Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by Praktikals(m): 5:37am On Aug 22, 2017 |
rosalieene: Your Opinion Is Needed Please Help
My aunt(mum's last sibling) has been having issues with her husband since she got married. She has two kids, a girl(2 yrs old) and a boy(1 yr old). The girl looks like her husband, the boy looks like her husband's brother.
Apart from the other issues they have been having, there is a particular issue that tore them apart. When the boy was born, the husband has been accusing her of sleeping with a man who stays in the same house with them (a room was leased to him), he said the man is the real father of the son.
My aunt asked for a DNA test to be ran but then he shouted and was saying will she provide the money for the test. Least I forget, my aunt isn't doing anything since she got married to him. He didn't want her to work but to depend on him. Most times he doesn't give her money for feeding and upkeep..she usually run to my uncles(her brothers) they give her money. It was also because of him my granny died( she developed high bp when she came for omugwo because of the way she was treated, everyday she comes to my house and my mum gives her food).
Due to the accusations and other issues, last month instead of a DNA test, the hubby ran a genotype and blood group test and his matched with the little baby's own. later on, the man kept on insisting that the little boy is not his son as he calls him "Dada" instead of "daddy".
This time around he started accusing my aunt of sleeping with his brother and an Uncle of his. He even beats the children at any slight provocation.
On wednesday around midnight, 2:30am to be precise according to her, he came to her room and started dragging her, beating her up, strangling her, threatening to kill her even said he doesn't mind going to jail if he kills her. He was beating her and asking who was the father of the boy. He seized her phone too. Her eyes were swollen plus other injuries on her body.The next day when my uncles got to know what happened, they sent my sis to go help her pack up her stuffs and since then my aunt and her kids had been in my house. My uncles were looking for good divorce lawyers as my aunt has made up her mind not to go back to the hubby because she might die in his hands.
Last night the husband came to my house pleading, kneeling down, begging and crying. he refused to go home even till 10pm. he said he wanted his wife and kids back. he kept pleading for a second chance and kept saying he doesn't want to marry another wife... but my dad insisted he leaves the house. he was even denied access to his kids.I felt pity for the man.
Now, do you think he deserves a second chance? do you think he was really remorseful? or do you think she should go on with the divorce case? she is really at cross roads now and confused. Me for one, I don't support divorce but I don't expect someone to keep tolerating domestic violence and loose her life. Do you think she would remarry after the divorce? she had operation during the birth of her kids so she is not really in good shape so do you think any man will look at her? I am also confused on her behalf.
Never do anything that will make ur husband lose his trust in you. |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by grandstar(m): 9:43pm On Apr 07, 2018 |
rosalieene: Your Opinion Is Needed Please Help
My aunt(mum's last sibling) has been having issues with her husband since she got married. She has two kids, a girl(2 yrs old) and a boy(1 yr old). The girl looks like her husband, the boy looks like her husband's brother.
Apart from the other issues they have been having, there is a particular issue that tore them apart. When the boy was born, the husband has been accusing her of sleeping with a man who stays in the same house with them (a room was leased to him), he said the man is the real father of the son.
My aunt asked for a DNA test to be ran but then he shouted and was saying will she provide the money for the test. Least I forget, my aunt isn't doing anything since she got married to him. He didn't want her to work but to depend on him. Most times he doesn't give her money for feeding and upkeep..she usually run to my uncles(her brothers) they give her money. It was also because of him my granny died( she developed high bp when she came for omugwo because of the way she was treated, everyday she comes to my house and my mum gives her food).
Due to the accusations and other issues, last month instead of a DNA test, the hubby ran a genotype and blood group test and his matched with the little baby's own. later on, the man kept on insisting that the little boy is not his son as he calls him "Dada" instead of "daddy".
This time around he started accusing my aunt of sleeping with his brother and an Uncle of his. He even beats the children at any slight provocation.
On wednesday around midnight, 2:30am to be precise according to her, he came to her room and started dragging her, beating her up, strangling her, threatening to kill her even said he doesn't mind going to jail if he kills her. He was beating her and asking who was the father of the boy. He seized her phone too. Her eyes were swollen plus other injuries on her body.The next day when my uncles got to know what happened, they sent my sis to go help her pack up her stuffs and since then my aunt and her kids had been in my house. My uncles were looking for good divorce lawyers as my aunt has made up her mind not to go back to the hubby because she might die in his hands.
