I may eventually have to quit this relationship.
Maybe he's not so much of a believer as I think or I do not jus understand.

My relationship with God is seriously dwindling...
I used to love God and serve him diligently until I met him and even after explaining to him that I wldnt want that sort of thing. He tried every means to get me to sleep with him.

Am tired. I don't want to live this sinful kind of life. Once, after taking holy Communion he still wanted to have sex. There is no day we see and not have sex. And Everytime I feel so much guilt.

How do I make him change ? For him, it's very normal for us to have sex as many times as possible. He sees nothing wrong.
I don't mind putting an end to the relationship and going back to God.

I need God more than anything in my life.

I anticipate ur advise. Thanks

I will say something but let a wiser older person below me put some of his own views

And u call yourself a believer? You are only delluding yourself...

It's very obvious u enjoy the sex from your writeup...

Then quit the relationship and go and marry God.

ExAngel007:
Then quit the relationship and go and marry God.

Epic. You are beautifully "WICKED"

You've been having se.x with him*. I'm sorry, it is too late to stop him now.

Holarbizzy042:
Epic. You are beautifully "WICKED"

Thanx

The major problem here is he sees nothing wrong with it, if he did it would have been easy to advise. The one way you can stop having sex with him is if you separate or if he becomes repentant (even at that a separation is still necessary even if its for a while)

Is a relationship all about sex? Why every time you meet.

By the way I don't think he's a believer its that simple.

NoToPile:
The major problem here is he sees nothing wrong with it, if he did it would have been easy to advise. The one way you can stop having sex with him is if you separate or if he becomes repentant (even at that a separation is still necessary even if its for a while)

Is a relationship all about sex? Why every time you meet.

By the way I don't think he's a believer its that simple.

Thank You!

Stop meeting in secluded places. That's the only way you can check his advances.

Breaking up with him is a bad idea unless you don't love him

YOU CANT NEED GOD AND NEED SIN AT THE SAME TIME SO STOP DECEIVING YOURSELVES.. Baddest hypocrites are in CHURCH o

Is there no marriage committee in your church?

are there no counselors?

DO you not have a pastor that oversees courtship matters?

Has he met your pastor? have you met his?

HOW DID HE BECOME YOUR FIANCE??... cos GOD can not choose such a weak man controlled by fleshly desires for his daughter who wants to live in purity..

Is the man not supposed to be the LEADER in the HOME? SO IF HE IS LEADING YOU INTO SIN.... IS THAT ONE A HUSBAND MATERIAL? IF SEX IS A PRIORITY TO HIM.... AND FOR IMPATIENCE YOU MARRY THEN HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU WHEN YOU ARE PREGNANT AND UNATTRACTIVE.
IF you do not have a YES answer to the above questions.... you are in a SEXATIONSHIP not a relationship and it will NEVER LEAD TO MARRIAGE.

prettyangel09:

I may eventually have to quit this relationship.
Maybe he's not so much of a believer as I think or I do not jus understand.

My relationship with God is seriously dwindling...
I used to love God and serve him diligently until I met him and even after explaining to him that I wldnt want that sort of thing. He tried every means to get me to sleep with him.

Am tired. I don't want to live this sinful kind of life. Once, after taking holy Communion he still wanted to have sex. There is no day we see and not have sex. And Everytime I feel so much guilt.

How do I make him change ? For him, it's very normal for us to have sex as many times as possible. He sees nothing wrong.
I don't mind putting an end to the relationship and going back to God.

I need God more than anything in my life.

I anticipate ur advise. Thanks

You can't change him, you have two options

1) Marry

2) Breakup with him

Oyind18:
You can't change him, you have two options

1) Marry

2) Breakup with him

I don't count this as a relationship. Having sex with him whenever you meet. Is she an intimacy gadget?, the guy may not marry her sef after all the sex.

kimbra:
I don't count this as a relationship. Having sex with him whenever you meet. Is she a intimacy gadget?, the guy may not marry her sef after all the sex.

Exactly, guys like this one is only using her for sex. Too bad

Oyind18:
Exactly, guys like this one is only using her for sex. Too bad

Why be with someone you're not happy with his acts?, she should find her square root.

My sister, goan read matt 5:29 again...

kimbra:
Why be with someone you're not happy with his acts?, she should find her square root.

understand what she's going through, he'll leave her when he is done digging. She can't say no to him. The only option is to breakup with him.

Oyind18:
understand what she's going through, he'll leave her when he is done digging. She can't say no to him. The only option is to breakup with him.

The dude is deceiving her with marriage. She too doesn't know when to say "No" and stand by that, it's not like she can't. She succumbs easily which is a weakness.

Na breakup sure pass cos this one will cheat on you in marriage.

prettyangel09:

I may eventually have to quit this relationship.
Maybe he's not so much of a believer as I think or I do not jus understand.

My relationship with God is seriously dwindling...
I used to love God and serve him diligently until I met him and even after explaining to him that I wldnt want that sort of thing. He tried every means to get me to sleep with him.

Am tired. I don't want to live this sinful kind of life. Once, after taking holy Communion he still wanted to have sex. There is no day we see and not have sex. And Everytime I feel so much guilt.

How do I make him change ? For him, it's very normal for us to have sex as many times as possible. He sees nothing wrong.
I don't mind putting an end to the relationship and going back to God.

I need God more than anything in my life.

I anticipate ur advise. Thanks

Have you spoken to him about this?

Clear communication is important in any relationship. Don't be afraid to speak up and let him know how you feel about what's going on.

