laiza:
Gentleman I got only one advice for ya....take a walk, and keep walking. Obviously both of you are on different cruise. She wants you to man up, you want her to woman down. In short she's the man and all you want is a lady you'd want to defend, not actually have to defend in a fight.
Na so one ex tried that shit with me, ogbeni I seat inside motor look drama tire. When she got the message nobody told her to behave.
You aren't married yet you're already settling quarrel upandan, I just hope you guys don't stay in face me I face you after marriage....that's when you'd understand the full meaning of what Jesus said on the cross. IT IS FINISHED

Chiefly:
We've been together for a year plus now and it's a regular occurrence, she's always starting shi* with other guys, other times with other girls then I have to deal with thier men. Whenever we go clubbing, hanging out in a lounge, shopping at the mall, attending weeding ceremonies, infact the last confrontation was right in a cinema hall... it's quite embarrassing. (she seems to only behave at church)..
I've tried to keep her in check and curb her running mouth in these instances but it never works, and whenever she runs her mouth like this at other guys for minutes on end, it’s only ends one way: With her manning up …and expecting me to clobber the other guy for her, ultimately I get into physical confrontations and fights with these guys to diffend her and ultimately my ego.

Most people think It's my inability to control her but step in my shoes and you'll see the only thing I haven't done is hit her (physically), she's too damn stubborn (in this particular area). This is the only issue we have tho, every other thing is quite great. I've always thought she'll change with time but no. No significant improvement whatsoever. Don't know, could it be psychogenic? She was born and raised in the UK tho based in Nigeria now.

NB: *It's an arranged marriage.

So I really need your advice guys (I'd appreciate matured inputs pls from experienced folks).. Cos

Don't need a woman to go around picking fights for me. i gotta find a way to clip this the instant it starts, or figure out a way to stop this bad behavior once and for all...

Edited: Guys forgot to mention - her dad is a Brigadier General
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From a friend.
Lalasticlala let's help a brother.

majekdom2:
Her pedigree is a major reason. Omo soldier mentality plus she may just be pissed off by by low IQ around here.

Chukazu:


Hmmm...POCOH!

chairperson , PRESIDENTIAL COMMITTEE ON WOMEN EMPOWERMENT AND GENDER EQUALITY

pocohantas:
1: Narcissism.

2: She loves you much and can't stand anyone annoying you in public. That's why a woman can call her man stupid and feel it's nothing. Let a third party try it and watch her bring White House Down . She always expects you to back her up, because she needs to prove she isn't fighting for someone who gives no fck.

Chiefly:


Hmm, very well said, tho kinda harsh but true all the same, guess that's the Red pill mans gotta swallow..

However, her place of birth isn't that big a deal and no one's hyping her cos of that.. Maybe if I told you she is a Harvard graduate then it'll be too much info, but here we talkin about the environment in which she was raised and how it might have contributed to this attitude subconsciously cos environmental factors shape behaviors.. True if she was born in Nigeria prolly the "Nonsense" wouldn't have been tolerated but then again she ain't, and one needs to ask questions about what he dosent understand.

obitee69:
Shes a spoilt rude brat. I undrstand you totally cos im in ur shoes but hitched but ur not God save you if you end up making her a wife. Study her carefully if she isnt changing RUN FOR DEAR LIFE!

Chiefly:



Yeah. Exactly.

Umm, bro.. Guys are generally insecure this days and with the whole Alpha male controversy, dude thinks he always have to prove a point... What if he walks out and things get out of hand.. He'll still face the consequences eventually.

pocohantas:


laugh wan kill me here!!!!



I'm seriously looking for the correlation. You sure you commenting on the right thread?

Chukazu:


Ehen...na today?

If the woman is the one at the receiving end ,you would write your epistle
But now it's the man ,you want us to believe it's "play play"

Blackhawk03:


Hahahaha

Babez! She picks fight with others unnecessarily, not because of him. She's just a stubborn goat. Who enjoys show of shame, anyways?

Op, don't stand up for her one day. She picked her fight, let her battle it out with the person. She needs to start taking responsibility for her childish acts, just walk out the moment she starts.

Chiefly:



Hmm, interesting, I understand what you mean but the problem is not with the dude, he dosent have issues with anyone, he's totally cool - the lady is the one picking the fights herself and the guy has to take the punches at the end of the day tryin to defend her.

Chiefly:
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Abdulpro1:
Give this guy a bottle of Champagne pls

Chiefly:






OMG, Yeah men that shi* happens all the time.. Going out with her is now an issue. Men arranged marriages are just f**ked up. But really what kinda guy would sit back and allow his woman get maltreated? It's a real dicey situation, and most people here don't realize that. Besides I forgot to mention her Old man is a B. General.

The whole "allowing them beat her small" is not feasible man.....

Chiefly:


LoL. for real?? Why would he do that? was the MOPOL guy on mufti? Damn... Now I understand your earlier comments better.. . Based on this the gurl would not change any time soon tho cos.. Well, her Dad is a Brigadier General...

Blackhawk03:


Hahahaha

Babez! She picks fight with others unnecessarily, not because of him. She's just a stubborn goat. Who enjoys show of shame, anyways?

Op, don't stand up for her one day. She picked her fight, let her battle it out with the person. She needs to start taking responsibility for her childish acts, just walk out the moment she starts.