This lady wouldn't just leave my husband alone

Kemi Ashefon


THIS is fast becoming a pain in Linda's neck. "There is a lady I always see her love text messages on my husband's phone and anytime I asked him, he would keep quiet," Linda laments. A mother of three kids, she does not understand why Mike, her spouse of nine years, can run after a lady everyone refers to as a love-peddler.

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This lady wouldn't just leave my husband alone


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"I have made my investigations and even gave the phone number to my friends, who have called her and made their discoveries too," Linda continues. "She was a husband-snatcher and was known to destroy homes. Though my husband has been quiet on this issue, I have been worried because anytime I go through his phone, this lady's messages are always there.

"Meanwhile, anytime I go through the reply folder, I would not get any message of his. My husband was never a womaniser and I had never caught him with any woman. But this girl has refused to leave him alone.

"From the content of the messages, they must have been dating because she talked about meeting him at a certain joint; there were times she would ask for the dishes to cook and the latest one was about her job - she wanted to leave where she was to a company, where my husband is a director. I have already planned with some of my friends to go and beat her up in her house but I am afraid of my husband - what if he was actually dating the girl and he gets to know what I have done?"

Karen has same problems. "Just that this girl knew me and associated with my kids," she says. Wondering how old the girl is? "She is a friend to my second daughter and aged 24 years," she adds. "Initially, I thought my husband was helping her to get a job and whenever she came to the house and went to see him in the library, I never suspected anything. But the quarrel between my daughter and her so-called friend raised an eyebrow.

"She never told me anything but the driver did. If I thought it was a minor issue, I was joking because my daughter later opened up to me that most of my husband's foreign trips were undertaken with that girl. At 52, do I fight a girl who could have been my daughter, over a man? Ironically, I had never raised this issue with my husband because I don't have much evidence. I am desperate to save my 27-year-old marriage, what do I do?"

"The problem was not even the girl," says Aina, 42, and a mother of a 10-year-old girl. "My husband had insisted that he would marry another wife because his religion permits it but I knew his sisters ganged up against me because I was childless for many years and when I had my baby, it was a girl.

"I am suffering from secondary infertility now and they (his sisters) believed that he should get another woman to have kids for him. Really, the whole scenario didn't bother me until I discovered who the girl was - my neighbour's niece, who was his personal assistant.

"Was I shocked? I was admitted in the hospital for a week but the reality dawned on me that I have a rival, with an almost nine-month-old pregnancy. My husband now boasts about his forthcoming twins. Though the girl has not moved in, she had been introduced to me and my sisters-in-law would always come to remind me that she would move in as soon as she is delivered of her babies."

ThoniaSlim:

The mistake most ladies make is blaming the Woman involved! No its the Man who wouldn't RESPECT himself and leave her ALONE! If he didn't encourage it, she won't have the guts. So the problem lies with the husband not the WOMAN. So deal with your MAN first!

ThoniaSlim:

The mistake most ladies make is blaming the Woman involved! No its the Man who wouldn't RESPECT himself and leave her ALONE! If he didn't encourage it, she won't have the guts. So the problem lies with the husband not the WOMAN. So deal with your MAN first!

chiozor:

why d balme on the man. if the woman say no will the man push her? why can't she respect the feeling of a sister at home and tell the man no! the control measures is on the woman not the man pls

SA Goddess:

Why is the husband "quiet" if he had nothing to do with this?  He evidently went after the love-peddler,

Missy B:

Trust male Chauvinists to be on the defensive, as usual.

If the Lady is unaware that the man is married - She's innocent and the man is Guilty.
If she's aware, Both of them are Guilty

Possibilities: If the man isn't 100% Guilty, he's 50%.
                The woman is either 50% guilty or [b]innocent.[/b]
Conclusion : However, In both cases, the man shares in the blame. What say Ye?

nethacker:

@ your analysed possibilities, y is d woman not 100% guilty?

nethacker:

Wat do u want the man to do ?kill her or disgrace her publicly?

nethacker:

r u telling me dat some women r so dumb to understand a simple NO from a man?

Missy B:

Why would she be even 1% Guilty if she's unaware the man is married?
Kill and disgrace who, for what reason?
Whoever said, the woman wooed him and he said 'No'?
Did You read the thread at all?

adetoru:

THey are both guilty

SA Goddess:

Not according to the men here, it is ALL Delilah's fault and of course the man is totally innocent   

chiozor:

my point here is if a man tell a woman i want to f.u,c.k and the woman says no, will there be any  

ThoniaSlim:

The mistake most ladies make is blaming the Woman involved! No its the Man who wouldn't RESPECT himself and leave her ALONE! If he didn't encourage it, she won't have the guts. So the problem lies with the husband not the WOMAN. So deal with your MAN first!

Missy B:

Werrin this one deh talk?

If he wants to Get down and I want same [without the knowledge that he's married], where's the problem?
However, knowing he's married and I still proceed to the deal, is where a problem lies. Gerrit?

ThoniaSlim:

@nethacker
What has this got to do with me? I gave an opinion and you take it personal. If you disagree with my statement, can't you do it logically without sounding bitter.

Or are you one of the numerous admirers I've snobbed? Lol. . .(according to you I've got numerous admirers ,since your jobless enough to keep count for me)  Lol.

Anyways I stated my opinion, if you got a personal grudge  against  me or my opinion. Then go jump off a cliff!

Missy B:

Trust male Chauvinists to be on the defensive, as usual.

If the Lady is unaware that the man is married - She's innocent and the man is Guilty.
If she's aware, Both of them are Guilty

Possibilities: If the man isn't 100% Guilty, he's 50%.
                The woman is either 50% guilty or innocent.
Conclusion : However, In both cases, the man shares in the blame. What say Ye?

SA Goddess:

Not according to the men here, it is ALL Delilah's fault and of course the man is totally innocent   

mama-gee:

Poster. . .

The thread should be rephrased to "My Husband Can't Learn to Pull his Pants Up and Stick to me alone".