Last night the husband came to my house pleading, kneeling down, begging and crying. he refused to go home even till 10pm. he said he wanted his wife and kids back. he kept pleading for a second chance and kept saying he doesn't want to marry another wife... but my dad insisted he leaves the house. he was even denied access to his kids.I felt pity for the man.
Now, do you think he deserves a second chance? do you think he was really remorseful? or do you think she should go on with the divorce case? she is really at cross roads now and confused. Me for one, I don't support divorce but I don't expect someone to keep tolerating domestic violence and loose her life. Do you think she would remarry after the divorce? she had operation during the birth of her kids so she is not really in good shape so do you think any man will look at her? I am also confused on her behalf.
She should divorce the man ASAP. It is very rare for people like him to change. He is extremely insecure and domineering. These 2 traits means its extremely rare the abuse will cease. His need for control is unlimited and that's why he doesn't want her to work. He will kill her eventually. He's being abandoned has exposed him as nothing 2 Likes |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by spongeisback: 11:47am On Jul 28, 2019 |
rosalieene:
Lol you are very funny
I am not married and I won't lie and assume am someone else What's up? Did she go back to him? |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by realtalk19: 2:20pm On Jul 28, 2019 |
rosalieene: Your Opinion Is Needed Please Help
My aunt(mum's last sibling) has been having issues with her husband since she got married. She has two kids, a girl(2 yrs old) and a boy(1 yr old). The girl looks like her husband, the boy looks like her husband's brother.
Apart from the other issues they have been having, there is a particular issue that tore them apart. When the boy was born, the husband has been accusing her of sleeping with a man who stays in the same house with them (a room was leased to him), he said the man is the real father of the son.
My aunt asked for a DNA test to be ran but then he shouted and was saying will she provide the money for the test. Least I forget, my aunt isn't doing anything since she got married to him. He didn't want her to work but to depend on him. Most times he doesn't give her money for feeding and upkeep..she usually run to my uncles(her brothers) they give her money. It was also because of him my granny died( she developed high bp when she came for omugwo because of the way she was treated, everyday she comes to my house and my mum gives her food).
Due to the accusations and other issues, last month instead of a DNA test, the hubby ran a genotype and blood group test and his matched with the little baby's own. later on, the man kept on insisting that the little boy is not his son as he calls him "Dada" instead of "daddy".
This time around he started accusing my aunt of sleeping with his brother and an Uncle of his. He even beats the children at any slight provocation.
On wednesday around midnight, 2:30am to be precise according to her, he came to her room and started dragging her, beating her up, strangling her, threatening to kill her even said he doesn't mind going to jail if he kills her. He was beating her and asking who was the father of the boy. He seized her phone too. Her eyes were swollen plus other injuries on her body.The next day when my uncles got to know what happened, they sent my sis to go help her pack up her stuffs and since then my aunt and her kids had been in my house. My uncles were looking for good divorce lawyers as my aunt has made up her mind not to go back to the hubby because she might die in his hands.
Last night the husband came to my house pleading, kneeling down, begging and crying. he refused to go home even till 10pm. he said he wanted his wife and kids back. he kept pleading for a second chance and kept saying he doesn't want to marry another wife... but my dad insisted he leaves the house. he was even denied access to his kids.I felt pity for the man.
Now, do you think he deserves a second chance? do you think he was really remorseful? or do you think she should go on with the divorce case? she is really at cross roads now and confused. Me for one, I don't support divorce but I don't expect someone to keep tolerating domestic violence and loose her life. Do you think she would remarry after the divorce? she had operation during the birth of her kids so she is not really in good shape so do you think any man will look at her? I am also confused on her behalf.
from my experience ,your aunt's husband hasn't changed one bit.he is only pretending and missed beating her up. if she goes back to him, I hope she wunt end up dead. let her move on and put herself together.he should continue to cater for the children welfare and monitored visits for now. life is more useful |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by rosalieene(f): 6:33am On Jul 29, 2019 |
realtalk19:
from my experience ,your aunt's husband hasn't changed one bit.he is only pretending and missed beating her up. if she goes back to him, I hope she wunt end up dead. let her move on and put herself together.he should continue to cater for the children welfare and monitored visits for now.