In a healthy relationship, both of you will have mutual respect for each other's values; that is, of course, when you clearly communicate your values.

Does he force you to have sex with him? A guy that truly loves you and love God will not put sexual desires above your relationship with God, I do believe you know what to do but you're just looking for an easy way out that won't have to be painful and I understand that but you need to choose what matters most in your life him or God.



When you've made your choice then you need to give your life to Christ and not take it back this time. Going to church everyday , speaking in tongues and even studying your bible (that's if you can) doesn't guarantee your salvation. Your walk with God does and you can't walk with God and live in sin, They're incompatible.

prettyangel09:

I may eventually have to quit this relationship.
Maybe he's not so much of a believer as I think or I do not jus understand.

My relationship with God is seriously dwindling...
I used to love God and serve him diligently until I met him and even after explaining to him that I wldnt want that sort of thing. He tried every means to get me to sleep with him.

Am tired. I don't want to live this sinful kind of life. Once, after taking holy Communion he still wanted to have sex. There is no day we see and not have sex. And Everytime I feel so much guilt.

How do I make him change ? For him, it's very normal for us to have sex as many times as possible. He sees nothing wrong.
I don't mind putting an end to the relationship and going back to God.

I need God more than anything in my life.

I anticipate ur advise. Thanks

You already begun having sex with him from the beginning.
I honestly don't know how reducing the number of times you have sex to the barest minimum will get you closer to God, it's obvious you're deceiving yourself.

You either quit the relationship and remain celibate till marriage or you continue having sex. It really doesn't matter if it's just once a week or once a month. God cannot be mocked.

Your choice or God's choice for you

Just end the relationship. This guy will only take you farther away from God. He's definitely not the man God has for you.

crackhaus:

You already begun having sex with him from the beginning.
I honestly don't know how reducing the number of times you have sex to the barest minimum will get you closer to God, it's obvious you're deceiving yourself.

You either quit the relationship and remain celibate till marriage or you continue having sex. It really doesn't matter if it's just once a week or once a month. God cannot be mocked.

Who said anything about reduction? Or about it occuring one or twice a month?
Wow! You must know very much about these things. Thanks for ur contribution ma!

prettyangel09:



Who said anything about reduction? Or about it occuring one or twice a month?
Wow! You must know very much about these things. Thanks for ur contribution ma!

You implied it:

prettyangel09:

I may eventually have to quit this relationship.
Maybe he's not so much of a believer as I think or I do not jus understand.

My relationship with God is seriously dwindling...
I used to love God and serve him diligently until I met him and even after explaining to him that I wldnt want that sort of thing. He tried every means to get me to sleep with him.

Am tired. I don't want to live this sinful kind of life. Once, after taking holy Communion he still wanted to have sex. There is no day we see and not have sex. And Everytime I feel so much guilt.

How do I make him change ? For him, it's very normal for us to have sex as many times as possible. He sees nothing wrong.
I don't mind putting an end to the relationship and going back to God.

I need God more than anything in my life.

I anticipate ur advise. Thanks

Why did you start having sex with him in the first place since your relationship with God is paramount?

crackhaus:

You implied it:


Why did you start having sex with him in the first place since your relationship with God is paramount?

That bold part was jus to explain how I doubted his faith as a Christain

prettyangel09:

That bold part was jus to explain how I doubted his faith as a Christain

Sex before marriage and outside marriage is wrong.... 100% yes.

That said, I have a problem with him not feeling guilty after the deed or seeing nothing wrong with it.

You implied your relationship with God was superb before the sex..... Will it be forward for me to say that you prayed and God said yes to him? Apart from the desire to have constant sex with you, are there other shortcomings that makes you question his faith further?

If he is the one for you from God, try not to meet in secluded areas and start preparing for your marriage.

If he is not the one for you, end it.

I am not of the school of thought that if a man sleeps with you before marriage, he doesn't love you or only needs you for se.x.

prettyangel09:

That bold part was jus to explain how I doubted his faith as a Christain

You still haven't let us know why you let him have your body in the first place. Telling him now that you wish to quit sex to build a relationship with God will definitely cause friction.

It won't work. Just end it and remain celibate, love's got nothing to do with it.

Op let's be truthful I don't think you have a strong relationship with God because as a child of God under no circumstance should you engage in pre marital sex.
How did he become your fiance?
Were you guys friends first?

The sin of fornication is one of the most difficult sins stop.
Take a break from the relationship ,find your way back to God because obviously you are lost and ask Him to direct you.

P.S -I really don't think your fiance is a christain not everyone that goes to church is a christain.

prettyangel09:

I may eventually have to quit this relationship.
Maybe he's not so much of a believer as I think or I do not jus understand.

My relationship with God is seriously dwindling...
I used to love God and serve him diligently until I met him and even after explaining to him that I wldnt want that sort of thing. He tried every means to get me to sleep with him.

Am tired. I don't want to live this sinful kind of life. Once, after taking holy Communion he still wanted to have sex. There is no day we see and not have sex. And Everytime I feel so much guilt.

How do I make him change ? For him, it's very normal for us to have sex as many times as possible. He sees nothing wrong.
I don't mind putting an end to the relationship and going back to God.

I need God more than anything in my life.

I anticipate ur advise. Thanks

If you are believer, do not come to an online forum like this to look for advice, period.


Pre-marital sex is satanic, demonic and destructive.

You two are not compatible, that you very well. If he does not respect your God when not yet married to him he won't respect you after the marriage.

My advise is that you should be blunt to call off the relationship, ask God for forgiveness and trust Him for the right man that will put the fear of God ahead his selfish desires.