Stages of marital procedures of the Igbo people

First of all, introduction.
You come alone or or with a friend or brother. You can come along with drink. This other part where you get familiarize your would be in law. Exchange of phone numbers is allowed at this time. The father of the girl after you leave we ask her if she intends to marry you.

Second stage is when you bring in your family. They come to officially make your intentions known to the parents of the girl. The lady is asked again in the presence of all if she is willing to marry you. Her response leads to the next stage.



Third :preparing of list of items.
List of items will be typed and sent to you.

Note:please try and negotiate it as soon as possible. It's not mandatory you must buy all that is there.
Again, wise people will choose to monetize it. One good thing about monetize is that they get to buy exactly what they want in the list by themselves. There are times when they reject certain things that doesn't meet up to their standards.

Monetize means asking what everything ON THE LIST ALONE including the bride price will cost in monetary value. Negotiate it, then pay. No stress for you and your family.



Fourth stage:If you didn't pay the bride price on the earlier stage you can wait till the marriage day proper. It's usually cheap in some parts of igbo land. My hometown cost 10k to15k.


Final traditional day. Tips for you.

Consult with the mother of the girl for listening of items for cooking. This should create a personal relationship with her. If you are buying a meat, Do it yourself!All you need is to book a cheap hotel for a week prior to that day and make certain arrangements with a brother or friend.


Buy bottle drinks more. Do not buy expensive beer in high quantity like Heineken. Again, can drinks is a no no in igbo land. Igbos drink alot.Buy more of Hero, 33,Goldberg.Can drinks is easy to steal in quantities.

You can order a cooling van.
Buy bags of satchet water, and few of bottled water. Guests can be wasteful.


Your woman can handle decoration ET Al.

The father of the girl can arrange canopies. Be care full at this point. If it costs 20k,you can give him say 23k.Dont be stingy .Na where small change fit enter him hand.

Again, please keep small money down for guys o.If umu ogbe, village boys ear say you no be igbo and want to marry igbo girl them go block road o. For my side even if you're igbo from another town them go block road. You go settle this with small change to buy cigar.They usually do this as you're about to leave with your bride. No fear! Na cigar money them dey find. Sometimes it's funny. Last time my sister husband paid them off, they warned her never to come back to her father's house! Else they will chase her back.

That's pretty much.

todugo:
Stages of marital procedures of the Igbo people

Where are you from? I can help you with major tips.

I'd rather marry oyinbo. Who get time and strength for all this stress?

sammydirectly:
I'd rather marry oyinbo. Who get time and strength for all this stress?

Every marriage has got it's own limitations. No be human being oyibo be?

nkwuocha:



Every marriage has got it's own limitations. No be human being oyibo be?

Human beings with brains and reduced stress.

This life is so stressful, why add more stress and be celebrating rubbish?

Oyinbo people are daily removing stress from their culture, but my ebony brothers are elaborating theirs. Nonsense

sammydirectly:
I'd rather marry oyinbo. Who get time and strength for all this stress?

shebi Na Oyibo deal with that former arsenal star? U never see anything