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My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Nobody: 8:01pm On Feb 17, 2018 |
So I've been engaged to this guy since mid last year and planning on getting married middle of this year, but recently for the past 3 months he took up a bank job in another state and he has really become distant. Just this week on the 14th I didn't hear from him through out the day till the 16th, no call or text even WhatsApp message, nothing. And even on the 16th I had to call first. I have a feeling he's probably dating someone better in his office because I not a graduate, he told me when he started the new job that they have a lot of female staff in his branch. These days he can go days without calling me and wouldn't feel bad. I'm just thinking that this engagement wouldn't make it to marriage at this rate. Now I'm thinking I should start looking for option B since this relationship is starting to feel I'm not on solid ground. But deep down I still love my fiance and just want only him. modified Okay so some Nairalanders have taken it upon themselves to become private investigators reading my old post which are somehow contradicting this story. Well there's a perfectly good reason for that and that's because I have a friend who just like me and so many of us here have relationship issues and she has asked me to post something about what she is going through in my account for anonymity. So please face the issue in this thread and stop feeling like a private investigator. My gosh some people have time oh reading way tooooo much meaning into older post. Thank you 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Nobody: 8:05pm On Feb 17, 2018 |
talk to him 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by greatnaija01: 8:06pm On Feb 17, 2018 |
My dear, you and your dude DO NOT KNOW WHAT LOVE IS. Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t throw tantrums, Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying will end; understanding will reach its limit But Love is Eternal. Please redefine your relationship, dont enter a marriage you will regret. UPGRADE YOURSELF Vanillaskin: 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by dingbang(m): 8:06pm On Feb 17, 2018 |
Take heart. Stop crying. |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Olalan(m): 8:08pm On Feb 17, 2018 |
Sorry OP, your lover doesn't seem interested anymore, you need to have a serious talk with him so you know his mind. Really sorry about it but if he's not interested anymore you need to brace up and move on. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by iamsammie(m): 8:14pm On Feb 17, 2018 |
Try paying him a visit like once a month, the easiest way to maintain a distance relationship is to have physical contact once in a while or else it will crumble since you 2 are not already married, he will start looking for options just as you are thinking about looking for options 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Donald3d(m): 8:18pm On Feb 17, 2018 |
You said this below : Vanillaskin: And this too : Vanillaskin: You called yourself a bad girl, I am not judging but I am concerned how long you have been with this guy that you are already considering marriage with him . @above quoted, you were already considering being with somone else , this was in NOV 2017, is it this same guy that was disturbing you that you are engaged to now ? Were you already engaged and at the same time considering someone else ? Is it possible that he has seen these signs in you of "half-mindedness", "one leg in,one leg out" , that made him distance himself from you ?. Relationships are not meant to be one sided , if he does not call you, why dont you call him, you sounded like its his duty alone to call you, when in fact its meant to be a two way street From what I could deduce, the foundation of your relationship was not built properly or on solid ground, I advice both of you fix that before walking down the aisle. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Nobody: 10:19pm On Feb 17, 2018 |
I just ran a cursory check on your profile and saw this topic you created: https://www.nairaland.com/4183118/im-bad-girl-good-guy After going through the thread, I discovered that ashewo 20Naira ni e because you were already contemplating on cheating on your so-called fiancé - and that's even if you've not been distributing your dried o.b.o like guguru & epa before then The thing is, you can't eat your cake & still have it. Your fiance is prolly a sharp dude like me - and must have seen you for what you are - a desperate karishika looking to settling down. My sincere advice to you is to forget about this guy & move on, since - who knows, he might have fvcked a better, tighter & lubricated nunu at his new branch, and if you don't get your shiit together, na agbero for Mushin or Ijora Badia you go marry last last One more thing - pls, take no offense at my response. Calling a spade - a spade has always been my forte! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Acidosis(m): 11:40pm On Feb 17, 2018 |
