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The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by FakoMaybach1: 10:06am On Mar 27
First of What is Alimony?
Alimony simply is a husband's (or wife's) provision for a spouse after separation or divorce; maintenance.
Please note that Alimony is different from child support. Child support goes to the children and the person with custody administers the funds, but alimony goes to the woman or man after separation.

The payer of alimony is usually the richer of the party, but most times it falls on the man.

I am strongly against importing this evil from obodo oyibo and i will state my reasons below

1. It is an invitation for exploitation
Nigeria is fond of importing ideologies from the west and corrupting it. even democracy we have messed it up, aby feminism we have dabaru that one. Let me tell u what will happen once alimony is passed into law. Boy meets broke girl, she doesnt love him but she will deny him sex until he is forced to marry. after marriage she will do everything to frustrate him and get a divorce, she gets the divorce and she gets paid for the rest of her life!!. Alimony doesnt stop until the other party remarries, so all baby girl needs to do is to collect condo on code, for her account will never run dry. Even America saw this exploitative traits by their women, they brought up pre-nup and some other laws to curb it.

2. African Culture has it covered
A man doesnt need to pay a woman after divorce and vice versa cus in africa esp Nigeria we have extended family. Such a person will not be left to their fate like in the west, there will always be one uncle or aunty that will take u in and help u heal. African society is wonderful we dont need anymore from the west

3.It is against our religion.
i am not a pastor but i cant see anywhere Jesus encouraged men to pay ex wives or pay baby mamas. if u wan do am eh na for ur pocket

There is a well orchestrated plan by some women to dominate and destroy men. with this Alimony they are bringing up now we will now become full time ATM

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Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by NnamdiN: 10:45am On Mar 27
In the west, you're compelled as man to pay child support, when backed by law na brick layer wan pay you child support for here grin grin grin

People only obey Court orders that favor them, otherwise OYO

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Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by crackhaus: 11:27am On Mar 27
That's why smart people sign a prenup to protect their investments.

If the wife-to-be asks you, "baby why should we sign a prenup..do you think I am interested in your wealth?"
Tell her, "baby I know you love me for real, but are you planning to get a divorce?"

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Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by FakoMaybach1: 12:28pm On Mar 27
crackhaus:
That's why smart people sign a prenup to protect their investments.

If the wife-to-be asks you, "baby why should we sign a prenup..do you think I am interested in your wealth?"
Tell her, "baby I know you love me for real, but are you planning to get a divorce?"
These feminists are asking for alimony when we dont even have prenup yet. some cultures in Nigeria once u give am belle she go just park enter ur house wife don start be that oo. wey the time and money to employ lawyer begin sign pre-nup?..i tell u there is a coordinated attack against men and it is slowly growing

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Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by crackhaus: 2:03pm On Mar 27
FakoMaybach1:

These feminists are asking for alimony when we dont even have prenup yet. some cultures in Nigeria once u give am belle she go just park enter ur house wife don start be that oo. wey the time and money to employ lawyer begin sign pre-nup? ..i tell u there is a coordinated attack against men and it is slowly growing
She park enter your house no mean say una don legally marry. Until the marriage is contracted legally, there is ample time to sign a pre-nup.
Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by Nobody: 12:10am On Mar 28
Alimony will embolden all these riffraffs with no value except as domestic appendages and sex objects to begin to rip off the male folks in the guise of divorce.


When you're divorced,you're divorced from the money too.
Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by mikolo80: 3:15am On Mar 28
even the pre nup doesn't hold water again
the state needs slave men to keep its engine well funded
crackhaus:
That's why smart people sign a prenup to protect their investments.

If the wife-to-be asks you, "baby why should we sign a prenup..do you think I am interested in your wealth?"
Tell her, "baby I know you love me for real, but are you planning to get a divorce?"
Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by crackhaus: 1:19pm On Mar 28
mikolo80:
even the pre nup doesn't hold water again
the state needs slave men to keep its engine well funded
It doesn't?
Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by mikolo80: 9:32pm On Mar 28
crackhaus:

It doesn't?
na so i read for google o.the system needs men as slaves

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Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by crackhaus: 9:06am On Mar 29
mikolo80:
na so i read for google o.the system needs men as slaves
They know the kind of men they will catch sha. Some of us, sense will not kill us at all.
Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by bukatyne(f): 11:28am On Mar 29
Points 2 and 3 are hogwash.

