INTRODUCTION

Most books and the social media platforms are filled with several qualities a good and pious wife must possess. So, I decided to write this as a guide to the sister asking how she will know her Mr. Right or better still, her "Perfect Man". A good husband should posses the following attributes:

1)Religious commitment

A good husband must be a Muslim upon sunnah who fears Allah and obeys His commandments.Allah says

وَلَا تُنكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنُوا وَلَعَبْدٌ مُّؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُم

And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikun till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater, etc.), even though he pleases you.(Q2vs221)

2) Wealth

He may not own a private jet,or be richer than the Warren Buffet or the Dangotes, but he must have sufficient wealth(sustenance) to provide for his family and prevent them from begging.The Prophet said to Faatimah bint Qays , when she came to consult him about three men who had proposed marriage to her,

أما معاوية فرجل تَرِب ) أي فقير ( لا مال له .. ( رواه مسلم 1480

“As for Mu’aawiyah, he is a poor man who has no wealth…” (Narrated by Muslim, 1480).

3) Kind and lovely

A righteous husband must definitely be kind,lovely,gentle,nice and patient towards women, the Prophet said to Faatimah bint Qays, in the hadeeth quoted above,

أما أبو جهم فلا يضع العصا عن عاتقه ( إشارة إلى أنّه يُكثر ضرب النّساء .

“As for Abu Jaham, his stick never leaves his shoulder”,referring to the fact that he used to beat women a lot.

4) Attractive and healthy

It is good if he is sound of body and healthy, free of faults, sickness, etc., and not disabled or sterile.

الْمُؤْمِنُ الْقَوِىُّ خَيْرٌ وَأَحَبُّ إِلَى اللَّهِ مِنَ الْمُؤْمِنِ الضَّعِيفِ وَفِى كُلٍّ خَيْرٌ احْرِصْ عَلَى

The strong believer(in emaan and strength) is better and more beloved to Allâh than the weak believer, while there is good in both.

5) Knowledge

He may not be as knowledgeable as Ibn Taymiyyah or versed like Ibn Hajar, but he should know what's enough to safe himself and his family from the hell fire,as Allah commanded him

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ

O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones(Q6vs66)

6)Character

A good husband should be patient, truthful, trustworthy and supportive.

Aisha, the wife of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), was asked, “What did the Prophet (ﷺ) use to do in his house?” She replied,
(كَانَ يَكُونُ فِي مِهْنَةِ أَهْلِهِ)
“He used to keep himself busy serving his family (Bukhari)

In another report Aisha was reported to have said, “He did what one of you would do in his house.

يعمل في بيته كما يعمل أحدكم في بيت كان يخصف نعله ويخيط ثوبه

He mended sandals and patched garments and sewed.” (Adab Al-Mufrad graded sahih by Al-Albani)

Written by Soodiq bn Mas'uud

Jazakallah Khairan @ OP.

Almighty Allah will make it easy for us

jazakallah kairan

Alhamdulillah..

Jazakumlahkair

Jazakallahu Khyran

GeneralOjukwu:
7. A very long rod....

Guy how do I remove this Islamic text they pasted on my profile??
I mistakenly clicked yes....

may Allah provide us with abundant wealth n a good wife fill with hadini

May Allah provide us with righteous and dutiful spouses.

"The best among you are those who are good to their wives"

Fear Allah and stop promoting that which Allah has prohibited

Religious country

OK

May Allahu Grant Us Beediyah

MUST ONE BE A MUSLIM TO BE A GOOD HUSBAND ? RUBBISH !

come again.. some of your points are not connected to your topic of a good husband quality... such as ,.. I think you picked your source from not to excellent source ... not saying you are wrong ... but some re not connecting
MaSha Allah

mallamabdul25:
MUST ONE BE A MUSLIM TO BE A GOOD HUSBAND ? RUBBISH !

you asked a question and answered yourself

GeneralOjukwu:


LOL... i don't work on Nairaland nah Go and create SirHenRy007 if you don't want it at all.

Many people who are not Muslims would definitely come here to learn a thing or two.

[b]MEN sacrifice a lot to make women happy [/b]

i tell you bro, I just learnt that now..

mallamabdul25:
MUST ONE BE A MUSLIM TO BE A GOOD HUSBAND ? RUBBISH !

Who ask you to be a Muslim by fire by force? Mumu world wide!!