her, nursed the wounds , kept vigil on her and just plain worry about her. I ended up losing about 8kg in one month! She's my favorite family. Now, imagine me going into a relationship knowing there will be many times like that...Can't deal.

BiafranBushBoy:


.. Shebi?

those gods sef

I will pray over it

Abdullateef77:




when I saw the topic me before you was the first thing that came to my mind and the funniest thing is that I just watched it today.
coming back to the topic,i know you would be expecting an eperience or a scenerio but just pardon me.the French say that "it is the faith of glass to break",well I say it is that the faith of humans to die so what the hell,we still gonna die anyway.

jashar:


Hallos dear. The truth is I don't know. It takes more than love to keep a marriage anyway.

Like one of my lecturer says,' in the long-run, we're all dead.

I know you don't wanna reference movies, but I watched 'Me Before You' last year December. That lady was willing to put up with him, but he chose not to have that. I like to think that there are selfless people like that.

In other news, I like the fact that you're considering marriage.
Don't worry, you'll find that special someone

You sef know I must be there.

How body?

Marxxx:
you are derailing...

Marxxx:
why does everyone thinks I am considering marriage I am working on a project, sourcing for data and all...it will help decision making during counselling and also help people with terminal illness...but who knows...

Marxxx:
Are you guys still together? Do you see him more as a brother than a lover? Was your love for him out of pity? How did you guys break up? Was he addicted to painkillers? Did he discuss future plans with you? What was his source of livelihood? Did you love him? Did he get depressed often? Were you aware of his ailment before dating him? How did he handle the trauma of breaking up?...I will love to hear from you...please...

simiolu1:
Op, I admire your strength; these type of questions are not easy for people to answer as it makes you see life and marriage from another point of view.

I am SC (a rare mutation of the SS genotype) and I used to have episodes a lot. Got addicted to pain killers at some point but stopped because I had ulcer (I no wan die as a small boy na). I used to be secretive about my condition but I told the girl I was dating then in school. I remember one night; I couldn't sleep because my spine was aching. She called me because of Xtracool but ended up singing to me for close to one hour (she had a damned good voice). That is the only time in my adult life that I ever cried to a gf. The pain, the songs and the love just made me loose it. She woke up her mum to pray for me too. Interesting thing is my elder brother left the mattress for me to sleep on the floor because I was just writhing in pain and disturbing his sleep.

After that episode, I made up my mind never to tell or call her during another episode. It wasn't just fair mehn. So right now before things get serious between any lady and I; I ask for their genotype and talk about my medical history too. Most don't know about the existence of SC or even AC so I just go ahead and give them the lecture.

However, I can't marry someone with a terminal illness or HIV; but if the illness starts after we get married, we'll face it together (though I pray this doesn't happen). I also can't marry someone who is not AA. I'm not going to inflict the pain of being SC on any of my offspring.

Touching story.

So, you let that babe go cuz she wasn't AA right? hmmm.... that's a tough one. The babe must have really cared about you for her to wake her ma up to pray for you.

Interestingly, I didn't know about the existence of AC genotype till i met my ex. It's really not that common so, people don'e get to talk about it. AS and AC is a bad combo too..

May you get your heart's desires.

jashar:


Touching story.

So, you let that babe go cuz she wasn't AA right? hmmm.... that's a tough one. The babe must have really cared about you for her to wake her ma up to pray for you.

Interestingly, I didn't know about the existence of AC genotype till i met my ex. It's really not that common so, people don'e get to talk about it. AS and AC is a bad combo too..

May you get your heart's desires.


in other news, Marxxx.... come out of your hibernation.

simiolu1:


Our break-up wasn't caused by health related issues. I was the one that messed up! To be candid, I have decided that when pepper rest; I'd do something small to show her that I appreciate all she did for me.

There was a time she wanted to come spend a week with me in school because I had an episode. Another time, I had an accident in school that left me unconscious for over 8 hours. The friend with me told me anytime I regained some level of consciousness, I would tell him to inform her that I had an accident before passing out. The guy teased me die!!! Those episodes made me see the how illnesses affect the people close to us-our family, friends and loved ones.

That is why I believe nobody has the right to keep any health-related challenge from someone they want to marry because of fear of rejection. That is not love; it is blackmail.

Topics like these should make front page but the mods would rather us read about gossip and entertainment.

awwhhhh!!!!!!! She sounds like a keeper.

See ya round head like coconut. Why you go and mess up something good?

Lolz.....

You have valid points though.

jashar:


awwhhhh!!!!!!! She sounds like a keeper.

See ya round head like coconut. Why you go and mess up something good?

Lolz.....

You have valid points though.

simiolu1:


Sometimes, you don't know what you have until you lose it. And have you seen my head before? Go jor

Sage words......

But hey, the past is past right?

Life goes on.....


Lemme come and be going ooo>>>>>>

haftob:
Where's Marxx? It's been long he posted, I hope he's fine

Marxxx:
wow!!! Did you break up with her before she died? How did you cope all through? At a point did you see her more as a sister than a lover? Was she addicted to painkiller?....i need answers plssss

loshybab:

seems you're in a relationship with one right?

jashar:


it's true ooo......


Marxxx, Marxxx, Marxxx.....

haftob:
Where's Marxx? It's been long he posted, I hope he's fine