2. Expect we are in a different Africa, a lot of widows have lost their homes and husband's wealth to greedy in-laws who will not care for the kids. The woman struggles alone to bring up her kids and the man shows up at the end with 'It was the devil's handiwork.'

3. It is not biblical? I laugh.

I think we should look at what really happens around us before we begin to proffer solutions.

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Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by eyinjuege: 4:34pm On Mar 29
NnamdiN:
In the west, you're compelled as man to pay child support, when backed by law na brick layer wan pay you child support for here grin grin grin

People only obey Court orders that favor them, otherwise OYO

Is it wrong to support your children?
Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by NnamdiN: 4:37pm On Mar 29
eyinjuege:


Is it wrong to support your children?
no but it's also wrong to exploit men because the law allows you to.
Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by FakoMaybach1: 3:20pm On Mar 31
bukatyne:
Points 2 and 3 are hogwash.

2. Expect we are in a different Africa, a lot of widows have lost their homes and husband's wealth to greedy in-laws who will not care for the kids. The woman struggles alone to bring up her kids and the man shows up at the end with 'It was the devil's handiwork.'

3. It is not biblical? I laugh.

I think we should look at what really happens around us before we begin to proffer solutions.


Show me where it is in the bible, that God encouraged alimony.

And the practice of taking a widows wealth has been drastically reduced, and we are talking about alimony, this doesnt apply to dead people it applies to the living
Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by mikolo80: 5:52pm On Mar 31
crackhaus:

They know the kind of men they will catch sha. Some of us, sense will not kill us at all.
guy they know that bodi no be wood. That's how they catch men.
Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by eyinjuege: 7:03am On Apr 01
NnamdiN:
no but it's also wrong to exploit men because the law allows you to.

Alimony is different from child support, the OP was talking about alimony but you brought in child support.
If you don't support your children, who will? Its not your neighbors that got your ex pregnant, so why do you want the responsibilty to be on them?
You don't need the law before you should know your children need food, accomodation, clothing, an education. That's your responsibility. Those fathers who are compelled by the law to provide for their children are useless. They should know to provide for their kids and not wait for any law.
A woman that collects child support from her child's father is not exploitation btw. Its the child's right, and if she's the primary care giver and the child also deserves to be supported by the father.
Alimony on the other hand depends on a number of factors.
In my opinion, things like how long you were married, what you had to give up in the marriage and its impact on you supporting yourself. A woman can't be married for 20years to a man, decided by both parties to give up her job/school to raise their children and afterwards you let her go with nothing to support herself. Meanwhile you have risen in your position all thanks to all those times you didnt have to miss work and other opportunities due to child care issues. That spouse needs to be supported for a period of time till she/he gets on their feet, at least for 2 or 3 years. That's only fair.
I've always wondered how a man will ask his wife to be a housewife, and then start complaining of spousal support if things don't work out. Please everyone should work, and manage childcare issues between themselves as a family and if things don't work out nobody is cheated of their livelihood.

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Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by bukatyne(f): 3:02pm On Apr 02
FakoMaybach1:


Show me where it is in the bible, that God encouraged alimony.

And the practice of taking a widows wealth has been drastically reduced, and we are talking about alimony, this doesnt apply to dead people it applies to the living

Was there anywhere God discouraged alimony?

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Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by nnamdibig(m): 5:05pm On Apr 02
Some women ehhh
Na them go say them want divorce because they no love you again yet them go still want to dey chop your money.
That is evil.
When you reject a man, reject everything about him.
How can you hate a man and love his money?? That my friend is greed and wickedness.
Re: The Evil Machination Called Alimony . A Response To Should Alimony Be Considered by Belafonte(m): 7:00pm On Apr 02
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