life is more useful thanks she went back he still beat her up again now the marriage has packed up finally.... she ran away with her kids |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by rosalieene(f): 6:36am On Jul 29, 2019 |
spongeisback:
What's up? Did she go back to him?
yes she did but the beating became worst, the marriage has packed up.
she ran with her kids, it's more than 6 months now. no going back. |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by Nobody: 7:22am On Jul 29, 2019 |
rosalieene:
yes she did but the beating became worst, the marriage has packed up. she ran with her kids, it's more than 6 months now. no going back. wow! I'm glad she's still alive to pick the pieces. It's suicidal if a woman is not financial stable in Nigeria. The mistake a lot of women make is to run under the 'financial cover of a man.. That's what most people call marriage in Nigeria... Its actually called death trap. Never! ever! say I DO to a Nigerian man without correct financial backing. Your own money as a woman gives you a voice! I wish her all the best. 8 Likes |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by sisisioge: 7:33am On Jul 29, 2019 |
rosalieene:
yes she did but the beating became worst, the marriage has packed up. she ran with her kids, it's more than 6 months now. no going back. Well...let's just be grateful that she made it out alive. Abusive partners never change! Thank goodness she made it out alive fa. May God help her and her kids. 3 Likes |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by realtalk19: 10:36am On Jul 29, 2019 |
rosalieene:
thanks she went back he still beat her up again now the marriage has packed up finally.... she ran away with her kids wow! that's so sad.thank God she is alive . people like ur Aunty's husband don't change .they are addicted to violence. I am not regretting I walked away too. 2 Likes |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by spongeisback: 11:46am On Jul 29, 2019 |
Good. Hope she really doesn't go back anymore. rosalieene:
yes she did but the beating became worst, the marriage has packed up. she ran with her kids, it's more than 6 months now. no going back. |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by frozen70(f): 10:19pm On Jul 29, 2019 |
rosalieene: Your Opinion Is Needed Please Help
My aunt(mum's last sibling) has been having issues with her husband since she got married. She has two kids, a girl(2 yrs old) and a boy(1 yr old). The girl looks like her husband, the boy looks like her husband's brother.
Apart from the other issues they have been having, there is a particular issue that tore them apart. When the boy was born, the husband has been accusing her of sleeping with a man who stays in the same house with them (a room was leased to him), he said the man is the real father of the son.
My aunt asked for a DNA test to be ran but then he shouted and was saying will she provide the money for the test. Least I forget, my aunt isn't doing anything since she got married to him. He didn't want her to work but to depend on him. Most times he doesn't give her money for feeding and upkeep..she usually run to my uncles(her brothers) they give her money. It was also because of him my granny died( she developed high bp when she came for omugwo because of the way she was treated, everyday she comes to my house and my mum gives her food).
Due to the accusations and other issues, last month instead of a DNA test, the hubby ran a genotype and blood group test and his matched with the little baby's own. later on, the man kept on insisting that the little boy is not his son as he calls him "Dada" instead of "daddy".
This time around he started accusing my aunt of sleeping with his brother and an Uncle of his. He even beats the children at any slight provocation.
On wednesday around midnight, 2:30am to be precise according to her, he came to her room and started dragging her, beating her up, strangling her, threatening to kill her even said he doesn't mind going to jail if he kills her. He was beating her and asking who was the father of the boy. He seized her phone too. Her eyes were swollen plus other injuries on her body.The next day when my uncles got to know what happened, they sent my sis to go help her pack up her stuffs and since then my aunt and her kids had been in my house. My uncles were looking for good divorce lawyers as my aunt has made up her mind not to go back to the hubby because she might die in his hands.
Last night the husband came to my house pleading, kneeling down, begging and crying. he refused to go home even till 10pm. he said he wanted his wife and kids back. he kept pleading for a second chance and kept saying he doesn't want to marry another wife... but my dad insisted he leaves the house. he was even denied access to his kids.I felt pity for the man.
