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My Husband's Family Is Sucking Him Dry / She Is Single And Living On Rented Apartment, Away From Family ! Is It Good? / My Family Is Tearing Apart! Help (2) (3) (4)
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Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Emmaculate77(m): 4:04pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
eyinjuege: |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 4:54pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
dfrost:No. My dad passed when I was little and based on what I was told by my siblings: he wasn't irresponsible, though, he and my mum did have their differences. Theirs was about 32 when he passed. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Donkonyon: 5:06pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
My younger brother, I understand how you feel right now , because I have once been in your shoes. My advice to you is to keep off between a husband and wife matter, I understand very well that the person involved is your father, but please and please again, keep off, as long as your dad is not getting physical with your mum, keep off. From your story, your dad is a chronic womaniser and the best you can do for him is to put him in prayers, hand him over to God. He is the only one that can save him, because womanising is more of a spiritual issue. A normal father cannot neglect the challenges in his house and be assisting other. Just concentrate on your education for now. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by TheCongo2: 5:56pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
Medunah: I like that. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by TheCongo2: 5:58pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
Benita27: What if the elders are on his dad payroll? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by TheCongo2: 6:24pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
Fawklicant: And you actually saw her in her kitchen doing this, correct? You say she is very pretty with a body to die for. So, maybe she started cheating on her ugly monster after the abuse had started. She was living with an ugly man who showed no affection while thousand of people outside was ready to make her feel like she was everything. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by dfrost: 9:25pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
Benita27: Oops! Sorry about that. Pardon my inquiry. Just that I'm always of the opinion that one will never understand what people pass through unless you have been in their shoes. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 9:29pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
dfrost:That's true. The op's case is a different situation entirely, from the story and how humans behave one could tell the outcome if he confronts his dad. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by ebby9z(m): 9:57pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
Donjazzy12:Writing his dad that rash letter would lead to a lot of compounded issues that might not likely go away. He'd gonna regret it and would wish he could undo it. However, that's what's called immaturity and delinquency. And since he has come here for mature advice, I believe advising him strongly but reasonably would save him instead of hurting insults at him. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by dfrost: 10:03pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
Benita27: Yes you are right about that. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by cuteoly(f): 11:40pm On Jul 30, 2017 |
My dear, just relax till you are independent. My Dad's case was worse than your father's own, he even sleeps with the ladies staying with us then while my mom gives them space and pretends like she doesn't know what's happening but my elder brother condoned all till the week he came back from his youth service. He confronted my Dad and there was war, my father ended up taking the matter to the police station and the way people insulted my Dad made him change abit. He later turned to a saint before he died, I remember back then in the hospital when he was sick, he would call my mom all sorts of sweet names asking her to forgive him that he was carried away by worldly things. That she is a good woman that God blessed him with but that he started mishaving. My Dad could just sit and cry for the whole day after remembering all his wayward life while he was sick. Do not worry yourself, God will judge him. Just tell your mom to still be submissive that God will reward her. Ur Dad will later come back to his senses. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by LorenzoWisdom(m): 5:42pm On Aug 01, 2017 |
na wa |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by bukatyne(f): 6:20pm On Aug 01, 2017 |
Benita27: In most cases, when a woman is married, she tries hard not to lose the marriage and swallows a lot of shit from her husband. Her children sees it and naturally will take her 'side'. Children are not stupid that's why sometimes, they will side with the parent painted evil when they can see the truth. On the average, nothing stops a Nigerian husband from dumping a wife and picking the next one so why should he accommodate her excesses? If a parent is visibly maltreating a partner (not hearsay), it is the duty of children to settle whatever rift is between their parents or provide support to the maltreated party. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by bukatyne(f): 6:22pm On Aug 01, 2017 |
Prosper24: I understand. I know someone who left his wife because.... (fill in the gap) when he retire and collected his gratuity. After lavishing it on women, he came back home like a prodigal son after years of separation. It can be very painful with people telling you to forgive. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by bukatyne(f): 6:29pm On Aug 01, 2017 |
MadCow1: @Prosper24, Really agree with this. When you can take of your mum and siblings, just arrange for her to travel from one place to another or start doing all sort of courses She is not divorced, she is not married either.... it is called married but living single. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by bukatyne(f): 6:46pm On Aug 01, 2017 |
humblenature: Haa Haa! Now I see the source of the problem. It is well. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by bukatyne(f): 6:55pm On Aug 01, 2017 |
cuteoly: This is the issue They always come back to their senses when they are sick and need care. Why can't they 'repent' when they are still vibrant with something in their body to enjoy? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by humblenature: 8:58pm On Aug 01, 2017 |
bukatyne:SO NA SO U DEY SEE YOUR OWN ABI? YOU CARRY MICROSCOPE NOW U DON DIAGNOSE D PATIENT. QUACK DOCTOR . ABEG SHIFT MAKE I HEAR WORD. EBEANO |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by TheCongo2: 12:06am On Aug 02, 2017 |
Phinalphantasy: My brother, when the kids attention would be on the mom, the father will be accusing the mom for turning the Kids against him. Trust me. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Prosperkaro(m): 7:44pm On Aug 03, 2017 |
TonyeBarcanista:Certainly not. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 9:59am On Aug 05, 2017 |
[quote author=Adorbs post=58966309][/quote] i understand brother. my experience was terrible as well. going to uni alleviated mine. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Nobody: 11:00pm On Aug 05, 2017 |
Please get your mother away from your father before he kills her. |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by Adorbs: 7:46pm On Aug 07, 2017 |
Phinalphantasy: I am a lady ☺ |
Re: Should I Send My Father This Message Our Family Is tearing apart by iDRAW(m): 5:11pm On Aug 19, 2017 |
TheCongo2: Good day sir, |
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