felifeli:

@poster
Just for records, how about you ; will you change after marriage ?
Will you be going to see your girlfriend (now wife unfortunately) at her parent's house ?
Will you still be holding hands when you stroll on the beach with the baby screaming like mad ?
Will you stop going to market and cooking your own food now that your wife (or housemaid) now does it ?
Will your intimacy still be inventive or will you now be doing slam dunks ?
Will you ,
Will you stop being an backside and only ask sensible questions !!

Katsumoto:

Women go into marriage expecting a man to change but he doesn't
and men go into marriage expecting a woman not to change but she does.

Na there wahala dey start.

harakiri:

I'm aware of the above saying.What i'm scared of is me thinking i have married a "good girl" and she turns into Margaret Thatcher overnite.I've also heard so many tales of married men being denied love making for one flimsy reason or the other e.g it's either because they are pregnant or they just gave birth or they are completely tired or they simply don't see the need anymore since they already have a child or children and the only reason they show interest in love making is when they want another baby.If that's true, then that's a really sick situation.I need all the pre-marital advice i can get.

Thanks all.

chika98:

So basically you are more worried about her not having sex with you after marriage than other important life issues? SMH

Katsumoto:

But sex is a deal breaker whether you are going to accept it or not. Assuming a good and faithful man is denied sex by his wife for 1 month. In a rare moment of weakness, he sleeps with a colleague at work who gets pregnant. Will the wife not be affected?

chika98:

Did you read what he said. "flimsy" excuses like "being pregnant" or "tired" or "just giving birth"
Tell me what woman in her right mind would want to have intimacy like it is out of fashion after just having a child? Are you men really that senseless?

harakiri:

I'm aware of the above saying.What i'm scared of is me thinking i have married a "good girl" and she turns into Margaret Thatcher overnite.I've also heard so many tales of married men being denied love making for one flimsy reason or the other e.g it's either because they are pregnant or they just gave birth or they are completely tired or [b]they simply don't see the need anymore since they already have a child or children and the only reason they show interest in love making is when they want another baby.[/b]If that's true, then that's a really sick situation.I need all the pre-marital advice i can get.

Thanks all.

olisa07:

Never changes, harch they becomes !

felifeli:

I will tell you a secret which you must not tell anybody else including anyone reading this dumb post :

THE ULTIMATE AMBITION OF EVERY WOMAN IS TO BECOME A WIDOW.
IF YOU DON'T GO SOON ENOUGH SOME WILL GRUDGINGLY SETTLE FOR A DIVORCE INSTEAD
Nevertheless BE A MAN and get on with it.
Ekan ni omokunrin nku

chaircover:

I think as individuals (both men and women) we all change as life goes on. We change as we get older and we change as a result of circumstances we find ourselves in.

Sexyleamon is right;  when you are married, you relax and the real you comes out, although hopefully it wont be too different from before otherwise kata kata go happen.

felifeli:

I will tell you a secret which you must not tell anybody else including anyone reading this dumb post :

THE ULTIMATE AMBITION OF EVERY WOMAN IS TO BECOME A WIDOW.
IF YOU DON'T GO SOON ENOUGH  SOME WILL  GRUDGINGLY SETTLE FOR A DIVORCE INSTEAD

Nevertheless BE A MAN and get on with it.
Ekan ni omokunrin nku