Now, do you think he deserves a second chance? do you think he was really remorseful? or do you think she should go on with the divorce case? she is really at cross roads now and confused. Me for one, I don't support divorce but I don't expect someone to keep tolerating domestic violence and loose her life. Do you think she would remarry after the divorce? she had operation during the birth of her kids so she is not really in good shape so do you think any man will look at her? I am also confused on her behalf.
Situations like this, the first step us separation Her husband is frustrated and unfortunately his wife is the recepient of his wickedness His child calling him dada is because he is too small to pronounce the proper name He claims that, the boy us nor his child, instead of doing DNA test, he went for genotype, what's the corollation with genotype Just to show you that he is not really normal upstairs but he is not mad too Forget about his pleading, your sister just escaped death 1 Like |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by rosalieene(f): 11:36pm On Jul 29, 2019 |
spongeisback: Good. Hope she really doesn't go back anymore. nah its final this time |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by rosalieene(f): 11:36pm On Jul 29, 2019 |
realtalk19:
wow! that's so sad.thank God she is alive . people like ur Aunty's husband don't change .they are addicted to violence.
I am not regretting I walked away too. waoow sorry you had to pass through that too. it is well |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by Nobody: 12:36pm On Sep 02, 2019 |
rosalieene:
yes she did but the beating became worst, the marriage has packed up. she ran with her kids, it's more than 6 months now. no going back. Chaiii, what a pity. A man that loves his wife who has been faithful to him ought to rather bear with her, provide for her, pet and cuddle her like a baby and she do put in her best in that relationship. I love faithful women. What else can a man ask for. No one is perfect. |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by IprintMONEY: 7:32am On Jul 15, 2021 |
rosalieene: Your Opinion Is Needed Please Help
bastard u go edit u go tire. keep editing your profile, u go tire. i warned u not to quote me u think say i dey play with u. u think say i am all these guys u troll here? see me i go scatter u for nairaland, still meet u one on when i enter naija and scatter u |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by Nobody: 11:25am On Jul 18, 2021 |
rosalieene: Your Opinion Is Needed Please Help
My aunt(mum's last sibling) has been having issues with her husband since she got married. She has two kids, a girl(2 yrs old) and a boy(1 yr old). The girl looks like her husband, the boy looks like her husband's brother.
Apart from the other issues they have been having, there is a particular issue that tore them apart. When the boy was born, the husband has been accusing her of sleeping with a man who stays in the same house with them (a room was leased to him), he said the man is the real father of the son.
My aunt asked for a DNA test to be ran but then he shouted and was saying will she provide the money for the test. Least I forget, my aunt isn't doing anything since she got married to him. He didn't want her to work but to depend on him. Most times he doesn't give her money for feeding and upkeep..she usually run to my uncles(her brothers) they give her money. It was also because of him my granny died( she developed high bp when she came for omugwo because of the way she was treated, everyday she comes to my house and my mum gives her food).
Due to the accusations and other issues, last month instead of a DNA test, the hubby ran a genotype and blood group test and his matched with the little baby's own. later on, the man kept on insisting that the little boy is not his son as he calls him "Dada" instead of "daddy".
This time around he started accusing my aunt of sleeping with his brother and an Uncle of his. He even beats the children at any slight provocation.
On wednesday around midnight, 2:30am to be precise according to her, he came to her room and started dragging her, beating her up, strangling her, threatening to kill her even said he doesn't mind going to jail if he kills her. He was beating her and asking who was the father of the boy. He seized her phone too. Her eyes were swollen plus other injuries on her body.The next day when my uncles got to know what happened, they sent my sis to go help her pack up her stuffs and since then my aunt and her kids had been in my house. My uncles were looking for good divorce lawyers as my aunt has made up her mind not to go back to the hubby because she might die in his hands.
Last night the husband came to my house pleading, kneeling down, begging and crying. he refused to go home even till 10pm. he said he wanted his wife and kids back. he kept pleading for a second chance and kept saying he doesn't want to marry another wife... but my dad insisted he leaves the house. he was even denied access to his kids.I felt pity for the man.