Your fiance is doing the right thing 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Ishilove: 6:35am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Vanillaskin:Aunty wa, you said the below Vanillaskin:Alumni means you are a graduate of a particular institution, but up in your post you said 'I am not a graduate' Aunty, either you are an attention seeker or a liar who can't get her stories straight. I am not interested in the mileage your pussy is currently reading, or if you phantom fiancé is acting weird. No, what I am interested in is why you are contradicting yourself on separate Nairaland threads. Social media and lies!! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by YesNo(m): 8:24am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Ishilove: I think people just get so lonely and run out of ideas on what else to do with their life and the remaining data on their subscription.... then they resort to such uncoordinated lies in the name of seeking attention and sympathy. |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Nobody: 8:37am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Donald3d Zoharariel Ishilove YesNo modified Okay so some Nairalanders have taken it upon themselves to become private investigators reading my old post which are somehow contradicting this story. Well there's a perfectly good reason for that and that's because I have a friend who just like me and so many of us here have relationship issues and she has asked me to post something about what she is going through in my account for anonymity. So please face the issue in this thread and stop feeling like a private investigator. My gosh some people have time oh reading way tooooo much meaning into older post. Thank you |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by YesNo(m): 8:57am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Vanillaskin: I just read the rubbish reason for your twisted contradictions and how you tried so hard to defend it like the rest of us are reading way tooooo much meaning into your older post and i tot of warped delusion. No wonder the mystery "husband to be" had to run away.... thats if the story has any atom of truth in it.... cos u will come back tomoro and say IT IS YOUR TROUBLED FRIEND'S STORY. which you never stated such until your bullsh!t was spotted. forgive us for being able to compare stories and pick out the contradictions and crookedness. but if you keep sh!tt!ng out stories with the hope that no one would be sensible enough to do a background check or even have the time to do so, then you have failed. goodluck selling this. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Ishilove: 9:08am On Feb 18, 2018 |
YesNo:Ehn, she tok sey na her friend, no be am dey face man wahala |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Nobody: 9:13am On Feb 18, 2018 |
YesNo: they are just trolling. loneliness is for oyibos. nigerians are way too crowded to be lonely |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Sagamite(m): 9:15am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Vanillaskin: I shall join those that doubt the authenticity of this situation as you claimed you are not a graduate, yet your English and grammatical construct is better than 98% of those that call themselves graduates in Nigeria. 7 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Nobody: 9:32am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Sagamite:Oh my God, you got me laughing hard here.. I'll take at the bolded as a compliment. Thanks |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by YesNo(m): 9:33am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Sagamite: I noticed that too. but I just guessed that Her other other other friend that is a graduate helped her type it. I guess so. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Nobody: 9:43am On Feb 18, 2018 |
YesNo:I no go school but I'm not dumb either. Maybe that's why my fiance fell in love with me but now I'm guessing since his social class has been elevated he may not want me a non graduate for a wife |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by YesNo(m): 10:38am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Vanillaskin: Abeg I will get back to you later. you can keep typing your explanations... I will make time to read them later . |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Nobody: 10:45am On Feb 18, 2018 |
Vanillaskin: I don't understand why you cannot "Understand" that you are an Advanced Olosho & you don't deserve your fiance. Ask yourself, If you are his Sister, Would you advice him to marry an OLOSHO like you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by ahnie: 2:43am On Feb 19, 2018 |
Vanillaskin: tot u said...your friend told you to help her publish this post? its a nawa for you. |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by duduade: 8:04am On Feb 19, 2018 |
He s dating someone at work... or playing a dangerous game with someone... Just wait till they spend the weekends together o...QED Corporate world encourages cheating... Do you know how many available ladies are out there... Ready to snatch?? Was in such a position like two years back... I thought it was just the usual "busy" thingy.. So I wasn't bugged... Until I got an SMS saying bla bla bla bla months later.. This was the same work environment he was always nagging about being toxic for him..and I would beg him to overlook the challenges and be optimistic.. My advice.. Is to get him to talk more...engage him more.. If at the end of the day if God says he isn't yours then you let him walk.. Don't bother yourself 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by KingSango(m): 4:30pm On Feb 19, 2018 |
So I've been engaged to this guy since mid last year and planning on getting married middle of this year, but recently for the past 3 months he took up a bank job in another state and he has really become distant. Please redefine your relationship, dont enter a marriage you will regret. UPGRADE YOURSELF |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by Sagamite(m): 5:04pm On Feb 19, 2018 |
The jobless fraud deactivated in the end. What a mooron! |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by UjuJoan2: 5:56pm On Feb 19, 2018 |
Sagamite: |
Re: My Fiance Is Slipping Away From Me by MIKOLOWISKA: 12:19am On Feb 21, 2018 |
So I've been engaged to this guy since mid last year and planning on getting married middle of this year, but recently for the past 3 months he took up a bank job in another state and he has really become distant.no wonder he slipping away from you see fish brain |
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