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Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by oluwatidamilare(m): 8:05pm On Sep 19, 2017 |
What are the things people experience after marriage and never want the unmarried to know?
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Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by Nobody: 8:27pm On Sep 19, 2017 |
From my POV, nothing extraordinary, they are things you hear/read of everyday. Though there are details that should remain classified and never for external parties, the rest is at the discretion of the married to share. It's complicated explaining these things to some singles(and married too). You tell them the good _they say you're hyping your partner/yourself, painting a false picture or trying to make them jealous. They can even say you have little experience _so, your suffering is on the way. 8 Likes |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by ashewoboy(m): 8:39pm On Sep 19, 2017 |
paperlace is present. sisisioge, where are you? na this kind thread you go find them. |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by greatmarshall(m): 8:49pm On Sep 19, 2017 |
Hmm |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by sisisioge: 8:53pm On Sep 19, 2017 |
ashewoboy: ...how I wan hoard things people experience after marriage from unmarried people when I'm clearly unmarried. Mind yourself o ashewoboy! |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by ashewoboy(m): 9:59am On Sep 20, 2017 |
sisisioge: more reason you should hoard it. you are unmarried. paperlace still get minute experience buh she dey do like say she don get enormous experience for marriage. sha contribute. when you marry, you go know say no be by theory. 1 Like |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by ImaIma1(f): 10:32am On Sep 20, 2017 |
PaperLace: You really nailed it!! Besides in marriage, you cannot go around telling people details of your marriage. That is already inviting the third party they warn us of. Marriage is a threefold cord with husband, wife and God. Even your pastor should not be privy to your marriage details except in life threatening or counselling sessions. 5 Likes |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by Nobody: 10:51am On Sep 20, 2017 |
ImaIma1: I know right. Sometimes you share for the purpose of clarification (i.e) it's not always that easy or as bad as society paints it, but you must end up misunderstood. If there is anything I have noticed, majority love to hear the bad!! I forgot to add another,when you don't talk at all _they say, is this one truly happy in his/her marriage. He/she never talks about the spouse . 2 Likes |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by Compliant(m): 11:26am On Sep 20, 2017 |
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Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by ImaIma1(f): 1:10pm On Sep 20, 2017 |
PaperLace: If we follow people's mouth, we will just mess thinga up. Really people like to hear bad. They want to feel that their situation is better than yours. They look for the downfall of others so that they can have something to talk about in their next gossip meeting. Me, i was a happy child before i got married. I am still the same happy child. It just leaves people guessing. Besides the few friends are friends with my husband. I don't need ro |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by BellaElla(f): 3:54pm On Sep 20, 2017 |
I would leave my reply at "things people experience after marriage" i will exclude the remaining parts cos these things are quite normal 1. Tighter finances : Its fun going out every weekend with until you have to start catering for additional mouths with pre- marriage income. baby food now replaces sharwarma. School fees replace iphone 7/galaxy s8. You who will normally dash out your bad tv now finds a way to patch it up and manage it for longer. You never get around to changing your old bachelor hood sofa's because just when you wanted to buy that sleek set of 9-seater settee that you have been ogling at in the furniture brochure, your mother in-law calls your wife to remind her that her younger brother hasnt paid his fees and The rent is also due. 2. Job Loss : If only we knew how many men and women have lost their jobs. Some people are surviving on what they were able to acquire before marriage. Income after marriage fluctuates a whole lot due to retrenchment, bad business deals, stopping work to take care of the kids etc. That is why it is advised not to base your choices solely on finances cos it is quite unpredictable. 3. Reduction in sex..ual attraction: Yes , its quite normal to lose the steam after a few years of marriage. The lust is replaced with warmth and companionship. The truth is that I have come to discover that marriage is more about companionship than any other thing. having someone to share your victories and loses with, succeeding together through job loss, death of family, debts, loans making sacrifices. do you know the exhilaration that comes with building a house together with your spouse? Denying yourselves so that your dreams can come true? watching your plans take form from paper to reality? Marriage is good i tell you. When people say marriage is not an achievement or marriage is overrated, I smile internally. a GOOD marriage is all that and more. 4. Fear : Every marriage has its own share of fear and doubts. What if he doesnt find me attractive anymore after 3 children? What if I lose my job and cant provide for my wife and children? What if I am involved in an accident and lose my limbs? what if my spouse dies at a very young age and leaves me behind? what if my husband brings a 5 year old child home one day and says he is the child's father? what if I am not responsible for my wife's first pregnancy etc. These questions come up once in a while especially when triggered by an event/action around us. While you should not bury your head in sand while in marriage, do not also make it your point of duty to prove that your spouse can never betray or hurt you. Always have your shock absorbers well greased and ready 5. Spousal jealousy : There are times when a spouse is far ahead of the other in terms of achievements . The other one might start feeling left behind. 6. Uncertainty: Did I make the right choice? would my ex have been a better choice? what if he/she changes? what if I meet my soulmate after marriage? what if?. These thoughts come to the best of us after marriage especially when there is a misunderstanding, but the good thing is that those thoughts go away once your spouse does something that reminds you of why you got married to them in the first place The list goes on and on but marriage is for people that have jointly come to the realization that life is full of ups and downs, and are determined to make it despite the odds. 26 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by lastmessenger: 8:06pm On Sep 20, 2017 |
Just make sure the money is there and the sex is good. This way marriage is like heaven on earth |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by KanwuliaExtra: 1:16am On Sep 21, 2017 |
The lack of true love and all the cover ups! |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by Mrkumareze(m): 5:38am On Sep 22, 2017 |
Marriage is not really easy but we can't run away from it . 6 months into marriage you 'll find too many reasons you should have remained single but that's human for us. To remain single isn't an option, every year counts and you can imagine getting to 35 40 without a child. Meaning at 60 u 're still paying sch fees for it kids lol. Just marry for the sake of your future? If u die early na u sabi 1 Like |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by Nutase: 6:48am On Sep 22, 2017 |
Expect APC and PDP Changes |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by MizAijay(f): 7:13am On Sep 22, 2017 |
Married people can't possibly tell you everything. It is better experienced than told. But fact still remains that you never know it all in marriage, you are never fully prepared for that journey and even though there can be similarities in marriages no two marriages are the same. The idea is figure out what works in your marriage and apply it. Bottom line is marriage can be a roller coaster ride filled with the good times when you are in cloud nine and the bad times when you feel like you are about to loose your mind but then you hold on tight and discover that you made it through. Like I said earlier, it is better experienced. |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by Nobody: 8:14am On Sep 22, 2017 |
Since married people don't want unmarried people to know what they are going through, why bring it to Nairaland? You want us to know abi? Contunu. |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by walesalak(m): 12:07pm On Sep 22, 2017 |
Marriage na black market. It has its ups n downs. Just enter with the hope that whatever comes out of it is ur destiny.... Planning to go into it soonest........................ 2 Likes |
Re: Things People Experience After Marriage And Never Want Unmarried To Know? by yemre: 9:49am On Mar 31, 2018 |
You said it all. I can confirm all these and many more. Well done! BellaElla: |
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