Now, do you think he deserves a second chance? do you think he was really remorseful? or do you think she should go on with the divorce case? she is really at cross roads now and confused. Me for one, I don't support divorce but I don't expect someone to keep tolerating domestic violence and loose her life. Do you think she would remarry after the divorce? she had operation during the birth of her kids so she is not really in good shape so do you think any man will look at her? I am also confused on her behalf.
What eventually happened? Did he get his wife and kids back? Did he become a good husband afterwards? Did he eventually run a DNA? Men like him don't change in my opinion. I'm interested in the update. |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by rosalieene(f): 3:23pm On Jul 18, 2021 |
Beloved3:
What eventually happened? Did he get his wife and kids back? Did he become a good husband afterwards? Did he eventually run a DNA?
Men like him don't change in my opinion. I'm interested in the update. They are separated now. The little boy is grown and looks like him 2 Likes |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by Nobody: 3:46pm On Jul 18, 2021 |
rosalieene:
They are separated now. The little boy is grown and looks like him Wow thanks for the update. I knew men like him hardly change except by God's intervention. Is he a part of the boy's life now or he still didn't accept he is the father? |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by rosalieene(f): 3:52pm On Jul 18, 2021 |
Beloved3:
Wow thanks for the update. I knew men like him hardly change except by God's intervention. Is he a part of the boy's life now or he still didn't accept he is the father? He is part of the son's life now. I don't know what's going on currently but I think they have started reconsidering coming back together. It's not always easy especially when children are involved. 1 Like |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by Nobody: 4:18pm On Jul 18, 2021 |
rosalieene:
He is part of the son's life now.
I don't know what's going on currently but I think they have started reconsidering coming back together. It's not always easy especially when children are involved. Yep that's correct. Wish them all the best. |
Re: My Aunt's Husband Accused Their Neighbour Of Fathering Their Son by Nobody: 11:21am On Apr 28, 2022 |
rosalieene: Your Opinion Is Needed Please Help
My aunt(mum's last sibling) has been having issues with her husband since she got married. She has two kids, a girl(2 yrs old) and a boy(1 yr old). The girl looks like her husband, the boy looks like her husband's brother.
Apart from the other issues they have been having, there is a particular issue that tore them apart. When the boy was born, the husband has been accusing her of sleeping with a man who stays in the same house with them (a room was leased to him), he said the man is the real father of the son.
My aunt asked for a DNA test to be ran but then he shouted and was saying will she provide the money for the test. Least I forget, my aunt isn't doing anything since she got married to him. He didn't want her to work but to depend on him. Most times he doesn't give her money for feeding and upkeep..she usually run to my uncles(her brothers) they give her money. It was also because of him my granny died( she developed high bp when she came for omugwo because of the way she was treated, everyday she comes to my house and my mum gives her food).
Due to the accusations and other issues, last month instead of a DNA test, the hubby ran a genotype and blood group test and his matched with the little baby's own. later on, the man kept on insisting that the little boy is not his son as he calls him "Dada" instead of "daddy".
This time around he started accusing my aunt of sleeping with his brother and an Uncle of his. He even beats the children at any slight provocation.
On wednesday around midnight, 2:30am to be precise according to her, he came to her room and started dragging her, beating her up, strangling her, threatening to kill her even said he doesn't mind going to jail if he kills her. He was beating her and asking who was the father of the boy. He seized her phone too. Her eyes were swollen plus other injuries on her body.The next day when my uncles got to know what happened, they sent my sis to go help her pack up her stuffs and since then my aunt and her kids had been in my house. My uncles were looking for good divorce lawyers as my aunt has made up her mind not to go back to the hubby because she might die in his hands.
Last night the husband came to my house pleading, kneeling down, begging and crying. he refused to go home even till 10pm. he said he wanted his wife and kids back. he kept pleading for a second chance and kept saying he doesn't want to marry another wife... but my dad insisted he leaves the house. he was even denied access to his kids.I felt pity for the man.
Now, do you think he deserves a second chance? do you think he was really remorseful? or do you think she should go on with the divorce case? she is really at cross roads now and confused. Me for one, I don't support divorce but I don't expect someone to keep tolerating domestic violence and loose her life. Do you think she would remarry after the divorce? she had operation during the birth of her kids so she is not really in good shape so do you think any man will look at her? I am also confused on her behalf.
Can I hit this shit from behind ( |